Unconscious competence You do the task correctly, and don't have to

Make a list using NLP (UI, CI, CC, UC) to describe where you are right now with each of these habits:

Pecking

Not projecting your voice Talking too fast

Not making eye contact

Looking around a lot in a venue Gesturing too much while talking Keeping your hands in your pockets Holding a drink in front of you

Not standing upright

Moving your body too much while talking (fidgeting, bending down when you laugh, shifting, etc)

Laughing too much at your own jokes Stuttering or filler (uhh, ahh, umm) Biting your nails

Cracking your knuckles Touching your face

Limp or crushing handshake

think about it. You never peck; it's no longer a behavior of yours.

Review the exercise on bad habits on the last page, and figure out where you stand with each. In some cases, you may not know and may need to ask a wing to watch you in set. For each of these habits, you will now begin the process of moving towards UC. Your habits will disappear and your subcoms will click into place with months of discipline and training.

The next thing to work on includes your verbal DLVs. All the unattractive things you say to people that may convey low self-esteem, lack of confidence, negativity or a load of other unpleasant attributes.

Examples of verbal DLVs

Complaining

“This venue is too loud.”

“The drinks here are too expensive.” “This is like the only good club in this city.” “I hate smokers.”

“My friends dragged me out tonight.” “I'm not feeling the vibe here.”

“I'd buy my friend a drink but he still owes me 20 bucks.” “This place is a sausage fest.”

Self-flagellation

“It was hard to get in this club. They only let cute people in.” “Yeah, it sucks being short.”

“I don't drink because I'm poor as fuck.” “My back is killing me. I have a bad back.”

“I'll take what I can get. I haven't gotten laid in months.” “I should lose about 20 pounds but I have no will power.” Depressing

“My dog died last month.” “I'm afraid to travel since 9/11.”

“It's hard finding work. I kinda wish I never went into this career.” “Did you see the news today about that kid that got shot?”

“Anytime I try to exercise I wind up hurting myself.” Seeking rapport

“Oh you like soup? I love soup too!”

Bragging

“I'm friends with the club owner so I get in free.” “George Clooney is a member of my country club.”

“I had to go to Italy to buy these shoes but it was worth it.”

In general, avoid the word “hate” when you talk to people. Eventually when your subcoms click, you can get away saying anything. But for now, avoid loaded words that convey hostility or a negative view.

Your energy level must be appropriate to the venue and the set. Refer to the previous chapter on energy level. If you're too energetic, you'll come across as the dancing monkey or entertainer. Girls will ask you if you've ever considered stand-up comedy, or will keep telling you how funny you are. She may tell you to show her friends the same trick, routine or story you just demonstrated to her. The dancing monkey doesn't get laid. On the other extreme is the low-energy guy, Mr. Cool. He might appear aloof, quiet and even mean. Girls don't think this guy is cool, they just think he's unsociable.

What kind of personality do you have? If you tend to be reserved, shy and quiet, you need to become the dancing monkey. Shoot your energy way too high, gesture too much, have too much inflection in your voice. Tell cheesy jokes. Entertain the set. Really push yourself to the extreme, and totally out of your comfort zone. Once you've gotten competent in the dancing monkey role, start to dial it down to a suitable level.

If you are the high-energy entertainer already, then you need to start bringing your energy down. If you gesture too much, make an effort to keep your hands at your sides or in your pockets...or even better, put them on girls.

Eventually you will learn to calibrate your energy first to the venue, then to the set, then to the target. You will ultimately bring your energy down into a seductive and

Make an effort to catch yourself saying anything negative. Try to stop the words before they come out.

Give yourself compliments when talking to girls, even if boastful. Examples:

“It's hard to get into clubs. There's just no love for cute guys!”

“I'm the most interesting guy you're gonna meet in the next 45 days.”

“I made an idiot of myself just now. My fly was open. That doesn't bother me, but then I tripped over my dick and everyone laughed at me!”

sensual tone.

Step Two: Use outer game to project high value

Inner game is something most guys lack when they discover the community. And so, they have to use outer game to carry them through sets. As they become competent at talking to women, confidence follows. They also become aware of what their best self is and how attractive it is to women. And so, as they accrue confidence socializing in any situation, inner game will improve over time. In this sense, inner and outer game are inextricably linked.

