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PENETRATION TIPS & TECHNIQUES

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1. Heterosexual Penetration

Penetration between a male and a female partner has many different aspects. Many people use different positions, devices or orifices to achieve a different feeling through penetration.

2. Male/Female Penetration

A man penetrating a woman is the standard definition of heterosexual penetration.

3. Vaginal Penetration

Vaginal penetration in heterosexual sexual encounters is the primary form of penetration. This is usually done with the penis, though other devices are often used.

4. Anal Penetration

Anal penetration is also an option in heterosexual sexual encounters. While this is not a primary form of heterosexual penetration, it is very popular with some couples. Again, the penis is generally the commonly used device.

5. Penis

The penis is usually the device used for penetration in heterosexual sexual encounters. It is that standard for both vaginal and anal penetration. 6. Fingers

The fingers can be used to penetrate a woman's vagina or anus as a way to both bring change to the sex and to better pleasure the woman. 7. Fist

Some couples experiment with fisting as a way to penetrate the woman's vagina or anus. This can be dangerous and painful, so the woman should be the one to decide whether or not the penetration should continue. 8. Sex Toys

Sex toys are often used to bring a little spice or excitement to sexual intercourse or anal penetration. Some sex toys are designed to hot the g- spot and bring the woman more pleasure.

9. Dildos

Dildos are often used in both anal and vaginal penetration as a way to bring additional excitement to the sex. Some are shaped to precisely touch the g-spot and assist in reaching orgasm.

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While vibrators are mostly used for vaginal penetration, they can be used for anal penetration as well. Some women do not like to have vibrators inserted because it can cause pain if done improperly.

11. Strap-Ons

Strap-on dildos are rarely used in heterosexual sex, but some people do use them. Again, these are sometimes shaped to come into contact with the g-spot.

12. Female/Male Penetration

Some men like to experience anal penetration at the hands of their female partners. Anal penetration for a man can lead to the stimulation of the prostate and bring about a powerful orgasm.

13. Fingers

For beginners, a finger or two is the best option to try to see if the

receiving man is stimulated by the anal penetration. As with women, anal penetration can be painful so the man should decide to continue in this situation.

14. Sex Toys

For more experienced heterosexual couples, male anal penetration with a sex toy can be a great way to introduce more size to the penetration. 15. Dildos

Dildos are the best way to start with sex toys. Use a small one for the first time since sudden introduction of large implements into the anal cavity can cause pain.

16. Vibrators

Some men enjoy the vibrations from a vibrator in their anus as it stimulates the prostate. Other men do not like this sensation. 17. Strap-Ons

Once you and your partner have tried other sex toys, you may want to try a strap-on dildo. This is especially pleasurable if the male has a fantasy of being penetrated by a penis but is not homosexual.

18. Homosexual Penetration

Homosexual penetration is the primary means of homosexual sex between men. It is also used by homosexual women but not as commonly.

19. Male/Male Penetration

There are many different types of homosexual penetration for male/male couples. First timers to anal penetration should always be aware of the possibility of discomfort.

60 20. Penis

Homosexual penetration between two men is usually done by using the penis. Some homosexual men like to receive or be penetrated while others like to give or penetrate.

21. Fingers

Penetration using the fingers is often used to begin penetration for other devices or while performing oral sex.

22. Sex Toys

While some homosexual men do not use sex toys for penetration, it is possible and many men enjoy it.

23. Dildos

Dildos can be used for homosexual anal penetration in the same way they are used in heterosexual anal penetration. The goal is generally to

stimulate the prostate. 24. Vibrators

Most men do not like to be penetrated by vibrators, but there are some who enjoy the vibrations since they can easily stimulate the prostate. 25. Female/Female Penetration

Homosexual penetration between two women will often include the use of penetration. While some methods are commonly used, others are not. 26. Fingers

The use of the fingers to penetrate the vagina or the anus in homosexual female sex is the most common of all penetration methods. One or more fingers can be used.

