Online Dating Secrets Report

O n l I n e D a t I n g S e c r e t S S p e c I a l r e p O r t

Table of Contents

BONUS CHAPTER: ACI LIFE 360 - SELF ACCEPTANCE

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THE THREE FOUNDATIONS OF ONLINE DATING MASTERY

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CHAPTER

ONE

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1.1 CONFIDENCE IS WHERE YOU WIN THE GAME

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1.2 AN INTRODUCTION TO THE ATTRACTOR SECRETS

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1.3 IDENTIFYING YOUR UNIQUE ATTRACTOR FACTORS

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1.4

VISUALIZE

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1.5 THE EXPANSIVE SELF IS AN IRRESISTABLE ATTRACTOR

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CHAPTER

TWO

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2.1 CONFIDENCE ATTRACTOR: COMMITMENT TO WINNING

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CHAPTER

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3.1

STOP

ADVERTISING 35

3.2

START

INNOVATING 37

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You and I are functional idiots. We all are. We are only semi-con-scious sleep-walkers through life. We think we “know” what we’re doing, that we are captains of our own ships, but in fact, we are driven by a burgeon-ing corps of captains pilotburgeon-ing a flotilla of subconscious ships. To wit, we are driven forward by our unconscious – knee-jerk reactions, and unconsidered assumptions.

We are haunted by forgotten rejec-tions, which linger in our souls in clots of fear and hesitation. And we stand deer-eyed, in the headlights of the fu-ture – paralyzed, stuck, static, afraid – even though something in our brain is screaming at us to leap out of the way and head for the hills.

But we don’t. We (unless we read this newsletter!) stand in the road of life and get run down, over and over

looped recordings. We experience frustration, despondency and, finally, despair.

Or you wake up. You become con-scious of your inner workings. And here is the key – you ACCEPT those inner workings and then enter the playground and consciously engage with and change them.

The process of maturing and relaxing into the wholeness of who you are as a man is to welcome the shadow selves that lurk between your public face. What is your shadow?

Your shadow is the amalgam of your “evil” hungers and nasty judgments of others, your secret desires to lash out and injure. Your shadow appears in layers of your self-loathing, aggregated from childhood, adolescent sadness, the inevitable wounds of adulthood, as your childhood hopes either crash on the rocks or slowly evolve into some-thing new.

SelF ACCePTANCe:

Becoming A Whole Man By Welcoming Your Shadow

Before we get into the secrets of online dating... We

first need to discuss a topic that without, no number

of secrets, tips, and techniques are going to help you in

becoming irresistible online. This is why I have

includ-ed this free bonus chapter on self acceptance... which

in just a few short reading moments, you will

under-stand why.

Enjoy,

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You hide from them. You cover them

over, you feel shame (go to Youtube and put in “Guilty Dog Denver” – THAT’s the face of someone who has denied his shadow but cannot anymore!).

You suppress a whole giant part of who you really are – the part that actually feels more real than your public face, but a lot more painful.

And then you meet a girl – and she’s go-ing through the same hide and seek pro-cess with the parts she doesn’t like to see. She, like you, has had to put on a strong public face. To show that she’s tough. Nobody’s sucker. That she can’t be taken advantage of.

But as a woman, she’s got her own shadow beings lurking inside her. She desperately wants to be loved, accepted, welcomed finally and wholly by a man who will not drop her to another heart’s

death. And she is afraid, bodily afraid, for she is a tender, yearning forest strip-ling, a green shoot, delicate and vulner-able, striving for light amid the rampag-ing chain saw masculine all around her. This month, I want you to pull a particu-lar sword out of the stone on the path to your masculine kingship. And that sword is what I call “Emotional Leader-ship.”

And before we even get to leadership of her, I’m talking about your leadership of YOU.

By Emotional Leadership, I mean that you are to the unusual, perceptive, cou-rageous, awakened man who doesn’t hide from her or from yourself. Who helps coax her fears and shadows from the dark. Who brings up “issues” before she does or before they congeal into bat-tle, and you both slink into your corners like cowardly boxers.

And I want you to do this in a very par-ticular way: in the spirit of three things: Curiosity. Adventure. And Play.

Why? Because we are all functional idi-ots! You and she both are piloted by all those invisible mad captains, drunk on fear. Think about it, you and she… You yell at the person you love the most. You hurt the person you adore because you are afraid she will hurt you first. She holds back her love because she’s afraid she’ll be betrayed. You shy away from courting the woman you worship be-cause you are afraid your prayers will not reach her highest heavens and you will be cast into a new hell, alone and rejected.

If it all wasn’t so painful, it would be funny. In the other hand, if it weren’t so funny, it would REALLY be painful.

You make most of your decisions in life based on emotions. Yet you have never been schooled in the working of your emotional life.

This should be a startling and VERY dis-turbing fact! And yet most people just bumble on…

You have not learned the abc’s of sad-ness, nor the multiplication tables of an-ger. Do you know at any moment which of the emotional elements of your inner periodic table are dominant, or trans-muting, or breaking down? With all the amazing findings on how hormonal output determines emotional state, how much are you just a passive victim of chemical flows through your body? Or hers?

We live in a sci-tech masculine society that celebrates conquering, division, construction and visible form. But we are secretly driven by the “feminine” in-ner world of emotional reality. The truth is, we all want to be loved, comforted, made safe and we want to feel needed and important to somebody.

We just are too headstrong – or afraid – to admit it, or to get a grip on it.

Today we get a grip on it.

And as we do, things like shame, guilt, anger, blame – will begin to dissipate. You will see they are unnecessary coat-ings over the vibrant truth of your life.

Your emotional

Intelligence

Time & Reality

In my discussions with Dr. Steve Wolf (author: “Romancing The Shadow” A Guide to Soul Work for a Vital, Authen-tic Life”) –one of the most important things for you to know is this:

“All emotion is experienced in the pres-ent and stored in the body.” But… “Emotion has memory but no relation-ship to time.”

Thus, while fight or flight reactivity is useful when there is a real lion (or hatch-et-wielding ex-girlfriend) in your path, that kind of reactivity can be incredibly destructive when there is a stuffed lion or a perfectly nice girl in your path. You will bring all the emotional reactiv-ity from the past to a present moment, even though there is no REAL threat. A girl might trigger your fear of rejection, even though she is just standing there sipping her green tea.

Your mastery, and your leadership begin with your ability to be aware of which threat is REAL and which is imaginary. Approach-anxiety is nothing more than your confusion between past and pres-ent.

