28 points, Article By Alexander~,
25. For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing,
‘clicking’. On the broadest scale of picking up girls from cold approaches socially versatility is the most important thing. Not your skills, or your methods or structures. If you are going to make cold approaches on strangers you need to have the versatility and manoeuvrability in who you are and your personal boundaries in order to click with and get into conversation with anyone. An egotistical person usually has an identity that hold blind spots and can cause him to have friction with new people that he meets including girls he’s cold approaching. An ‘easy going’ type of guy, a guy with self esteem and no ego, isn’t restrained by a reality and an identity that he is bound to – or that he feels he has to project onto others. The result is he clicks with everyone and assumes nothing. When you are a fluid and socially versatile, egoless, guy you become someone that everyone likes to hang out with because they are all coming from the same headspace of’ trying to make an impression’. When they interact with you they will feel as though they have made just the impression they want, and you will stoke their ego. Stoking the ego of other’s especially girls, leaves them wanting more of it, people will look to you to ‘fill their bucket with a hole in it.’
26. Its incongruent of you not to be sexual. One of the things that students of natural game most often forget is their tenancy to be sexual. A nice guy who has undergone the transformation to sexworthy guy was once a nice guy and still harbours reserved and stifled physical tendencies. If your an alpha male and attractive to girls,
and you don’t have a physical and sexual dimension to your game, girls will become weirded out by you and leave you cold. When you become advanced your approach will be great and most girls will like you a lot immediately, but sooner or later if you don’t take things sexual you will miss your ‘window of opportunity’. If you don’t have the sexual and physical dimension to your game the girls will have a bruised ego that a guy who they liked and found was attractive didn’t want to make a move on her and they will quickly disassociate with you to minimalize ego bruising. Or, they will go from thinking you are a fun dominant alpha male, to thinking you are just a garden variety nice guy, and no girls are attracted to a nice guy.
27. The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled – not happy. The first judgement a girl will make of you when you cold approach her is whether or not she gets a good feeling from you. Do you increase her life experience or do you take away from it. It’s all well and good to be happy in the club, but a happy feeling is a fleeting and superficial thing. If you have fulfillment in your life then you will constantly have a feeling of confidence, security and positivity. Girls are not necessarily looking for a happy feeling from guys, they are looking to him to she is he feels good, fulfilled and secure in himself, to hang out with a guy who is fulfilled and secure in himself will give a girl very good feelings and she will know if your fulfilled in your life almost
immediately. To be fulfilled have a purpose and a direction in life, this is to be in
congruence with always being a man of action. Others ways to find fulfillment as a man are to positively lead others, take action and always be progressing. Simple things to achieve to ensure you have good natural game when it comes to cold approaching.
28. There is no right thing to say, it’s the right thing to say because you are the one who’s saying it. This is the best possible summary of natural game, and it in sharp contrast to traditional ideas about game. On the purest level natural game is about being resourceful and relying on yourself. This ties in with idea of creativity, spontaneity and ‘turning nothing into something’. Evolutionarily, it was the cavemen who could completely rely on themselves and trust themselves – not need advice or guidance from others – that set off the attraction triggers in cave women’s heads. A man who can turn nothing into something through action an responsibility has evolutionary advantages that other don’t have, and a guy like this generates natural attraction, and is good at natural game. When you realise that there is no ‘one right thing’ to do or say at any time in the game you become unstifled in such a way that you can do everything with conviction –whether good or bad – and this communicates
confidence and inspires attraction. The minute you look to others to for the right thing to do or say you communicate all the wrong things. When you realise that there is nothing ‘right to say’ it’s as though a weight has been lifted off your shoulders, and you establish an unwavering feeling of fulfilment and positivity in you that will make you an elite level natural gamer.
Here are the 28 points in their entirety.
Be yourself Be Natural.
Don’t calculate and micromanage Be unapologetic
As a man, there is nothing someone can give you that you can’t get for yourself Sometimes you win, sometimes you learn.
Whatever you feel, she feels8. State is chill, not fireworks.
Other’s ARE socially conditioned, have empathy.
If the girl isn’t gaming you, you’re not going to have sex with the girl.
Whatever you do, DON’T try for rapport.
The girl is down to fuck until otherwise proven innocent.
Proactive DHV’s communicate lower value.
Beating congruence test’s is the way to overtly DHV.
Confidence is binary; you’re either confident or you’re a complete chode.
‘Uncomfortable’ is the magic word.
Indications of interest is when the girl is quiet and attentive.
Don’t ‘know’; grow.
It is impossible to become a guy who is good with girls.
Inspire attraction, don’t seduce it. Express yourself, don’t impress others.
Be involvement worthy.
Get yourself into state.
Keep Things Simple While Learning.
