We left off with you at her place, asking to use the bathroom—or she’s at your place, wanting to see travel pictures or to have a drink.
Or maybe it’s the same night you met and you venue changed her and a friend to a tiny apartment. The kiss has probably happened by now, but if not, you can knock it out once inside, using the techniques already described.
Play it cool by not immediately touching or kissing her. After you use the bathroom, explore her living space, making comments and asking questions about books or pictures. Spend at least five minutes letting her get comfortable with you being in her place by not getting physically close. If during those five minutes she reminds you that she
needs to get up early and you should get going, that means you’re not getting laid. You’ll also know she doesn’t want you to stay when she leaves her shoes on and stands by the door. Simply give her a goodbye hug and make out with her a little bit, adding a little ass grab if you haven’t already.
If she doesn’t try to kick you out in those first five minutes, she’s giving you a green light to escalate, which means sex is a real possibility. If she’s showing you around, get behind her and place your hands on her hips as you move closer to resume touching and kissing.
You could get things going in the living room and move later, but it’s in your best interest to get hot and heavy in the final destination (her bedroom) so your game won’t be interrupted with having to relocate.
Getting into her bedroom can be just as difficult as getting into her place. Some girls think that if they let you into her bedroom, sex will be inevitable, so they may resist when you ask for a “tour.” If she does resist say, “Well, to me it’s important because you can tell a lot about a girl by how her bedroom looks. For instance, the number of pillows is huge in knowing what kind of girl I’m dealing with.” In a half-sarcastic tone you’re making it seem as if you need to see her bedroom to really know her. You know it’s blatant bullshit and she knows it’s bullshit, but it works because you’re giving her a reason to let you enter her bedroom without making it obvious that sex will happen. If she still resists, continue in the living room. If you’re in your house, getting her into the bedroom will be easy, since it will be a part of the tour and it will have something you just have to show her, like the SpongeBob SquarePants pillow on your bed.
In theory, you shouldn’t have to work hard to get a girl horny because she should be the one to get you horny. You should just have to lay back, allow her to take off your clothes, and let her please you with deep throat blowjobs. While you will eventually sleep with many girls who like to attack you in the bedroom, it will be rare for this to happen the first time you have sex. This is why you need to initiate the important moves of clothing removal and genital touching. She won’t do it for you!
We’re getting to the part of the game that’s like those novels with multiple endings. There are a lot of ways to get to sex once you have
her in a bedroom, but it’s going to be rare for you do it the same way twice. What I’m going to describe is a way that’s natural and reliable.
It includes key moves and lines that blow through resistance, but it’s still going to be up to you to customize your moves to account for what’s going on, along with her own unique likes and dislikes. If she’s going crazy with pleasure over something I only mention in passing, you may want to give that some extra attention.
Once you have a girl alone and it’s clear she doesn’t mind you staying, kiss and explore her body with your hands. The ass is fair game, but don’t touch her breasts or vagina yet. Massage and squeeze her inner thigh near her vagina as you make out with her. Once you get within a couple inches of her vagina, she’ll probably squeeze her legs together, which is normal and not something you should be concerned about. Send your mouth off to areas other than her lips, such as her neck and ears. Put more passion and intensity into your kisses by adding more tongue, teeth, squeezes, and heavy breathing.
You should be able to feel her enjoying the intimacy and getting more comfortable with you and not resisting by grabbing your hands and moving them off her body. Are her eyes closed, indicating she’s losing herself in the moment? Is she telling you how much she likes what you’re doing? Is she starting to get aggressive by nibbling on your ear or sucking on your neck? If heavy petting started in the living room, say, “I think we should go to your bedroom where it’s more comfortable.”
Focus next on her breasts. While your hand is exploring her torso, do a breast drive-by, simply rubbing over one of her breasts as if it’s any other part of her body. You’ll find that most girls don’t resist breast touching because it’s similar to an ass squeeze, something you’ve already done. A couple minutes after the breast drive-by, park your hand on a breast for a few seconds and give it a slight squeeze. If she doesn’t slap your hand off, let your hands go on an a random loop of touching and rubbing, including her face, hair, breasts, torso, ass, hands, and legs. Have fun turning her on, and yourself.
