The Ho
When the word "ho" is used when referring to a woman, the image of a street hooker springs readily to mind. And yes, prostitutes are definitely hoes. But although a prostitute is indeed a ho, not all hoes are as obvious as prostitutes about the fact that you are getting the sex in exchange for her material gain.
Our working definition of a ho is a woman who will commit a sexual act or enter into a sexual relationship with a man in exchange for the man making available to her something of monetary or status value.
To my way of thinking, I have no problem with a woman selling her body - ifs hers to do with what she wants. (I say that, however, with one important qualification we'll discuss shortly.) And for the woman who is able to cut off or suppress the natural feelings that arise when she allows a man to be sexually intimate with her, she is able to realize the advantage of the fact that she is literally "sitting on a goldmine".
Prostitution has been called the world's oldest profession. And to the woman who hoes, she is able to sell a product that is in great and constant demand. Also, she is able to sell the same thing over and over, as a "cat" is very hard to wear out, even with extremely frequent use on a long-term basis. The original recyclable product!
But wait! The man pays for the right to put himself inside the woman for sexual pleasure. But doesn't the woman derive sexual pleasure as well? Some do, some don't, but it's up to them to decide if they want to or not. So how come, if she's able to get sexual pleasure also, the man is paying her? Paying even when it may not be that great anyway?
Because it is a mutually understood fundamental fact that in man-woman
relationships the "cat" has the value, not the "dick". She has what you want. Sex occurs when the woman "gives it up". Men "get a piece". It is the act that establishes and verifies a man's claim to that woman. And natural emotions are aroused by the sex act. That is the way we as humans are made.
The essence of what makes a person male or female is whether the person has a penis or vagina. Along with the equipment comes a psychological mindset based upon the nature of the equipment. (This
may sound very simple and elementary, but it is a denial of these facts by some segments of society that have caused a confusion and a blurring of distinct male and distinct female behavior).
The woman's vagina comes with a seal, her hymen. The vagina itself is an opening to be entered, a hole to be plugged, a vacuum to be filled. I'm sure you've heard the
statement that nature abhors a vacuum. This is especially true when it comes to women.
By her physical construction she desires to be fulfilled (this is a psychological need also);
she is made complete when she joins with a man.
A woman's vaginal walls contract or expand to provide a "snug fit' for the male organ it is most active with, much like a lock that would take the form of the key that fits it. Women, by their design, are made to belong to one man.
Men, on the other hand, by design can fill any hole presented, with no physical changes occurring. (Except possibly a venereal disease! Use condoms!) Man is made to penetrate, to thrust, to stab. Also, a female can be pregnant to one man, while a man can have several females pregnant at the same time.
It is by God's design that men have a natural desire to enjoy more than one woman at a time. You see this theme repeated throughout nature: one bull in a field of cows, one lion with several lionesses, one rooster in a hen house. Women have a valid complaint about a man's ability to be singularly faithful. Women are made by nature to be with one man, and women therefore inherently cannot understand a man's instinctive nature to have different females.
So, the act of hoing is against the natural laws of a woman's mind and body. Why do they do it? It depends. Some do it strictly for the money. Eddie Murphy did a skit on Saturday Night Live one time where he played a pimp named Velvet Jones, who was selling a book on TV. The monologue humorously pointed out the advantages to being a prostitute.
"Hello. Are you a female high school dropout between the ages of 15 and 35? Are you tired of doors being slammed in your face when you apply for a job, Are you tired of lying around in bed all day with nothing to do? Well, you never need get up again - because in six short weeks I can train you to be a high-paid ho. That's right. Ifs a well-known fact that a good ho can make up to $1,500 a week. Just think - $1,500 without even leaving the comforts of your own bedroom. Sound too good to be true? Just send for my new book entitled How To Be A Ho.
Yes - in six short weeks if you're not confident that you can make big money as a ho working for me - you can send the book back. It's as simple as that. You get to meet new people - travel - wear nice clothes and have lots and lots of sex - what more can a woman ask for? Be somebody - be a ho."
And it's just that simple to them. They've been able to come to grips with their conscience - and deny it.
Some do it not only for the money, but also to feel accepted by men. We'll talk about the effect a father has on his daughter's sexuality in the next chapter.
Suffice it to say, any woman who sells herself for money or material gain has a deeply rooted psychological mis-orientation.
But, as I said early in this chapter, what a woman wants to do with her body is up to her - with one qualification. The qualification is that I know about it upfront, or, if she doesn't tell me, that I be able to discern for myself her actual motives for indicating her availability.
Now, the straight pay-for-play ladies usually have hearts of gold; they are, if you are on good terms with them, very caring and giving and concerned. This causes
problems for some men who make use of their services: they mistake the ho's natural giving attitude as being for them only. They fall in love with the ho, thinking they can
reform her or fulfill her needs. This very rarely is the case. But at least it was the man's own decision to try, because the terms were made clear in the beginning.
Not so with the other type of ho. This type is usually characterized as a gold-digger, the type female who desires a man for his money and/or lifestyle, and, with malice and aforethought, uses the exchange of sex to gain access to her goal.
This woman knows how to appeal to the man's ego and vanity, and along with the use of the lure of her sex, is very hard to resist. Most men can't resist when targeted by this type of woman, which is why pre-nuptial agreements have become the vogue among those with a lot to lose in the event of divorce.
But the character of a ho carries down to the girl in high school who, if you aren't of high enough status, won't consider you no matter how much personality you have; her criteria is a male with a car or spending money or a star athlete with popularity status.
If you are targeted by this type of women don't let your head be turned! Do not convince yourself otherwise when you intuitively know that the woman is truly down deep inside, a ho. She may not come right out and say, "I'm a ho." But you'll know. Ask her about past relations in a general sort of way to get an indication of where she's coming from. To test her, suggest that things won't be as good for you in the future as they are now, and gauge her reaction. But most of all, question yourself honestly.
Of the three types of woman, the ho is the least desirable. She may be the easiest, if you have the money and are willing to pay. But don't ever expect more than what you pay to get. And especially don't expect long lasting emotional involvement.
Besides, you can actually get more and better sex from our next type of woman, and for free to boot, if you know what you are doing, and sex is your primary goal.
Let's check out the Freak.