D7-T12 So now, we've discussed all the steps of the process. We're not done, we're going to talk about it some more. But I want to go through it and sort of lay it out for you, step by step. So that you could see sort of how they will fit together, OK?
Hopefully, you've been taking notes along in your workbook. I put that one page in there were you see spaces for all those steps. You see the places where you can fill in notes and fill in the titles of those steps. I really urge you to do that. Please do that. I want you engaged in this process. OK? I hope I've got that point across. But, write the stuff in the workbook. I want you to remember that graphic. Part of this process of doing this whole product is—that mind map, that triangle, is something what you have inside yourself, inside your mind, and it's a way that you think. The hierarchy of the tools, the same thing, and now the process. OK, the steps are going across that one page, I want you to think in terms of that.
Now it's not necessarily that you are going to be out there with a woman going "Well, I am at step two and I'm doing option three and now I need t o . . . " You don't think in that way. But it's a general
roadmap for you to show you where you're going to go. OK? It can help you with preparation, but it is
going to give you a general guideline along the way.
D7-T13 One way I like to think about is you know, you have to learn to enjoy the journey, that's a rough thing. Guys, you know, using the driving analogy again, a lot of guys when we go a trip if you're going to drive from Chicago to Los Angeles, guys tend to want to go and get an exact destination. Like you go on these Internet sites (OK) they give you map. That say "go 27. 2 miles on this road, and then make a right and then go 4. 6 miles on that road, and then you head west and then go... " You know that's what a lot of guys want, all those specifics. And that's what guys want in a product like this or want a roadmap of this process, but it does not work that way.
The problem is that people are dynamic. Every woman is different, every man is different, and every situation is unique. I can give you a general set of steps, which is what we have done in the process here. But you need to have a general set so that you can have an understanding and have real-time flexibility, which is one of the goals we want to get to with you and you're learning and your development with these skills. All right? Getting back to the driving analogy...
You know, if you get that map that says "go, (you know) this far and make a right, and then go this many miles exactly and make a left" etc. It will get you from Chicago to LA. Well that's fine, because the roads don't change. Pretty much—they do construction and everything—but pretty much they don't change. OK, people change all the time and every individual is unique. But even if I gave you that map to go from Chicago LA, that was that detailed, what happens if you're halfway there, and all of a sudden you are going down the road, and there is a detour? Or the road is out and you have got to find some other way to go? Oh my God, where do you go from there. You are kind of stuck, right? Most of the guys say "get on the Internet and get another map", but you know what I am getting at, you are kind of stuck in the process. But...
If you get general directions that, like, you are in Chicago and you kind of kind of fine your way to—I don't know how far route 80 is from there—you kind of find your way to interstate and you just sort of
head west, head west until you get to the water than find out whether you need to go north or south and the just go in that direction. Then you're going to get to Los Angeles eventually. OK? General directions like that, I mean... You can have detours, you can have problems, all you have to do is just head west. I mean look at what direction the sun is setting and just drive that way. It's a lot easier.
It is a general guideline, and actually when you navigate that way, you tend to have a lot more fun
because you can enjoy the journey. You have more flexibility, there can be detours along the way,
because, hey all you need to do is just keep driving west. All right, this road's out? I'll just go on another road, as long as I point in the right direction.
D7-T14 See the thing with this process like I've shown you is, I've given you, several distinct steps, and in each one of those steps I've given you some options. So that's going to help you in determining what skills you need. What you need to focus on, the real-world stuff that you are going to have to have when you go out there.
But in a general sense it is an overall process that you are going to need to go on. OK? And the thing is
to just get started. OK. •
If you are in Chicago do you really need to know that every road is open between there and LA? Do you have to stand in Chicago and see that every street light between there and LA is green before you leave? No! Get in the car and start driving] Same thing here.
Guys, you know, if you need to focus on step one and step two—maybe you need to focus on step two just to find some reason for her to talk to you, you've got to be more interesting or come up with some skit our gimmick or stories or be funny or whatever, or questions for her. Then go do that, work on that for a while. Don't worry about step four yet, OK? A lot of guys are so hung up on like step three and four that they aren't going to try step one. That's not the way to go. Don't worry about the fact that a
light may be red in LA before you are ready to take off from Chicago and start driving. All right?