Next comes her vagina. Just as with the breast, do a drive-by vagina rub with your hand over her clothes and then gauge her reaction. If she doesn’t recoil, return again soon, pausing over the
vagina and giving it more pressure. Your initial goal with vagina rubs is to help with escalation rather than giving pleasure. It’s at this stage when most guys get their first dose of resistance, but you need her to accept this move to proceed.
When it comes to resistance, there are two types of no. The first is
“No, I wouldn’t have sex with you, even if the continuation of the human species depended on it,” and the second is “No, I don’t want to have sex you yet.” The former can never be overcome, but the latter can. If at any point she resists you—and it will be obvious when she does—take a step back. Give her a little smile and stop doing whatever you were doing to place a little distance between you and her. Appear fine with her telling you to slow down, and then say, “I want you to be completely comfortable, so I don’t want you to do something you don’t want to do.” The purpose of saying this is to let her know you’re a safe guy, that you have the control to stop at any time to respect her limits, and that she should give serious thought to letting herself go, since you’re obviously the man.
When you pull back in the bedroom, you create an uncomfortable vacuum that begs to be filled. You cause the girl to experience a temporary feeling of insecurity that can only be relieved when she comes closer to you in the form of touching or kissing. If she doesn’t come back after you pull away, it’s usually a sign that things probably won’t go much farther on this night. Either way, after you encounter resistance, you want to restart, just as you would in a video game when your character dies. Go back to the beginning by focusing on simple kissing and touching, then redoing the moves you made before.
When you eventually return to the same move that she resisted 10–15 minutes earlier, your odds of passing that stage will be higher. If she resists the same move a second time, your character has died again and you’ll have to start all over. If she resists the same move a third time, start over again. Keep going until you feel a weird vibe that makes it seem as if you’re going backward instead of forward.
In many cases, you’ll get past resistance on the second or third attempt, only to be stymied at the next step. Even though resistance isn’t fun, push just a bit more than you feel comfortable with so things will be easier on the next date. If you have her almost naked and she’s
resisting, simply lay next to her, relax for a few minutes, then restart with touching and kissing until she gets hot again. The teasing you’ve been doing prior to this moment, such as brushing against her lips and pulling back, should have lessened the resistance you would have received otherwise—and sometimes it evaporates altogether.
Resistance is a normal part of the game, so don’t let it discourage you. One of my first bedroom beliefs was that I needed to avoid resistance. I thought a girl would like me less if she had to resist, but this isn’t the case. For example, there was a girl who resisted me seven times on our first date when I tried to take her panties off until I finally gave up. She was like a no broken record that night, but I easily had sex with her the next time we got together. Remember: girls reward aggressive guys who want to have sex with them, not timid guys who wait for pussy to fall from the sky. The restart technique can be performed indefinitely until she gives sincere complaints about your persistence that clearly show she’s uncomfortable. You’ll know because she’ll stop kissing and engaging you. But if she jokes around with something like “You’re an aggressive one, aren’t you?” keep going.
After you get past the vagina rub without resistance, make the hand-on-crotch move, the most important bedroom move you can execute. It’s bold, but very effective. Up to this point you’ve been doing most of the touching, but now you want to open the floodgates and give her permission to be the sexual being she really is. When one of her hands is near your waist, gently grab it and place it right on your cock, over your clothes. The length of time she spends on your cock indicates what your immediate chance of banging is. If she goes at it and tries to give you a hand job through your clothes, there’s a good chance you’re going to get laid, but if she acts as if your cock is a fiery piece of lava, you can mentally prepare for which porno clip you’ll be masturbating to once you get back home. The goal is for her to spend at least ten voluntary seconds giving your cock some attention. While ten seconds doesn’t sound like a long time, it’s enough to proceed without worry. If she doesn’t give your cock any attention, consider that resistance and restart from the top until you can repeat the move once more.