There is no such thing as a crush; ice cream theory.
For cold approaches social versatility is the most important thing, ‘clicking’
Its incongruent of you not to be sexual.
The most important thing is to feel good, be fulfilled – not happy
There is no right thing to say, it’s the right thing to say because you are the one who’s saying it.
…Print it out and put it somewhere you’re going to read it every day.
Alexander~
PS. Longer articles on all of these in due course.
http://alexattitude.com/a-hv-%C2%B1e%E2%88%9E/
Natural Attraction; a fragmented description, Self Esteem and Ego, Alpha male beta male graduation, emotional spikes and congruence tests.
First let me say that this article is a derivative of the Blueprint. Tyler is genius and the RSD staff that inspired the ideas are phenomenal and fun people. This article is an evolution of and a backwards engineered collection of ideas that will help you learn how to become an attractive guy.
Define attraction and solve the game.
The notion of attraction is a confusing and vague principle in the seduction community and for the most part is massively misunderstood. This is obviously a concern as learning to be attractive is important causality to having women in your life.
This article aims to define attraction in the context of the game and help you to become an attractive guy by eliminating behaviours and mindsets that hold you back from being attractive. This article aims to teach you things to do that will create a means to
demonstrate your innate natural attraction.
Let me start by making it clear that attraction is not actually something that you can actively do. It is only something that you can be. That said, you can be a certain way that INSPIRES attraction in every woman.
In the game, the way you are is something you can take control of. The other parts are the ways you express and celebrate yourself that allow attraction to be conducted from you to the girl.
The notion of attraction itself isn’t love, affection, sex or status. Most accurately natural attraction is reproduction value.
It’s commonly misunderstood that you can deploy specific behaviours to ensure a girl will be attracted to you. The behaviour itself is irrelevant unless it is coming from the right place. Attraction is not something you can inject into the girl. You have to give her space and opportunity to assign the trait of attraction to you in the emotional centres of her mind and her consciousness.
A lot of guys have absolutely no awareness of this idea. They continue to think that the longer and more intense their routine stack is the more lethal their dose of attraction is going to be for the girl. If you go over the top and divert from your own natural rhythm you will find your actions will stifle the girl’s opportunity to assign attraction to you in her mind.
That said, it is fair and true to assume that as long as you are coming from a naturally masculine place internally, you are hygienic and you are not socially miscalibrated, the girl will find you potentially attractive until you prove yourself otherwise. By that same principle, usually girls will be cool with a guy to begin with until he talks himself into a hole. Instead of just being cool and unreactive in a lot of socially conditioned cases a guy will make a specific effort to attract the girl and instead exterminate his opportunity for her to feel attraction for him.
This is why in so many cases when you introduce two socially calibrated friends of opposite gender they might hit it off straight away. Men and women are designed to be attracted to each other.
A lot of guys also fail to realise that they, simply by themselves, are enough.
The majority of the seduction industry preaches tactics and gambits that are designed to attract girls. To indulge these tactics and gambits to attract women is to
acknowledge and internalize that you are not good enough for her to begin with.
Stepping into field disarmed by the assumption that you don’t have want it takes to be good enough with women means that you will be doomed to failure. You will never really achieve anything more than entertaining the girls or getting forced reactions from them. Going out with this assumption is to ensure that you will never achieve natural attraction.
‘Attraction tactics’ appeal to the quick fix solution, ego inflation and perceived social empowerment.
It’s the old metaphor of giving a gun to an otherwise incompetent individual to make them feel empowered and confident. The truth of the matter is that the weaponry is only as good as the individual. To need to use the weaponry to compensate for a lack of natural competency clearly communicates that you are not good enough as you are.
It is a communication of low value and is unattractive.
An example of this would be walking up the girl and telling her you drive a Porsche. If a man feels he needs his perceived social weaponry instead of introducing himself he would communicate to her that the guy who drives the Porsche isn’t good enough simply by himself. He is hiding behind something he has been socially conditioned to believe (incorrectly in the majority of cases) will make him attractive.
These kinds of beliefs are crippling to your sense of self value and leave you perceiving yourself to be lower value than the girl and unattractive.
Most simply, women to man attraction is a collection of emotional impulses and desires that mirrors the emotional impulses and desires that occur when men see an attractive women.
Natural attraction indicators are different for men and women due to evolutionary gender polarisation. Women-to-man attraction is scale based while man-to-women attraction is for the most part (naturally) binary.
For men attraction is inspired by aesthetic traits and a man will generally instantly feel attraction for the women or not. For women attraction traits are behaviourally based.
It’s not until a certain amount of supporting evidence of particular behavioural traits are seen or experienced that a women becomes attracted to a man. Like a certain decibel reading on a volume dial.
