Blammo Pattern Patterns Poems and Stories Like Bishops Journal

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Patterns,

Poems,

and

Stories

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PATTERNS

ADVENTURER VS EXPLORER PATTERN

You: Which do you think best describes you, being and adventurer, or an explorer?

(No matter which one they say, even if they say neither or "I don't know" continue with ... )

See most people think the two are pretty much the same, but that's just not true. An adventurer is able to ... LOOK AT THIS OPPOURTUNITY (self point) and immediately. FEEL A RUSH OF EXCITEMENT. And as that excitement grows stronger and stronger there is this internal voice that says, "EXPERIENCE THIS ... MAKE IT YOURS RIGHT (snap fingers) NOW!" And the adventurer goes out there and is able -to ... JUST DO IT.

An explorer on the other hand, starts to ... GET VERY CURIOUS ... about things (point to your crotch) they have not seen yet. They start to ... FEEL A WARMTH OF DESIRE ... to see what this is all about. So as they ... CONTINUE TO STAY CURIOUS ... and ... THAT WARMTH GROWS ... they have only one thought, which is, "EXPLORE THIS (self point) COMPLETELY."

So you see, an adventurer sees an opportunity in front of them and they go for it, while an explorer gets curious about what they have not yet experienced and decides to ... SEE WHAT THIS IS ALL ABOUT. So as you think about it like that, can you ... FEEL THAT (tap wrist) TO APPLY TO YOU?

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AMAZING WOMEN PATTERN

You: I was watching the most interesting program on cable the other night. They were doing a week long profile on amazing women in History who were highly influential, and the powerful decisions they made. And this particular night, they profiled

Cleopatra, and Joan of Arc. They said of Cleopatra, that when she was able to ... SEE AN OPPOURTUNITY HERE ... she made the decision to say to herself, "MAKE THIS YOURS " (self point) She had the ability to ... FOCUS ON THIS (self point) and ... DELETE ALL OTHER DISTRACTIONS ... and was able to succeed, where other women were unable to. All of the women at that time had the same options and abilities, but Cleopatra's famous for it because she was ambitious enough to set her sights on powerful men (gesture toward self) and always believed that ... THIS REWARD IS DESERVED (self point). And then there's Joan of Arc, who at age 13 said that inside her head she could ... HEAR THIS VOICE, and as time went on and she began to ... FOCUS ON THIS VOICE ... and began to ... SEE IMAGES of what was being described. With her able to ... HEAR THIS VOICE, and ... SEE POWERFUL IMAGES, the people of France in 1429 saw her as having a celestial connection with God, and so she was chosen to lead France's battle into England. She made a powerful decision, the decision to BELIEVE THIS VOICE and ACCEPT THESE IMAGES. TODAY, as you know. that decision is called listening to your woman's intuition. But look at the whole picture. You have a woman who set her sites on a man, then decided to ... DO WHATEVER IT TAKES ... to ... MAKE IT HAPPEN. And you have a woman who heard and saw amazing things within her mind. Two amazing people (motion back and forth between you and she) doing amazing things. So if a woman was good enough to have those options then, why can't you ... HAVE THIS OPTION (self point) TODAY? The answer is, you can. If you can. JUST STOP ... and ... FOCUS ON YOUR DESIRES ... you will realize you have powerful, alternative, options. And from these options, you can make a powerful decision, a decision that will not only cause you to ... FEEL THIS IS RIGHT ... but will also add more fulfillment to your life, because you know that you were able to ... MAKE IT HAPPEN. Take a moment to ... LISTEN TO THIS VOICE inside your mind. That's your woman's intuition. So no matter what anyone else says to you, when this voice tells you to ... ACT ON YOUR DESIRE S ... you know that you're going to (snap fingers) JUST DO IT. Now, with me, as I see it, this gives you more fulfillment in your life.

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ATTRACTION VS. LOVE PATTERN

You: Have you ever thought about the difference about between attraction and being in love? Her: What do you mean?

You: Well, actually I think they take place in different settings. I mean attraction is what you experience when you're in the presence of that person, (point to yourself) and you're looking at them, and you maybe you think to yourself ... (pause) mmmm. And maybe you start to have certain ... (pause) thoughts, images and you know what that feels like, right?

Her: Sure.

You: But falling in love, well I think you do that when you're not even in that person's presence. I mean, can you remember a time when you just totally fell for someone?

Her: Yeah.

You: And as you sit there looking at me, thinking about what I'm saying, you can remember what it felt like, right?

Her: Sure.

You: Yeah, but here's how it happened. You spent some time with that person (gesture to yourself) and then you went home, and you PICTURE THAT PERSON IN

YOUR MIND (as you do this, draw a frame around your own face! Ha! This

sticks you in there!) right? Her: Yes.

You: And then, maybe you IMAGINE YOURSELF in all sorts of situations with this person (point to yourself again) having lots of fun, and enjoying the kind of feelings and things you'd like to enjoy with them? Can you REMEMBER HOW THAT

FEELS?

Her: Yeah

You: And then maybe you start to LIST ALL THE QUALITIES about him you really like: He's so smart, he's so funny, he's so fun to be with, whatever they were, whatever the things are you really WANT AND ENJOY THAT in someone (point to yourself again) , right?

Her: Yeah

You: And then you get that feeling, right in the pit of your stomach, right in your solar plexus, that just starts to spread out and let you know you really, REALLY LOVE THIS

PERSON? (point to self again) I mean, can you feel that as I describe it to you?

Her: Oh yeah.

You: And then, here's the kicker ... you START SAYING HIS NAME OUT LOUD. You start BRINGING IT UP IN CONVERSATIONS WITH YOUR FRIENDS, and maybe even you DANCE AROUND THE HOUSE, SINGING IT if you're

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a real goof? Right? Her: Totally.

You: See, I think everything, including falling in love is a process. And when you DO THAT

PROCESS WITH SOMEONE, (point to yourself) and really LET IT

HAPPEN, that's when the magic takes over, the magic we're really all looking

for. Of course sometimes that can take months, but the real magic is when it happens INSTANTLY and you know it right away. That's an incredible feeling, isn't it?

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BISHOP’S THREE RULE PATTERN

You: "Before I have sex with a woman, there are three rules that I have.

The first rule is, that no matter how well you think you're protected, I'm going to wear a condom. It's a sign of respect and just how I do things.

And the second rule I have, is that making love with me is exactly what you want, for your own reasons, not mine. If you can say to yourself, 'I want us to make love. No question, this is what I want.' then I have respect for that, and want to know that this is how you feel. Because if there's uncertainty, it's best to not let it happen.

And the third rule is, we have to have the understanding that we will give ourselves over completely to our passions and give each other the best that we have to offer. Because I'm not interested in just the act of making love, I'm determined to make it a night of shared passion so absolutely unlike anything you've ever felt before, that just the thought of what we have done brings a warmth to your heart and makes your soul purr. A night so perfect, that months from now, after already having shared that intimate, unforgettable night with me, you still feel as energized as when we first made love. And allowing yourself to look back on today, and realizing that this was when it all began. And that feeling will come from right … in … here.

