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The Comprehensive Guide To Getting Your Ex Back

Third Edition -- Published February 2014

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Know The Signs Of Depression & Seek Help If Needed

Breakups and relationship conflict can lead to sadness, depression, and a wide range of other difficult emotions. This is to be expected and is normal for most people.

However, in rare circumstances, or with individuals who suffer from medical or psychological conditions, breakups can lead to clinical depression. If, at any time, you believe that the depression symptoms you are

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Chapter 1

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Chapter 1: Introduction

Welcome to The Ex Factor Guide! This e-book is the comprehensive guide to getting your boyfriend back. Let me start off by saying this…

I know exactly how you feel right now.

I know the gut-wrenching feeling of having your heart broken into a billion little pieces, only to hear “Don’t talk to me.” and “I don’t care.” I know the feeling of having that person call you up and tell you he doesn’t love you anymore. I know the feeling of having this person ignore you to the point that they won’t even look at you or talk to you. I know the feeling of walking home after a hard day’s work only to catch them kissing another person in your bedroom. I know how it feels to take a glance at your ex’s cell phone, only to read several text messages from other people saying what they want to do with him or her in bed. I just know. You can trust me on that.

Even as I write this, all those horrible feelings come back to haunt me. It kills me to know that you’re going through this right now. I just want you to know that I’ve felt everything you are feeling right now plus much, much more.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 10 I’m here today, right now… and I’m emotionally stable. I’m writing this to you despite my past grievances and breakups. I’m happy. I’m just letting you know that down the road… no matter what happens, it’ll be okay.

I know that’s probably something you’ve heard already – maybe you’ve heard it from a friend or a family member. And I do know that right now, it doesn’t feel like anything is ever going to be ok. I’m here to tell you that it will.

I also know you’ve been frantically searching for a surefire way get your ex boyfriend back. Maybe you’ve asked a close friend or one of your relatives, but I know what they probably told you…

“Just tell him you love him and he’ll come running back!”

”Tell him that you’re sorry for being the way you are and show him that you care!” While this advice sounds logical, it’s the last thing you should do if you ever want to see your boyfriend or husband again.

Do you want to learn the first step on how to get your boyfriend back right now? Don’t do anything right now… except read this book from cover to cover.

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Frankly, I wish someone gave me a book like this when my first long-term

girlfriend dumped me. Had I received some proper guidance, I wouldn’t have made so many stupid mistakes. In fact, I’d probably still be with her right now.

I can tell you for a fact that you are probably doing something right now that is actually pushing your ex boyfriend or husband further away from you (and into the arms of another woman). Unless you apply all of the advice and strategies I discuss in this book, that will continue to be the case. The more you read this book, and the more you understand the information that I’m telling you, the better chances you’ll have of re-igniting your relationship with him.

I understand if you’re skeptical, but I’ve helped thousands of women around the world get back the love of their lives. I’ve been a relationship coach for years and I even write a relationship advice column for LoveLearnings.com. And though it is impossible to know my exact success rate, I can tell you confidently that above 70%. If that doesn’t get you excited, then maybe this will: the rest of the women that failed to get their

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I promise you from the very bottom of my heart that I want you to succeed. That’s why I wrote this book. I didn’t write this book to gain fame and fortune. I genuinely want to help women cure their broken hearts. I’m sick and tired of poor ladies all around the world getting walked all over by their exes. I’m sick and tired of women e-mailing me and crying for help. And I’m sick of all the desperation and tears.

I’ve tried to make this book as short as possible. Unlike other relationship books, I won’t fill this book with unrelated garbage. I’ll only tell you what you need to know and nothing more because I know that

your time is valuable.

If you have any questions about the book, please add me as a friend Facebook, follow me on

Twitter, and add me to your Google+ circles. I encourage you to add me to all three as I regularly post useful

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 13 content that you can apply immediately. I’m also happy to answer quick questions via social media, either privately or on my public profile, so feel free to drop me a line.

And by the way, when this program works for you, I give you permission to send me an awesome gift.  I’ll give you my address at the end of this book. (P.S., I’ve always wanted an Apple iPad!).

I’m Here To Help If You Need It

In case you missed my offer when you signed up to the program, I offer personal 1-on-1 coaching. Because I know how difficult it can be to cope with the loss of

someone, I can be there for you to personally guide you through the steps of getting your ex back.

Most of my coaching clients have had remarkable success, which makes me feel warm and fuzzy inside, but it also makes my personal coaching service a worthwhile investment for those who need further advice that’s custom tailored to their unique situation.