And your predilection to fight in a rela-tionship is usually your (and her) knee-jerk habit of allowing the past to invade the present. My classic example is my ex wife. A simple request from me, “would you try to remember to bring banana peels in from the car?” brought a sharp response of “Oh! You’re saying I’m a bad person!?”” In fact, that was the mes-sage she got from her very screwed up mother for two decades, before we even met.

What are your triggers?

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If you remember, I said I wanted you to approach all of this process in the spirit of play. There is an important reason for this. And it is that play is truly one of the cores of what you are – only you have forgotten.

Look, who are you? Who are we as men, as a species?

A bunch of really brainy guys at a uni-versity decided we are homo sapiens. Man the conscious thinker – because those brainy guys saw themselves that way. But there are other traditions. We could call ourselves homo faber – man the “maker” (as in fabricate). But one of my favorite definitions (and don’t you see how we exceed all these limit-ing definitions), is “homo ludens” or “playful man” (ludens - as in ludic mus-cles that make us smile, or “ludicrous”) – man as playful creature.

Children are born to play and, as adults, we escape to play as often as our bullshit, nose-to-the-grindstone cul-tural norms allow.

Honestly, I can’t think of a more fertile place to play than on the dance floor of the sexes. Comedians of course, find endless humor in our mutual misun-derstandings and frustrations. Go on Youtube and look at Chris Rock, Louis CK, Joe Rogan, Maria Bamford, Doug Stanhope, Sam Kinison - put in the keywords marriage, girlfriend, dating – and if you feel sorry for yourself about anything, or think you’re the only one suffering, your self-pity will explode

cause we don’t understand ourselves. And we mostly don’t understand our-selves because he hide from our shad-ow selves or we stamp our shadshad-ow selves down.

You can take “shadow work” – culling up the frustrations and fears we each have as a deep, dark psychological slogfest, washed with tears and cries to an earless heaven. Or you can say, “we are all in this Jello-pit! Let’s play as we tumble and swim our way to the side of the pool and into the light!”

When you approach this inevitable process of coming to terms with your shadow self with some humor, espe-cially with your female partner, you will find there is plenty of forgiveness to go around. It is a great way to al-leviate yourself from shame or blame – both of which are just secondary judg-ments over on top of actual emotions. Each of us has shadows that hold for-bidden feelings such as shame, jealousy, greed, lust, and rage. Left to their own devices these shadows will become destructive saboteurs--causing us to be-tray our loved ones as well as ourselves. It is not within our power to choose whether or not to have these shadows; however, it is within our power to take responsibility for our shadows and put them to productive use.

A Note On

Step one is Awareness. Can you feel the body pressure building? Where? In your chest? Your stomach? Your head? Can you identify the trigger moment? Then – is the threat your emotional brain is reacting to real or imagined? In the present or in the past?

Step two requires one thing: Courage. It takes courage for you to accept that an imaginary emotional response isn’t actually real! Why courage – because it FEELS real! And that feeling is empow-ering you in some strange way. You may feel self-righteous, justified, pumped up, a victim. These are not the things we are normally proud of, but when our hormonal, involuntary emotional brain is pumping its juices, we are not “nor-mal” – we either fight or flee.

And what usually happens is that we express anger. Anger, according to Dr. Steve, is not a primary but a secondary emotion – a shield we create to protect us when we feel unsafe, unloved or dis-connected. Anger makes us feel – for a fleeting moment – safe.

Of course it usually makes us less safe. Because when angry we say damaging things, do damaging things and blow off our emotional pressure in an uncon-trolled, unthought out way.

GETTING REAL...

Take a second. Can you remember a time when you felt upset, angry,

threat-ened, outraged – only to discover later that this emotional reaction was unwar-ranted? That you overreacted? Mis-reacted? That you got the facts wrong or misinterpreted someone’s actions? Can you remember how volcanic your feelings were? And how embarrassed you were afterwards, even though you were relieved?

It’s important to do this above exercises because it begins the process of LOOS-ENING the grip of your momentary emotions on our will power. It is crucial to realize that…

The intensity of your emotions

does not make them any more

correct or appropriate.

They just are – and they are driven by past hurt and fear.

I want you to be a master of your emo-tions rather than a victim of them. I want you to be able to lead your women (and/or children) through this loosen-ing process.

Maturation, mastery, leadership means

that you are not a victim of circum-stance, but the navigator of life’s seas. Your hand is on the wheel and the other is on the throttle. You are in control. I often say that if a woman doesn’t ad-mire you, she will secretly, then openly, begin to despise you.

Please take this work seriously.

Dr. Steve has posted an exercise online for you to get a stronger grip on your emotional life, so you can gain aware-ness, calm your emotional momentary state and do no harm.

Go to www.TamingYourAnger.com and go through his free Sound Awareness and Breath Control process – which is the start of your emotional mastery. Let me know how it goes at adamgilad@ gmail.com -- and let him know too, what you think.

This is important work. It is essential to your happiness and attractiveness. I want you to live it.

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Mastering Your

emotional

Intelligence

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Romancing Your Shadow

So what is your shadow? How does it form? This is from Dr. Wolf’s book...

“ We seek to present a beautiful innocent face to the world; kind, courteous

demean-or; a useful, intelligent image. And so, unknowingly but inevitably, we push away

those qualities that do not fit the image, that do not enhance our self-esteem and

make us stand proud but, instead, bring us shame and make us feel small. We shove

into the dark cavern of the unconscious those feelings that make us uneasy --

ha-tred, rage, jealousy, greed, competition, lust, shame -- and those behaviors that are

deemed wrong by the culture -- addiction, laziness, aggression, dependency --

there-by creating what could be called shadow content. Then… these qualities ultimately

take on a life of their own, forming an invisible twin that lives just behind our life, or

This stranger is our shadow -- he pops up suddenly and unexpectedly, when you get angry or abusive or self hateful. The stranger takes over when you find you are suddenly defensive and with-drawn

It’s like an unwanted visitor, literally like a ugly shadow you cast that is you but isn’t you but you don’t want to seen by anyone.

And because it is a stranger with a life of its own who sometimes overpowers our good, public faces, we end up feel-ing ashamed and feelfeel-ing less than the guy we want to think of ourselves as be-ing.

When you’re in a loving relationship and suddenly dream of freedom and sleep-ing around – it’s your shadow speaksleep-ing -- the part you don’t want seen. When you are committed to health but pig-out on ice cream late at night -- if you shadow acting out. When you belittle your lover or a friend or yourself -- that is your shadow belittling. What a priest seeks off for four -- the shadow.

