Multiple relationships

Finding a girl you are truly happy with is the hardest part of all. As a solution, some guys choose to have multiple relationships with 2 or more girls at the same time. There are two ways to do this: either by keeping it a secret or telling your girls about it.

Even if we don’t consider morals, keeping it a secret is usually too much of a hassle. When your girls want to see you and you are meeting another, you will have to come up with different lies – and after some time, those lies are harder and harder to keep track of and easier to get caught. If that happens, you will lose one or both of the girls involved. Even in a bigger city, you will have to know where your girls are and where you can go with another one. They might live close to each other, in which case getting nabbed is easy. Maintaining multiples this way comes with a lot of stress and takes the joy of the whole thing. Thus, I don’t suggest doing it this way.

What you’d better do is to keep it an open secret and let the girls wonder. For example, when you are on a date with a new girl and kissed her already, you can be open and tell her that you don’t like settling down totally in the first 2 months of a relationship. Say that it’s impossible to get to know somebody well in such short periods and to see if you match.

This solution has its downside: some women might not be able to accept it, and you could lose an extraordinary girl this way.

How you frame your relationship is very important from the beginning. If you want to keep yourself open to multiple opportunities, you shouldn’t be seeing her more than once a week. Always have at least 4-5 days between your get-togethers. Tell her that you are very

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busy, and you think the two of you shouldn’t rush things for the first few weeks of getting to know each other. Girls usually get the hint and don’t take the relationship that seriously.

If you have more than one girlfriends, you have to hint that they are not alone from the beginning of getting to know them. The later you mention, the harder it will be. If you start dating a girl and she thinks at the first month that your relationship is unique, she will leave you if she gets to know about your other girls later. The other extremity to avoid is being too open and obvious. Telling her directly that she is not alone is the worst thing you could do.

But by re-framing it and throwing small hints she will get what you mean.

These include meeting her less often, letting her know that you are more open to sex without attachments, telling her that you don’t like to settle down for the first few weeks and you are busy. Say that you need time to get to know somebody and open up. If you pour your views on her slowly, there is a chance that she will accept this kind of relationship even if she was totally against the concept before. Still, if you want to keep her, she will have to love you for something. That’s either your personality or very, very good sex.

There is a wonderful story you can tell on one of the first few dates or at a critical moment.

The story of the stallion. It can be a life saver at times. Tell her in a very seductive way while looking deep into her eyes and keeping long silences between the sentences. It goes like this:

„Have you ever heard about the story of the stallion, the wild horse?

The wild horse is a very unique creature. The meaning of his life is endless freedom. When the wild horse is free, he flies. He flies through the fields without problems, living in the moment like there is no tomorrow. If the wild horse is captured with force, he becomes sorrow and loses his sense of life. He is not free anymore and loses everything he has ever had.

But the wild horse… has a little friend. A little friend, who he once met on the field a while ago. She never forced him to anything. She was the one to appear from time to time out of the blue and disappear the same way. But when she rode the wild horse, he felt incredibly happy.

He was gliding through the field. These times he flew higher, higher than he could ever imagine. And after such wonderful moments spent together, the little friend would get off the wild horse, stroke his head and leave. Few months went by and the wild horse waited more and more eagerly for these times to come.

His little friend lived at the edge of the forest. One evening, she was home after a wonderful ride together. Suddenly, she heard noises from the bushes. She went out to see where these noises came from, and guess who was standing there in front of the house? Yes. The wild

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horse in his glory. Since then, they have always stayed together. The little friend never forced doing anything against the wild horse’s will. He went wherever and whenever he wanted and stayed free. Still, the horse was always faithful for his little friend, and he would have never left her. He got something from the little girl he could have never gotten from anybody else.

And the wild horse knew this very, very well…”

There is another frame you can use. The frame of the fallible man, the seducer who can’t resist the charms of women. It has to be delivered in a playful, but honest way. Like the confession of something, which is lying heavy on you, a weak side of yours that you can’t help. Try to get her sympathy. Tell that you have tried to change, but no matter what you do, it’s in your veins. Your love is endless, and you can’t stop yourself from giving it to all those lonely women out there. She will have to accept you this way. Make sure that you stay consistent with this frame if you use it. And always make her feel that she is really unique in your eyes and you love her. It’s just that you can’t stand to love other girls as well.

There is another type of multiples: fuck-buddies. Girls who love sex and who are open to a no strings attached relationship. You can call them anytime to have some fun. They can live in other cities if you travel a lot. With these girls, sex has to be very good. If you have a one-night stand and both of you enjoy it, you can ask the girl to see each other later or to meet occasionally and repeat it. If it was the same enjoyable experience for her, she might agree.

Multiples have both positive and negative sides. You will have a girl for everything and you will love each of them for different reasons. One of them is wonderful in bed, the other shares your view of the world while the third cooks the best spaghetti and loves you a lot. Some guys do this as a lifestyle. These girls bring a lot of variety and fun, while being able to keep them shows that you have mad skills with women.

There is a negative side to it however: you will have split your energy into more than one girl. They will take up a lot of your time, and you won’t be able to get too close or intimate with any of them. It is also a sign that you are not really satisfied with any of your girlfriends, otherwise you wouldn’t be keeping the others. Having to split yourself into 3 parts for 3 girls and share all their worries might distract you and scatter your attention. When dating with new and new women and trying to put them into your harem you might miss someone unique, with who you could have a wonderful relationship alone. You also attach these girls to yourself and it will be harder for them to find an ideal partner, unless you let them mess around with other guys, which I don’t recommend.

So take the above into account and decide whether multiple relationships is what you want or not. After trying it yourself you will probably be able to form a better opinion.

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