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BJ PATTERN # 1

Basically, this is it's 3-step structure. Ask her about anything she really loves to eat 1. Describe the sensation of eating that food and amplify with gustatory gusto 2. Link it to your dick using a "dick point".

3.

Let's put flesh into it ? Sure.

Me Hey Alicia. What do you love to eat ? Something that really makes you salivate just by thinking of it ?

Alicia Oh ... I love fresh ripe mangoes from Hawaii ... oh yes ...

Me Ripe Mangoes huh ? Mmmm ... that's yummy. I don't know if you can IMAGINE ... SUCKING into one sweet, delicious, juicy mango NOW ... mmm ... can you taste the sweetness of the mango ... swishing INSIDE YOUR MOUTH ... mmm ... soo tasty ... doesn't that give you lots of pleasure and ha-PENIS just thinking about that? Mmm ... I bet, if there were a mango here NOW, you'd WANT IT IN YOUR MOUTH (point to dickee !) .

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BJ PATTERN # 2

Me Hey XXXX, What do you love to eat? Something that really makes you salivate just by thinking of it?

XXXX Oh, I just love fresh strawberries from Ohio.

Me Fresh Strawberries, huh? … Mmmmm … that's so tasty! I don't know if you can IMAGINE….SUCKING into one SWEET JUICY strawberry NOW … mmmm can you taste the sweetness of the strawberry … swishing INSIDE YOUR MOUTH …. Mmm … soo yummy ….doesn't that give you lot's of pleasure and ha-PENIS just thinking about that? MMmmm … I bet if there were a big plump juicy strawberry here NOW, you'd WANT IT IN YOUR MOUTH (self point)

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BJ PATTERN # 3

You I mean you ever come home from a hard day a work and the boss was a jerk and kept piling the papers up on you desk and its like all you can think about it is dropping your clothes and getting into that steamy hot bath or shower.

That's like before you even step in you can already feel that heat working its way through every muscle in your body and all your frustrations just drop away and all you can feel is the pleasure of that warmth just shooting thought every part of you. And then there's that moment of sliding in where you really let that pleasure take you and it just feels great doesn't it?

Yeah well do you like chocolate? (Is there a food where when you see it you absolutely have to put it in your mouth.) I mean, can you stop and remember a time when you, it's like you see that piece of chocolate and your mouth is already tasting it before you even put it in you can already taste that sweetness against your tongue and you can feel the special rich texture of it against your tongue as well.

You know that texture that really good chocolate has. And then there's that moment, that moment when the first molecule of chocolate touches your tongue and you know it's inside your mouth and you just want to keep it there because it's so rich and so good. And there's that extra special warmth when you swallow that sweetness down.

Or then maybe, you know like sometimes you meet someone and you're really attracted to them and you both know it and there's that moment when your eyes lock, it's that special look just before you kiss before the very first time and you're trembling with anticipation and your heart is pounding because you're thinking about how good it's going to be.

It's like every physical moment of that relationship is enfolded/contained or rolled into that first touch of the lips and there's that excitement, with that first soft contact of the lips where you don't even know if you are touching or not but then, oh man, it's like a jolt of electricity all through you.

See I think what happens is the conscious mind goes down into the unconscious and brings back up all these thoughts, images, desires and fantasies, and you may think those thoughts are above me, but really I think they're blow me _____ because you're coming from a much deeper part and your mine Aren't you?

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BJ PATTERN #4 : THE ICE CREAM PATTERN

I started telling her about my **special way** to eat ice cream.

You: First I like to admire the ice cream. You know just look and admire the body of the cone ... the way the balls of ice cream sit in the cone. Then after looking at it for a minute or two I take that first tentative lick ... and I roll the cream around in my mouth, really savoring the texture the smooth consistency. I like how the flavor changes as it heats up in the mouth ... and no matter what you do you can't stop, from getting it all over the fingers that are trying to keep the cream from running all over the place. It's a real curious and wonderful sensation that happens at the point where you stick your tongue into the cone. Imagine a cool heat that spreads; all over; from your mouth. It's so sweet and because you have gotten the cone all; moist and wet. You have to eat it gingerly. All saturated with the taste of your favorite ice cream which of course is no longer ice as it has melted and gotten extremely warm. It's so good. I would think that ice cream is natures ultimate feel good food. You can see yourself eating it all summer ... I know I could. Nothing is as satisfying once you have experienced it. Don't you think?

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ROSS'S ABSOLUTE FAVORITE PATTERN: THE BLAMMO

Note: This pattern can be done at any time ... either on a date or at first meeting. The basic steps to the pattern are as follows:

Step 1: Use fluff talk and humor to make her feel comfortable, listen to her babble for a little bit. Step 2: Use the Instantaneous Connection Patterns from Chapter 10 to get her to feel both

an incredible connection and distort her time sense so it seems like she's been deeply connected to you for months. This is an Bomb combination! (The H-Bomb uses fusion which can only be ignited from the heat generated by atomic fission. That's why they have to use an A-Bomb to set off an H-Bomb. Isn't science wonderful?)

Step 3: Set her up for anchoring an intense pleasure state by first getting her to notice how everything happens with a pattern or structure.

Step 4: Elicit and anchor intense pleasure Step 5: Fire off that anchor

Step 6: Find out her sub modality location for picturing falling in love.

Step 7: Accelerate her pleasure state by describing the warmth of your voice coming from that place and spreading all through her body.

Step 8: Super-accelerate her pleasure state by intensifying your description of that state and using quotes.

Step 9: Pounce or step back and let her pounce!!! Got that? So here it is, picking up with step 3:

You: See? Everything has a structure to it. For example, think about someone you really like for a second? Ok? Got that? Now, point to where you seem to see that picture. (Let her point)

You: Right there? Ok. Now think of someone who you really don't like at all. Ok? Point to where you see that.

(Let her point ... and by the way if she's one of those people who doesn't dislike anyone, then have her think of someone she could take or leave ... who she's neutral about!)

You: Now watch ... take that picture of the person you don't like ... and try as hard as you can to move it over into the place where you see the picture of the person you do like. (She'll discover that she can't do it)

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example, you ever been on a roller coaster? Her: Yeah!

You: Ok, watch. I want you to remember a time you were on a roller coaster, and I want you to see yourself sitting in the roller coaster car, riding up and down on the roller coaster. Just do that for a few seconds.

(Let her do this for a bit)

You: Ok ... now we're gonna do it again, but this time, instead of seeing yourself, see what you'd actually see through your own eyes if you were there, going on that roller coaster ride.

(Let her do that)

You: Now, of those two, which one felt more real, actually gave you the feelings of being there?

Her: The second one!!

You: Of course ... because you can see yourself in a memory, or see what you actually saw. When you see what you actually saw it really helps you to get the feelings of how it actually felt!

Her: Wow! This is fascinating!!!

You: Isn't it? Now look ... here's the next piece of this and it's called anchoring. So, here, try this ... close your eyes ... you remember a time when you were feeling exquisite pleasure in your body???