What happens is that your persona, or the mask of a show to the world gets split off some part of yourself -- the part

you hide. And the more you beat that side of yours down and hide it the more alien part of you becomes.

Not only because you become split, but it’s usual that use that what you can’t face in yourselves becomes intolerable in others. It leads to addiction, shame, abuse of others. Fighting, envy, blam-ing -- just a whole lot of pain.

Whether it’s moodiness or sarcasm or addictive behavior -- the challenge of romancing the shadow you so often act out indirectly. You don’t really know that it’s sneaking out and expressing it-self.

And then when you look at it – you are so horrified, you say, “shit! That’s not me!” And you stuff it back down again. The trick is to coax the shadow out – in Dr. Wolf’s words, to romance it, to woo it out into the light and awareness. It doesn’t happen in a day, but you can create, step-by-step, bit by bit, an on-going becoming aware process – and thereby create happy conscious rela-tionships by reducing your shadow’s power to unconsciously sabotaging you.

In short – by getting super-curious about your shadow side, and by wel-coming it rather than by denying or fighting it, you grow more whole, more integrated – and more happy.

A Note:

If you come from a religious tradition that wields guilt as a weapon to terrorize you, you will have to learn to either come to terms with that tra-dition, by welcoming the good it might bring you or let go of the tradition al-together. One of the sad, enduring legacies of monotheistic religions is the bifurcation of the self into “good” and “evil.” We all have destructive tenden-cies, but they are not “curses” caused by ancestors back to Adam and Eve, and they are not “the devil.” They are shad-ow inclinations and must be handled, just like everything else in our lives. The key is to ease out of the idea that any negative or destructive thoughts are coming from outside of you. They are just part of you, and you will be a house divided against yourself as long as you see them as anything other but you – whether its Satan or “something my parents or my ex did to me.” They are you. Accept it, work with it, and transform it into action in your life that you can be proud of.

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Shadow

Practice

The shadow knows its purpose -- to make the unconscious conscious. To make what you are hiding come out. It tries to tell its secrets and, trust me, it will -- either through abusive behaviors, choosing the wrong person to try to love again or through addictions. If you find you are drinking too much, working nonstop, watching too much porn – in that moment – ask yourself: “what is the pain I am trying to hide from?”

When you do this practice over and over, you will swiftly start to truly know what fears are driving you – then you can start making better decisions and commitments on how to actually change your life so you can dissipate these hid-den fears by making them irrelevant. For example, if you’re drinking too much, dissing women in conversation or smoking to much weed, you might genuinely be lonely and want a great woman in your life. When you employ the practice above enough times, you’ll see your shadow fear more clearly, and then you can decide to join more meet

up groups, approach more women, get active online on Match.com and writ-ing more women. The key is, once you are clear – you are more likely to take action. When you take action, your life changes and dark shadows haunting you dissolve like disappointed ghosts. The goal to turn self-hate itself accep-tance and shame into pride.

The great thing is that your

shadow issues become the very

After my divorce, my first instinct was to blame “the other, “ or finding fault with my ex. Well, I was married for 17 years, and for many years I could not admit what I didn’t like about her, be-cause it felt like admitting I had made a mistake by marrying her in the first place.

But when I decided to divorce, my chal-lenge became how to take full

respon-sibility for what happened between us.

I had always heard that what we dislike in others tends to be exactly the parts of ourselves that we don’t like in ourselves. Frankly, it was hard for me to accept, because I had to see myself as good. That was my patterning from child-hood. Because of a death in the family of my sister, I positioned myself as the one who would make my mother hap-py. So I would be the good one, the one who excels, as my sister used to sarcasti-cally call me, “Mr. Perfect.”

And my shadow just grew and grew un-derneath that surface personality. Be-cause, of course, secretly, I knew I was certainly not perfect, and had plenty of destructive, mean, base and negative thoughts and desires.

Now here’s where it gets interesting…

azon called Ayahuasca that opens por-tals of understanding otherwise often hidden. When you boil it and mix it with another plant, and drink the brew, you sit in meditation and for five hours and are handed a virtual Encyclopedia of Truth about yourself and about the nature of existence. They call it the God plant, the Death Plant and The Grand-mother – because you are given vision after vision and understanding after un-derstanding, worthy of the wisdom of a wise grandmother who knows all. You fast for a day before drinking this cup of wonder – and you ask it a ques-tion before you drink.

And man, do you get answers!

So, one night, I was sitting with a sha-man in the forest and decided this night that I wanted to focus on forgiving my ex-wife for all her “horrible transgres-sions” against me.

After drinking the brew, and sitting a while, I was not shown anything new about her, but, like a powerless and obedient schoolchild, I was led, quality-by-quality through all of my complaints about her -- and shown that not only did I embody those qualities to some degree, but – this is the real revelation of

cheap. If I didn’t like her defensiveness, I was shown mine. If I didn’t like her judgmentlism, I was served up a big heaping bowlful of Judge Adam.

It was humbling. And it was part of my process of learning to release blame for her or for anybody in how I felt about myself or anything.

Releasing blame of others allows you to focus on what’s going on in-side you so you can take an honest assessment of how you -- and you alone -- create your reality, your

relationships, and your life. It is all you. Always.

Here’s another Ayahuasca story that I think is very relevant to you

During another journey, my question was, “please help me accept all of my-self. Finally.” What I secretly wanted was for the medicine to show me what an awesome guy I was – great dad, smart businessman, thoughtful teacher, doing something of value in the world. But what I received was four and a half hours of having every ugly thought I have -- about myself, about others, my family, friends, everyone in the room, even my own kids, every ugly thought I had about them, all their flaws and fail-ures, all their masks and the simulations – thrown in my face.

It’s hard to describe, but it did feel like torture, being shown the horrible judg-mental person I could be. Well, after 4 ½ hours of torture I couldn’t take it anymore and I buried my face in my hands and pleaded, “why, why are you doing this to me? All I wanted was to accept myself, then all you’ve done is show me how awful I am, how full of dark thoughts.”

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A Personal Story

And Welcoming

My Shadow...

By Force!

plunge straight into the base of my neck piercing my spine downward along the vertebrae. And as it descended, a foun-tain, a gusher of white light shot up-ward from the hole 20 feet into the air and showered everything around me. It was at that moment the that I had the illumination, and utter relief...

If I wanted to fully accept myself, this was the part of myself that I hadn’t yet accepted, and that I needed to, in order to relax into full self-knowledge. Aya-huasca had helped me pull my shadow side – the part I didn’t want to see – into the light.

