“We all have flashes of awareness in which we realize that who we are in all our smallness has to break apart in order for a new self to emerge….I’ve learned that it is only when we are willing to give up the fragile hold we have on our illusions and come apart that we can begin to see the truth, surrender, and begin anew.” - Baron Baptiste
I want you to imagine your heart breaking open as a necessary part of opening yourself up to something greater.
Imagine your heart expanding in order to embrace everything your life was meant to be.
As I look back on what happened, I realize that my heart was breaking open for a reason.
I had a tremendous life-force in me that could no longer be contained.
The breaking HAD to happen in order for my heart to expand and contain the extraordinary fullness that is flowing into my life every single day.
I am much more positive and optimistic.
I am also much more mature and self-aware.
But even more importantly, I am stronger than ever now.
The day my ex left was the day I discovered a strength within myself that I never knew existed.
You never really know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have
Much like you, I was left with no choice but to find a way to survive.
Through this process, I found the strength within myself to get through it.
I wish I could say it was easy… but it wasn’t.
It took a lot of conscious effort to continuously make the right choices in each moment.
However, it made me a better person at the end of the day.
In fact, I’m actually really glad my heart broke open that day because it’s revealed so much to me about life.
Through the process of having my heart broken, my life opened to me.
And with gratitude, I am now open to life.
I know it’s hard to understand why everything is happening right now, let alone be grateful for it. However, I want to invite you to explore how this situation may actually be in your favor.
Put aside all the panic and desperation for a minute and silence the urge to try to get them back at all costs.
Now, step back and think rationally about things for a second….
Do you really want them back?
Is it actually in your best interest to get back together or are you just afraid of losing them and being all alone?
BIG difference.
I’ll talk more on that in a later section…
For now, I just want to leave you with one closing thought about gratitude:
“Gratitude unlocks the fullness of life. It turns what we have into enough, and more. It turns denial into acceptance, chaos to order, confusion to clarity. It can turn a meal into a feast, a house into a home, a stranger into a friend. Gratitude makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow.” – Melody Beattie
I know it may not feel like there’s all that much to be grateful for right now because you just lost one of the most important people in your life.
However, it's important to stop and acknowledge all the amazing things in your life that you DO still have.
Here’s a really humbling thought…
There are people out there who are happy with less than what you have Kind of puts things in perspective, huh?
How about thinking of THAT the next time you find yourself wallowing in self-pity?
The lesson that I want you to take away from this is that HAPPINESS IS A CHOICE I know it's easy to get trapped in a spiral of doom and gloom after a break up but you need to make a conscious effort to take note all the amazing things in your life that you have to be grateful for.
As much as it may feel like it right now, your life is NOT over.
There are still tons of amazing things to look forward to...
IF you make the choice to do so.
So today, I challenge you to find appreciation for something that you may normally take for granted.
It may feel a little "unnatural" at first but it'll really help.
In fact, it has now been scientifically proven that
expressing gratitude every day can make you 25% happier.
Not only that, but it's been shown to actually change your body chemistry and give you a much more peaceful state of mind.
This research is from a new and emerging field called positive psychology, which focuses on studying what makes people happy and how we can use that to improve our lives, rather than studying depressed people and trying to figure out "what's wrong" or "what to fix"
So many of my coaching clients have come to me for help after seeing various therapists and psychologists for months (and sometimes even YEARS).
Many of them come to me with this idea that there’s something wrong with them.
Like they’re somehow broken.
Some of them were even prescribed various forms of medication and antidepressants to help them cope with their “anxiety” and “depression”
Yet, a lot of them came to me feeling just as frustrated and confused as they were when the relationship first ended.
That's because there's no way to medicate the pain away.
I know at times you probably wish there was a "magic pill" that you can take to make it all go away but there's not.
Honestly, this course is the closest thing to a magic pill I’ve ever seen.
If you simply follow along and apply all the things I shared with you, I promise it will help you.
And if you’re ever having a hard time, I want you know that I’d be happy to help you.
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