- Take a few deep breaths.
- Get comfy and, if it feels easier, close your eyes.
T h i n k of all the things in your life you can be truly grateful for.
Y o u have two arms and legs, a home, healthy children, a job. You can feel grateful for places visited, for friends and family.
- Relive the experiences or focus on the things you are
Dance like no one is watching. Love like you'll never be hurt. Sing like no one is listening. Live like it's heaven on earth.
Nothing comes from doing nothing.
The great end of learning is not knowledge but action.
- lmagine yourself filling up with all the gratitude you have. - Now think of all the things you feel passionate about.
Doing the best for your children and friends, hobbies or other recreational pastimes, being involved with good causes or doing your job well.
G o through and relive all these things.
- lmagine yourself filling up with all that passion and add
it on top of the gratitude.
T h i n k now about all the things you love f r i e n d s , parents, pets, music, art, poetry, sport, and so on. S e e all these things, hear and feel them as you add the
love to the passion and gratitude you feel and completely fill yourself up with these emotions all the way down to your toes, up to your nose and down to both hands.
- Having filled yourself up with these emotions, take a few
deep breaths and bring your attention back into the room. Open your eyes and feel alert and full of gratitude, passion and love.
Conclusion
Having read this book and completed some of the exercises, you might feel inspired, enlightened and hopefully had a good laugh, but are you going to change? It is very easy now to think: 'Yes, that was an interesting book,' and go back to the way you were before.
All that changing means, in truth, is taking better care of yourself, and most people find it difficult because it is
Knowing others is intelligence; knowing yourself is true wisdom. Mastering others
something they have never been taught how to do. You are probably great at taking care of others, but you would be even better at it if you looked after yourself first.
is strength;
yourself Pete writes: When I was younger I went out t o Hong Kong to teach is true power. English. I hated it. I was there during the rainy season, staying in the most awful accommodation infested with cockroaches, and decided t o phone my mum t o say I wanted to come home. The first thing she said to me was: 'What about everyone else? You are Follow your bliss.
letting them down.' All my life it was like that, being made to think first about other people, instead of myself. Each of us has only got one go at getting life right, and we are not going to b e helping our- selves if we don't give our own lives some serious attention.
We like to use the analogy of a cup to help people get some idea of how they feel about the attention they pay to their own lives. In terms of how you feel right now, how full is your own cup? In few cases will the contents be anywhere near the top. So, if your cup is only half full, stop giving what's left in it away. If you don't, you will run out.
Instead, start filling it up to the top with what makes you happy. You have the resources, and you now know how, and can allow the journey you know you were destined to take begin any time. How long it takes and how full you can make that cup is entirely up to you. If not you, who? If not now, when?
Heterences
J. Adams, Motor Learning and Retention (New York: Macmillan, 1977)
Susan Bay Breathnack, Simple Abundance, A daybook of
Comfort & Joy (Bantam Books, 1998)
Eileen Campbell, A Dancing Star(Aquarian Press, 1991) John Cornwell, 'Trick or treatment?', The Sunday Times
Magazine, December 24,2000
P. S. Erikson et al., 'Neurogenesis in the adult human hippocampus', Nature Medicine 4:1313-7, November 1998
E. R. Guthrie, The Psychology of Learning (New York: Harper & Row, 1952)
Susan Hayward, Begin It Now(ln-Tune Books, 1991 ) , A Guide for the Advanced Soul (In-Tune Books, 1988)
C. L. Hull, Principles of Behaviour (Prentice-Hall, 1943) 'Notebook Challenging Fate', The Scientist 12 [22]: 35,
November 9, 1998
A. J. S. Rayl, 'Research Turns Another Fact into Myth',
The Scientist 13 [4]:16, February 15, 1999
Peter Silverton, 'Mind over matter', The Observer Magazine, December 31, 2000
Anne Woodham, 'How to take comfort from a placebo',
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