D7-T15 So that is the overall process, that's the overall map. Now I want to give you some specific examples of the kind of guys that maybe, well, maybe you've seen or maybe you are one of these people. To show you how that overall process works in a general fashion, and then we are going to talk about how it works in terms of Speed Seduction®.
D7-T16 Now, what I want to talk about with you is some integration of these things and some examples to show you how this all works. Now I know we just had got done talking about the process, but this is the time to really talk about integration of all the information that we've had here. And giving you examples of specific guys, how they operate in situations and how they go, so you can see how all this works together. Okay? This is where we're going to have the different parts of this start to together and you're going to see how one part starts to fit into another even more. All right?
So let's look back now. When you look at the process and you look at those steps in that process. (OK. ) Let's consider your average kinda, shy, insecure guy. You know where... We've used the term AFC for "average frustrated chump". So your typical AFC is sitting out there and he maybe has a chance to meet some women, great. He spends time and he walks up to somebody in step one. Now let's think
about step one, remember, step one doesn't last too long. It's just an introduction. OK? It's just an introduction, just a way to say something or say one or two things.
So this guy, this AFC, does his opener, or he is trying to do his opener. Now, again, if this opener, this whole step is lasting maybe 15 seconds to 60 seconds... How much information is she perceiving at that time? I mean how much can a guy reasonably say in 15 to 30 seconds. (You would be amazed at how fast some guys can talk when they are nervous. ) But she is looking at how the guy appears. She is getting a sense as to how comfortable he is. He is giving off information in terms of whether he is relaxed or he's nervous. His nonverbal information that he is containing... He is actually conveying a lot of stuff about two and what he is. So her, and her subconscious, is doing it's best to sort of evaluate who the guy is. Now, remember how the subconscious looks at the situation. It's processing on multiple levels, using a lot of sensory input all at once, looking at how the guy moves, how he acts, what his voice tone is, what's his hands doing? She's going to perceive "does this guy feel relaxed, does this guy feel as if he's threatened or nervous. Or does he come across as threatening, or something that would make me nervous?"
See if he is an AFC and he is insecure and he is kind of intimidated by her, her subconscious is going to pick up on that. So step one, he might walk up and say something. He might get something across, and she might enter into some dialogue, lasting 15-30 seconds. But is he going to be interesting enough for her to want to sit there and talk? Is he going to be able to get a keep her attention for any period of time? Probably not, because first off—he's an AFC'—he probably doesn't really have anything that's all that interesting that would want to keep her there. Plus her subconscious is saying you know "hey, I am not interested in this guy, this is not somebody for me, this is somebody that maybe I should be a little scared of... ", so it is going to be difficult to have enough rapport to be able to get and keep attention. So the AFC is normally going to be kinda sunk at steps one or step two. Hope that makes sense.
D7-T17 Now let us give another example and I call this the "Performer Man". OK, let's say I guy has a skill, let's say, the guy... like a street magician. OK, so he is a street magician and he is out there, and he is able to do his act, alright.
Now, OK... So he encounters a woman that finds attractive. Saying hello, and doing step one is not really a much of a problem. He just says hello, he has probably done it a lot of times, he's said hello to a lot of people. He has introduced himself or opened up a topic of conversation, so doing step one is actually pretty easy for him. And he can also do step one like an innocuous opener, just by being there. If he is there doing stuff, showing some other people, and the woman happens to be next to him, or happens to be around, and then sort of comes over and sort of rolls into a discussion or something, it's kind of an innocuous opener. He's not showing that he's interested, he didn't ask her opinion, he's not just being social saying hello, he is just there and she sort of innocuously engages him in some
conversation. Ok? So step one tends to be pretty easy for the performer type.