Everybody is different and every situation is different. If you sign up for my

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I won’t be able to offer this service forever, as I can only help so many clients a month, so I recommend you sign up ASAP to ensure you’re able to reserve your spot.

The Real Reason You’re Alone

You can drive yourself insane asking questions about what went wrong in your relationship. I know I did. Sometimes, the reasons why a relationship ends can be quite complex… but usually understanding what went wrong will help identify the very best way to get your boyfriend back into your arms.

Although the reasons for a breakup may be quite varied and numerous, they all boil down to one significant factor: your boyfriend has lost her attraction for you. Whether this loss of attraction resulted from one specific event or occurred slowly over many months, something has occurred that forced him to move on and break up with you.

A famous relationship expert once said that “attraction isn’t a choice”. Sadly, he’s absolutely right. You simply cannot force yourself to be attracted to somebody. Think

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 15 of an ugly, unattractive male friend you have that you don’t find the least bit attractive. You can’t force yourself to fall in love him, can you? Sure, maybe there’s a chance you’d be okay having sex with him if you were drunk and the chance arose (with a brown paper bag over his head), but there’s nothing you can do to make yourself love him if he just isn’t your “cup of tea.”

This is the same for men. You simply can’t flick a switch and make a guy love you again, in the same way you can’t snap your fingers and make yourself love that ugly friend of yours (even though he might be the nicest person on the planet, attraction can’t be forced, it has to occur naturally).

You can, however, learn how to manipulate your behavior to make yourself much more attractive to the opposite sex… and more importantly, to your ex-boyfriend. In the next chapter, I’ll briefly go over the list of attractive female qualities.

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Chapter 2

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Chapter 2: Attractive Characteristics

What you’re about to read is

information that most women will never know in their entire lives. This is a nearly exhaustive list of traits that attractive women possess. Do you know any girls that are just naturally gifted with other men? Study this list and you’ll find that your friend possesses many of these attractive characteristics…

1.) You are feminine. Sorry if you are a tom boy (and some men might be into that), but men are attracted to women. Not women-boys, not a girl that’s “rough

around the edges,” but a fully out, sexual lady. That means you act like a girl. You’re submissive at times. You make him feel like a man.

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emotional level. Attractive men are used to seeing women get emotionally flustered when they’re around them. But when they see a girl who is completely indifferent to them, they get emotionally flustered.

You see, men have a little bit of a “Sixth Sense.” No, this doesn’t mean they see ghosts that jump out of the television screen (though, at times, a man may seem this psychotic… but that’s for an entirely different book altogether). Men are very attuned to women who try too hard. They can read your body language and decipher underlying truths of what you’re “actually” trying to say. And based on these factors, they can deduce how sexually needy you are.

3.) You don’t care what other people think of you. Highly attractive women don’t care about what others think of them. Sure, that doesn’t mean that they

ACTUALLY don’t care, but you want to convey as if you’re a confidence woman who’s comfortable in her own skin.

4.) You take care of yourself. That means that you’re well-groomed. For most women, this isn’t a problem… but make sure you’ve got this part of you down.

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5.) You know how to provoke a positive emotional response in men. In other words, you know how to have fun. That means making him laugh. You’ve probably heard that humor is one of the greatest aphrodisiacs a man can possess but the same goes for women. And, the majority of the time, if you ask a man what he looks for in a woman, there’s a very good chance that he’ll probably say “humor.” Use it! If you aren’t blessed with natural charm and the ability to make men laugh, then don’t worry because you can learn this skill.

6.) You are rich (and I don’t mean financially). You are culturally, mentally, and emotionally rich. Because of this, you are a selfless giver to the ones you love. You don’t give your value to people you don’t know and it takes a lot for someone to get into your “good books.” Since you have an abundance of value, you never need anything. Loser girls constantly ask for money and love, but “high-value” women never ask for anything. They are independent and strong. Did you make this mistake when you were in your relationship?

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puppies and makeup. Men are attracted to women that have a diverse array of skills… and same goes for the other way around. That means you love playing the piano. You sing. You dance. You can paint. You can juggle eight chainsaws

simultaneously while you fish… in the dark! You get the picture.

