It is useful to be able to tell when your partner has what type of orgasm in order that you might know how she responds to different types of stimulation and energetic movements without having to resort to the interruption and inaccuracy of words. Fortunately, this is very easy to do once you have a bit of meditative experience and a little insight into the sexual processes. Even these aren’t necessary though for most types of orgasm will have some very physically obvious effects. Such as a tensing of the body’s muscles, usually especially so around the pelvic area, in the build-up to orgasm. Not a full-on, total, body-builder-style flexing of the muscles, just a gentle, or sometimes not so gentle, tensing of them. With the orgasm this tensing is released to be followed by a very relaxed, much more flaccid muscle tone. Both of these different ways in which the muscles of the body are held are physically very obvious: pay attention and it is easy to see them and to feel them if you touch your partner’s muscles.
Even more obviously though orgasms which are centred on or involve the genitals will produce contractions of the sexual organs
themselves. The man’s penis will rhythmically pump a few times and the woman’s vaginal walls will rhythmically contract in a series of
involuntary spasms. The more intense the orgasm the stronger and more forceful these pumpings or contractions will be. Also, after the orgasm your partner will want less stimulation, or a total cessation of stimulation, especially if their orgasm has involved the movement of a large amount of energy out of the genital area.
Energetically also, the signs will be there. As your partner
approaches orgasm there will be a build up of energy in the genital area which you can feel as a very tangible increase in the warmth of their
penis or vagina. You should also be able to feel an increase in force and energetic pressure in their genital area. With the orgasm this build-up of energy will be released, probably downwards and outwards if we are talking of the more physical, external types of orgasm. Once it is
released in this way the level of energetic warmth of your partner’s penis or vagina will decrease and the degree of energetic force and pressure in the genital area will reduce.
In terms of orgasm not centred, even partially, at the genitals neither the energy movements nor the physical contractions will be centred at the genitals. For this reason it is unlikely that you’ll be able to feel the physical contractions of such orgasms on your genitals as you can feel the contractions of her vagina around your penis or the pumping of his penis within your vagina with more external, or internal yet still genitally-centred, orgasms. However, you can feel such contractions but in a different way. That way is in much the same way as you feel your own deep orgasmic contractions, except the body and nerve endings through which you will feel your partner’s orgasm will be your partner’s and not your own. This is quite easy to do (with a little practice) by simply keeping a portion of your mind-force within your partner’s body for the duration of the sexual session.
Energetically too the deeper orgasms will be very noticeable, albeit in a less simplistically obvious way than the more genital types of
orgasm. There will still be an increase in the energetic warmth of the area around which the orgasm is centred but this warmth, though
probably greater and more intense, will be a more refined, less heavy, less dense type of warmth. Instead of an increase in the feeling of energetic force and pressure which accompanies the build-up of sexual energy at the genital level, when sexual energy builds up in the body at a level above the genital there will instead be a feeling of expansiveness to that energy as if it wants to go somewhere or (gently) explode. When it does do so it will tend to expand upwards through the torso or perhaps
outwards from its centre into both your bodies and nerves. At a more advanced level this expansion will also be accompanied by a massive and powerful inflow of external energy. Both of these factors (direction of expansion and inflow of energy) combine to mean that following the non- genital types of orgasm your partner’s entire body will feel more
energized yet in a relaxed, quietly powerful sort of way. Also it will seem sort of “sparkly” (try closing your eyes and looking at your partner’s body through your mind’s eye both before and after her orgasm).
At the most advanced levels of orgasmic practice though, when the energies of the two partners are well aligned, you’ll know when she has an orgasm and what type of orgasm it is because you too will be
orgasming in the same way. Just as she will orgasm in the same way as you whenever you have an orgasm. And this is probably the easiest way with which to tell when your partner is having an orgasm.