And it was such an incredible relief to see it clearly without being able to hide it away, and an incredible relief to ac-cept it.

Because whatever you are ashamed of, whatever you are embarrassed of, what-ever you think makes you unworthy of the most wonderful women you meet – it’s all a much lesser monster than you are making it out to be.

It’s a fantastic feeling to let go of all that shame and inadequacy, and just bring yourself clean, whole, peacefully imper-fect and self-accepting to every woman you meet.

And it makes you a more appealing man.

ACTION: whenever you get defensive, whenever you snap back at some per-ceived insult or feel your chest tighten or self-criticism rise up in the face of frus-tration or embarrassment, see if you can let that feeling dissolve. And un-apologetically allow yourself to accept all of yourself in the moment. Knowing that you can get better over time, but knowing that in this moment, you are flawed and its perfectly fine.

Now you may not have access to Aya-huasca, and it may seem like the weird-est thing in the world. But you don’t need it. Therapy can do it. A great men’s group can do it. An amazing friend or girlfriend can help you do it. And theoretically, you can do it your

self, though it’s not easy. But I urge you – find a way, a safe way, to allow your-self to fully experience all those parts of yourself – the failures and shame – those parts that you hide away from others and try to hide away from your-self.

You can spend your life lying to others to protect your ego, but when you lie to yourself, you do extra damage. Be-cause you prevent yourself from feeling whole, and you lock yourself down in defensive position, preventing your-self from growing into an even deeper wholeness and happiness.

Note: this is a reminder. We live in a cul-ture of instant gratification. Everything is “on demand.” But contemplation, awareness and the humor and self-compassion that is necessary to finally accept all parts of yourself and relax into reality rather than a tense wearing of a mask – it takes time. Give yourself time. Have compassion on yourself. You’ve been protecting your shadow for decades. It’ll take some time to coax it out of the darkness.

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There’s a light side of dating – freedom and experience and sensuality. But for a lot of people, there is also a dark side where you might suffer from isolation and alienation and sexual frustration. It’s not unusual. Seeing couples or hearing about some Casanova’s exploits might make you feel more like a loser or an outsider.

Guys end up hating women for having so much power over them. A lot of men feel banished from pleasure -- which leads to rage. Or shame. So there is this whole other category of shadow. The one most people talk about is the one you create in childhood but the other comes from dissatisfaction as an adult. The danger of these negative

self-feelings is that you can grow an angry shadow self through bitterness or dis-appointment – as you carry more and more negativity, grumbling that there are no good women out there, that women are bitches etc.

These are your growth moments. It is essential not to blame anyone else for your situation. It is important to take then frustrated energy and turn it into learning and action – as by reading this newsletter (as many times as it takes to ingrain it into your soul!) and by taking action with women, as described above. And, throughout the process, to think of yourself as an evolving being, com-passionate and forgiving to yourself. We’re all learning, all the time.

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Shadow Work As Masculine Warriorship

• How To Lead Your Relationship

• You Do Always Get What You Want

• Tools For A Happy Relationship

• Five Shortcuts To Leading Her Into

Relationship Success

And

More...

Coming Next Month

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LEAD YOUR RELATIONSHIP

As boys and young men (and mature men!) -- we are told in a thousand ways that the tender side of us is bad or dan-gerous as something to be ashamed of. This is because the shadow side of the masculine – war and violence and eco-destruction – is still rampantly part of our reality. It is the shadow masculine run riot.

On one level, we are ALL ashamed of this shadow side of our manhood, or even of our human species.

It is why it is so important for you to get a grip on the most positive aspects of

your masculine – whether its purpose-fulness (read The Way of The Superior Man, by Deida) or Protective Kingship (read my program at www.Ageles-sAtttraction.com) or any of the other core qualities of the masculine.

And it is equally important to culti-vate your tender, or feminine side. The problem is, that, in our masculine cul-ture, men are taught to be ashamed of that tender side – even though women are desperate to find men who have it (but are not dominated by it).

Welcoming your shadow often means

allowing your conventional feminine qualities -- nurturing, vulnerable, and caretaking qualities – without devalu-ing them at all. This is essential because when you devalue them in yourself, you often (subconsciously as well as con-sciously) devalue them in women. Which means after a few years at most, you will demean your woman for not being aggressive, competitive or pro-ductive enough. Which, I’m sure you know, are not the qualities they most love in themselves, on the whole. So it’s a losing game.

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The Three Foundations of Online Dating Mastery

Millions are doing it. 75% are in England. 57% are in the United States. We’re busy. We search for books, toys, gifts, invest-ment data, and gossip online. So why not go online in search of love?

Online dating is here, it is effective, time-saving, casts a far wider net than you could ever do trawling bars, bookstores, or yoga classes.

Some people are shy about online dating. They think that it’s for people who can’t get dates elsewhere. Well, in fact, there are tens of thousands of women who work that are tired at night and don’t want to go out. They would rather filter 100 guys’ online profiles looking for something that excites their interest than have to meet and spend half an hour chit- chatting try-ing to figure out if this club-dolt is worth their time. There is a veritable army of school teachers who just don’t meet stry-ingle men all day, or women who work among other women. They are all online because they want to meet you.

And, at the other extreme, there are highly social, highly attractive women who go out plenty and meet lots of men, who simply want to expand their world – meet the kinds of guys who live outside their limited social circle.

The online dating world is as varied and promising as the offline world.

In fact, there are so many people dating online that your job is to stand out from the crowd. Helping you do that is the purpose of this book. When you can stand out from the army of Dilberts who write offensive emails and boring profiles by putting to work the lessons and techniques in this book, you will have more women to choose from than nights to meet them.

The net is a GREAT place to expand your world and meet women of all types.

And the best part is – they are online because they want to meet guys. You can’t say that about that hottie in the next office or across the café.

From a business point of view – it’s a hungry market – and it’s hungry for you. If you play it smart.

The Deep Attraction Online System is all about playing this arena smart. It’s about making this new world of dating work at maximum power for you. It’s about creating success in this field as just like any other field of your life.

It’s about taking Online Dating and applying all the knowledge of -Branding

-Advertising and Marketing -Gender Psychology

-Neuro-Linguistic Programming -The Erotica of Poetry

-Good Common Sense

It’s about approaching dating in the online age with both deep wisdom about how men and women work, and the media

savvy of modern communications science.

It’s about stepping up your efforts in the dating/relationship world the same way you would in the job world. It’s about building expertise and being not only professional about it, but a pro.