8.) You are social. You’ve got a ton of girlfriends and you are very socially “aware.” You love your friends and treat them with respect. In your eyes, your friends are of very high value and you don’t surround yourself with losers. You also know how to make friends easily. And most importantly, you think your friends are hot too! 9.) You have goals. You’re ambitious. No boyfriend wants a lazy and uninspired

girlfriend. You need to know exactly what you want and exactly how to get it. Even something as little as announcing what you’re going to do that day – and then doing it – makes a huge difference. Don’t be afraid to share your goals with men. This is extremely sexy!

10.) Other men want you. Although this may have been a source of problems in your relationship, you’ve never cheated. You also make it known to your boyfriend

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 21 that other women that are chasing you. Other relationship experts call this “pre-selection.” When a man sees that you’re with other attractive men, he is hard-wired to feel attraction for you. Sometimes relationships get boring because there’s no “risk” of losing their mates. Yes, this sounds absurd, but it’s true. Carefully and subtly, let him know that other men are interested, but that you don’t care about them.

11.) You’re a bold protector of the ones you are closest to. That means you know how to take care of your friends and your family. You stick up for your boyfriend through thick and thin. You support him, no matter what.

12.) You understand him. “Oh my God! Edward Cullen from Twilight! It’s like he

understands me!” Well, that’s what women want… sure. But men want this too.

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to always be “cocky and confident” to the point that you’re borderline arrogant, but I’m here to tell you that men are incredibly turned off by this. Showing a man you have great value isn’t about telling him that you have value, it’s about showing him you have value. There’s a difference. Walking up to a man and saying, “I’m

filthy rich” is quite different from driving up to the same man in a shiny new Ferrari

and smiling at him.

14.) You are a lover for all the right reasons. You don’t love your man because of his money (if you did, then you should probably rethink your relationship). You are in love with him because you truly, deeply, and unequivocally love him. If your man senses that this isn’t the case, he’ll be gone… so don’t be surprised he left you if this was the reason.

15.) You’re powerful, decisive, and you don’t take crap from anyone! You don’t tolerate bad behavior from anyone. And if anyone does something “wrong” you call him or her out on it and you make sure it doesn’t happen again.

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Remember, your world is always a great place to be. People are happy to be around you. People aren’t going to be happy around if you are constantly bitching and complaining about how things never go your way. Not only will this make you more attractive, but it’s also proven that positive people are much more likely to be successful than people who are constantly down on themselves.

17.) You’re always comfortable to be around. You aren’t constantly stressed out about your life. You’re always cool, calm, and collected. There’s no unnecessary drama in your life. Being stressed out will only make your boyfriend stressed out. This isn’t a good thing. You usually have a calm and relaxed demeanor about yourself. People effortlessly get along with you and you rarely ever get flustered. 18.) You’re candid with men. You’re honest. Obviously, you don’t try and be

someone you’re not and you stay truthful on all levels. Although you’re candid with men, you aren’t too forward to the point that you come off as a bitch. You politely voice your opinion.

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how to communicate with man on an emotional level effectively. Failure to know what a man is feeling often leads to conflict.

20.) You have a sensitive side. Women are supposed to be sensitive. And like I said in the first point, being feminine is a turn on for a man; so don’t be afraid to spill your emotions out once in awhile. In the good way!

21.) You’re a nurturer. Yes, it’s the age-old stereotype. Men are the providers while women are the nurturers, but it’s true. Women are caring creatures, so don’t be afraid to care for animals, children, and you name it. And yes, take care of your boyfriend. He will appreciate it.

22.) You’re fit. Yes, this book is meant to be 100% honest. If you aren’t fit, your man won’t be as sexually attracted to you. This isn’t everything, so don’t let this get to your head if you don’t exactly have the body of Charlize Theron. But when you have a chance, don’t be afraid to go to the gym and have a solid workout. 23.) You’re willing to participate. Whether it’s playing videogames, snorkeling, or

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Remember the location of this chapter, because I’ll be referring back to it several times over the course of this book. It’s probably in your best interest to memorize this list, too, as well because it will only help you get your boyfriend back.

And although I know your only goal is to win him back, it never hurts to know how to be good with men in general. Because… who knows? Maybe once you get back with your ex, you’ll realize that he isn’t really for you and you’ll want to play the dating game again. Whatever the case might be, I’ll help you with whatever decision you choose to make.

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Chapter 3

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Chapter 3: Unattractive Characteristics

Men leave their girlfriends and wives because the attraction disappears, and there are several key reasons why attraction fades.

I guarantee you that the reason your relationship ended was because you showed at least one of these fatal

characteristics (which I’ll list below). These are things that repel men.

