1. Masturbation
Masturbation is not just a great way to release sexual tension when you are alone. It can also be a great way to stimulate and arouse your partner.
2. Why?
Watching your partner masturbate, learning what he or she likes, and even participating in the event can be a great way to connect to your partner and enhance your sexual encounters.
3. Learning
Being present when your partner masturbates will further your knowledge of what he or she likes. The benefits of this being that you will know better how to please him or her in the future.
4. Showing
The best way to help your partner learn your body and what you like is to show him or her. This is one of the great benefits to having your partner watch while you masturbate.
5. Watching
It can be incredibly arousing to have your partner watch you or to watch your partner during such a private experience.
6. Participating
While you are watching your partner pleasure himself or herself, you will probably be overcome with a desire to help him or her. This is a good way to get some "hands on" learning experience.
7. Where?
Finding the right place to masturbate with your partner is a dilemma for some people. For first timers, try somewhere private and comfortable. For the pros, try somewhere kinkier and different.
8. Bedroom
First timers will do best in the bedroom where most sexual encounters occur. This is the most private place in your home and is also where most people masturbate when they are alone.
9. Living Room
The living room is a less private place that can add a real sense of adventure to a masturbation session with your partner.
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The kitchen is not private at all, and aside from the thrill of being somewhere open, you can utilize items in the kitchen to facilitate the masturbation!
11. Bathroom
The bathroom is still private but is not generally where most sexual encounters take place, which gives it a subtle sense of adventure. 12. In The Car
This is a public place where the thrill of getting caught can really add to the thrill of watching your partner climax.
13. Where You Do It
If you have a special place where you like to masturbate, try doing it there with your partner. He or she will enjoy knowing this intimate detail about your private life.
14. Where Your Partner Does It
Find out if your partner has a specific place that he or she frequently masturbates. Joining him or her there will add to the spice of the experience.
15. Who?
Any couple who is sexually active should try masturbating together, especially if they have been together for a while and are becoming bored with their regular sex acts.
16. How?
How you want to masturbate is up to you and your partner. However, remember that the purpose of the experience is to let your partner watch or help you climax; use the same technique that you normally use to masturbate.
17. Manual
Manual masturbation, or masturbation using the hands, is what most people prefer. Use fingers, hands, palms, and even fists if applicable. 18. Sex Toys
Many people regularly use sex toys to masturbate. Even if you don't, if you and your partner have done this other times, you may want to spice things up by using sex toys for the first time together.
19. Dildos
Dildos are very popular for women, and some men use them too. A dildo can be used for external stimulation or can be used for penetration. 20. Vibrators
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Many women like to use vibrators for masturbation because of the clitoral stimulation. Men use them to stimulate their testicles or anus.
21. Blow-Up Dolls
Some men like to use inflatable dolls to masturbate. This can even be stimulating to their partner to watch the man penetrate and thrust into the doll.
22. "Flesh Lights"
Another masturbatory aid for men is the Flesh Light, a product that is a soft plastic mouth that a man penetrates and thrusts into.
23. Makeshift Ideas
Some people prefer to make up their own masturbatory aids. For men these involve tight, lubricated holes. For women they are often
something that can be rubbed against the clitoris or inserted into the vagina.
24. When?
When you decide to come together for a masturbation session is up to you and your partner. If you are first timers, the best time is when there is little worry about time constraints or interruptions.
25. Now
As with any sexual encounter, if the time is right, do it now. Your excitement will rub off on your partner and he or she will probably be more than willing to participate.
26. Morning
Not many people have a lot of free time in the mornings. But weekends can be different. Try masturbating together in the morning to start your day on an erotic note.
27. Night
Nighttime is the time that most people have sex. For first timers, this may be the least intimidating time to try masturbating together. 28. Afternoon
If you have a rainy day that you want to spice up, try an afternoon
masturbation session. This could be a great way to add some excitement to your sex life and brighten your day.
29. Alone
For first timers, this is the best way to try masturbating for your partner. Doing it yourself ensures that the job will be done properly.
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Masturbating together but separately can be very erotic. You get to make yourself climax while you enjoy watching your partner climax while
watching you. 31. Mutual
For those who are more experienced in the dual masturbatory world, mutual masturbation is a good way to show your partner that you have been paying attention while you were watching.
32. Mutual Simultaneous
Masturbating each other at the same time is a good endurance trial for those who are "professional" couple's masturbators. It can be distracting and tricky, but this is part of the fun.
33. One At A Time
Masturbating your partner is the most often chosen method of mutual masturbation. It is not as distracting as mutual simultaneous
masturbation, but is just as gratifying. 34. Problems
First timers may have an initial problem masturbating in front of their partners. This is due to a multitude of reasons, but should never be considered a personal insult by the observing partner.
35. Inhibition
Many people feel inhibited by new sexual experiences, and this can be true for masturbation in front of a partner. Shyness can be overcome, but should never be seen as a fault or insult.
36. Inability
Sometimes, a person can begin masturbating but is unable to climax while their partner watches. This is related to inhibition in that the person may feel embarrassed to climax even if they have climaxed during sex with their partner.
37. Interruption
Interruption is a problem for all sexual acts and encounters. For those who are not exhibitionists, interruption can cause loss of erection, arousal, or interest.
38. Fixing The Problem – Aphrodisiacs
Aphrodisiacs are not necessarily the most reliable things to refer to, but even a placebo effect can get you or your partner to the point of
relaxation and arousal.
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Discuss the problem with your partner. Find out why he or she is feeling inhibited and reassure him or her that you feel aroused watching or helping. If you have the issue, tell your partner what is troubling you. 40. Fixing The Problem – Pornography
Sometimes, the only thing missing is what you or your partner uses when you/he/she masturbates: pornography. Find a video or online website that appeals to both of you.
41. Fixing The Problem – Relaxation
Give your partner a massage or gentle body rub. Use lotion or
aromatherapy oils to create a mood of relaxation to take your minds off the task at hand. Gradually begin the act when you are both ready. 42. Fixing The Problem – Going First
If your partner is feeling shy, show him or her how turned on you are by going first. By taking the pressure off them and going first, your partner may feel more inclined to try, too.
43. Fixing The Problem – Encouragement
Encouraging your partner is sometimes all that is needed to help him or her to not feel inhibited. Reassure your partner that you are turned on and that he or she is sexy and attractive.
44. Fixing The Problem – Drugs
While some people use drugs to relax, many drugs can have the
unfortunate side effect of making a person feel more inhibited or nervous. 45. Fixing The Problem – Alcohol
Sometimes people use alcohol as a way to feel less inhibited. However, keep in mind that the more alcohol imbibed, the less chance of being able to perform and climax.
46. Fixing The Problem – Hotel
If interruptions are your problem, try going somewhere else besides your home. Getting a hotel suite and putting out the "Do Not Disturb" sign can really help.
47. Fixing The Problem – Baby Sitters
If you have children, instead of trying to squeeze in a new sexual act like masturbation while the kids are sleeping, take the kids to a baby sitter's house so you have the house to yourselves.
48. Fixing The Problem – Try Again Later
You should never force your partner to do something that he or she does not want to do. Instead, try again later or another day.
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Men masturbating for a partner should be completely naked and should lay or sit somewhere where it is easy for the partner to see. Hold your penis so your partner can easily see how you are pleasuring yourself. 50. Techniques – Her
Women masturbating for a partner should be completely naked and should position herself in a way that her partner can see her genitals. The best way is to open her legs as far as possible and to have her partner sit close enough to see what she is doing.
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