Make Your Move
Time to drop the ambiguity. When you are sure she is attracted to you, go for it. Kiss her, do whatever. It's all in your court now. I can't tell you how to cross that line. Everyone wants to do it differently, and every woman wants it differently.
I will tell you this, though, don't obsess over it. Relax and let it happen naturally. But don't take this dating paradigm shift too far and expect her to grab you and kiss you. It may happen,
who knows? But don't count on it.
Chances are she will be waiting for you to make that first move and if you wait too long after she has given you countless signs, she will likely give up and move on. After all, giving you those signals is often the closest many women come to hitting on a person. Don't play too many games.
Many men have problems here with hesitating. A certain amount of hesitation is natural. But whatever you do, don't wallow in self-doubt for too long. If you've made it this far, she definitely wants you.
Think of it like this: you are dropping a bomb. At this point, you know you have to drop it because you know she is interested. You're afraid of possible negative consequences, right? Well, there won't be any. And if there are, drop that bomb and then deal with it.
See, the anticipation of a bad event is really where all the trouble is. It's like when you're waiting to break up with someone. The most difficult and agonizing period is leading up to the bomb drop. But once that bomb has been dropped, no matter how bad the explosion is, you are suddenly a soldier who is fighting for his life with shrapnel all around you—that part of the experience is so simple because you know just what you need to do, take cover and survive. The same goes for a happy explosion. You drop that bomb. She kisses you back. You both know just what to do, and the agonizing is over.
What's the worst thing that could happen? You try to kiss her and she pulls away. Well, this is either because your intuition failed you, or you're about to discover she's a neurotic mess. In either case, you've learned something very valuable. With the former you can
discover where you went wrong and use it to improve your abilities. If it's the latter, you can still get her if you really want to, but you also have a unique opportunity to see her at her worst. You can decide whether she's really worth it now.
And what is most likely to happen? You kiss someone you're really attracted to and she kisses you back! Little else is better in this world, my friend. Don't put that kind of joy off. (You probably don't want to ask a woman if you can kiss her—I've heard too many women complain about that sort of thing to recommend it, but hey, if it works for you, do it.) But you can also begin calculated physical contact that is socially acceptable. Remember when I told you about women accidentally touching your arm when they talk to you? Do things like that to her. See if she does it back. Try hugging her goodbye or upon greeting her and see what she does. When you approach her to talk to her, come close and put your hand on her shoulder. All these sorts of moves will invoke positive responses in a woman who is interested, and small acts of physical contact like this will mount and eventually, a kiss will be inevitable. And when it is, drop that bomb. The explosion will almost certainly be a good one. If you know she is interested, throw the rules of this guide out of your head and go for it. Our work here is done.
Conclusion
Summing It Up
Here is a breakdown of what was covered in this book, and what you will need to do to master the art of No-Pressure seduction.
1. Improve your intuition with practice.
2. Learn when you have found someone you are compatible with by: a. conquering the influence of universal beauty,
b. avoiding your own experiential biases and
c. learning to spot a woman whom you will be compatible with. 3. Build your confidence by following your interests.
4. Locate your target woman using the intuitive techniques above. 5. Determine if she is a lost cause.
6. Spend No-Pressure time with her. 7. Assess your chances.
8. Make your move.
If you follow my advice, you will find there an immediate change in your dating life. You will feel more confident and more in control. As you practice these intuitive
techniques and self-restraint, you will eventually become a master of the No-Pressure Approach.
You will learn to spot a personal connection in a matter of seconds, and a biological connection almost as quickly. The more successful you become at honing your radar, and the more you learn and prove to yourself that (when you're doing this correctly) it's a one-way process, the more confident you will become, and thus, the
more attractive you will become. And the more success you have, the faster you will be able to move through these steps.
I may paint a picture of a No-Pressure Approach taking months to work. That is not necessarily so. If anything, your own self-doubt will be what slows the process down. But when you finally free your intuition completely, you will not make mistakes in selection, and the process then becomes easier and easier.
I hope you're ready to change your approach and open your mind to a process which will finally give you the power to lay back and glide painlessly into the love lives of as many women as you want.
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