All of these traits, not surprisingly, are caused primarily by insecurity. These are what I like to call The Six Deadly Sins in a relationship.

1.) Being way too controlling. Men hate it when their ladies put weird and

unrealistic restraints on their lives. This means she won’t let him talk to other girls or even hang out with his friends. The root cause of this behavior is fear – fear of losing her boyfriend or fear that he will find a better woman. Sometimes

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 28 the more controlling a woman can get over her boyfriend, the less control she’ll actually have. It’s important to give your boyfriend space. If you do everything else properly, this will give him an incentive to miss you.

2.) Having low self-esteem. Always being down and depressed is very unattractive.

Some women are self-demeaning in a humorous manner, but if self-esteem is a serious issue, then don’t be surprised that your boyfriend left you. If you think your self-esteem problem runs deeper than most, it might the time to go the doctor – depression is the type of thing that could very well be something that’s beyond your control.

3.) Being “clingy” or always needing attention. If you think your man likes it when

you constantly call him/text him/message him… then you’re wrong. Space is extremely important in creating attraction. I mean, chances are you’ve probably been on the other side of the coin – haven’t you ever had a guy constantly

barrage you with text messages and phone calls? Were you attracted to this dude? Chances are, you probably weren’t. High value women never need human interaction because they receive an abundance of it from a variety of people every day. So don’t tell him you love his too much… tell him only when he

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4.) Being jealous all the time. Maybe you really don’t like how he’s hanging out with

his friends… or maybe one of his guy co-workers is getting to you. If you let this genuinely get to you, you are communicating to your boyfriend in an indirect way that he has more value than you. Jealousy is the ultimate form of insecurity.

If you’re the jealous type (and unfortunately, sometimes you can’t control these emotions) then force yourself to make it seem that you aren’t jealous. You need to take on the attitude that “other women are completely harmless because you are higher value than all of them.” Most of the time, if you were good enough to attract your boyfriend in the first place, this will be true… so you really have nothing to worry about. 99% of the time, jealousy is completely unjustified. There’s a great quote about relationships in the movie ‘40 Year Old Virgin’:

“Don’t put the pussy (or penis) on the pedestal.” In other words, don’t make your boyfriend your whole entire life. Make it so that you have other things you care about instead of (or in addition to) his.

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5.) Seeking external validation. High quality women never seek validation from

anybody. They just do things on their own terms and they don’t care what others think of them. This is incredibly attractive. The complete opposite, however, isn’t. Maybe you’ve asked your boyfriend things like, “Do you really love me?

How much? Do you think I’m

skinny? Are my boobs big enough? Did you have a good time with me?”

By asking these questions to your boyfriend, you are simply sub-communicating to him that you’re not sure if you’re good enough for him (otherwise you wouldn’t be

asking these questions in the first place). You’re going to have to live with the fact that you’re not perfect – nobody is. The attractive thing to do is to just simply accept who you are and be comfortable in your own skin.

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unattractive trait for a woman to have. Have you ever been cheated on? If you have, then I’m very sorry. It is indeed a terrible feeling… and it’s a feeling that you would never want to put your boyfriend through. The truth is, people cheat all the time. Though, the reasons boyfriends cheat are usually because of these 6 pointers we’ve just talked about – that is, being clingy, having low self-esteem, being jealous, being controlling, seeking external validation, and being unfaithful. It’s either that, or you simply haven’t exhibited enough of the attractive qualities mentioned earlier in this book.

This list of unattractive qualities is certainly not exhaustive. Sometimes, constant disagreements can be the root of the problem. This is a common killer of relationships. Most arguments that ultimately kill relationships have to do with appreciation or the lack of it. Men need to feel appreciated by their women. When the feeling of appreciation dissipates, this will lead to conflict and argument.

No matter the reason why attraction fades, the effects are always the same. Your boyfriend will feel less attracted to you and thus, he’ll start to care less.

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most control.” Right now, I am guessing that your boyfriend broke up with you against

your own will. And as of right now, he has all the power… because he cares less than you do.

Do you remember when your relationship with him first started? Everything was probably really awesome, wasn’t it? You were confident, flirtatious, funny, and most likely, very attractive. You didn’t have the chance to show your insecurities because everything was new – you knew he was into you and you were happy with yourself.

Over time, things began to change. Maybe you caught him having a really good “conversation” with one of his best female friends. Or maybe one of his guy friends keeps contacting him. You started to worry, so you started breaking down and acting like a wuss. You started committing at least one of The Six Deadly Sins and he began to lose interest in you. Because he lost attraction for you, he began to care less about you. And thus, the “balance of power” began to shift in his favor.