27. Fist

Fisting is not a common practice in homosexual female sex, though many lesbians do use this method from time to time. This is a severe form of penetration and caution should be used, especially with first timers. 28. Sex Toys

Many homosexual women choose to penetrate their partners with sex toys. This adds a degree of ease and excitement to lesbian sex. 29. Dildos

Homosexual female couples often use dildos for penetration. As with heterosexual female penetration, dildos are used to stimulate the g-spot. 30. Vibrators

While vibrators are generally used on the clitoris, some homosexual female couples penetrate each other with vibrators. The vibrations can

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stimulate the g-spot, though some women do not like to be penetrated with a vibrator.

31. Strap-Ons

Strap-on dildos are not as popular in homosexual female couples are they are for other couples, but they are still used in the same way as

heterosexual couples use them. 32. Taboos

There are many sexual taboos about penetration. The most common of these, aside from that of homosexual sex, is that of heterosexual

penetration of the male partner. Ignoring taboos and acting on fantasies is the easiest way to rid yourself of sexual inhibition.

33. Problems

There are a lot of problems that can arise during penetration. Most of these problems can be solved easily with a little patience.

34. Lubrication

The biggest thing to remember about penetration is the importance of lubrication. Without lubrication, the vaginal or anal walls can be torn or injured. Use sexual lubricants, especially for anal penetration. Saliva is rarely enough for anal penetration.

35. Relaxation

It is very important for the person being penetrated to relax. When you are not relaxed, your muscles tighten; penetration in this situation can cause injury to the vagina or anus.

36. Speed

The person who is penetrating his or her partner should always begin the penetration slowly, unless responding to a request from an experienced partner. Quick, hard penetration can result in injury to the partner being penetrated.

37. Thrusting

Thrusting is the basis of penetration, but this should begin slowly and then gradually build speed according to the desires of the person being penetrated. If something different has been discussed prior to the act faster thrusting is acceptable if in accordance with a request.

38. Depth

The depth of the thrust needs to also be based on the comfort and preferences of the partner being penetrated. Depth should be gradual unless in accordance with something previously discussed.

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Some people have unusually tight orifices. In this case, steps may need to be taken to facilitate penetration.

40. Looseness

People with more sexual experience or women who have given birth may have looser orifices. Steps may need to be taken to tighten the orifice to create more feeling and sensation for both partners.

41. Tips To Tighten

Have your partner keep his or her legs together when penetrating him or her. This utilizes the thighs to make the orifice seem tighter.

42. Tips To Loosen

Your partner can open his or her legs wider when penetrated, or you can begin penetration by using one finger, then two, etc, until the orifice is more easily penetrated by the desired device.

43. Positions

Any sexual position can be used for any type of penetration. Doggy Style is the easiest position for first time anal penetration and is also conducive to first timers with sex toy vaginal penetration. Vaginal penetration with penis or fingers is easiest when the woman is on her back.

44. STOP!

As with any sexual act (but especially with penetration and even more so with anal penetration), if the partner being penetrated feels pain or emotional discomfort, the act should cease immediately.

45. Threesomes

Any combination of threesome makes for interesting and exciting options for penetration.

46. Dual Penetration

Penetrating the vagina and anus at the same time can be done in a

threesome including a woman; in a one-on-one sexual encounter between a man and a woman; or between a woman and a woman.

47. Penis + Penis

In a male/male/female threesome, both men can penetrate the woman simultaneously. One man should enter the woman's vagina from the front while the other enters her anus from the back.

48. Fingers + Penis

In a heterosexual one-on-one encounter, both the vagina and anus can be stimulated. The penis can penetrated either orifice – usually the vagina is chosen – while the fingers penetrate the other orifice – in this case, the anus.

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In threesomes, lesbian sex or heterosexual sex, a woman's anus and vagina can be penetrated by a sex toy and fingers. The use of each device is up to the couple or trio.

50. Penis + Sex Toys

In a threesome or in a one-on-one heterosexual encounter, the penis can penetrate a woman's anus or vagina while a sex toy penetrates the other orifice.

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