Timing. Developing a sense of when to say something

Bonus Section:

Calibration of people

People Calibration. (Advanced)

This is something you will develop as you interact with more people. At first glance, it may sound like a tremendous amount of analyzing. However, you will find that much of it will become instinctive to you. To me, instinct is analyzing and making decisions on a subconscious level. You are not consciously aware but your subconscious mind is extremely alert of the current situation.

Calibration can help you size up a human being, MALE or FEMALE.

It can help answer the following without him/her ever telling you anything about it:

What their background is, Why they think the way they do,

What motivates them, What their self-image is, What their identity is,

How they view their environment, What their needs are,

What they emotionally respond to, Where in life they are,

What sort of a emotional state are they in at that VERY Moment,

You will learn to gauge people and understand what drives them.

I’ll give you an example that will include a lot of gross generalization since I am not talking about a specific individual.

You meet a girl and you talk to her for about 45 seconds.

You can quickly size her up and answer a lot of the questions I asked earlier.

Is she a sophisticated girl or a party girl?

If she is a party girl, you would know that deep intellectual conversation may not do much good here It's a waste of both your time.

In fact, there is a good chance she is a waste of time to hang out with but you may decide that you want to have sex with her, or date her for a short period of time.

Perhaps, you actually like these types of girls.

Due to your experience and awareness, you can determine all of this from her body language, behavior, facial expressions and overall aura that she exudes.

Then, you’d also know that she responds to stimuli and excitement. That's how she leads her life, looking for the next stimuli, whether it's meeting someone rich, going to a cool party with “Cool people”, alcohol, finding cocaine, (Depending on how much of a party girl she is) etc, etc....

If you enjoy stimulating conversation that is meaningful, this girl is not for you. You would also know that if you want to charm her, stimulating conversation is not for her.

Each city and region has its fair share of “Party girls” and Los Angeles has five times that.

There are men who specifically seek out these sorts of girls to lure back to their big house where they can offer them more stimuli.

If your calibration skills are up to par, you can also notice these guys looking for these girls and observe their interactions too.

One example of a party girl: You walk into the joint, she is wearing a skimpy outfit, dancing on the table tops while her thong is showing, half the guys are looking at her g-string underneath her skirt and she could not care less. She is led around by the stimuli, and will leave the bar to go home with some guy who is rich, has drugs, or is just super confident with the attributes that I discussed in Chapter 4. She is not interested in connecting on an emotional level, sharing her feelings, depth, philosophy or spirituality.

(Hint: By developing the attributes I mentioned, you can very easily get this type of girls if this is the kind you wish for!)

An “emotionally responsive” girl is the one who will want to connect feelings, share emotions, love, depth, life, and so forth. More often than not, she is not a one-night stand type of girl. This does not mean that she does not have a sexual side. It only means that she likes to have an emotional connection before becoming intimate.

“Party girl” vs. “Emotionally responsive” is just one example of calibration. There are many more.

If this issue really interests you, you should take a look at our website. I have written a more in depth article on the topic. If you are interested, you may read it at,

www.Fidentia.org/articles

This is the art of reading people. It can be very helpful in making your interactions with women more efficient. It can also help you screen for people in whom you are not interested. You’ll hear their story before words are even spoken and you can move on to the next person who does interest you.

I put this under advanced because this is something that is good to be aware of, but not necessary in your game right now. Right now, you should be concentrating on

“Attributes.”

You may never need this level of calibration if you are just looking to find a good girlfriend whom you find fulfilling.

On the other hand, if you are going be at bars and clubs a few nights a week, you’d eventually have to sharpen your calibration levels to a higher degree because you are dealing with a different scenario and a different crowd of people.

To demonstrate social and people calibration, I’ll give you a personal example from a night at a bar.

The following is from a night spent in the patio area of a nightclub. It’s an example of what you see once you understand human behavior and interaction on a deeper level:

• I invite you to see through my eyes for a few minutes:

Friday night. I am at a bar that offers a patio area with a few tables and chairs. I am sitting outside at a table and take a look around. What do I see?

**A group of girls who are having a bachelorette party. They all have a list in their hands and appear to be on some scavenger hunt. They are loud, rowdy, and are having fun.

They also seem to be making asses out of a lot the guys whom they are approaching.

They are somewhat hyperactive while doing their little bar hopping. It is very tough to isolate a girl from this set for any sort of conversation without interference from the pack.