We need to work on shifting the balance of power, and this is what the next few chapters will concentrate on.

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Featured Customer Coaching Question

Real Email Exchanges From Past Customers (Names Changed For Privacy)

“Have I Already Made Too Many Mistakes?”

Question Sent By: Christie L.

“Hi Brad, I've read your ebook multiple times - I feel I have done so much damage that I really have no hope of getting my ex back - he has raised my 2 year old since he was 6 months and I am now 4 months along with his child, but he wants nothing to do with us - I've tried endless to talk to him, not even get back together talk but just to involve him with appointments and not and he still just tells me to fuck off and that he hates me because I make him look stupid because I texted another guy - and he uses this as his excuse as breaking up with me - he told me last night he would still have been with me, if I didn't text another guy (someone I don't even know - I just invited him over while I was fighting with my ex although he never came over and I never spoke to the person again) and that I've taken his family from him.

He's spends all his time chasing his best friend (female) around because her husband is in the marines and over in Afghanistan - And she tells him not be with me, He's dumps all over me and my kids and puts her kids above mine - it's not normal to me and I find it hard to deal with. My question is, How do you know when there's too much damage to fix it anymore.

He's using the excuse of me talking to randoms as the excuse for leaving me, how is me posting photos of me with random guys going to make him want me back, when that's why he says he left in the first place.

Thanks Brad!! Christie L.”

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“Take His Words With A Grain of Salt…”

Brad Browning’s Reply To Question From Christie L.

“Hi Christie,

What you need to realize first is that the reason he left you isn't because of you texting random guys. It's because your attraction level with him in the first place just isn't high enough. The texting incident is just a lame and pathetic excuse for him to leave (but don't tell him this directly, of course).

Obviously, what you need to be doing right now is not contact him for now. You need to take care of yourself and spend time with your child. When are you due?

You need to show how much fun you are having with your family and ignore him for now. Yes, you need to stop looking like you're dating multiple guys, but at the same time, you need to show the world that you're happy. That means spending time with your girlfriends, going out, and making it seem like to him that he's missing out.

Eventually, he is going to want to see his child and tend to his mother -- that’s the decent thing to do. Once this happens, we will work on patching things up with him permanently. But if he doesn’t even want to attempt to take care of his child, then cutting him loose is probably the best option anyways.

Hope that helps! -Brad B.”

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Chapter 4

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Chapter 4: Panic & Acceptance

Okay. So you’re probably still quite fresh off your breakup, and you’re

emotionally broken. I know what you really want to do… you want to call him up and talk. You want to send him an e-mail or Facebook message explaining how much you miss him and how much you’re willing to fix things. You want to get on your phone and send him a million text messages letting him know how you feel. Does this sound about accurate?

I know the feeling. You’re panicking. And this is perfectly normal for you to feel this way, but acting on your current emotions right now is definitely not the best way to get back with your ex-boyfriend. By acting on these emotions, you’re basically telling him that you’re desperate. Desperation and insecurity are, as we have

concluded, very negative and unattractive traits. So bear with me – if you want your ex-boyfriend back, don’t do anything yet.

But what is panic? Why are you feeling this way? I know you aren’t typically like this. In fact, you’re probably a very rational and understanding person under normal circumstances, but panic and desperation can cause even the most rational person to

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immediate loss of something is valuable to you.

Think about a quarterback in a football game for a minute. The quarterback has to make a decision on what to do with the ball before the defensive lineman tries to take him down. As the defensive lineman attempts to break through the quarterback’s offensive linemen, the quarterback is losing time and space. If he’s a bad quarterback,

he’ll wait until the very last moment, panic, and do something stupid with the ball. A good quarterback, on the other hand, is calmer, cooler, and is therefore much more likely to do something rational with the football.

Sometimes people panic because they are thrown into a completely different situation. Even if, logically, your boyfriend wasn’t exactly right for you… at least you were accustomed to having him around. You were familiar with him, and familiarity is something humans like. This sort of change is enough to induce panic in most women, especially if they’ve been with their boyfriend for a long period of time.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 38 So before you make things better, you need to focus on yourself and lessen the amount of desperation you’re feeling. Only then will you be able to think rationally and win your boyfriend back.

In essence, what you need to do right now is accept the current situation. It obviously isn’t to your liking, but the breakup happened. As of this moment, there is absolutely nothing you can do or say to get him back right now. (Don’t worry, we’re getting there.)