The kind of practices and preparation and testing you have chosen to embark on by joining the Deep Attraction Online (DAO) Community is exactly the kind of seriousness that separates the pros from the amateurs, the major league players from the sandlot boys.

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You have decided to take the extra step to step up your personal skills to become a powerful success in dating no matter what your goal.

What does it take to be a success in anything? If you have any experience in advertising and marketing or project man-agement, you know that success takes three qualities:

The Deep Attraction Online 3 Pillars of Success

Innovation

Testing

Persistence

In this book, you will learn about innovation – coming to know the Attractors you already have, honing them, and when necessary, reinventing yourself so that you will be massively more magnetic and intriguing to women online and off.

You will learn how to test different profile elements and combinations to create magnetism and attraction.

You will learn how to read her profile for key signifiers – those little packets of information where her electric charge resides.

You will learn how to turn that first virtual e-contact into a physical, warm, and bodily triumph. You will learn how to be flexible, and both passionate and dispassionate about the

testing process.

And you will gain the important tools to turn this process into a victory of persistence: how to put your ego aside, how to turn away from the very stupid, very weak idea of “getting lucky,” and how to attract and intrigue women time and time again, because you are not lucky, but skilled.

Because you are becoming, in a very real sense, a master.

DAO Adage

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In this guide you WIll learn:

-Key socio-biological triggers for women and how to trigger them. -Tested marketing techniques – applied to online dating.

-Real examples of online interaction, what works/what doesn’t. -How to enjoy yourself!

-And, most important… How to become a stand out as a magnet of intrigue online! In this manual you UNleARN:

-How to turn off women by compromising your masculinity -How to turn off women by being a suck up.

-How to torture yourself -How to limit yourself

-How to turn off women by projecting a sense of self-limitation.

You don’t need to learn these things… because I

guarantee you, you are doing them already!

And, as I say over and over, when you stop doing these things, your whole life will begin to change.

As you integrate the principles and techniques in this system into your life, you will

become the kind of man and establish the kind of empowered interactions with women, that will lay the foundations for booty call, fling or long lasting relationship– whichever is your goal.

The DAO Bonus

Just as this book will show you how to immediately excite

and intrigue women on the web, the habits you are about

to master will help you CONTINUe to excite and intrigue

them for as long as you want to be in a relationship.

That’s why I often say, this manual will teach you how to get women off the net and into your bed for a night, or for a life-time. Bed or wed or anywhere in between. That part is up to you.

Ready? Let’s go…

This workbook is on the necessary pre-game to make your Deep Attraction Online system work seamlessly and consis-tently.

Because this Deep Attraction Online pregame workbook is all about being ready for the game just like any pro athlete prepares for the game of his life.

Because this game is your life.

Take the time and do the exercises carefully with thought and passion. The answers you come up with here will save you hours of thinking and doubting later when you start talking with all the women online who will find themselves turned on by your new DeeP ATTRACTION ONlINe High Attractor Status.

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Chapter One: Mastering Your Attractors Means

Standing in your Confidence

1.1 Confidence is Where You Win The Game

You’ve probably read it a 100 times.

“The battle is either won or lost before it begins.” That’s Sun Tzu – the brilliant, ancient military strategist. You’ve learned it from the best sports coaches – the game is won or lost before it begins.

From outstanding athletes, attorneys, political candidates - mental preparation and a commitment of the spirit to victory before the game, the trial, or the election, will often determine victory.

You are entering an arena right now just as real as a boxing ring, a tennis court, a courtroom, a job interview.

Your playing partner may not in the same room as you, but she is in your arena. And you need the same mental prepara-tion that an athlete needs to triumph in any arena.

Now it’s time to make an important mental shift. Are you ready?

There is a competition going on in this arena, yes. But you are not competing against women to “beat them” by getting them into bed.

The competition is within you. It is to see if you defeat, or let go of your lesser self, and craft your best self by first mastering the signifiers with which you represent yourself.

DAO Definition:

“Signifier” - a packet of information that conveys meaning. Could be a photo,

language, body language, clothing, hair, etc. think of every element of yourself, your speech, your choice of words, your body, clothes, car, body language as signifiers. What is each conveying?

The women at the other end of the fiber optic cable are not “enemies” to “conquered,

but your allies in mutual joy and exploration. Please, drop the idea of conquest. In this game, both you win and she wins if you play at the top of your game. Women want you to be an awesome, attentive, strong guy. Offer her that, and vic-tory is both of yours.

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Deep Attraction Online Warning

Please do not think of women online as ‘opponents’ to defeat or manipu-late. There are “seduction” guides out there that treat women this way. This is the wrong way to set your mind for at least three essential reasons: First, it will decay your soul and inevitably lead to a kind of self- loathing, which will ultimately drive women away.

Second, it’s just gross and small-minded.

And third, it is exactly the opposite of the most successful methods of intrigu-ing women to come out and meet you. The model of the “battle of the sexes” is there to drive us apart and to disempower men. We don’t want to battle with women! We want to hold them and enjoy them. When they feel that warmth coming from you, they will “let down their defenses” and willingly open the gates to the city. Now, isn’t that a better, more satisfactory victory than the carnage that battle brings?

1.2 An Introduction to The Attractor Secrets of Confidence

Women are stupid, right? Vulnerable, naïve?

Wrong. They are much smarter than you. Maybe not in math – and the President of Harvard University caught endless abuse for stating that statistical truth last year (don’t get me started on political correctness and the scorn for seeing the plain truth that p.c. brings!)

According to Barbara and Allen Pease, who wrote “Why Men Don’t Listen and Women Can’t Read Maps”, men need to witness tears or a temper tantrum or be slapped on the face before he even has a clue that anything is going on…

“As child bearers and nest defenders, women needed the ability to sense subtle mood and attitude changes in others. What is commonly called

‘women’s intuition’ is mostly a woman’s acute ability to notice small details and changes in the appearance or behavior of others… Nest defenders, to safeguard their family’s survival, needed to be able to pick up small changes in the behavior of their offspring that could sig-nal pain, hunger, injury, aggression or depression. Males, being lunch chasers, were never around the cave long enough to read nonverbal signals or the ways of interpersonal com-munication.”

In other words, women are EXPERTS at reading signifiers. So you need to become expert in how you deploy them! Let’s begin with the most important set of signifiers you send - those that convey weakness or strength in a man. At reading these, women are Einstein. They are bloodhounds; they are nuclear-powered weakness sniffing machines. That’s their job. That’s their wiring. Don’t fight it. As the Taoists like to say, “ride the horse in the direction in which it is going.” Roll with it but smartly.