Now step two is easy as well because he has to get and keep attention. Well if he is interesting if he has something interesting to show her, she's going to want to stick around and watch. I mean, you know, whether he is a magician on the street or a juggler or whatever, hey, he's at step two. She's there, she is watching, she might be listening, they might be having a conversation. That's fine, that's great. He is able to get and keep her attention. But... Where do you go from there?
See, he can be an interesting way to spent her time, he can be, like a show, but does that mean she is going to want to have anything happen in terms of romantic or sexual context? Probably not, or not
necessarily. Because again, if that's all he does, and he does not know how to direct the conversation
and ramp interest... I mean... He is doing a magic trick. He is juggling or doing whatever does he know how to direct that into an area of conversation that going to make her... Think about certain
things? He needs to know how to do that. Does he know how to maybe create some interest, or ramp it
up for her, or to help her to ramp it up for herself? If he doesn't know how to do that then this performer guy is to be able to get to step two and that's it. It doesn't really go anywhere. He meets a lot of people, he meets a lot of women, and he is able to get and keep their attention (step two) but it doesn't really go anywhere.
D7-T18 Now let's get another example, let's say, a guy is pretty good looking. OK, he's a good looking guy. Again... I am giving you a general structure here as to how everything works. I can
explain... you know there are so these other guys that have some other "systems" out there that they say are going to teach guys how to and meet women. I think a lot of them are nowhere near as good as the stuff that Speed Seduction® teaches you, but they are out there. And I can explain what works and what does not work in these systems in the context of this overall structure. And the reason that is good is because it gives you an understanding of why everything works and how everything works so that you are much more flexible in the field.
I know you sit back and say oh, "good-looking guys have it easy. " But let's look at the good-looking guy and what that is like, in terms of the structure so you can understand it. OK? Or in terms of this process.
Now a good-looking guy walks up, starts talking to someone, he can use any of the openers or whatever. Let us just say he gets through step one. In he's done step one a lot, it tends to be a lot easier for him. OK. She may have opened him. Again... When I say step one and opener, this doesn't necessarily mean that the guy has to be the one doing it OK? All right, and when I say step two, get and keep attention, the guy doesn't necessarily have to do anything for that. She can be the one that's working to get and keep attention as well? See, this works for all of the cases.
So say he is a good looking guy and he is at step two. Well look, if he is that good-looking, all he has to do is find a way to comfortably get through step one, walkup, talk, maybe she walks up and talks. If he gets through step one comfortably, then at step two there is a good chance that he is just what she wants. He's her type. Maybe she likes that type of guy, as long as he is moderately interesting.... and again... These categories are not distinct. When you are at step two you don't have to either be what she wants or be very interesting. It helps if you are some combination of both, it helps if you are able to do all of those things!
So if he is pretty good looking and he is able to be interesting, maybe a little bit of humor in their too hey, that is great. He is able to get and keep her attention. Not a problem. Now, step three,... And this is the world of the good-looking guy. A lot of these guys that are pretty good looking, if they just get
through step two its pretty easy for them. You know why? Because at step three, she's helping to direct the conversation and ramp the interest. If you are good-looking guy, and you are kind of her type, once
you get through step two, a lot of guys don't make it through step two but, as long as you get through step two, step three... She'll do a lot of that. She is going to talk about certain... things. She is going to
direct the conversation in a good way. She is going to ramp her own interest up. If she is really motivated and sees the guy's not interested she is going to do it she can to ramp up his interest. OK? That's the way it works for good-looking guys. You know if step three is really really powerful, then step four is a lot easier. That's the world of the good-looking guy. That's why it works. Now, it is also why... There is a lot of good-looking guys out there, Ok.... Give you another example. There's lot of really good-looking guys out there, that have various means of telling you how to go meet women.
D7-T19 OK, I know couple of them, one guy h e . . . I have a lot of respect... Some of these guys have really done well to refine their technique, and they are very good at what they do, I don't mean any disrespect to them at all. They are very talented, but you have to understand that their reality is
probably different from most people's. Let me give you an example while we are at this point.
Let us say you have got a guy who is pretty good-looking guy OK? He is tall. He's in a good age range.