Trust me, you don’t want to go down the other, dangerous path. I’ve attempted to help many women that fail because they fail to accept the situation, and they start doing the complete opposite of what I say. They’ll start lying to their ex about certain situations. They’ll begin to stalk their ex… not only physically, but via the internet, too. They will begin to send hurtful and sometimes hateful messages to their ex-boyfriends, which only augment the problem. Sometimes, they’ll even seek revenge and attempt to sleep with their ex-boyfriend’s friends (which, surprise, surprise, doesn’t work at all).

All I’m saying is this: I know there are a lot of negative emotions you’re feeling right now, and it’s completely normal. It’s how you handle these emotions that define

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Don’t Pressure Him

Pressuring your ex to get back together with you will just be the nail in the coffin. I remember when I used sell suits at a men’s clothing store (way back in the

day…). At the time, I had absolutely no idea how to sell anything. I had no idea why they even hired me. On my very first day, I went up to my first prospective customer and I laid down the law of the land – “Buy now and get the second suit half off! Sale

ends tomorrow! Buy now or you’ll definitely regret it! This suit looks GREAT on you!”

Whoa.

I’m not exactly sure why my manager didn’t fire me right then and there. Maybe because she just felt sorry for me! Needless to say, I didn’t sell a single bloody suit my first day at work. Why? Because I was pressuring my customers. My manager took me aside the next day and just told me to relax. So I did.

After a few more encounters with customers, I sold my first suit using the

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 40 try and sell suits, but I made it appear like it didn’t matter if they bought the suit or not. Instead, I just simply talked about how our suits compared with suits from other stores. I talked about what type of things to look for when buying a new suit. I just talked about useful information, and everything else just fell into place. I became the best suit salesman in the universe (well, no, but I was the best suit salesman at my store at

least…).

If you ever feel the temptation to try and contact your ex and pressure him into getting back together with you, stop and tell yourself, “If I really want to get back with

my boyfriend, then I’ll listen to Brad Browning. He knows what to do!”

Some Good News

Like I said, there is a silver lining amidst the panic and depression. Chances are, your ex probably still wants you back in his arms.

It’s true.

I mean, think about it logically for a second. You and your ex have an extensive shared history… and despite whatever happened between you two, you will both still have those great memories and stories you experienced together. You have a ton of

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The bottom of the line is that at some point in your life, you were both quite attracted to each other. You see, human beings are, for the most part, creatures of habit. You probably wake up every morning with the exact same routine… and throwing a wrench in your morning routine is probably

unthinkable at this point. This is the exact same thing that your boyfriend has shared with you! You two are extremely comfortable with each other. In fact, he is probably more familiar with you than any other girl right now. You have an advantage over the competition.

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Chapter 5

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Chapter 5: Start With ‘No Contact’

From reading the first few chapters, you probably deduced that this was the first step to getting your ex-boyfriend back.

Yes… the dreaded no contact period, or what I like to call, the Rekindling Period. This is where the battle is won or lost, my friend. Of the women that have failed under my guidance, I would guess that at least 80% of them failed because they didn’t do this part properly. It is absolutely crucial that you understand this.

It is imperative that you do not initiate contact your ex-boyfriend for at least one month. There is no exception to this rule (unless he contacts you first, but more on this later). Delete him from your phone right now so you won’t even feel tempted to contact him.

There are scientific reasons why this will help you get your boyfriend back so it is important that you take this seriously for a number of reasons. First and foremost, you’re probably not in the right state of mind to have a meaningful conversation with your ex boyfriend right now. Emotions are too strong. Giving yourself some time to recover emotionally will only help you focus on how you can strategically get your boyfriend back. Not only this, but you also need to give him some time to recover.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 44 Have you ever heard of the quote, “Absence makes the heart grow fonder”? By not contacting your boyfriend, you give off the impression that you’ve moved on, which causes him experience a fear of loss.

Once you stop reaching out and trying to talk to him, he’ll wonder why. Right now, he’s probably annoyed at the amount of times you’ve tried to call him, but when that disappears, he’ll begin to think about you more… he’ll be thinking, I wonder what

she’s doing right now. I wonder if she’s gotten over me. Does she still want to talk to me? I wonder if he’s already found somebody else…

Humans don’t usually know what they have until it’s gone. We take things for granted and it’s part of our nature. We can use this psychological tool to our advantage.