Women often say they like vulnerability in a man. But don’t make the mistake of confusing vulnerability and weakness. Let’s settle this one right now, up front, because without understanding this key difference, you are sunk!

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DAO Master Definition

Masculine Vulnerability is a gentleness, a humanity, a compassion that

ex-ists only within the context of strength. Think about your vulnerability with this metaphor: A woman walks up and pets a lion who purrs. That’s sexy! That’s electric! You can’t take your eyes away! Why ? Because the lion is still dangerous and powerful and capable of untold, unstoppable force. It is only in the context of that power, that the purring becomes something extraordinary, magnetic, intriguing and emotionally gripping.

Weakness on the other hand, is its own context. It doesn’t stand in

contrast to anything. It’s just limp. Consider the comparative metaphor: a woman walks up to a sick, limp, starving, toothless, and clawless, pussy cat. Do you feel any sexual charge there? Of course not. A woman will pity the cat in this picture, but there is no energy, no contrast, no thrilling

possibilities, no potential explosiveness to this scenario. There is nothing to draw our attention. There is no hope that the experience will be thrilling be-yond anything she has ever expected.

Already you are getting a taste of some of the most important Attractor Secrets of the Deep Attraction Online System:

Contrast heightens excitement.

Strength is the essential context of vulnerability Potentiality and expansiveness is sexy

The unknown is sexy

We will explore these attractor secrets throughout this manual and see them at work. But start to let them percolate in your mind now.

Start thinking about your profile, your photos, how you interact in IMs and emails on your online dating site. Do you project electric contrasts?

Do you establish the context of strength? Do you create a sense of mystery and discovery?

Do you promise to be thrilling in a way she can’t put her finger on?

If not, don’t worry. You will. That’s why we’re both here. Just start mulling these questions. Start jotting down ways you can accomplish these things. We will get to them all and show you great examples of how to make these Attractor Secrets work for you – you as a unique individual.

1.3 Identifying Your Unique Attractor Factors

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DAO Instant Homework

If you’re hard on yourself, it’s a kind of Indulgence, an excuse for not rising to your best self, a kind of masturbation.

Your job: get over it. It’s not serving you.

Pay attention to any negative self talk. And then let it go and try not to express it. Repeat until re-manned.

Have you ever seen that little kids’ picture book called, “Everybody Poops.”

Well, guess what? Everybody does, and everybody’s stinks. You’re no better or worse than any other guy, and every women you see online is no better, on this level, than every other girl.

It’s like that scene in Harold and Kumar Go To White Castle, where they hide out in the dorm toilets and the two beautiful babes come in with a case of “the taco shits.”

If you haven’t seen the movie, it’s hilarious. That scene is a lesson in life for all boys: stop idolizing women! Despite what that other duo, Wayne and Garth, preach, you are worthy.

Let’s take this jumping off point of confidence from another system of information.

Public speaking. Do you know that public speaking is rated by people as their top fear alongside death? Death!

Do you also know what the classic – and effective – piece of advice is for beginning, nervous public speakers? Picture your

audience in their underwear.

Dude, they get the Taco Shits, too.

The truth is that everybody’s got his or her good points and bad points. I was in a relationship with a woman who harped on my “bad points” constantly. From my creativity (“exhausting”) to the very shape of my hands - which are fine by the way - but I allowed myself to believe her.

Now, I’m certain there have been people in your life who pointed out your bad points. It may have been a parent, sibling, or a girlfriend. Insecure people and people with agendas for you will do that. They will tear you down.

We’re going to break with that heritage now, clean out some old trash so that we can enter this arena primed and at our strongest.

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This is essential pre-game prep, so don’t skip over it!

I know a great guy who puts himself down constantly. He can’t score a woman. Do you wonder why? Let me give you a hint…

Compare these actual profiles I pulled off the web:

Self Denigration:

“My name is Jonathan a.k.a. Mr. Lonely…”

“I am far from perfect. I’m a little stubborn and most definitely shy, at first. My expecta-tions are insanely reasonable. In a nutshell, I’d like to date a red-blooded human being.”

What kind of woman sees herself as a consolation prize, someone who at least has “red blood”? What woman is going to write to this guy? Here’s another

“I love music, but I can’t dance. So if you ever see me trying to dance - run like hell. (Or just laugh... everyone else does)…”

Great – someone who doesn’t know how to move his body – which portends that he’s bad in bed, someone who others laugh at.

“I love to cook. Hate to clean. I’d love to find a girl who can speak

her mind, have a good time regardless of the atmosphere, and most importantly - deal with me.”

Great – he’s filthy and the woman reading his profile gets to look forward to having to “deal with” him. Compare the hun-dred thousand profiles that say they don’t mind holding doors or pulling out chairs. Why would a woman want this guy?

“I cannot really evaluate myself...I know what I want from life, and it depends on the next two years if I get it or not. So if you can accept that I hope that I will hear from you.”

A man who is NOT in control of his life, hanging by a thread, dependent on the decisions of other men, not an Alpha Male in any way but an Omega Male

(that’s last in line.) Who lives, as he says, by “hope” – that he’ll make a living and that he’ll hear from a woman. “I work as a financial analyst at a university. I like my job but it is not life fulfilling…”

That’s his opening! Who would read past that? I will discuss later in the

Deep Attraction Online System, never say what your job is unless it’s incredibly sexy– fireman, surgeon, movie star. Com-municate what you give to others on the job if anything. Let her fill her imagination with your personal qualities – your compassion, or professionalism or competence – but not with your resume!

But beyond that – don’t say your job isn’t fulfilling. Women want to date up – not only financially, that’s just a myth. They want excitement, passion, art, devotion, and manliness – all kinds of things. They want to go on a ride with a man who is fulfilled and seeking greater fulfillment.

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Confidence:

A few things about me: I am a confident, optimistic, motivated, perceptive, real-istic and a not so easily rattled individual. Rarely at a loss for words but I always listen first. My most valuable asset is my sense of humor.

What I like about this one is that it’s not bragging! And it offers the personal qualities I was just talking about – he’s the kind of ride a woman wants to take – he’s optimistic, motivated (not dependent) perceptive and steady-going. He’s

not rattled. He’s the captain of his own ship, basically, upbeat and likeable. This isn’t a stand out DAO profile, but most women would give him a decent look if he contacted them.

“People with check lists searching for Middle class comforts and striving after the American dream need not apply. If you want to grow spiritually and cre-atively then you are the kind of person I want to be around.”

This guy knows himself and that’s attractive. He sets boundaries on what he will put up with – and that’s attractive. He uses my favorite “if” word, which challenges women up and makes you, the man, the judge rather than the judged, and he promises a life of greater spirituality and creativity – which is an interesting ride. Certainly better than Mr. Unfulfilled up above.

“My goal is to live life as intensely, richly, and purposefully as possible.”

What I like about this one is that it opens strongly – this sounds, again, like a guy who is control of his life. He has goals, not wishes, and is passionate.

Do you see the difference? Of course you do.

But can you Feel the difference? Can you feel how one set of profiles is sexy and intriguing and magnetic and attractive? If you can feel it just a little, know that women can feel it 100x more powerfully than you can because they are wired to sense strength in a man.

Why? Because that is how they are wired to survive. Let’s take a step back, both conceptually and in time…

What is “attraction”? It’s not mental. It’s not conscious. It is a deep evolutionary biological need to find a strong mate. I don’t mean muscular, though that is often an attractive trait. But by strong, I mean a mate that in her subconscious mind she can trust to provide good genes for healthy, attractive children who will be likely to mate well in the future. This is called the theory of the Selfish Gene as perfectly explained by science writer, Richard Dawkins.

How does this apply to mere online dating? You must electrify her with strength – in this case: strength of wit, strength of character – because that is all she can see without being able to read your physical presence.

Dawkins has a second fascinating theory about attraction in the human species - that one of the prime Strength Attrac-tors is not musculature but intelligence. This he says explains the explosive and unparalleled growth of the human cerebral functions. Throughout human evolutionary history good female brains sought good male brains to mate with since good brains make for excellent survival tools.

How can you be a magnet for attraction? Project the kind of strength described above. Even if you are not going to make babies together, she will be subconsciously, irresistibly, powerfully, attracted to you if you embody and project robustness of health, confidence, brains – what adds up to what I call “survival smarts” or “survival competence” or “the survival edge.” This kind of strength creates trust. It is a kind of feral animal security that she needs to sense in you to be intrigued and at-tracted to you. It’s why women love firemen. There is a competence, a confidence – and a projection, real or not, that this male of the species can help her survive and pass on her seed in a safe, promising way. Firemen have that edge. So do rock stars – a power, an edge over the average male.

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Now, I’m not a fireman or rock star, and most likely neither are you.

But you already have elements of your personality and lifestyle that project survival competence and the survival edge. Here are some important questions:

What are your Survival Competencies, or Survival Attractors? Are you handy? Are you physically strong? In what ways are you intelligent? In what ways do you attract men as friends and colleagues around you? How are you part of a larger survival competence group? Do you handle problems with humor? Are you kind to children and old people? Do you get along well with your family?

Women are attracted to guys who: Are smart

Are funny Are capable

Are casually confident

Are respected and liked by their peers

You are about to learn how to project how you are these things.

Throughout this Workbook, you will be asked to do some Instant Homework.

This isn’t high school and the grades aren’t meaningless, so don’t blow it off! If you do your preparation here, you will save hundreds of hours when you operate online. And you will have done the prep-work to make your game flow smoothly,

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So here’s your first Instant Homework:

DAO Instant Homework Your Strength Grid

In this space below jot down every strength you have. Don’t hold back. Let your pen lead you. Do not stop in the middle – do not doubt yourself or hesitate - let it all pour out of your unconscious mind. No one’s looking so be crazy, be bold, be confident, just every single damn strength you have that

comes to mind. Go!…

STReNGTH GRID Physical – arms, legs, chest, stamina?

emotional - for example, think of a time you were strong in face of adversity. Social – friends, groups, clubs?

Intellectual – passions, expertise, mentoring abilities, accomplishments? Playful – humor, games, ways you’ve rolled with hard times, something you

do with kids?

Family – something concrete you did for mom, dad, brothers, sisters, nieces,

nephews, your own kids?

In the House – what can you fix? Do you have style?

In the Outdoors – can you build, climb, run, pilot, sail, hike?

Good. There. Are you impressed with yourself? You’re just being honest and straightforward and clear-sighted. Don’t gloat, but don’t be hard on yourself either.

Look at your list of strengths. Now circle any of them that you might imagine would prove magnetic to women online. Take your top three magnetizers and be sure to include them either as keywords or suggestors in your profile.

How? By finding a physical image or detail or descriptive scene that suggests these strengths.

Let’s take a detour here, get a taste of the kind of techniques that you will find in the Deep Attraction Online System, out-lined in the main book. You’ll be seeing lots of these rewrites and reframes.

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Translation into DAO language: example #1:

We will talk a lot about suggesting rather than blatantly stating strengths throughout this manual. For example, you never want to say,

“I am a great driver and I enjoy driving.” Boring. Bragging. Blah. You’ve created no intrigue. But if you say:

“Few things turn me on more than feeling the curves of the road as I head into the mountains with someone special for a weekend getaway.”

Bam! Huge difference: one is a blatant statement, dead-end. It goes nowhere, suggests nothing, and has no energy to it. It excites nothing in the female confidence-seeking and Survival Attractor-seeking woman.

By changing my presentation of the same bit of data into DAO Language, what did I do?

I suggested that I’m a great driver not because I freakin’ bragged about it, but because I feel the road. And I didn’t say I feel the road, I described myself in the action of doing it. Way sexier.

And, by the way, I also…

Painted a fantasy for her into which she has now projected herself.

Installed sexual language without talking about sex overtly (“turn me on,” “feeling,” “curves”)

I have suggested to her subconscious that she could be “someone special.” Now she’s thinking – is she good enough to be someone special?

I let her know that I’m someone who sensually “feels” life.

I have given her a picture of my competence in which she fills in the blanks and details. Clearly I’ve taken this trip often – with others.

I have projected a happy, healthy, assertive spirit – someone who she would like to go on a ride with.

These are Survival Attractors, one and all – defined as signifiers that draw her irresistibly and subconsciously toward your strength.

Embrace your strengths with an ease and grace. Sure, you can be a dorky guy and trumpet them – which is what guys do to impress guys. But…

DAO Axiom

You will excite her imagination – and make her

want to meet you in the flesh - if you suggest your survival strengths in a powerful, sensual, indirect way.

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Out with the Bad

The flip side of the above point is never – NeVeR – project Survival Weaknesses. Do it in your profile, you’re dead in the water.

Do it in your emails, you’re dead in the water. Do it in relationship? That’s right, deceased in H20.

Look, we’ve all been beaten up by life. Like I’ve told you, I was with a woman who criticized me every day. By the time I found my balls and got out I was so beat up, I thought I was ugly, stupid and a failure. I honestly didn’t think anyone would ever want to go out with me. I thought this until I had crazy animal sex with about 20 girls in three months, almost all of whom I met online.

That made me feel better. It helped me get my head on straight again, and cleared out the bad feelings so I could start my life anew.

I honestly want to save you from absorbing the denigration that others have foisted on you. It’s a waste of time, a waste of life, and when women smell it on you, it sends them running in the other direction.

This is where the beating up stops for you. Here. Now. Make this promise to yourself:

DAO Pledge

I will NOT include any self-denigration in my profile!

Self-denigration is charming if you’re Hugh Grant or Brad Pitt. It’s fine once you have established your authority and mas-culinity in person. But it does not belong in your profile at all.

DAO Instant Homework

If you already have a profile, you will go back and remove any sign or suggestion that you possess anything less than a pristine set of Survival

Attractors. When? Right now!

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You no longer hope, my friend, you plan. You inspire. You commit. You accomplish. You do. You are not a “hoper.” You are a “doer.” Here are good words to use, in their various forms:

-Optimistic -Go-getter -entrepreneurial -Motivated -Kind -Protective -loyal -Honest -Steady -Confident

Hoping and dependency is for castaways and junior high girls. Furthermore, never, ever diminish your message. Never say.

“You may not like my profile but…” Or, “I may not be your type but…”

Be forthright. Be positive. Be optimistic about your future. Be direct.

You are creating a context of strength in your profile. You are establishing that you are the lion, not the sick, toothless

pussy. Cat, that is.

Later, when you start interacting with a woman, you can offer alluring vulnerabilities, but not up front.

DAO Axiom

Without the context of strength, vulnerability is weakness.

Excuse me, may I repeat that please? Do I have to tattoo it on your male member?

Without the context of strength, vulnerability is weakness!

Now, of course, you have to go deeper here…

In order to cut out self-denigration in your profile (and as you work it, you must do this in the speech of your daily life), you have to forgive your foibles. How, you ask?

Well, like the ads say, Just do it! First, get perspective. As we’ve said, no one’s perfect. Remember, even Jessica Alba gets the taco shits…

Wait. Gimme a minute. I just want to stay with that picture a moment… Okay. I’m ready now.

Internalizing criticism of yourself is just buying into someone else’s insecurity-driven need to foist negativity upon you. Throw it off!

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DAO Tough love Wallowing in insecurity is just a less fun form of masturbation!

You can NOT begin your process of intriguing women by diminishing yourself or diminishing your Survival Attractors. And there is only one way to be comfortable and confident in projecting your Survival

Attractors in an intriguing, relaxed, natural way:

DAO AXIOM

To be magnetic, you must eliminate the need for approval.

This is a hard road, but it can be taken. In fact, it must be taken. It comes eventually with age, but you can start now. A big help on seeing how this works, and works for you, comes in the next section, “Ground Yourself in Process.”

That section will help you escape the complexities of your ego and step into the success path of step-by-step progress. It is where we apply the lessons of project management to the self. We kind of depersonalizing the process, making it work like a machine -- a machine dedicated to your success.

For now, in order to construct your magnetic profile, begin self-talking and outer-talking only in ways that support your Survival Attractors.

Get clear about your Survival Attractors

Assert them in a suggestive, sensual, relaxed way.

Do not diminish them (sort of, kind of, a little, sometimes)

Place them in the context of a fun life you are already leading – and which they can see themselves joining. Be ruthless in committing to these practices. If you make a mistake and project the sick dog with a rushed returned

IM, note the fact that you’ve done it, and move on. You won’t do it next time.

The Deep Attraction Online System trains you to be yourself, but your best self. Your most alluring self. The part of you

that attracts women.

Do you know what happens to guys who “masturbate” with ideas like “I’m an idiot” and “I’m okay but not good enough”? They become what their self-talk tells them.

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1.4 Visualize

Now that we’ve thrown out the bad and listed all those things good and attractive about you, we’re gonna notch it up. Are you ready to take a step forward in your life. Good. Then be coachable here…

Forget about your attachments to your opinions for a moment. Frankly, I don’t care about your opinions and neither should you. They are just old, stale ideas you are carrying around. F*ck em.

Far more useful:

DAO Master Question

Which of your positive opinions about you serve you best and can make you more magnetic?

Let’s trust your friends and old girlfriends for the good they saw and see in you. Write down everything they’ve ever complimented you on. And please, don’t be falsely humble or falsely vain. Just straight up, write down what they said –

DAO Instant Homework Your Resource list Three Positive Physical Attributes:

1. 2. 3.

Three Positive emotional Attributes: 1.

2. 3.

Three Positive Talents: 1.

2. 3.

Three Other Things Women Have loved About You (be specific) 1.

2. 3.

Write down the Funniest things you’ve said or done. 1.

2. 3.

Write down the kindest things you’ve ever said and done. 1.

2. 3.

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Now go back – take out any qualifiers. Kind of, sort of, a little.

I am about to introduce you to a Deep Attraction Online Uber Axiom. What is that? That is an Axiom that encompasses all the other Axioms. It is something you should really pay extra close attention to, if you want to succeed in alluring women from, well, let’s just say, from the net to your bed…

DAO Uber-Axiom

The Road To Mastery begins by embracing the part of you that already IS powerful.

One of the ways you will start to embrace the part of you that is already strong is to change the language patterns you use. Hang in with me - The DAO System will teach you exactly how to do that.

Unlike some of the cheesy “pick-up guides” out there, Deep Attraction Online is not about manipulation…

The Deep Attraction Online System is about being in the power of who you really are, but focusing on the best part of who you really are, and convey-ing that best part with the most power, passion and intrigue that is lconvey-inguis- linguis-tically possible!

Read over all that list of powerful things that you already are. Now we’re going to take another huge step forward… We are going to visualize the way you wish to be perceived by women: Again, drop the B.S. Don’t be shy. Don’t be modest. Be authentic. Be straight forward. Be a man.

Phil Jackson writes…

“My first act after being named head coach of the Bulls was to formulate a vi-sion for the team. I had learned from the Lakota and my own experience as a coach that vision is the source of leadership, the expansive dream state where everything is creating a vivid picture in my mind of what the team could be-come.”

You are about to create a vision of everything you can become. Your own personal “expansive dream state.” Because…

DAO Axiom

If you can visualize it, you can internalize it. If you can internalize it… you can become it!

If you can internalize it, women, those bloodhounds of male potency, will sniff it out. They will feel it. Right down to their bones! Which you then get to jump.