Major Mark on fantasies –
[Give 3 descriptions] – “Say, it's all interesting isn't it. What is it about, well you know, those fantasies that are so compelling? It's like, you have to ask yourself is it that they draw you towards them with an irresistible desire or is that you are just compelled to move towards them out of something that's welling up within you?”
Orion on closes
-"You know, I would love to have a chance to get to talk to you another time were aren't so many distractions and,” something along the lines of "get to know the inner you is as beautiful as the outer one.”
Ross on big cats – (WIP) –
"Do you, did you, you ever gone to the zoo and look at a big cat or predator. Do you ever watch people watching predatory cats? I think the real appeal of the cat is to note that this is
something really dangerous, really powerful, but not right now. At the moment, you feel totally safe with this, but you know at the right moment, all that coiled power can be unleashed and directed right at you. Almost like you're something for them to eat And what is that like inside when you walk the line between danger and safety, danger and safety? And you feel the tug between the two forces deep on the inside such that it opens up an entirely different personality inside? A personality begins to emerge and come forth. A personality that goes, ummm, I bet you I could pet that tiger and make it roll over and purr for me and only for me, ummm.” I'm riffing on this, I'm making ...
Orion (et. al.) on what needs to happen –
“What would have to happen for us to laugh over a cup of coffee?”
“What would have to happen for you to convince your wondrous self to join me for a cup of coffee?”
"What steps would we have to take to make sure we get a chance to talk again, ... ” Orion (et. al.) on getting phone numbers –
[If they ask for yours] - Oh, sure I'll give you my phone number, but I also need to get yours from you.” … "Because I'm real serious about getting together with you and I want to make sure we get together.”
[If they wont give you theirs] - "You know, no is okay. If you don't want to give me your phone number, no is okay, but I'm real serious.”
Ross & Orion on boyfriends –
”Boyfriend? That's great. He must be the kind of man who can touch you, who are deep inside, instead of just someone you're keeping around until you find someone better.”
"It's so rare to find somebody who meets all of your own special, unique values.”
"Boyfriend?" I'll go, "Hey, that's all right. I can promise to control myself. I can't control how naturally and easily you'll find all your feelings changing for just, only the right reasons.”
Orion on surprise kisses –
”Have you ever had a person give you a surprise kiss? Like maybe you're there and you're thinking about all the worries of the day or all the hassles or problems? And suddenly, a person can lean forward and look deep in your eyes, understand your distress and give you a kiss that sends an electric thrill throughout your spine, throughout your whole body and just lift you up like a bed of clouds. Do you feel that pleasure, that enjoyment of that kiss? You go into a space where it's just, you feel so good. And as you continue to let that happen, you can imagine six months from now reaching back to recapture the sweetness of that kiss.”
Orion on massages –
You can have them close their eyes, you can do some really heavy trance stuff when they've got their eyes closed and you're massaging them. ”You know, some people think, some people, as they experience a massage and really feel the pleasure of a massage from someone who really knows how to give a wonderful massage cause they've trained so well. They're able to feel a certain inside or associate a certain color with that warmth. So, for example, if you were to think of a color that you associate with the warmth of those relaxing, wonderful feeling, what color might you tell me? Red. And as you see that red getting bigger and brighter and maybe even wrapping itself around you like a pair of warm but strong arms, some people can even allow those thoughts to just penetrate your and put that red deep inside you.”
Orion on Japanese and necks –
"You know, the Japanese think that the back of a woman's body is the most sensuous part of her.
And I don't know if it's because of all those fine nerve endings And I don't know if, if it's the most sensuous part of a woman's body because that's where the nerve endings are or if it's because they believe that's where the energy enters your body or if it's because of all those soft, fine hairs or because they think it's so attractive, you know, the low-cut kimonos where you see that
beautiful back of a woman's neck.” And you can be brushing the back of her neck "Or maybe it's because you can't tell whether it's the soft brush of a person's fingers or the soft brush of their lips, the kiss, the touch of your tongue.” You can do is caress the back of their neck and put your hand underneath their ear. Cup it … and if they've, if they're down with that ...
Major Mark on married women –
If there was a way for you to enjoy a romantic or sexual adventure outside your marriage in such
a way that it would never negatively impact your primary relationship, would you do it?
Ross on “Not My Type” –
Her: "I liked the pic, but you're not my type." over phone
first met them about not being their type. Funny, after spending about an hour with me over coffee, somehow they all got this strange realization that what was typical for them really hadn't made them very happy and fulfilled and it was time to explore a totally different range and set of choices and responses! I guess 13 years of training and experience with hypnosis and seeing over 5000 clients gives a person some skills in moving minds, bodies and feelings in new and unexpected ways.
Anyway, refreshing encountering someone, however briefly who knows her own mind and choices and stands by them. Too bad we'll never meet in person; I've a feeling it would have been glorious.
Good luck in your search Bishop On Meeting New Women
-The goal is to be different from from every other guy. How can I approach her in a way she may have never known before.
Bishop On Women who question if they want to meet you -Her: Why would I want to know you / get to know you better?
You: You strike me as an intelligent woman. You could have dozens of men drop to their knees and respect only the physical side of you, and if that's all you're about, then I thank you for your time and I'll be on my way. If however, you're the type of woman who would like to share her thoughts and her dreams, her inspiration and her aspirations, I would like to be the guy to find out about the women who lies within this angels body.
Oh, well, I guess this adventure ends here (turn and walk away) Major Mark On Monogamous relationships
I’m perfectly willing to date you exclusively, just as soon as you show me, in ways that I can understand, that you are going to give me everything any woman could ever offer to me, because, that of course, is going to make me want to take all my time, all my attention, everything I have to give, and give it just to you.
Bishop On Anchors
-The touch itself is a stimulus that connects the touch to the emotion, and the stronger her emotion when you anchor, the more powerful it will work for you later. BUT, anchoring does is not limited to just touching her to get the emotion. In fact, I've anchored dozens of women who are now thinking of me when they see the stars, or the moment they turn on the television set, or when they hear a specific song. So while touch anchoring is in my opinion the strongest way to anchor, it's certainly not the only way. Speaking for myself, I only snap my fingers sporadically, depending on what direction the conversation is going, and only when I want her to feel what
I'm describing in that moment, but then I ALWAYS anchor with a touch once she's feeling it at peak state.
The wrist tap anchor is mine, so I'll cover that one. I agree that touching them too aggressively is not wise, that's why I tap the wrist, and not, say, the solar plexus. My pattern of anchoring goes from least intrusive to their body to slightly personal. A common set of anchors I use would be: wrist, arm, opposite hand, opposite arm, throat/neck, solar plexus.
THEMES
SECRET CORE THEME
Cultural vs. Natural Woman Pattern (Gemini)
You: Do you think men really understand women? Ok, here’s the fundamental problem. It’s hard for men to understand this but, You see, inside of every woman I really believe that there’s two women. There’s the cultural woman and then there’s the natural woman. (have you seen the movie Titanic.) At first, on the surface, there’s the part of you that you show to the world. that’s the culturally conditioned woman, the socially programmed woman. The woman who is supposed to be PROPER and conduct herself like a lady. That’s the woman that follows all the rules, all the should’s, and the shouldn’ts, all the dont’s, the wont’s, the cant’s, has all the fashionable etiquette, some of which she gets from all the women’s
magazines. Cosmo, Glamour, she follows what is considered acceptable ladylike behavior, the socially conditioned woman inside of you reluctantly listens to what your mom tells you to do, or you act according to how your parents raised you.
You also are influenced by what your girlfriends tell you. Do this. Don’t do this and You can’t do that. Even today, there is still pressure on a woman to look and act in a certain way or else she is not accepted. And that’s what most women fear, not being accepted by their girlfriends, or being rejected by their mother or father.
So she must follows certain rules to be socially accepted and is culturally
conditioned and programmed, and suppressed and confined, to the point of being repressed. Now, if you don’t think that you are being repressed; Let me give you 2 examples of this repression of women. 1. Some women feel that they cannot express their true, real feelings about certain things for fear that they will be rejected, and so they shut up and repress their feeling deep inside them. Now, the second form of social repression of women is just as harmful. And that’s the repression of feminine sexuality. Historically, because of social conditioning and cultural training, women have had to repress their own sexuality. Now, most women secretly know this. They admit it to themselves and each other. But they have learned to keep probably 90% of their passion suppressed and hidden from men. Why? Because they feel they must play the "virtuous" role that society has burdened them with. And, because so many men feel threatened by a woman’s superior sexuality, women get the message that "nice girls just shouldn’t have those desires". Now, you and I both know that’s bullshit. Of course, you have those feelings and desires deep inside you, don’t you? So, the cultural or social woman that most women show to the world, to their family, to their friends, to their husband or boyfriend is the person who represses her true, deep down feelings & desires, and that is unhealthy.
But then, there’s another woman inside you; and that’s the natural real woman.
The natural woman is the part that’s inside every woman, but she doesn’t dare
show it to the world because then she might be disapproved of. If this were a perfect world, this is the part of the woman that would never be repressed. The natural woman is not afraid to show her real self. She doesn’t suppress her true feelings or her sexuality. She lets them out and expresses her real feelings and emotions and passions because she is not afraid of what other people might say or she’s not afraid of what her parents and family would think if they really knew her deep dark secrets or how she really felt inside. Why do you think most women bury this natural woman deep inside themselves? Here’s why:
Do you remember when you were a teenager or a young girl and maybe you were falling asleep in your bed, and you were just drifting off to sleep, feeling the warmth of your bed sheets, the smell of your bedroom, and you began to dream of the ideal man for you, your perfect partner? your soulmate that you would meet someday. and you realize, you fell in love with him at that moment, and it's like you carried this love in your heart throughout your whole life into your adulthood as a full grown woman, waiting for that moment when you knew it was safe to release all that love that’s been building up inside you, waiting to be shared now with the right person. that faraway someday is today, you don’t have to wait anymore. I think the tragedy is some people couldn't even just stop and imagine what it would be like to make that discovery. Now, with me, as I think about it, I think that's really amazing that it can happen in an instant, don't you? but to feel all that love and emotion flooding back into your mind ... its amazing that you can remember all that right now here with me. We all fantasize about our perfect mate. It’s Natural. {ideal man pattern}I don't know what it is you think about when you just stop and you go inside and you consider the ideal man you want to be with and you begin to imagine exactly what it would be like to be with this person, to feel all the things you really want to feel for all the right reasons, but I'll tell you something, when I'm with a woman like that and they begin to see the possibilities of having all that with me, what a difference in the way you think about things. Ok, getting back to what I was saying:
But over time as we grow up, after years of dating and being disappointed by other men (point away) time after time, you really begin to wonder when that ideal man (point to self) is going to come along (point to self), and you continue to hope to find your soulmate, (point to self) that special person who complements you so perfectly.
But that natural woman that was formed in you when you were young is still in there, but it’s asleep inside of you, covered by a bunch of layers. Layers of social conditioning and programming. What I think that most women really want deep down, but they would never admit this out loud or even to themselves
strong enough not only to understand that she has passionate emotions but strong enough to be his own man and to be her protector to make her feel safe when she needs someone to lean on and to hold her in his big strong arms when she wants be comforted or to cry on his shoulder. A woman wants to know that she has security with him, that he will take care of her. and he’s not afraid to share his feelings with her when he feels vulnerable. and he’s smart enough and man enough to not put up with her female bullshit when she’s disrespecting him by walking all over him. He’s smart enough to know she’s trying to test him. and he’s sensitive enough to anticipate her feelings so that she doesn’t always have to tell him what’s on her mind because he just knows her so well. This man and this woman have developed such an incredible connection with each other that they are truly connected, like soulmates and they compliment each other perfectly. like you and me, we understand that in order for a woman to feel good about herself and comfortable about expressing herself and her sexuality fully, she needs to feel safe and reassured that her ideal partner not only gives her his permission, but he actually wants and tells her to unleash her sexuality whenever she wants to ... He wants her to be sexually uninhibited. He encourages her to be free with her passionate sexuality and her emotions and her feelings. And when a woman finds this special man, it’s just natural that she can just surrender herself to him because she knows that she’s finally found a place where she can be free to do whatever she wants and express herself and share herself in every way that she wants to with this man. (Go into surrender pattern) (Do essence poem sometime after to rekindle)