Trust me, your boyfriend is going through a lot of the same emotions and heartache that you’re experiencing right now. Breaking up is painful for both sides, regardless of who makes the initial decision to end things. And, like a drug addict going through withdrawal, your ex may be tempted to take the easy way out, and put an end to her heartache and loneliness… by getting back together with you!

By not contacting your boyfriend, you’ll also be doing yourself a favor, as it will prevent you from acting like a complete jackass around your boyfriend. Remember how

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 45 I said that women are really good at picking up non-verbal communication? Like they have a sixth sense? Unless you’re an actress with talent to rival Julia Roberts, you don’t want to risk sub-communicating negative characteristics around him (and you will).

Finally, by not contacting your boyfriend, you’ll have ample time to read my e-book and complete my course… so you’ll know exactly what you’ll need to do to get your boyfriend back.

So, what I want you to do right now is take out your planner or agenda. Find the date that is exactly 31 days from now, and circle it. Then call it Contact Day. You will not contact your ex boyfriend until this day.

Why 31 Days?

Studies have proven why this 31-day mark is crucial. After about 3 weeks, your brain begins to reset itself on an emotional level. Now, I won’t say you’ll stop missing your ex completely after 3 weeks of no contact, but this is when your emotional side

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Secondly, and most importantly, studies have shown that men begin to start missing their girlfriends/wives intensely after about three weeks of no contact. You need to use this psychological tool as a weapon here. Chances are after about three weeks (and sometimes even less), your ex will contact you on his own discretion, wanting to get back with you! I’ve seen this happen way too many times to count.

Often, men use their ex-girlfriends to help them get over their own breakup! But by removing yourself from his reality completely, you are forcing him to heal

emotionally on his own. You won’t be able to help him or be his emotional crutch. This is what you want. If you know your boyfriend is the needy type, you can use this to your advantage.

Marking this date will also give you a visual goal to work towards as well. Combined with the rest of the material I’ve included in my program, you’ll be able to better cope with the pain during the No Contact period. And doesn’t it give you a sense of reassurance knowing that you’re doing exactly what you’re supposed to?

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“But I Can’t Wait That Long!”

Yes, I know. 31 days seems like a very long time, and for the first few days it will crawl by, but only if you let it! Yes, there are things you can do right now to not only lessen the pain but also actually increase your chances of getting back with your ex once the 31-day mark rolls around.

First, you need to start removing reminders of him. Go grab a piece of paper right now and write down his contact information. Delete his contact from your phone and hide the piece of paper where you know you won’t be able to see it.

Second, delete every memory and mode of contact that you have with him. Delete his Skype contact, MSN contact, and be sure to delete all his e-mails (if you feel sentimental about these, make these messages difficult for you to access…save them in a folder and make the folder difficult to get to).

The only exception to this is deleting him from Facebook (or any other social networking website where he knows he was deleted). But under no circumstance will you view his profile. You don’t want to see who’s writing on his wall or what he’s saying during this period. Facebook stalking won’t make you feel good about yourself, period. (To ensure that you don’t see his status updates in your Facebook timeline, click

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Next, gather all your physical items that remind you of him. That means stuffed animals, clothes, presents, and pictures. Gather everything and put it into a box and store it in a place that is a major pain in the ass to get to. Lock it up in the basement, hide it in your mom’s garage, or ask a friend to keep it for you… anything to get it out of sight.

After, I want you to start fantasizing about other men and concentrate only on your ex-boyfriend’s negative side. Under no circumstance should you be fantasizing about your ex in any way. If you catch yourself thinking about your ex sexually, visualize having sex with other, even more beautiful men (ahem… the internet really helps in this department if you’re lacking inspiration…).

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 49 As much as possible, just try not to think about your ex in any way. After this is complete, you need to now concentrating on taking your life back.

What If You Broke Up A While Ago?

If you broke up with your ex a long time ago (more than a few months), then you have to assess how your ex might be feeling right now. Do you think their emotions have reset to a neutral state? A lot of people e-mail me saying, “It’s been over a year

now… are my chances blown out the window?” Well, it depends. Most of the time,

however, chances are you have a better chance the longer you wait without contact with your ex.

However, if you’ve been pestering your ex and constantly for several years, then

chances are you’ve probably pushed your ex far too much away and, only at that point would I advise to move on. However, if you think your ex would be open to a line of communication, then read on… but do not contact your ex until you’ve thoroughly read everything in this book!

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What If Your Ex Lives In Another City?

Now, there’s a possibility that you broke up with your ex and they’ve moved somewhere else, far away.