Her: mmmm ... yes.

You: Ok. I want you to see what you saw, hear what you heard, and feel how it felt. And when those feelings of exquisite pleasure really reach their peak, just wiggle your little finger for me.

(Watch to see she's really in state ... her face will change, breathing quicken, etc. when she wiggles that finger, reach over, touch her wrist and say, :)

You: Purrrfect. And just hang on for a minute to how good it feels to FEEL PERFECT. (Keep holding her wrist as she's experiencing this!)

You: Ok. Open eyes. Close em again. And go through it again ... see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel how it felt. And when those feelings reach their peak, wiggle that finger. (Repeat the anchor process)

You: Ok, one more time (run her through it one more time)

You: Ok. Open your eyes. Now, the theory behind anchoring is, that if someone is in a certain state, and you combine that state with a touch or sound, when you repeat that touch they'll go back into that state. So if I were to say to you, you know, I find that when I spend time with someone, and I really start to FEEL THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, maybe then you can just FEEL PERFECT (fire off the anchor by touching her wrist) And that feels great, doesn't it? Her: Oh, yeah!

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You: Isn't this interesting? Isn't the mind really cool? Now notice something else: you ever just fall head over heals in love with someone (point to yourself ... never miss that opportunity!)

Her: Oh yeah!

You: Well, as you're remembering that time, point to where you see that picture! (let her point it out)

You: Ok ... and you're really feeling perfect right now, aren't you? (fire off that anchor again!) Her: Oh yeah!

You: So watch ... (point to where she falls in love) As you THINK ABOUT THAT SPACE AS I TALK TO YOU ... as you ALLOW MY VOICE TO COME FROM THAT SPACE ... you might find it's like you want to CREATE AN OPENING FOR MY VOICE ... and opening that allows the deep, rich warmth of my voice to just penetrate your thoughts, and SPREAD THAT WARMTH ALL THROUGH YOUR BODY ... that sure feels great, doesn't it?

Her: God, yes!!

(At this point you have two options for preceding. Either will work)

Option #1: Quotes

You: In fact, as THE WARMTH OF THAT VOICE JUST TURNS TO A FIRE, SPREADING through your chest and down through your body ... as YOUR HEART BEATS FASTER and your BREATHING INCREASES, and you really FEEL THAT TOTAL PERFECTION (fire anchor again) ... I just want to tell you I'm having a great time with you tonight. It sure is better that being with all those jerks out there. Cause I know some guys can be so crude. It's like the other night, I was in a bar ... and this guy walks right up to a girl and he says: "Can you IMAGINE HOW GREAT IT WOULD FEEL if I were going down on you, exactly the way you like it, all night long, and you were SO HOT AND SO WET YOU WERE BEGGING TO HAVE ME INSIDE YOU?" I can't believe how crude some guys can be!!!

Option # 2: Describing Another Person's Experience

You: My friend Kim was telling me that her roommate has this best friend, Dawn. And when Dawn starts to notice that growing attraction, it happens in a certain way. Like

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beats faster and her breathing increases, that warmth just heats up into a fire, a fire spreading through her chest and down through her belly, a fire pounding and pulsating all through her, down to where she really longs to have it go, until that desire for him just BECOMES UTTERLY OVERWHELMING, and she just SURRENDERS to it completely.

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THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER: PART 1

You You have a boyfriend? Well, I have to admit I'm disappointed, I have to respect that you're in a relationship. But let me ask you a question. How surprised would you be to FIND YOURSELF ACTUALLY LOOKING FORWARD TO SPENDING A LITTLE TIME WITH ME? I mean maybe to the point where you could IMAGINE US OVER COFFEE, LAUGHING AND HAVING THE BEST TIME, and you starting to FEEL REALLY COMFORTABLE WITH IT? As you THINK ABOUT IT LIKE THAT, doesn't seem natural to meet like Monday or Tuesday for coffee?

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THE BOYFRIEND DESTROYER: PART 2

Her: I'm sorry ... I can't keep seeing you. I should have told you before, but I have a boyfriend. (or, as you are making out like crazy)

Her: We really shouldn't be doing this. I have a boyfriend

You: But I'll tell you what really fascinates me. It's like, what's this guy's name you're going out with?

Her: Bill

You: Right, so you're going out with this guy, Bill (Point to your right palm) OK. And you think he's real cool, and you're enjoying it and all that ... and then let's say for whatever reason you break up. You ever BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE (point to palm) and you go through that period of mulling it over, and maybe you

NOTICE THE PATTERNS IN HIM THAT RUINED YOUR LAST

RELATIONSHIP ... or maybe you start to LOOK AT HIM IN A WAY THAT REALLY MAKES HIM A LOT LESS ATTRACTIVE IN YOUR MIND?

However you would JUST DO THAT! I mean it's so weird how the mind does all this stuff, but what I'm curious about is, what would it be like for a person if that entire process that usually takes months, what would it be like if that entire process were to TAKE PLACE INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers in her face) in someone's mind? It'd be like (wave your hand in her face) YOU

COULDN'T SEE HIS PICTURE ANY MORE IN YOUR MIND. Every time

you tried it'd be like something was just wiping it right out. And that's how you'd know that you'd already started to FORGET ALL ABOUT HIM, TO MAKE

HIM LESS IMPORTANT.

Or you know, like, is there someone you used to date, but now there way out of your mind ... you haven't even thought about them in a long time? Yeah? Well notice as you take your finger and point, where do you see there picture? Right over there? Isn't that interesting? So if you were to, FORGET ABOUT THIS

GUY (hold up your palm, push it to where she pointed) , it'd be like he gets stuck

in the same place. And of course you might think to yourself, "but I want to put him back".

You might think you might think that ... until you REALLY NOTICE that from over there, from this perspective, you really can SEE ALL THE THINGS in him and about him you don't like ... something that over time, would really cause you to dump him. And when that happens it's a little sad, but it's also a nice thing, because it allows you to CREATE AN OPENING FOR SOMEONE NEW. (point to yourself) I know that's how it can GO DOWN WITH ME (point to your dickee!)

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BOYFRIEND DESTROYER : "RELATIONSHIPS ARE LIKE TELEVISION"

You: "Have you ever noticed that relationships are a lot like watching television?" Her: "Hmm, how do you mean?"

You: "Well, lets say you have a boyfriend (motion to your left) and like a good TV program, there's something there that caught your eye, so you decided to see what this was about. But, then, for whatever reason, you start to feel something missing from this (motion left again) and it just isn't as exciting as it used to be. So you decided to see what else is out there (motion right) , you change the channel so to speak. And there might be some people who capture your attention for a short time, so you date them, or in this comparison, you channel surf. So here you are changing the channel, and periodically stopping on a channel to see what it's about, then changing to another channel. But then, out of the blue, you see something in this screen (make a square TV screen with your face in the center of it) that really captures your attention. And the more you look at this, the more you realize that this (point to self) is what you were looking for, this (point to self) is what you want to enjoy. And you become so interested, that you actually start planning your week around enjoying this. So, can you feel that to be a lot like

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THE CALLBACK PATTERN

So here's how it works. First thing is to give her a call when you can best calculate she will NOT be home. That's right ... NOT be home. This is an important part of the set up; to leave an

"average Joe" kinda message that will NOT get a response.