In the meanwhile, you must strengthen your outer game to garner attraction from women. This often involves “pushing buttons,” or purposefully hitting the typical attraction switches: leader of men, willingness to walk away, willingness to emote, preselection and protector of love ones. You must throw out alpha phrases, you must qualify, you must require compliance. You must employ routines which have DHV spikes embedded in them.

My PUA Field Guide has tons of material you can use to generate attraction. I will give you the two routines I often use: palmistry and the cell phone routine. Combined, these gather a lot of information about the target and relate a lot of info back to her about you. If you use these routines over and over in the same night, girls will start realizing what's up. That's ok. For now, I'm just trying to get you to understand the concepts. When you understand them, you should craft your own routines and mix them up during the night.

Palmistry

You don't need a reason to go into this routine. Randomly ask her if she's an Aries (or any sign for that matter). Remember to make statements, not ask questions: “You're an Aries.” She'll say yes or no. Whatever she says, tell her that sign and yours never get along. This is a disqualifier.

Now, take her hand and ask if she's left or right handed. Start to look at her dominant palm, but realize it's too dim and that you need to sit down where there's more light. Hold her hand and move her into a better-lit isolation spot. When you sit, let your forearm rest on her thigh and take her hand again.

Take a look at her dominant hand and tell her: “This stuff is from Vogue. So it's like 100 percent accurate.” If she asks you if you read Vogue, say, “My friends are always leaving Vogue around my house.” She should get that you mean

female friends, but if she asks if your guy friends read Vogue, just say, “Uhh...noooo...”

Ok, so hold her hand with both of yours. Be sensual and soft with your touch, not analytical. Trace the line at the top of the palm that heads towards the index finger. Tell her this is the heart line. If it goes to the index finger, tell her she puts the feelings of others before her own. If it goes to the middle finger, tell her the opposite. For most people it goes in between the two digits, which means she tends to balance the feelings of others with her own. If the line stops short of the fingers, tell her she's a little reserved with her feelings; she doesn't usually wear her heart on her sleeve.

After you go through this, get a sense of whether you're right or not. Don't ask, “So am I right?” Just look at her expression and see if you've hit. She may tell you you're right or wrong. If she challenges you, just remind her it's from Vogue and so you're sure it's 100% accurate.

Now, move onto the head line. This one runs along the base of the thumb. If it's close to the fleshy part, she is practical and has her feet on the ground. If it's farther from the base, she tends to have her head in the clouds. She'll agree or not.

Rub the mound at the base of the thumb and tell her she's passionate. She'll probably agree. Gently pull her fingers backwards. If they don't move tell her she's rigid and sticks to her guns; if they do move back, tell her she's a flexible, easy-going person (err on the side of flexibility when you do the read).

Ok, now let's look at what we've done so far. We've assessed whether she's emotionally open versus reserved, if she is a thinker or a dreamer, if she's passionate, if she's strict versus easy-going. Not only is this kino and chick crack, but you are fact- finding and qualifying during this routine. That's why this is such a powerful gambit; it's a real workhorse.

Lastly, I look at the creases at the wrist when you bend it up (credit Brad P.). Tell her this is the important part of the read. Have a close look, then tell her you're afraid to tell her what it means. She'll protest and ask you to read the creases. She will usually have 2 or 3 creases. Tell her if a girl has one, she's a virgin. If your target has two creases, tell her three means she's a super sex goddess, and two means she's sexually frustrated. If she has three creases, tell her two means sex goddess and three is sexually frustrated. Either way, cast her as sexually frustrated, then look at her for a response. She'll either admit it or deny it. When they deny it, they do it emphatically.

If she denies it, cast her as a sexual predator and act like you'll need your friends to keep their eye on you all night so she doesn't try to molest you. If she says she is sexually frustrated, promise to find her a guy in the venue who can cure her of this...point out the biggest chode and threaten to introduce her to him.

So this last part sexualizes the interaction, and then disqualifies yourself in spite of the kino (notice the entire routine is sandwiched between two disqualifiers). This kino-pull coupled with verbal-push is a mainstay of my superficial attraction phase.