**2 girls standing by the heat lamp but they have wandering eyes. They are waiting to be approached. They’d love to be approached. Most of the guys seem oblivious here.

**Close by, I see a set of two girls chatting. The interesting part is that there are two guys standing near just looking at them. They have been standing there for the past two minutes deciding on what to say before they approach. They are nervous and

uncomfortable. One of them is about to approach. All right, here he goes. Alas, he has a weak [internal] frame as well as a weak tonality. I give him 35 seconds before he is blown out.

**In the corner, I see a group of guys getting drunk. They seem to be in love with their booze. No competition from these guys. By the amounts of alcohol they are consuming, they might become a pain in the ass later.

**Further away, I see the older lone girl who has broken away from her girlfriends who are still inside. She is definitely flaunting her silicon assets and is drinking quite a bit.

She looks like she is looking for someone.

One of these guys could take her home tonight if he wanted to.

**I glance back at the two nervous guys who just approached. Wow! They lasted about 45 seconds before the girls blew them off, probably by saying “We have to go to the bathroom.” Still, 10 more seconds than I’d given them.

**In the other corner, I see a mixed set, 3 girls, 2 guys. Two of the girls are somewhat interested, and one girl is just bored out of her mind. She is also pretty cute. At this very second, she is thinking of reasons and ways to get out of this. I’ve just found a table in this patio. If I leave I will lose this spot, but I had better go in and rescue these three girls.

That is an example of being able to read situations. Most men are oblivious to what is going on around them. If you can train yourself to be able to read and react, you will have an advantage over most men.

This is why it’s important to not be stuck inside your own head. If your brain is consumed with thinking, “What should I say? What should I do? Should I go or not go?

Will they like me?” then you are not really able to see the dynamics clearly.

I mentioned earlier in the book, being able to focus on your surroundings so that you are socially aware of your environment.

I listed this personal example so you could learn two distinct lessons:

1. You can gain a huge advantage by being able to read people and social interactions.

2. In order to observe the world around you, you cannot be stuck in your own head. Turn your focus outward.

Turn your focus outwards. This will help you a lot in overcoming nervousness and approach anxiety. Sometimes men become consumed with the internal dialogue going on in their heads, [Am I well dressed enough? Will she like me? Etc.] This internal dialogue creates a vicious cycle. Once, you have internalized being relaxed, go to the next level: What kind of a girl is she? Is she bored at the moment? How is her interaction with her friend?

• Calibration as a cold-reading Technique:

I have tried to stay away from techniques in this book for the obvious stated reasons. I’ll share one of my favorite things that I like to do sometimes in an interaction with women.

This is a technique and thus, it’ll be a short segment. After this segment, I will get back to the attributes which are the main point.

People love hearing and learning about them selves. This is why psychics, palm readers, tarot cards, and the like are so popular. This is also why I’ve met “Pick up Artists” who use magic, palm reading, tarot cards, runes and similar gimmicks in their interactions with women.

Women, more so than men, find these supernatural gimmicks fascinating.

Thus, one of the things I like to do is tell people about themselves without any gimmicks.

I use my people reading skills to tell them what I think about them, what their desires and strengths are. It’s probably one of the better skills I am known for amongst my buddies who watch my interactions with women.

If you have great calibration and people reading skills, you can use it to your advantage.

It’s fun and it makes for a good time. Is it a 100% accurate? Of course not.

It’s just a product of your instincts regarding someone.

Again, I want to mention that having the attributes is important. I’ll explain why again: I could put an earpiece in someone’s ear and tell him what to say to a girl in a cold reading scenario.

If that guy has a confident and relaxed presence, is comfortable in his own skin, posses a strong reality, and has enthusiastic tone and a fun vibe, then the girl(s) will have a good time as well.

He does not need to do a cold-reading technique but it’d be the proverbial icing on the cake.

On other hand, if he did not have the proper attributes and lacked social grace, he might actually scare the girls as some creepy psychic who just got off work from psychic friends hotline and walked into the bar.

Thus, let us get back to the basic attributes.

We already established that you are a confident guy who is confident in his own skin.

You take charge, are in charge of your environment, project positive emotions, and you lead!

One of your great assets should also be that you are an interesting person to converse with. You can convey this through story telling. This is why the next chapter is devoted to just that: The art of story telling

Chapter 7: