Let us continue with the point I began to make in the preceding chapter. And I want you to help me illustrate it. Take this book in your left hand. Stand up. Now, with your right hand reach around behind you and squeeze your butt. First, squeeze your right butt cheek. Now, squeeze your left butt cheek...Yes, stretch a little bit. There ya go.
Okay. Now, touch your face. Cover your face with the palm of your hand. You should be looking through your fingers to be able to read this.
Okay. Now, put your right hand down at your side and grab your thigh. Hold it for a second, then let go and just stand there.
Okay. You can sit down again. You are now sitting on the butt you just grabbed, and the thigh is resting on your seat.
Do you feel anything "special" about your thigh, butt or face? No. Same ol' thigh, butt and face you always had.
Now, you see that beautiful girl standing over there? To her, her thigh, butt and face are the same ol' thigh, butt and face she always had. And they feel the same to her as yours just felt to you in our demonstration. A woman cannot help or take credit for the thigh, butt and face that they were born with and always had. She can affect it to a degree by exercise, but they can only work with what they had basically to begin with.
Now, you see the girl in the stretched-reeeeaaalll-tight mini-skirt perched on the barstool showing allllll that thigh and plump rear end? Her body feels to her exactly as yours, in your pants and shirt feels. But the sight of her body affects you to the tenth degree, while, like I said before, the visual stimulation of you (even if you had on
something real tight and revealing) does not have the same impact on her, and is not the determining factor as to your desirability. She is made differently, remember.
But for a man...even if that girl on the bar stool was obnoxious, with a limited vocabulary and a lousy attitude, we wouldn't care as long as she let us use her body as we wanted for an hour or two, right?
Well put this point in ifs place in the overall perspective very short-ly. Now, let's discuss what I mean by The Basic Strategy.
Once again, let's set this discussion in the context of a war. In the effort to secure victory, you have both an offensive strategy, to achieve your goal, and a defensive strategy, to maintain your position and protect against damage or loss.
In this battle of the sexes, women have important advantages. First they have control over what is mutually agreed to be the goal of the man's efforts: intimate sexual relations. Whether it be with a ho for pay, or with a freak for fun, or with a good girl for real, the initial battle is the securing by the man the right to enter the woman physically.
As I said before, mutual satisfaction results when the man achieves his goal
properly and completely, but it is understood that it is the woman who gave up something of value. So, the battle is being fought over her "home territory".
Also, the woman has the advantage of the aforementioned built-in desire a man has for the woman's body, which can be whipped into a frenzied state by how she displays her body through her dress and actions. A woman can dress real tight and real skimpily, and stand, bend, or move in such a way that the man will go to extreme lengths to possess (for a time) that flesh he sees. Any woman knows what a button undone here, and a dress or shorts up-to-here can do to a man's willpower. She knows the effect a casual display of, or a brush up against, her womanly charms can accomplish. Sometimes it's like leading a pig to slaughter, because we males go so easily.
In putting forth the following thoughts, it is assumed that you are creating the P.P.S.P. you need, and that you will absorb the knowledge of what to do after you have the "fish on the hook" that is presented in the final seven chapters. By accomplishing the above, you will have made yourself acceptable as a male companion and potential suitor to the vast majority of females you will encounter on a daily basis. The Basic Strategy is an attitude and method, to be used on the female, in order to get her to do what she naturally desires to do, but to do it under your terms and conditions.
(Note: Again, I am a very strong advocate of having the female under my terms and conditions. First, it is a natural attitude based upon my full acceptance of my manhood.
Second, it is necessary in order for the female and I to be able to fully enjoy each other's presence whatever the context and degree of intensity of the relationship. Third, it keeps to a minimum unnecessary interruption of thought, effort, and energies that are needed to do the other things in life a man must do - the providing of food, clothing, and shelter for himself and dependents, and the pursuit of life, liberty, and happiness.
A woman will sometimes lose sight of the fact that her man has other interests in life and things to do other than what involves her. When this happens, she will resort to whatever it takes to re-establish herself as the main occupier of her man's attention.
If the man cannot control the situation, and allows her to be that center of attention under her conditions, double trouble results: he loses needed clarity of mind for
effectiveness in other pursuits, and he loses control to the woman in the relationship, which, once relinquished, is very seldom regained.
Because of your future success with women, you will be faced with the problem of women wanting you all the time, which can cramp your style if not handled correctly. In
the second volume of this three-part series, we will discuss how to handle this and many other situations under Advanced Strategy.
As I was saying, if you prepare your P.P.S.P. correctly, and your outward
appearance accordingly, women will find you. But, whether you are a man or a mon will depend upon your skillful use of the Basic Strategy.
We have stated that your opponent has two main advantages - (1) the fact that the "cat belongs to her, so she will make the final decision as to what to do with it, and (2) the fact that the mere sight of her, especially when she is dressed provocatively, stirs your passion much more so than the sight of you stirs her.
She has the prize and the female knowledge that you will do just about anything she wants you to do to get it. (Or so she thinks.)
It should now be obvious to you what you need to do, having so clearly defined the main weapons in her arsenal.
You must disarm her. You must neutralize her advantage. You must take away her natural leverage over you as a male.
This falls under the category of a defensive maneuver, because it protects against damage or loss, as we said previously. And just as surely as if she was standing in front of you with a gun pointed at you, and you were able to wrest it away from her, that
defensive maneuver smoothly turns into an offensive maneuver at the same time, because now you have the gun pointing at her and she is in the vulnerable position.
There's only one weapon at issue here, and it's always hers to start with. She has a loaded
"cat", so to speak, and ifs the threat of her withholding it from you that you must take from her and use against her.
(Once you get her in bed you can continue to use her "cat" against her by driving her sexually into a state of bliss - the methods for accomplishing this are discussed in detail in the follow-up to this book:
How To Get All The Girls You Want II - Advanced Sexual Knowledge, Technique &
Strategy. The order form for this needed companion volume is at the end of this book.) There is a valid, clinical term for the use of the technique you will employ. It is called "reverse psychology". It is the technique of giving an impression opposite the expected one to achieve the goal you really desire. In the classic tale of Huckleberry Finn and Tom Sawyer, Tom used reverse psychology to get his friends to do his work for him of whitewashing the fence by making it seem something desirable and fun to do, rather than the chore it really was.
Women by nature feel they have something valuable to men, and are used to men coming after it. It is at their discretion as to whether or not the man meets their standards in order to be "deserving" of receiving the "cat". If you convey to a woman she is not
particularly desirable to you, that you really can "take it or leave it", her advantage is gone! She then seeks to reassure herself of her value by trying to make you want "it".
The ball is now in your court.
A woman can have nine guys telling her she's beautiful, she's the world, they
couldn't live without her, etc. - she will want to be with, need to be with the tenth guy, the one who says, "Eh. She's alright...ain't no big thang...", because her femininity and
desirability have been brought under question.
Let's make this Basic Strategy very simple to grasp. I think most kids who have ever played on a playground have played on a seesaw. You get on, the other person gets on, and up and down you go. You use your weight to keep your partner in the air, then you push off the ground and their weight and momentum brings them down and then you are up in the air, and so forth.
But what would happen once your partner got you up in the air ...and then jumped off? You would come down - hard.
When you first meet a woman, it's like getting on a seesaw with her. Her goal is to be in control by using her natural advantages to put you up in the air. There, you are at her mercy. She can keep you up there as long as she likes, because once your feet are off the ground and you are past the midway point on your way up, you no longer have any leverage. Or, she can jump off and let you hit the ground. Hard.
Your goal, dear chap, is exactly the same as hers. And by using the Basic Strategy, before she even knows what happened, you have her mentally up in the air, at your
mercy. Where she belongs.
Okay, you get the point. Now, exactly what is it that accomplishes this for you immediately? Step # 1 of the Basic Strategy is, as I said, the same as what you need to do with all women you encounter that you have a desire for - determine her type.
You do this by allowing the woman to know that you are very dispassionately appraising her and evaluating her.
You can never change a first impression. Her first impression of you has got to be that it is she, no matter who she is, or how beautiful she is, that is "on the spot", not you, that it is she that is being "checked out" to see if she measures up to your standards!
This can be accomplished without a word being spoken. It is all in the attitude you project to her.
Again, the first step in the Basic Strategy is to coolly and dispassionately appraise and evaluate the woman in question. And allow her to know (through your attitude, eye contact, and body language) that this is what you are doing.
We have discussed the three different types of woman - the ho, the freak, and the good girl - and we touched upon the necessity of knowing her type, as best as possible, to determine your actions and evaluate hers. Great possibility for disaster arises if you don't.
This first step is so critical to the success of your interaction with women it goes beyond words to use for emphasis. Let me give you an analogy: appraisal and evaluation is to getting women on your terms what inhalation is to the act of breathing. Would you be able to breathe if you didn't inhale? No. But during the act of breathing, you not only inhale, causing the air to be filtered by either your nose or mouth, but also you pass the air which is now carbon dioxide.
The point is, many things take place during the process, but none are possible without this first critical step.
The male who has a standard way of "coming on to" a woman is
delivering what are known by females as "lines". If you are delivering lines in this day and age, you will meet with a degree of success with the type of women who have such a limited mentality that they succumb to such.
But, as I said in the beginning, the degree of success we are aiming for is much higher.
We want it to be damn near a certainty that we can have success with women of our choosing, on our terms.
So, our "inhalation", or first step in the process, is to appraise and evaluate the woman in question and to, when appropriate, let her know that is exactly what we are doing. Whether it be a woman that you are being introduced to at a party that is
dazzlingly attractive, or a fellow employee that you interact with at work, who is quite beautiful, or a classmate you're sitting near, or a Nevada prostitute line-up, evaluate the woman and mentally arrive at an initial type classification. And show NO initial interest in her as a desirable woman while you do.
Let's take as an example the situation described above: meeting a beautiful girl at a party or being introduced to a fellow employee. DO NOT BETRAY HOW HER
OUTWARD APPEARANCE HAS AFFECTED YOUR "MALENESS"! Don't fawn all over her, don't ogle her with your eyes, don't insinuate things with your tone of voice or word choices...play your male emotions as close to the vest as a cardplayer in a Wild West saloon poker game. If you show the typical male response that she undoubtedly gets all the time and has gotten used to receiving, you have acknowledged her leverage and advantage, which translates for you as a quick trip up in the air on the see-saw. Again, this is extremely counterproductive to our goal of conquest AND control.
So what do you do? You can't just stand there like a zombie, right? Instead of letting your maleness show through in words, attitude and body language, let your
"personness" show through. And that statement brings us to another foundational underpinning of this philosophy.
Lines, insincerity, the woman as an object only and a piece of meat, deceit, half-truths...all these have no place in the Basic Strategy, for several reasons.
First, it diminishes your P.P.S.P. Superficial actions and insincere words are not compatible with the character quality traits put forth in Book One.
Second, your impact upon the woman is tremendously lessened: a woman can tell when a man places value on his integrity. His apparent honestly causes her to be honest in turn.
Third, I know from experience that, when you are caught in a lie, people can be hurt that you care about, yourself included. Honesty is indeed the best policy.
Fourth, with the intensity of your appeal after internalizing the contents of this book, you won't need "lines" to achieve your goal.
In the superficiality and shallowness of today's world, when a woman comes in contact with a man who is indeed a man, someone who stands for something and has inner strength, someone she can trust and feel safe with, she looks for ways to show her feelings.
So, in your initial contact with a woman, accept her as a fellow human, a person with inherent worth as an individual, a creation of God. The ho on the street up to the Queen of England will genuinely appreciate this attitude, and warm to it.
It also allows you to RELAX, something very necessary when denying the male impulses that confront you when you are two feet away from Miss 38-24-36.
Be as pleasant as you would with a new male acquaintance or a great-grandmother.
Be YOU. Don't be YOU-ON-THE-SPOT. Remember, it is her that is on the spot. Don't act unnatural or become unglued just because she's a knockout! Get the point? If it helps, squeeze your thigh or butt to remind yourself it is only a physical appearance you are confronted with. And the physical appearance is not essence of the woman herself.
Women, the predatory creatures they are, can sense fear. When you are tightening up or putting on a show for her because of her natural advantages, she does what comes naturally: she seizes the initiative and directs your actions to her desire.
When you "act natural", you accomplish the goal of conveying to the woman that you are a person worth knowing because you have treated her as a person worth knowing.
But the "woman" in that person will be intrigued and curious as to why your reaction wasn't the "usual" male reaction. Their femininity is questioned and they sense that " this man is different".
Congratulations, my friend. You have just subconsciously sprung the trap on her.
She is thrown off-stride and momentum has her feet off the ground and up in the air at the end of the seesaw.
Let's pause for a moment. What I'm trying to explain to you has a degree of complexity involved in that several different factors have to interrelate to have the one desire effect. So, in the first run-through of this book you get different pieces to the same picture. When you've read through the rest of the book the details of this chapter will be filled in, because we'll be discussing the exact interaction between you and the female,
Let's pause for a moment. What I'm trying to explain to you has a degree of complexity involved in that several different factors have to interrelate to have the one desire effect. So, in the first run-through of this book you get different pieces to the same picture. When you've read through the rest of the book the details of this chapter will be filled in, because we'll be discussing the exact interaction between you and the female,