Poise: How To Attain It - 23 Self Help Classics

D. Starke

Poise is a power that we all have within us, yet most people never fully develop this power which can be used in gaining success. Principles of poise are will, reason, value of oneself, power to resist self-love, despising conditions that are unacceptable for humanity, free from vanity, and a definite and clear ambition. The people who understand and entertain poise as beneficial to their success in their daily lives, have accepted that poise is necessary to succeed at anything. As this is the dream of most people, yet only a reality for a select few, poise should become more important to more people. However, only those people who have truly mastered the concept and

application of willpower will be able to achieve poise, as it requires resolute force and the correction of faults in the personality. Do not think so much about oneself when in a social situation; focus on what the other person is saying with true concentration. Put the ego in check, avoid a biased

viewpoint, repress vanity and resist self-love. This will ensure that we are consciously involved in the conversation, and will be an application of great poise.

Achieving Poise

As one works to become successful and they begin to correct their poise to become more professional and sociable, he or she must actually take the steps to change themselves.

We cannot just expect to sit back dreaming of becoming

someone great and with highly respected character. This is our responsibility and life lesson, and must be achieved on our own.

Realize that when other people are snubbing or criticizing your good will and actions this demonstrates that their “envy and malice are nothing but homage rendered to superiority.”

Opposite of those suffering from egotism, timidity is a casualty of poise. By being afraid to make a stand, share an opinion or meet new people, the shy person is missing out on living. He is failing to make the most of the use of poise, and through inattention, will inevitably lose the entire framework for poise from his character. Instead of becoming stronger, he finds himself more stressed out over the least stressful

situations, and misfortunes of all kinds are more unbearable all of the time. Hypochondriacs would fit into this category, as these people suffer from anticipation of catastrophes, and create pain within their minds. Anyone who lives their life in fear or paranoid ideals should consider developing poise as a wonderful alternative to the darkness they call day.

How to Gain Poise

People with poise find they have no problem speaking in public, and will never be found blushing from embarrassment.

When faced with a difficult situation, the person with poise will soon find a new solution without worry or fear from failure.

Modesty is an enemy of poise. All the treasures, works of art and elaborate masterpieces that have been created by the artistic, intelligently free, creative minds would have never been created by anyone who is the servant of modesty and conformity.

The fundamental principle of acquiring poise is this:

Overcoming timidity. Being that timidity is a disease, one must treat it just as one would any other illness. The shy will be denied social prestige, which is necessary with obtaining poise. Claustrophobia, writers’ block or cramp, erythrophobia and stuttering are examples of organic disease brought on by timidity.

There are four series of physical exercises to help acquire poise:

1. Breathing - well-directed and carefully practiced

breathing makes the heartbeat stronger, and improves lung function, Practicing this deep, conscious breathing five minutes

a day either lying down or standing will give these benefits.

2. Training of the Eye - invaluable for acquiring poise using magnetic gaze.

3. The Motions, the Carriage - this is clumsiness and awkwardness and can be fixed by exercise - by walking with a perfectly postured frame and arch for five minutes a day.

4. Speaking - “eloquence…is one of the gifts of the man of poise”; due to the physical poise, speaking will be an effect of poise and can be exercised by stretching the jaw open each morning until it gets tired.

Composure should be the first achievement on the

pathway to attaining poise. Repeat, “I am composed. I propose to be composed. I am composed!” in order to gain composure.

Resolution is necessary to strengthen willpower. Once a

resolution, or commitment is made, it must be carried through to finish. Willpower is necessary for poise. And remember,

“speech is silver, but silence is golden.” When in doubt in a situation, keep this in mind and remain poise.

Is this Program for Me?

The acquisition of poise is a character trait that should be understood by everyone. However, those who are weak in willpower or too shy to be socially accepted will be unable attain poise. This program is mainly for those who wish to

succeed in life and make great accomplishments for humanity.

Sum of it All

Poise is the disposition that is most favorable to make dreams a reality, and is necessary for anyone wishing for success. This book applies concepts of willpower, magnetic gaze, breathing and walking exercises for the acquisition of poise for anyone reading. Poise can help anyone achieve

anything they want in life, however, like anything that is truly achieved, one must work consistently and consciously to gain poise and is not something everyone may be able to do.

Therefore, only the truly successful can gain the knowledge for poise, and put it into action for success.

In document 23 Self Help Classics (Page 116-121)