1. What?
Premature ejaculation is when a man cannot wait to have an orgasm – instead he ejaculates almost immediately. It can be caused by a number of things, not the least of which are mental blocks.
2. When?
Premature ejaculation happens in the bedroom during any sexual activities but is most inconvenient during intercourse.
3. Why?
Premature ejaculation can happen for any number of reasons. These reasons can be different for every man.
4. Inexperience
Inexperience can be a cause of premature ejaculation. Most men experience this problem the first time they have intercourse. Be more aware of your body during intercourse to combat this problem.
5. Youth
Youth is another big factor in the cause of premature ejaculation. In general, the younger you are the less sexual experience you have. 6. Sensitivity
Being aware of sensations can help you to beat your premature ejaculation problem. Over sensitivity can be a cause.
7. Nervousness
For men who do not have a lot of experience or for younger men, nervousness can really pose a problem in their staying power. Discuss your feelings with your partner.
8. Anxiety
Anxiety in general can be a cause of premature ejaculation. If you are feeling anxious about anything, even if it is not about the sexual act, you can have a problem.
9. Performance Anxiety
Performance anxiety can not only cause you to have a problem getting an erection, it can also cause you to ejaculate too soon. Talk to your partner about his or her likes to find out how to please him or her.
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Anything that takes your primary focus from sex will ultimately affect your performance in the bedroom.
11. Anger
Any strong emotions can affect your sexual performance, and anger can have a surprisingly strong effect. Discussing your anger with the person you are angry with or with your partner can help with this scenario. 12. … With Your Partner
If you are angry with your partner or you have just had a fight with him or her, you may experience issues with premature ejaculation.
13. … With A Coworker
Problems at work or an argument with your boss can cause your mind to be elsewhere during sex, thus causing early ejaculation.
14. … With A Friend/Family Member
Arguments with family members or friends tend to cause stress and this stress will often interfere with your sex life.
15. Fear
If you are afraid of the consequences of sexual intercourse, you may very well experience some problems with premature ejaculation.
16. Pregnancy
Getting your partner pregnant – or in the cases of some couples, not getting your partner pregnant – can be a cause for premature ejaculation. Use protection to combat this cause.
17. Getting Caught
If you and your partner have decided to have intercourse in a racy or "dangerous" place, you may be afraid of getting caught. If you can't handle the heat, don't have sex in the kitchen!
18. Diseases/STDs
Fear of contracting a disease can be a huge cause for premature ejaculation. Use a condom to help fix this problem.
19. Shame
Some people, especially people who were raised in very religious families, may have some shame associated with sex.
20. Religious Guilt
Religious guilt is the most common type of shame. Discuss your feelings with your religious leader and with your partner.
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Desensitizing creams are a little tricky. They go on your penis directly and are rubbed all over. Be sure to wear a condom or your partner may end up desensitized, too.
22. Sprays
Desensitizing sprays are the same as creams, except they are a little easier to apply. Again, use a condom so your partner doesn't have to feel it, too.
23. Pills
There are tons of different premature ejaculation remedies in pill form out there. The trick is finding the right one for you.
24. Herbs
Some people like to rely on herbal supplements to cure their premature ejaculation problems. Keep in mind that these have not been reviewed by the FDA.
25. Rx
Some doctors will write you a prescription for a drug that can help cure your premature ejaculation. There are side effects with any drug, so keep this in mind.
26. Hypnosis
A lot of people rely on hypnosis to help them cure problems that are mental or emotional in nature. There are videos and CDs of these processes available almost anywhere.
27. Exercise
Some people find that doing physical exercise helps them to beat their problems with premature ejaculation. It also helps lower your stress level which helps, too.
28. Kegel Exercises
Squeezing and releasing your pubococcygeal muscle or PC muscle can strengthen this muscle and thus give you more control over your ejaculation.
29. Relaxation
Relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, and using aromatherapy oils and candles can really help you to relax and enjoy intercourse instead of feeling stressed by it.
30. Therapy
For a lot of emotional problems and mental blocks, many men rely on professional help from a therapist. Therapy can at the very least help you to identify your underlying problem.
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Be aware of the sensations in your body during intercourse. Learning to know your body is the best way to prevent premature ejaculation.
32. Recognizing Your Status
With awareness comes the responsibility to know where your body is at any given moment during sex. Knowing your status when moving toward orgasm will assist you in curing your problem.
33. Communication
Communicating with your partner is a great first step in solving your premature ejaculation problem. Ask your partner to help you cure your problem. Working together can be erotic and successful.
34. Health Problems
There are a few health problems that could be contributing to your problems with premature ejaculation. See a doctor if you think you may have a physical problem.
35. Prostate Problems
A prostate problem or infection can lead to premature ejaculation. Have your doctor perform a prostate exam to ensure that you are healthy. 36. General Problems
The biggest and most common problem you will face as a result of your premature ejaculation problem is the lack of sexual fulfillment.
37. Sexual Fulfillment – You
You may not feel sexually fulfilled if you experience premature ejaculation because you are not enjoying the building of your orgasm.
38. Sexual Fulfillment – Your Partner
Your partner may not feel sexually satisfied because you are not able to penetrate long enough to elicit an orgasm.
39. Helping Your Partner
Helping your partner with his problem will not only assist him in curing the problem but will also let him know you are supportive!
40. STOP!
If you feel you are getting close to orgasm too quickly, stop what you are doing immediately. This will help prolong your ejaculation.
41. Go SLOWLY!
Start slowly. Continue slowly. As you progress through the sex act, take things one step at a time. Take time to feel your arousal.
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The biggest mistake a lot of couples make is skipping foreplay. Foreplay can help prolong your arousal and can allow you more time in all three phases of arousal.
43. During Intercourse
During intercourse, enter very slowly but do not start to thrust for a minute or so. Thrust once, and then stop. Thrust twice, and then stop. Build up to full thrusting like this.
44. Afterwards
As a partner of someone with premature ejaculation problems, you need to be reassuring after sex. Even if the technique used that time didn't work, let him know it's okay.
45. Encouragement
Encourage your partner to continue his efforts to cure his problem with premature ejaculation.
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