When you get her machine, leave a message like, "Hey ... this is Bob ... I met you at the Starbucks. Call me back at 555-5512."

The sad thing, of course, is how this message, straightforward as it is, almost NEVER gets a

response. It almost always will get ignored ... which is what you want!

The killer piece comes about a week later when you leave your NEXT message. This will almost always work; it's worked 90% of the time for me, and of those times, about 80% of the women called back within 24hrs, some as soon as within the hour!

Here's the message you leave, the second time:

"Hey Debbie ... this is Bob ... I thought I'd give it one last shot at getting a chance to talk. I've learned one lesson, living in (insert your city or part of the country ... since I live in L.A., I say L.A!) L.A. my whole life, and that's that beauty is common ... but people with a great attitude ... a great energy ... a great outlook on life are rare ... and they're worth working to get to know. And I think that's an understanding that goes BOTH ways. So if you can find your own reasons to call me, my number is 555-5512."

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CATERPILLAR AND MOTH:

(Rev 3: June 1999) © Dan Scorpio

The point of the story is to cause the woman to associate herself as the butterfly and yourself as the moth. The story has a complete ending but it never reveals the words. The magic would be lost if it did. There are so many different NLP word tricks in this story that it would take a much longer email to analyze it all.

You: I'm going to tell you a short story about a caterpillar and a moth. The story is so short, it only takes a minute to tell, so no interruptions are allowed. Just settle back and let it flow.

Caterpillar loved to play 'pretend'. She had a very vivid imagination and could pretend she was anything at all, anywhere at all, any time at all.

When she let her deeper feelings well up, she could hear beautiful sounds, feel wonderful sensations, scent sweet, sweet perfumes and taste and see magical things. She could make time go faster, or slow down at will, or make any image shrink, or grow larger at her slightest command. When she made things larger, she could examine them in tremendous detail and could always observe vivid colors, intense sounds and feelings; things from the past she could remember with perfect clarity, as if they existed in the very here and now.

One day, she went out blarging, eager, attentive and filled with joy, in a huge, leafy, green, spherical object of delight, and met a moth with glittering golden wings and gorgeous eyes. 'Hello,' said the moth in his sweet, deep, breathy voice, 'Why are cabbages round and green? Passion; Life is my name, and I know your S he See or He Tea. Come, I know you aren't really a caterpillar at all, and so do you. That's just what you've been told and believed, falsely pretended, until you reached this cross-roads in time and met up with me. You know as well as I, that open doors permit entry, and hidden deep inside you lives an eager, beautiful, playful butterfly who yearns to be released, wants to come out play and frolic in joyous pleasure. But she's so shy, so timid, so reserved. Fortunately, and for her delight, I am a master of metamorphosis, change. I know her secret longings and the magic word that will release her; would you like to hear the word?'

'Yes please, oh yes!' cried the caterpillar eagerly, 'I've always wanted to fly, be joyful, to soar above the ordinary and do so many other different, exciting things. Please, kind Sir, please tell me the magic word that will set me free.'

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The correct answer to guessing what the word was is 'no': if you get an attempt at an answer, gently refute it. Now lean over and whisper something appropriate in her ear. Then continue, (because there's likely to be a vacuum here while it all begins to sink in)], do you know what happened next?

If 'no', which is the likely response, then start thinking on your feet and describe what' she's doing, in real time e.g ...

'The butterfly stared, wondering what this new knowledge meant ... '

'Butterfly tried to dismiss the moth's magic as a joke, but deep down she knew it was true ... ' 'She wanted to dance, to sing, to be joyful ... ' putting her in the role of the butterfly & you in as the moth in REAL TIME.

If 'yes', then ask what, get reply & work it as above.

Additional Notes:

Since I've been asked questions several times about some of the peculiar words used & the phrasing:

a) The word 'blarging' is not a spelling mistake: say it like it is, neither is the peculiar looking word group 'S he See or He Tea', which spells out SECRET phonetically. These are deliberate word interrupt devices

b) Leave the question about the cabbage in: it's another interrupt.

c) you are attempting to cast the lady as the caterpillar/butterfly & yourself as the moth in this little metaphor. Copy the moth's breathy voice for added impact. When he 'draws her close' do so.

Magic/Kino/Anchoring Performance

In the UK, it's quite easy to obtain adhesive backed 'Butterfly' stickers of various kinds. When you, as Mr. Moth, draw the lady close, you have one of these fastened to your palm (tiny blob of Blu Tak or such) with the adhesive side out. Be sure to rest your hand on her shoulder & leave the butterfly (implied transformation AND anchor) stuck there. Point it out when you tell her the word: she'll take the sticker home with her for sure & you can always have another one handy if you meet again.

TantraLA

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THE "CENTER OF ENERGY" PATTERN

(I recommend only using this on babes who are either into the mystical arts, or who exhibit a very strong energy. Otherwise it may not be real for them and they won't connect to it)

You: Have you ever heard the term "center of energy" before? Her: (No matter if she says "yes" or "No" continue as follows)

You: What that's really referring to, is a person's unique ability to draw energy up from the earth, and create a more powerful force through their body. Ancient Druids said they had witnessed this remarkable ability in some people. The ability to ... JUST STOP ... and ... FOCUS ON THIS (self point) PRESENCE-that others do not notice. And as ... THAT FOCUS GROWS STRONGER ... a warming begins to start from the soles of the feet. As that starts to happen, without even having to think about it you begin to draw energy up from the earth. (As you say this last part, raise both hands up from your waist, palm upward)

And the more you. FEEL THAT ENERGY RISING ... the more you start to ... FEEL THAT WARMTH GROWING deep inside you.

But since not all energy is empowering, the druids wondered what did these people do to excise the bad, while retaining the good and being able to ... HOLD THIS INSIDE YOU.

What they discovered was ... ab ... solutely ... amazing. Here, close your eyes a moment.

(Wait for them to close their eyes, then lightly brush your index finger UP from the tip of their nose, to the point between the eyebrows, bring your finger back to the tip of her nose and again lightly brush it up to the point between her

eyebrows, continuing this three or four times as you say ... )

Ancient druids claimed that the nose was like a filter for all the energy these special people drew up from the earth. That in this exact motion you feel right now, all the negative and limiting energies were cast aside, so the positive and fulfilling energies could enter your mind. The negative and limiting energies were thrown out of the body, in the form of a sneeze, or in the exhale of a good laugh.

(Begin to rub the sides of the temple as you say ... )

The empowering and fulfilling energies would then flow to the sides of the eyes, allowing you to ... SEE THIS OPPOURTUNITY that others were missing out on.