That said, a man can instantly communicate attraction to a women simply by the way he conducts himself OR he will have to accumulate enough attractive communication over time to reach the certain ‘decibel point’ that is attractive.
Because male attraction is function of behaviour sometimes attraction can be fleeting or a misrepresentation of how the man actually is. A good understanding of attraction and a good set of acting skills could lead to effective manipulation of women.
A good cosmetic routine, flattering clothing or surgery could lead to effective manipulation of men.
Naturally a man is born with all the behaviours that are attractive to female perception, it is due to social conditioning that he develops steadfast unattractive habits.
The some traits that make a man attractive are the following:
• Self trust (non-hesitant)
• Responsibility for himself (doesn’t displace his responsibility onto others)
• A man of action (not lazy nor lacking in initiative)
• A man of indifference (non outcome dependant)
• Social proof (seen as attractive by others)
• A man of dominance (as opposed to passiveness)
• Hygiene (healthy)
• A man of positivity (not restrained by negative forces)
• A man unstifled by his environment (a man in control of his environment or reality)
• Resourcefulness (not limited by any situation)
• Intelligence (not limited in his ability to reason and think)
• Traits consciously assigned as attractive. (things perceived to be attractive in the social context)
Let me state the obvious for the oblivious: if you’re not hygienic and don’t have some degree of contextual social savvy you will be considered low value. There are basic rules to the social world. If you don’t play by the rules are you simply not in the game.
All of these traits are a fragmented summary of evolutionary replication value.
Further summarised, this is a man who knows ‘who he is’ and who is on his purpose.
The more a man is on his purpose, the more people react to him. When a person reacts to something they experience an emotion, the more emotions experienced the more attracted the person becomes. Emotions are addictive, arousing and exciting.
To react to others is unattractive, to follow your path and have people react to you as a by product is attractive.
In terms of formula it could be stated that:
Attraction = Higher Value plus a (full range) of Emotions that are(limitless).
To be ‘who you are’ and to be on your purpose causing people to react to you will inspire women to be attracted to you. Remember however, even if you are attractive to a girl it doesn’t necessarily mean you will get any girl.
Imagine you are married or have a great girlfriend and you see Jessica Alba in a movie. Even though you don’t hook up with her doesn’t mean you aren’t attracted to her. This is the same for women, they cannot help be attracted to an attractive guy but it doesn’t mean that she will hook up with him. The getting part it another article about things to do and is an outer game topic.
In short, to be an attractive sex-worthy type guy you simply need to know who you are and follow your path more than the path of others. RSD calls this ‘not giving a fuck what anyone thinks of you’.
A rule to ensure that you always put yourself before others is to ‘express not impress’.
To do things because it is something you do, not to take actions because you want to retain ego or impress someone else.
In classic game putting others before you is called ‘trying for rapport’. As a man, to value someone else more than you value yourself is unattractive. To try for rapport with a girl before she is aware that you value yourself more than her is to communicate that her and her path is more valuable than you and your path. This is reactive, an
impression of low value and is unattractive.
This is the same as trying to ‘engage’ a set. To intend to engage someone is to imply you need something from them. As a man there is nothing someone can give you that you can’t get for yourself. Trying to engage is a reactive frame. Having overt
enthusiasm for yourself and what you are doing will compel others to want to be involved with you.
To inspire involvement means that you need to know ‘who you are’ enough and to know your path enough to be worth being involved with. This is what it means to offer value. To approach trying to engage means to take value.
This means going to the club specifically to pick up women is unattractive. To go to the club to have your own fun and involve girls in what you are doing is attractive.
A man on his path who knows ‘who he is’ and what he wants in his life.
Beautiful girls have high replication value and naturally inspire attraction in men.
Therefore men naturally desire beautiful women in their life. However social conditioning can lead men to feel they need women.
Desiring and persisting is attractive, needing and validation seeking is unattractive.
When interacting with women an action could pertain to either of these value polarised frames. It is simply the frame of communication behind any set of actions that will determine whether you are attractive or unattractive.
Once a man knows ‘who he is’ and he values his path above all others’ he perpetually communicates a persistent and indifferent frame in any social situation. If a man derives his sense of self by external validation he projects a needy and validation seeking frame.
It is ok to desire women but to need is unnecessary and lower value. Once you make harmony with the notion of ‘desire without attachment’ you will perpetually
communicate a higher value frame, be perpetually attractive and as a result beautiful women will find their way into your life.
The first part of natural attraction is being higher value. The second part is inspiring a range of emotions in the girl.
An interesting example of this rule is when a man has extremely high value from social status or social proof (for example a rock star) that just the idea of that man himself is enough to inspire emotions in women.
If a man is high enough value this alone can inspire emotions in a girl and render him attractive. If a man can inspire enough emotions in a girl that alone can render him