Module 17: Sexual State Accelerators, Part 2
(September 2009)
H
ey, guys. It’s Ross Jeffries. I am doing this instructional video module remotely at the Starbucks because I’m on the road, but I wanted to get this done.This is actually the second instructional video module for September.
You may have been noticing a trend. I did a couple of instructional video modules the other month, too. Frankly, what’s happening is a lot of you are asking the same kinds of questions. I’m just going to do more instructional video modules and fewer Answers to Students until that changes.
Back in June, I did an instructional video module on sexual accelerators.
Recently in my London seminar, I had the chance to work with a wonderful demonstration subject. Her name is Charlotte. I used some of my erotic touch to get Charlotte very hot and bothered.
This video clip that I’m going to use is the basis for presenting this lesson. You’ll see what happens next and how I follow up on that. For shits and giggles, I’ll also upload the first part later showing how I actually got Charlotte all hot and bothered in the first place.
Let me give a few comments and then get to the video.
I create her feelings using the touch in the earlier video. In this one,
the first thing I do to exhilarate it is I turn the feelings into a color. This is known as synesthesia. Neil Strauss wrote about it in The Game. He called synesthesia “the nerve gas in the speed seducer’s arsenal.” I don’t know that I agree with that characterization, but it’s awfully powerful.
The language is something like this. I’ll say, “Now, I invite you to notice that there’s a color to that good feeling, but you’re probably not aware that there’s a color to that good feeling. If you could just see that color right now, what would it be?” In Charlotte’s case, she immediately says yellow.
The major command is “see that color right now.”
Second, I externalize and symbolize, meaning once I have her see a color for the feeling, I want to take control of that. I turn the color into an object in my hand, in this case, a ball. I say, “Notice what it’s like is that color and that feeling flows into my hand to form a ball.”
The third step is now that I have her there, I want her to focus. I’ll say,
“Now, notice. Breathe in, it gets bigger. Breathe out, it gets smaller. Breathe in, it gets bigger. Breathe out, it gets smaller.” What am I doing here? I’m tying the reality of her experience to the reality of a physiological function that she has to do to live, which is breathe.
Also, breathing tends to add energy and vividness into any visualization that either you’re doing or your play partner is doing with you.
Now I’m going to fractionate this symbol. What do I do? I pull it away.
I say, “Notice if I pull the ball away, the feeling diminishes. But if I bring it closer the feeling gets stronger, stronger, and even stronger.”
What am I doing here? I’m fractionating her. I’m teaching her physiology. It’s going to build, build, build, and then I’m going to take it away a little bit. When I give it back, it builds even stronger. I’m teaching her to have stronger feelings with me by temporarily diminishing them and then giving them back.
Women do this to us all the time, don’t they? Sometimes they ignore us.
Sometimes they give us wonderful attention. That’s an interesting thing.
One more key point. This is really key. You’ll notice I’ll introduce a distinction. I’ll say, “Not only can you tune in to the pleasurable feelings, but you can also tune in to your desire for more. You can go back and forth between the two, the desire for more and the pleasurable feelings.”
Why am I doing this? I want to train her that every time she feels pleasure with me, she feels a desire for even more.
Just because a woman feels pleasure doesn’t mean she’ll feel compelled to act on it or even want to do anything with it at all. But if you can build in the generalization that her feeling pleasure leads her to want more, then you can tie in the generalization that the way to get that is to act on it to please you.
I want your comments on this. Tell me what you think. Enjoy the video.
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Ross: I don’t even have to touch her neck. I’ll just touch mine. That feels really good, doesn’t it? Yes, just like that. You’re probably not aware there’s a color to that really good feeling. If you could see the color of that really good feeling right now, what would the color be?
Charlotte: Yellow.
Ross: Yes. I want you to notice how that yellow color flows right here, forming a little ball in the palm of my hand. Breathe in, it gets bigger.
Breathe out, it gets smaller. Breathe in, it gets bigger. Breathe out, it gets smaller.
Notice if I pull that ball of color away, the feeling diminishes. It’s not as strong. It just kind of fades. But if I bring it closer, the feeling can get better and better and better.
Not only does the feeling get better, but if I hold it right here, you can not only tune into the good feeling, but take a deep breath and tune into the anticipation for more good feeling.
There’s the good feeling, but then there’s the sensation of anticipation, of wanting more good feeling, anticipation of the feeling getting better. You can go back and forth between the good feeling and the anticipation of having more, the anticipation of having more and the good feeling.
It doesn’t matter which is stronger. It doesn’t matter whether the good feeling is stronger or the anticipation and the desire for more good feeling
is stronger. They can actually help each other. One of them makes the other stronger, and that one makes the other stronger.
It’s very interesting, isn’t it? I don’t know if you’ve ever thought about the difference between really good feelings and the desire for more good feelings. Maybe you have. If I bring it over here, it all diminishes and gets less strong. Doesn’t it? Some really adventurous women will say, “More, please!” Or they’ll just think it.
Notice if I bring it closer, the feeling gets better, better, and even better.
This is about as close as I can get before the response gets way too strong and she breaks into something else. We’re going to keep it right here. This is comfortable right here. Isn’t it?
This is still comfortable, but any closer, we’re beginning to get too much.
Take a deep breath. I want you to notice that ball of color because it’s really important. Not the ball of color and not the feeling…
Charlotte: Now I see it.
Ross: …but what’s behind it. Now you get it. You can look through that. It’s an opportunity to focus and learn, and take all of that hunger for more lore and find a place where you can have it satisfied at last.
Give her a huge hand. Thank you. Just as a way of noticing responses, this chair is really warm.