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(Stop massaging her head, take your hands and form an invisible circle all

around her head as you say ... )

And that warmth inside you starts to build, that certainty gets stronger, and suddenly you realize that a shield of absolute protection has formed around you. A shield so strong that you know with complete certainty ... THIS IS SAFE. And having this shield to protect you, and the earth's energy to power you, you ... ALLOW YOUR DERSIRES TO RISE. And as you feel that shield protecting you, and as the earth's energies protect you, and as you allow your desires to rise up from deep inside you, you ... FEEL IT ALL EXPLODE ... right ... through ... here (tap three times on top of head near the back) Exploding all that you are, and all that you will be, and bathing the surroundings with your presence. And in doing that, you have willingly chosen to ... MAKE THIS (self point) YOURS ... RIGHT ... NOW! (snap fingers)

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CELTIC SOUL GAZING PATTERN

What I'll do is analyze an HB's writing. When I'm done I'll say, "let me see your left hand". When she gives it to me, I take it with my right hand and turn it palm up. I keep her hand in mine the whole time I am talking. She THINKS I'm going to read her palm.

You: "Let me show you something really interesting. They SAY the eyes are the window to the soul, but that's really only half true. The RIGHT eye (I point to HER right eye ... not the eye that appears on MY right, but her actual, eye on HER right side) is the window to the body and the mind ... and the left eye (pointing to HER left eye) is the window to the soul. So, we're going to do a little soul gazing here. You see the Celts don't believe in soul-mates. That just creates too much pressure. The Celts believe in Soul-Friends, that we have plenty of soul friends just waiting to meet us. (this totally takes all the romantic pressure off ... she can relax and feel great because what guy would bring up the "friends" term that quickly? There goes THAT ever being brought up by HER!)

So, as I open up my left eye, and let you in, to see this soul friend waiting to meet you, you can open up your left eye, and let me see the soul friend that's been waiting her whole life to meet me.

(Then relax and soften my eyes ... thinking loving thoughts ... 100% of the time, they follow right along ... when I see a little sparkle in their eye I say) THERE! RIGHT THERE! THAT one! Can you FEEL THAT (squeeze the hand) is the coolest thing to experience? They are amazed 100% of the time by this! Now I have a soul friend anchor on her left hand, just by squeezing it (I don't anchor the right hand ... as it would get fired off by everyone who shakes her hand! I want it to be uniquely anchored to ME if possible!)

You: Now, here's something even more interesting. Can you see an image of yourself on your 5th birthday?

(If she can't go that far back, try 10th birthday) Her: Yes!

You: Now, notice what it's like as a you see an image of me, standing their next to you on your (X) birthday ... (fire off anchor) ... feeling that Soul Friend Connection

Her: wow!

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COLOR OF PLEASURE PATTERN

(From the atlanta essential skills, CD included with the LA videos)

You: On a scale of one to ten how good do you feel? What if as good as this feels it was only the start?

What if instead of being the end it was only the beginning?

What if it was only the start of your asking yourself the question how much pleasure can I stand?

How wonderful can I really feel?

As that realization joins with my voice to wrap itself around you like a pair of powerful yet gentle arms lifting you higher and higher the higher, you go the more your capacity for pleasure and experience continues to expand and the more your capacity continues to expand the higher and higher you go. You probably haven’t yet realized there’s a color to the feeling of pleasure but if you could See That Color Now what color would that be as that color expands t fill you pulsing and spreading all through you it expands to fill the room the world the solar system the galaxy the universe. with all of that color all of that feeling flowing back into you. Having you as its center flowing and pulsing right back into the center of who you are. Now how good do you feel?

The really amazing thing about feeling so wonderful s to realize really realize that the more you open and the deeper you respond to this voice of new experience this voice of new discovery this voice of new direction. The more you’ll learn and the more you learn the better the quality of life and your experiences will be. Its the kind of thing that could cause a person ... to come over and over and over ... to one conclusion. That there’s an opportunity to move in a new direction and the thing about new directions is its not enough to just ponder it well on day I might get around to it. But instead you got to reach out and create an opening for this new direction. An opening that longs to take it all in ride it join with it and be one with it Now.

I don’t know just what in your environment that will remind you to have all these wonderful feelings and that even stronger desire to experience even more it may be whenever you hear a phone ring, and you realize there’s a powerful message coming through. Or it may be whenever you step into that steaming hot bath or shower that reminds you that you just want to immerse yourself in all this pleasure. Maybe when ever you go through a door and you realize there is a doorway to new pleasures new thoughts new beliefs. Or maybe your unconscious will choose something for reasons of its own in a way that will surprise and delight you.

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COMPANIONSHIP VS ROMANCE PATTERN

Use after getting some rapport and after using the "Relationships/Television" Boyfriend Destroyer.

You: I was watching the most interesting program on cable the other right, and they were talking about romance and companionship. They had talked with over 26,000 women, from various parts of America, and what they discovered, blew them sway. Because while there were several women who stated that the romance has been strong even after all this time, it seems that more than 70% of the women admitted that the romance has dwindled over time, but stayed with the guy because he was a good companion to them. One of the women said, "He knows all the non-glamorous things about you, yet is still in the relationship. There's not as much romance anymore, but unless ... HE'S BEING UNFAITHFUL, I have no reason to ... LEAVE HIM. NOW, FOR ME, that makes sense. But I really liked what another woman they interviewed said. Her name was Robin, and she said that she discovered how to find the kind of man who can sustain romance long term. Robin said, "There are those men out there who will romance you with gifts, and compliments, and fancy dinners, but those guys never manage to keep

romance alive long term. Because their reason for romancing you, is mainly to impress you. Once you're impressed they're job is done pretty much, so the romance starts to dwindle. But when you meet the other type of men out there (touch palm to chest), the ones who impress you, not with gifts or elegant dinners, but touch you in a special way simply, with ... their voice." Robin went on to say, "You'll know you're in the presence of such a man, because you'll ... HEAR THIS VOICE inside your mind. And you'll be compelled to ... LISTEN TO THIS VOICE. And if you ... LISTEN INTENTLY, you'll hear exactly what you need to do. Because it's like a woman's intuition, and whatever romantic information this voice is giving to you, is exactly what you want deep down inside you. Regardless of what anyone else says, when you ... HEAR THIS VOICE telling you to ... SEIZE THIS OPPOURTUNTTY (self point) it's because ... THAT'S WHAT YOU DECIDED. So you know that.-THIS IS WHAT YOU WANT." NOW, WITH ME, that makes perfect sense. Can you. FEEL THAT to be something you agree with?

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THE COOKIE CLOSE

Basically there are three parts to the Cookie Close ... part one is when the waiter comes over and asks if you would like dessert ... rather than ordering ... you use the question as a transition to discussions about desserts, and what your favorite desserts are ... which sets up all types of opportunities for any number of "patterns" intended to get her visualizing erotic taste sensations ... part one ends when you admit that frankly, your favorite dessert of all time is simply

FRESH BAKED TOLLHOUSE COOKIES ... WARM FROM THE OVEN ...

