You: Do you know the difference between submission and surrender?
Her: ???
You: Submission implies that you’ve been defeated, that you’ve been beaten, that someone has snapped your will. There’s a feeling that you’ve given in or given up. But
surrender is something completely different. Surrender is like when you sigh that sigh of relief (long tension-releasing sigh) cause you’ve finally come home.
You’ve come home to someone whos mature enough to see the woman that you are. To accept you just as you are. He’s experienced enough to see the woman you’ve become. And strong enough to make you feel totally protected in his arms.
And wants to take care of you, and provide for your needs and give you some security so you can just relax and live life fully with joy and happiness like it’s supposed to be. And this man is sensitive and kind enough to make you feel totally safe enough to open up your soul to him and be free as he takes his pleasure with you and leads you in a completely nude erection. And you realize that you feel completely safe surrendering yourself because now you totally trust this person (point to self). And the thing about surrender is that often times a person may want to surrender, but due to the pressures that we put on ourselves, and that society puts on us, the roles we’re forced to play, maybe a relationship that a person is in that is really restricting them from being finding true happiness in the world, we have to lock away and shut down that part of who we are in that place that I call the secret passionate core. That place deep inside you where anything is possible, where anything can be experienced with pleasure, that place where you keep your highest dreams, its the same place that you keep your most private fantasies and hide your deepest secrets about yourself. And sometimes you keep them hidden for so long, and these secrets are buried so deep that you forget you even have them until that special someone helps you find the key and unlock your fantasies, your hidden desires that you’ve suppressed for so long. But you don’t have to lock that part of you away anymore, you’re free to release that part of you. to be free. I’m giving you permission. But you never even needed my permission in the first place. You are free to bare your soul, to me, It’s that place right next to the essence of who you are where anything can happen, where anything can be tried out, where you keep your most exciting memories, where you ponder your fantasies, daydreams, and amazing possibilities where you indulge yourself in your deepest desires of physical pleasure and romantic sexual ecstasy. The things you would do if no one were watching and you might not even want your best friend to know you dream about them at all. Because she might become jealous of you, because you have something special like this so beautiful, and so rare. And I think when a man (point to self) can come along and touch a woman (touch her) in all those special places, and in all those ways she longs to be touched and caressed, maybe in ways she can’t even admit to herself, then I think that a trance-formation takes place on a molecular level and she blossoms beyond her physical beauty into something beyond description. (Like a little caterpillar that metamorphasizes into a beautiful butterfly or like a little baby rose
bud that’s closed tight when its young, but as it grows, it blooms and blossoms into a brilliant, beautiful flower with it’s petals spread wide open and free and luxuriating in the warmth of the sunlight of a warm summer day). and that’s the same way it is between 2 people who connect on such a deep level. Just as the sun can provide warmth and light to a flower so it can blossom, a man can provide the warmth and compassion to a woman so that she can open up and blossom into a truly beautiful woman and feel so complete with a strong, sensitive, caring man right beside her. Close to her. with me, when I find that special woman that understands what I’m talking about and can be with me like a lover and a soulmate, I will treasure her with all my heart for the rest of my life.
What is it about the way certain people affect us that causes us to think of them in that special place? to hear this voice and feel this presence from that spot in such a way that no matter how we try to deny our desire to act it takes on a life of its own. compelling, powerful, real, so real. A desire that says YES! I wanna step into this special place with (you) this special person and explore anything we can make real together.
Now the thing that I wonder about is what would it be like for a person to just feel all those hidden parts inside them just wake up right now, look though our eyes, hear with our ears, and feel with our hearts such incredible passion growing inside us and say YES! right now, this very moment, I have to have it right now ... When you can DO THAT, RIGHT NOW, that is when the real adventure of your life can begin, right now, the really fun exciting, amazing, incredible mind-blowing romantic adventure of your life can start right now, all you have to do is just enjoy it and be excited about it as you look forward with anticipation to this incredible, amazing adventure that’s about to take place in your life. Just let it happen.
Sometimes I think you don’t even know why that’s taking place now, with me, in my experience, I find that sometimes all sorts of things go deep inside yourself and you don’t even know why you can’t help yourself. It’s like there’s this mysterious force deep inside us that’s creating all this passion and desire and feelings, you might call it chemistry between us, but to me, it feels like a
mysterious force deep inside us that’s generating all these passionate feelings that go shooting thru the circuits of our bodies, like a jolt of electricity, begging to be released, bursting at the seams to be let out, these feelings deep inside you desperately wanting to be unleashed and shared with the other person. And it could be anything that triggers this explosion of energy and desire that wants to be expressed. It could be the way the person looks at you, the way they touch you, the way the warmth of their voice just wraps itself around you and penetrates you entirely, completely, all of your body and soul.
(this poem is optional) It’s just like this amazing poem I read: (openings poem) I will open you petal by petal, taking all the time in the world.
I will build you with a slow fire, stick by stick, and watch the color of your sunrise.
I will play with the wind of you, cover your body with smiles and games, promises and fantasies that disappear without a trace.
I will stir your secret core, witches brew of potions and incantations And feel you rolling, floating, simmering in my hand.
I will slowly fill you up every crevice and curve watch, feel, hear, smell, taste you growing full.
Can you feel that, would be an amazing thing to experience. The interesting thing about feelings is how they can get better and better and better the more you recognize there’s an incredible opportunity here. A once-in-a-lifetime opportunity right here in front of you. To experience incredible passion in your life right now.
The thing about new opportunities is it’s not enough just to ponder and think about it and say well, maybe someday. Because then it will be gone and it will be too late. Instead you gotta reach out, grab hold of this incredible new opportunity, take it all the way in as deep as it will go, join with it, make it part of who you are.
And then it’s like all those images and fantasies and thoughts move from the place where things might happen into the place where you absolutely must MAKE THEM HAPPEN RIGHT NOW. (read her the essence poem later to rekindle passionate core theme)