Where is the treasure?
Here’s what real gold digging is: using your God-given gifts, talents, and abilities to create the life you want. Becoming rich in self-love, in spirit, and in life so when a man does come along, you are overflowing with treasures and he only adds value to what you already have.
Women who call themselves “gold diggers”—or they probably don’t call themselves that, but we all know that’s what they are—and chase men for money and material things are pathetic. Having some random guy drop a load of cash on you so you can walk around laced in things that you know you can’t afford yourself does not make you special. And
being trophy pieces, arm candy, or a “wifey” of a “baller” is nothing spectacular either. Do you know how common, average, and simple- minded that makes you? Let me tell you what men really thing of women like that: nothing. That’s right. You are nothing but entertainment. Just
like he’d pay to go watch a movie, he’s paying to watch you.
So if you’re sitting around waiting for a free handout because you’ve got a pretty face, you’ve got another thing coming, girlfriend. It’s time to unlock your own treasure and begin to dig your own gold!
No Finance, No Romance
If you’ve still got your gold digging radar up, put it away. “No finance, no romance” doesn’t mean that if a man has no money, you don’t talk to him. It means: Until you have your own financial house in order, looking for a relationship should be out of the question. Money is the number one cause of divorce, drama, and confusion in relationships. And getting into a relationship with no money— and no plan to get any—is a setup for failure.
Here’s the biting truth: The more money you have in a relationship, the more you can enjoy life together. Money gives you the ability to do more; it allows you more freedom to focus on each other—and not on the bills.
It’s sad, I know. Money can influence your relationship. But it’s not because you’ve made money a priority in your relationship. Having money—or to put it in proper context: being financially stable— means that you have complete control of your habits, your priorities, your life. It means you have everything in order. It also means that you value yourself enough to secure a stable future—and isn’t self-value something you have to have first before you become part of a couple?
You don’t get into a relationship to complete yourself or your life. Yes, Jerry Maguire was way off.
And this goes back to “What you bring to the table determines who sits down at your table.” To attract a man with money and financial ability, you have got to be doing the same for yourself. Be totally self- sufficient so no matter what he does, you can maintain your lifestyle— with or without him.
Using your Gifts, Talents, and Abilities
You have been blessed with a gift, talent, or ability that was designed especially for you. Maybe it’s singing, acting, playing an instrument; maybe you have an athletic ability or a powerful body; or it could be that you have a passion for helping people or speaking, a knack for sales or negotiating, or maybe a flair for beauty and fashion. Whatever gift that you have, it was given to you for a special reason: for you to compensate your life. Yes, God has already given you exactly what you
need to be financially rewarded the way you deserve to be. And within that gift also lies your happiness, your joy, and your passion.
When we bury our gifts and forget they exist—or know they exist but don’t use them—our punishment is unhappiness, anxiety, and frustration in life; feelings of unworthiness, sadness; and loss of fire. And you don’t deserve those! You were designed to be brilliant and to receive all of the amazing things that God put on this earth for us to enjoy.
Have you ever noticed that the people who live within their purpose have the happiest and most abundant lives? They have great relationships, money, and are passionate about everything they do. That’s because they are fully utilizing their gifts, talents, and abilities in such a way that the world repays them tenfold.
What you give to the world it gladly gives you back. But if you’re not
getting much, then—you guessed it—you’re probably not giving much.
So ask yourself: What gifts, talents, and abilities do I have that I can share with the world? The moment that you do, you officially unlock the door to your treasure.
Unleash your Greatness
You are amazing, phenomenal, gorgeous, and powerful. Yes, you! The greatness that’s inside you is pounding on your chest in the form of your heartbeat, the brilliance that lies within you is the butterflies that flutter in your stomach, and your illumination is in your smile that brightens the world around you.
Do you have any idea how wonderful you are? What your potential is? Or the possibilities that await you?
Unleashing your greatness takes a boldness that a lot of women are afraid to embrace. You may know how wonderful and talented you are but are afraid to unleash it because you don’t know how or you’re too worried about what others will think or say. Are you afraid that people may say, “Who does she think she is?” Don’t be. I’ll tell you who you are: You are the master of your fate and the captain of your soul. You are the designer of your life. It’s your world; everyone else just lives in it! Realize who you are and the value that you bring to the world and let it loose.
This is one of my favorite quotes:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There
is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It is not just in some of us; it is in everyone. And as we let our own light shine,
we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence
was 22 years old and thought I had it going on. I was in the midst of living that “fabulous” life I talked about earlier and in a relationship that seemed to be perfect on the outside. Yes, I was the “it” girl. My man took care of me, gave me everything I wanted, and I had a beautiful ring on my finger. So what was the problem, you ask? Our relationship was terrible! He was seeing other women; I was seeing other men. We argued all the time, went through each other’s private things, and had absolutely no communication or respect for each other. I wanted to live my dreams, move to LA, and become an actress. He wanted to have kids and make me his trophy wife. There were lies, trust issues, and of course, our physical attraction to each other had completely died.
I stayed in that relationship because I thought I had to. I thought I’d never find anyone who took care of me the way he did and that I