She will admit that such sounds great ... and then you close Part One with an "idea" ... let's go to the market and get the ingredients and go back to your house/my house and make them RIGHT NOW! Such spontaneity typically occurs to her as ever so exciting ... and sweet ... and fun ... and the childish innocence of visions of baking warm cookies is just compelling as hell. So off we go to the supermarket …

PART TWO: There is NOTHING like taking a HB you don't know very well to a supermarket ... just being there ... basket/cart in tow ... will fill her with visions of the two of you as a

"couple" ... it's pretty much impossible for her NOT to look at you as a "pretend" husband ... and the two of you playing "house". It's just so. She cannot help herself ... you need not say a word ... she will be picturing you and her as a "couple" ... while you stand in the checkout line.

PART THREE: Basically, no big deal ... first batch of cookies are totally straight ... second batch involves basic licking dough off spatula ... and then melted chocolate off each other's fingers ... etc ... basically ... by this time ... the heavenly childish scent of baked Toll House Cookies has filled the house ... the innocence of the activity has been superceded by a new "idea" that she will invariably dream up ... you've had your fill of feeding each other warm cookies ... truth be told ... I've never done this technique and NOT burned the third batch. The beauty is that she will have had all the "ideas" herself ... and will brag to her friends the next day how ... ”cute" ... her date was last night as he suggested making cookies ... and we ended up getting chocolate all over us ... with a smirk and a wink ... causing her friends to drool with envy.

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DANCER PATTERN

You When you dance, for you it is a new experience each and every time you do it. It all starts when the lights dim, and you hear that first beat of the music. As you begin to move the music starts to enter inside as it fills you ... the music moves through you and within you, every part of you ... then, you begin to rise ... above everyone and everything that is there to enter that most special of places where you go ... and it is there where you become one with the music and the music becomes one with you ... as the beat becomes stronger with the rhythm flowing powerfully through you even more ... you realize that this is a wonderful place to be ... it is here where you belong and desire to be.

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"DEEP FASCINATION" PATTERN

You: That is so interesting! That reminds me of a conversation I had the other day, with a friend of mine, named Rachel. And she said some of the same things you just did, and she thought that it comes from a deep fascination that you have. Did you ever feel a deep fascination with something potentially rewarding?

Her: (Let her answer)

You: The way Rachel described it, it's like you suddenly STOP, because you can feel something pleasurable growing inside of you. And the more you focus on this (point to self) the deeper your fascination will get. To the point where all you're focused on, is this feeling of fascination, deep inside of you. But that you don't even have to understand why you're feeling this way, because what matters, is that you choose to just let it happen. And that this feeling you're having right now, manifests itself into an energy. Like a brilliant light, a warmth, slowly filling your body, and flowing out through ever pour. The way Rachel put it, this energy is your own personal acknowledgment, that this is what you want (point to self) , this is what you deserve to feel. Having that deep fascination, and allowing it to flow through your body, lets others see, that you possess something incredible. Without even knowing exactly why, you just burst with an energy that others wish they could have.

(Then I anchor it with, "Can you feel that as being the case here?")

You: That's just like when you were a little girl, and you imagine all sorts of wonderful adventures you want to have. You're feeling excited about what great things you can enjoy, and what wonderful, maybe even romantic, encounters you'd like to have. Feeling the warm breeze, as you lay down on the sands, of an exotic island. Or maybe feeling the rush of excitement as you treat yourself to a personal adventure. That sense of adventure that you can feel right ... (touch just below the chest area) here. You decide to close off your mind, to any distractions, and focus on that amazing adventure you want to have. Knowing that for your own reasons, this is the chance, this is the opportunity, just go for it. Now, with me (point to self) , there's incredible value in that. (Then I let her talk, or whatever she's going to do, and lead the conversation in the most natural direction for that situation)

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THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL / THE IDEAL ATTRACTION PATTERN

However, the other night, while watching the Discovery Channel, I had a great new pattern virtually handed to me. See, it was a documentary about people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks, and these guys were talking about what makes for the ideal attraction!

Ha! So, using almost word for word what they actually said, I give you, without ado ...

The Ideal Attraction Pattern!

You: You know, I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night. They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios. Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?

Her: Yeah! That sounds so interesting.

You: Well, anyway, they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal attraction. (Point to yourself) . They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction. First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH

AROUSAL. The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over.

Her: Yeah!

You: And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is; it's fascinating. You just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your pecker!) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON again.

Her: Yeah!

You: And they said, finally, the most important element, is a sense of overall safety. That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous, you're CERTAIN YOU'RE SAFE ... you FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. Can you (squeeze her hand) feel that ... is pretty close to the way it is?

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THE DISCOVERY CHANNEL / THE IDEAL ATTRACTION PATTERN (MODIFIED) WIP

However, the other night, while watching the Discovery Channel, I had a great new pattern virtually handed to me. See, it was a documentary about people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks, and these guys were talking about what makes for the ideal attraction!

Ha! So, using almost word for word what they actually said, I give you, without ado ...

The Ideal Attraction Pattern!

You: You know, I saw the most interesting show on the Discovery Channel last night. They were interviewing people who make their living designing attractions for amusement parks like Magic Mountain and Disneyland and Universal Studios. Wouldn't that be a cool way to make a living?

Her: Yeah! That sounds so interesting.

You: Well, anyway, they were talking about the elements that make up the ideal attraction. (Point to yourself) . They said there are 3 parts to the ideal attraction. First, when you EXPERIENCE the ideal attraction, you FEEL A STATE OF HIGH

AROUSAL.

You: You know first long slow vertical climb on the roller coaster? And you can feel the adrenaline pounding through your body. The closer you get to the peak, the faster your heart beats. Your breathing starts to come faster and faster and as you're reaching the peak and you begin to go down, You're screaming with excitement The ideal attraction makes your heart beat faster, and your breathing gets faster and you just FEEL THAT AMAZING RUSH all over.

Her: Yeah!

You: And then they said that another part to an ideal attraction is; it's fascinating. You just FEEL SO ENTHRALLED that you want to TAKE THIS RIDE (point to your pecker!) multiple times; as soon as you GET OFF you want to GET BACK ON again.

Her: Yeah!

You: And they said, finally, the most important element, is a sense of overall safety. That even though the attraction make look a little dangerous, you're CERTAIN YOU'RE SAFE ... you FEEL SAFE because you realize nothing bad can really happen, so that allows you to FEEL TOTALLY FREE to LET GO AND ENJOY THAT GREAT AROUSAL again and again and again. Can you (squeeze her hand) feel that ... is pretty close to the way it is?

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You Okay. When you take this ride, you enter a state of high arousal. And then you say this. You say, "You know first long slow vertical climb on the roller coaster? And you can feel the adrenaline pounding through your body. The closer you get to the peak, the faster your heart beats. Your breathing starts to come faster and faster and as you're reaching the peak and you begin to go down, You're screaming with excitement.” Okay, now. What am I doing here? I'm giving a description. I give a description. Why do I give a description? Because if she's in rapport with me and following along as I describe that state ... Now, let's, let's help, let's have you make it up. When you're on the roller coaster and you're going up that climb, what do you feel in your body as you're going up, hearing clack, clack, clack?

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PERFECT MAN PATTERN

Here's the basic idea ...

1. Do values elicitation by querying about previous boyfriends [attractors, and repulsions (which are simply antonyms of more attractors)].

2. Introduce the concept of a PERFECT MAN 3. Describe him according to her criteria 4. Describe how he would begin to effect her. 5. Pace reality up to a passionate kiss.

First, have her close her eyes.

You: "Would you like to try something fun? Relax, and close your eyes for a couple minutes, and imagine this situation ... "

What would it be like, if you had JUST MET THE PERFECT MAN ... not perfect in general ... but, instead the man who is perfect ... for YOU ...

(IF you've done any values elicitation to her tastes in men, insert them here: "This man is A ... and B ... very C ... and he blah blah blah, etc." Now, she should be pretty solidly into a light trance!)

For example ... this man ... from the moment you saw him, there was something just a little different about him. Maybe, from the moment you see him, you are immediately attract to this guy ... or even ... since this is the perfect man ... you feel an almost immediate connection with him ... even from across the room ... and as this man gets near to you ...

(Note: here, we begin pacing reality for the duration ... )

and you start to talk with him ... and you listen to his words, you start to feel the most wonderful feelings ... fascination, curiousity, arousal, lust ... all of those wonderful feelings that you really enjoy, ... and the more he talks with you, the stronger these feelings become inside you ... until you start feeling incredible passion for him ...

... and when he touches you [you begin by, running your fingers through her hair, combing it back a bit ... go down the back of her head ... massaging the lower quarters of her head, where her neck starts ... and word down and out toward her shoulders] ... it's exactly what you've been waiting for ... he knows just exactly how to touch you, to make those feelings grow even stronger, (knead your way

down her arms to her hands, then grab her hand) and stronger in intensity ...

and soon, you find yourself guiding his hand, guiding it to the places that unleash that passion within you ... and as you look at him ... [touch her check, or

eyebrown ... if she still doesn't open her eyes, brace your fingers on her cheek, and gently open one eyelid with your thumb]

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... as you study his face ... and gaze into his eyes ... you get even more turned on ... and you're looking to see if you can find that passion within him ... already, in your mind ... you are imagining what it would be like to enjoy this man ... this perfect man ... in your favorite, private place ... not for a few minutes ... but for hours ... and you are still gazing into his eyes ... feverishly hoping that he wants you, as badly as YOU WANT THIS MAN ... (wrap your hand around her

shoulder, with at least your fingers laying on her shoulder blade) you find

yourself drawn closer, and closer to him (if she doesn't close the gap between

you ... gently pull her shoulder towards you) ... you can't resist tilting your head

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THE POWER OF "HAVE YOU EVER": FASCINATION PATTERN

Note: This pattern should be used after general banter and fluff talk. It can stand on it's own or be integrated into part of a larger pattern.

You "Let me ask you question. Have you ever been totally fascinated with someone? Like maybe as you were there, LOOKING at him, and you started to LISTEN

CAREFULLY, it was like his voice just seemed to wrap itself around you, and the rest of your environment just disappeared, and your entire world, everything you saw, became what was right in front of you? And anything he described, you found that you could just PICTURE IT CLEARLY? So you know, if he were talk about a romantic walk, on a moonlit beach, with your perfect partner, you could SEE YOURSELF there with him, just enjoying what that would be like?"

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"THE EROS STONE NECKLACE" PATTERN

You I’ve been staring at your necklace, wondering why it reminded me of something, and now I remember what it was.

I recall a story I had read once, called "The Eros Stone Necklace." It was about a woman who was growing apart from her lover, and was losing faith in love. One night she was out walking, up in the mountains near her home. As she sat upon some rocks, and was staring up at the stars, she made a wish that a man would come into her life, and fill her with the adventure she had been missing. Suddenly, there was a flash around her, which at first startled her. But then she began to…

FEEL VERY RELAXED. A nice…soothing…comfortable feeling filled her

body. Then an image flashed into her head. An image of passion so incredible… so fulfilling, that she almost thought she were dreaming. At first she tried to deny that she was starting to…FEEL A WARMTH DEEP INSIDE…because she was afraid to feel that good. But the more she allowed herself to…FEEL THAT

WARMTH INCREASE, the stronger it became, and the more she wanted this to

continue. Then she started to ... HEAR THIS VOICE…inside her mind. And the more she allowed herself to ... LISTEN TO THIS VOICE…the more it relaxed her, the more it warmed her, the more it caused her to …LISTEN INTENTLY

TO WHAT’S SAID. The voice began to change, and started to sound like her

own voice. And this voice said to her, "Focus on what is in front of you, and you will discover that which you desire." Then, POOF, the voice was gone, leaving her to…UNDERSTAND WHAT WAS SAID. She put her hand to her chest, to settle her breathing, and felt something around her neck. She pulled it forward, and saw that where there was once nothing, there was now a beautiful necklace, with a (the color of her stone) colored stone. She was of course confused at first, but then she recalled the voice that she had heard, and what it had said to her;

FOCUS ON THIS (point to self) RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU…AND YOU WILL…FIND WHAT YOU DESIRE. Now, it all becomes clear. She has the

necklace, and somehow it will give her what she desires. Without even fully understanding what is happening, the decision is made to pursue this…to have what is desired deep down inside. She said to herself, "No matter what anyone else says to you, this is what you want (point to self) this is what you deserve, and you’re going to do it for all your own reasons."

The next day she went into town to buy some things, and was amazed…by what happened…upon entering the market.

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an energy had formed around them, like a soft…private bubble, surrounding them from the rest of the world. In this moment only these two people (motion back and forth subtly) existed. He smiled, and said not a single word, and instead kissed her lips softly.

She closed her eyes and took in the moment. (take in a breath, then let it out slowly with a slight moan) At last, she had found the man who would make her feel alive again. The man pulled back to look into her eyes, and whispered softly, "What can I do, what can I say, to make you mine, if but only for a night?" She thought about what it was she wanted, and asked herself, "What do you want deep down inside of you? What is missing from your life right now that you want from this man?" And with only a smile, she took his hand, and lead him out of the market. They talked for hours, sharing insights, and opinions, dreams, and desires. Then they simply fell into each others arms, and made love for the night. It was unlike anything she could imagine. He touched her exactly how she wanted to be touched, made love to her exactly how she wanted to be made love to.

And all of this was the result of a chance encounter, and a magical necklace. As they held each other later, he complimented her on her necklace. She revealed to him what had happened the previous night on the mountain, and how she came to possess the necklace. He kissed her lips, then said, "Every time you become aware of having this necklace, think of me. And every time you touch this necklace, I will feel your touch upon my face, and I will smile." They parted the next morning, but made plans to meet again that evening.

Sadly, she decided not to meet him after all, for she feared that this magical, wonderful, amazing adventure she had shared with this man (point to self) would eventually be ruined for one reason or another someday. She instead chose to

REMEMBER FOREVER that one perfect night, with this one perfect man. She

thought of him often, and his image was never far from her mind. And ever day she would touch that necklace, and every day she would FEEL AN

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ICE TEA PATTERN

You Did you know ... there's a little secret ... about iced tea? Her (Wait for her to response)

You The other day ... I was reading the most fascinating article ... in a health magazine ... a friend of mine had. It said that ... if you place a raw tea leaf ... just under your tongue ... you'll ... FEEL A PROGRESSIVE CALM ... in YOUR MIND. And that ... unlike a harmful drug ... which might cause you to ... LOSE CONTROL OF YOUR WILL ... the tea leaf simply makes you ... FEEL COMPLETELY AT EASE. WITH ME, I take a different approach. Because ... the article also said ... that drinking some forms of iced tea ... will still allow you to ... FEEL THE BENEFITS ... of what this has to offer you (Point to self). The article stated that ... in a 15 year study ... those who had iced tea ... as their main beverage ... got sick less often, and were better able to ... LISTEN INTENTLY ... when being talked to. I've noticed similar results ... in my extended use of it. I have more energy ... than when I ... used to drink cokes, for example. Plus, it tastes better than coffee to me. Now, there's no reason ... YOU NEED TO FEEL THE WAY I DO. I can respect ... whatever opinion you have.

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INDULGENCE VS SURRENDER PATTERN

You: Have you ever considered the difference between surrender and indulgence? When you surrender to something (motion LEFT), you're allowing a certain loss of control. And that loss of control, or even the fear of that impending loss, causes you to hesitate or even avoid pursuing an opportunity further.

Sometimes though, there's (motion RIGHT) a loss of control that's good, because it's an aspect of your control that had been holding you back from receiving this great benefit (motion RIGHT). So when you can RECOGNIZE THIS IS WHAT'S HAPPENING and you ACKNOWLEDGE THIS IS GOOD you get to enjoy the rewards (gesture to self) Indulgence on the other hand is not about losing control, bad (point LEFT) or good (point RIGHT), it's about experiencing an alternative to the normal (gesture to self).an alternative that the more you. FOCUS ON THIS (gesture to self) the more you realize THIS IS WORTH YOUR ATTENTION. THIS IS YOURS TO ENJOY, so you can JUST GO FOR IT. It's like it takes you back to when you were a little girl ... when you suddenly saw something that made you curious. And with each breath you grew more and more and more ... curious to the point where YOU NO LONGER WAIT you moved straight into this experience without hesitation. And it had nothing to do with you having to give up control because in fact, it gave you a stronger sense of control, a stronger sense of control because you were the only one able to have this right now and you took charge and made it yours for however long it lasts and being able to look back after indulging and feeling satisfied. (take in a deep breath and exhale with a pleased "Mmmm")

Yeah. Do you FEEL THAT making perfect sense, or just something you agree with?

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INSTANTANEOUS/TIMELESS CONNECTION PATTERN VARIATION #1

You: Have you ever felt an INSTANTANEOUS connection with someone? (Point to yourself) Like maybe as you were there, looking at them, and you started to

LISTEN INTENTLY, it was like there was a cord of LIGHT (gesture from your

solar plexus to hers) going from you to them? And as that cord began to GLOW,

WITH THE WARMTH of that connection, maybe you were even able to IMAGINE A TIME IN YOUR FUTURE (gesture either to your left or to your

right ... at this point it really doesn't matter) , say six months from now, still

FEELING THAT SENSE OF INCREDIBLE CONNECTION, and

LOOKING BACK ON TODAY (point back to you) as having been the start of

it? Them: Oh yeah ...

You: See, I think it's so funny how some people can JUST DO THAT and LET IT HAPPEN

INSTANTANEOUSLY (snap your fingers) because for me it takes longer. But I

do find that during the course of an evening, as you REALLY LISTEN to someone (point to yourself) , and you START TO RECOGNIZE those values and qualities in them that you hold so dearly for yourself ... (pause) ... WITH ME that's when you can MAKE THAT CONNECTION and really FEEL THAT

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You Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long, long time? (Point to yourself) Like maybe even though you only knew them a short while, it seemed like you had known them your whole life, as if there were a timeless connection between you and them? (gesture to her and then to you!) I mean, you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all the barriers just drop, away and melt and you just feel so totally comfortable and at ease with them. And it's like maybe you were even able to imagine a time in your future, say years from now, still being incredibly connected to this person (point to yourself again) and looking back on today as having been the it?

I just think that's the neatest thing when a person can GO INSIDE and

INSTANTLY recognize all those qualities and values in that other person, that LETS THAT CONNECTION TAKE PLACE WITH SOMEONE ... (pause) ME, it usually takes a bit longer.

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You Did you ever instantly know you were going to like and trust someone for a long,

long time? Maybe you only knew them for a short while but it seemed that you

had known them your whole life, as if there were a timeless connection between you and them? I'm wondering as you read this, if you can remember the feeling of that, and just how wonderful it was, because sometimes life has a way of making us remember those things, right prior to discovering that we can experience those feelings again with someone.

Me ... well, I don't think that kind of thing can be forced. No essay or words or video tape can create it (insert her name here) . Words and appearances are only expressions, the vehicles that contain the essence that moves us. It can only happen naturally as the expression of an energy between two people, but when it does ... you know that feeling of incredible bonding, when all the barriers melt and drop away, and two people come together, fused into one spiritual essence, the mingling of energies feeding one to the other, building and increasing and intensifying, mingling into an expression of aliveness that words can initiate but never capture fully? It has instead to be indulged inside your own imagination ... dwelled on, and toyed with, deep, deep inside you.

Speaking to you as a person who can experience that kind of connection, just how much can you look forward to enjoying that with someone who moves you in that way? As you remember what that would be like, and find those

possibilities opening before you, in such a way that anything else blurs into

insignificance, how powerfully will you feel that urge to call and find out more about this person who has so moved you, with just words on a page? As you find yourself wanting to meet with me, realize I can be reached at (___) _ _ _ - _ _ _ _.

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LOCKET PATTERN

You: You know those little lockets that women use to store momentos? (self-point) ... they have pictures, they have locks of hair ... whatever. You have to understand that what we've been doing together is over, it's going away, because you know … what you can do, if you were to just stop, and think right now, about all of the things we've shared, how it feels. What we've said, how we looked in each others eyes. All of the tremendous meaning we've shared together, and how much we wanted that, how much we enjoyed that ... Its like if you were to take the essence of all those wonderful experiences and just hold them in your hand, it's like you could take them and put them in a locket. And you could take that locket, and just snap it shut, it's something that could be preserved in time forever. And if you take that locket now, and put it deep inside, in that secret place deep down near the essence of who you really are. Then you may find that with every heart beat, with every breath you take, with every thought that you make, that you're taking a little bit of energy from those memories. And they stay alive forever, and maybe when your feeling sad, your feeling down, days when your feeling alone, things really aren't working out for you, you can take those memories out again and you can share them and relive them and remember.

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