First of all, this isn’t necessarily a bad thing. After all, if they’ve moved far away, it gives yourself some space to move on from him and to concentrate on yourself (more on this later).

However, I’m not going to sugar coat things... chances are, if your ex has moved far, far away, then it’s going to be extremely difficult to develop the kind of attraction that is needed for him to want you back.

If your ex is living somewhere very far away, you’ll either have to come up with a good excuse to visit them and then ask them out for a “date”. You can’t visit him without a very legitimate reason for being there, and you’ll definitely need to establish some rapport and get him thinking about you again before you even consider going to see your ex in person.

Because long distance re-attraction can be complicated business, you may want to consider signing up for my personal coaching service if you are in this situation.

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Featured Customer Coaching Question

“My Ex Lives Far, Far Away…”

Question Sent By: Kathryn J.

“Hey Brad!

I had a long distance relationship (2 hour flight away) for two years with Chad. He is 24 and I'm 28. We visited each other back and forth every few weeks for weeks at a time. In August he came here to interview for jobs so he could move here to be with me but he didn't get any of the jobs he interviewed for. I went to visit him in September for two weeks and he was acting distant and kind of cold. When I got back home he broke up with me 2 weeks later in September saying he lost feelings for me. I'm pretty sure our major issue was communication and my insecurities in the relationship.

I did No Contact for 30 days and we started speaking again in the middle of October. He kept asking me if I was dating a guy from work he saw me check in places with on facebook and seemed jealous. He flirted with me a lot, we even chatted on webcam. Then we began to chat almost daily again but short chats, not all day, everyday like it used to be. He initiated and sent me a lot of sexual links.

His best friends girlfriend invited me to a new years party so I decided to go. The second I mentioned visiting his hometown for new years he became completely platonic towards me. He avoided going to the same new years party as me that week but we ended up hanging out 3 out of the 5 days I was there. He took me out to see a holiday light show, dinner, and I spent an entire day at his house watching movies. He made me lunch and we even hung out with him and his dad for awhile. He picked me up and dropped me off at the airport too.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 52 We had a talk about things and I was completely honest with him about still having feelings for him but I said I'd never push him to change his mind. He said he doesn't have feelings for me anymore, that I care too much, and that I need to move on, but we can be friends. He said I will see him again and we will be able to hangout again in the future.

Since I got back home we talk on an instant messenger every so often. Lately it's been once or twice or week. Not very long chats either. He rarely ever initiates, sometimes he ignores me if I send him funny links or try to chat.

I have really made an effort to change and rid myself of the insecurities I had while in the relationship. I've been working out, changed jobs, made new friends, gotten a social life,

planned a trip to Japan. All of which he has seen on facebook and he seemed quite interested at first when we weren't speaking. He didn't try to contact me at all during the 30 day no contact period. I had so many new things to tell him about my life when I visited two weeks ago. He barely had much to say because not much has changed for him. He still hasn't found a job in engineering that he has been looking for.

I'm not sure what to do anymore. We spoke a bit yesterday and he sent me a silly link but I don't feel that I have his interest. He's not near the computer as much as he used to be either. He used to be around to speak with me all the time. I don't know how to go about this or regain his interest in me. Our major form of communication is instant messenger. He doesn't have texting on his phone. Some advice I have heard is to back off and not initiate any form of contact with him unless he does to show I don't care so much. I'm not sure if that's the right or wrong way to go about things.

How should I go about this? I know I need to re-attract him and rebuild an emotional connection but I'm unsure of the best way to go about it.

Thanks so much Brad! -Kathryn J.”

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“Relax And Adjust The Strategy…”

Brad Browning’s Reply To Question From Kathryn J.

“Hi there Kathryn!

You've got to continue with the no contact. No more instant messaging -- turn it off. I know it's difficult because you don't want to let him go (even as a friend), but you have to accept the fact that if you want him back, you have to let him go.

I would almost recommend uninstalling instant messengers.

To be honest, I really hate communicating by instant messenger, because the real life

interactions never live up to the "hype". Someone is always let down and it's just not an organic way to hold a relationship. Indeed, long distance relationships are hard, but there are better ways to communicate.

You need to just give some time for yourself to heal and to move on. Where are you going to in Japan? I've always wanted to go. Where are you working now? Have you been dating anyone else?

By now, you’ve probably realized the errors that you’ve made while you were in a relationship with him. Clearly, you displayed and conveyed far too much interest. Remember that early in a relationship, you have to take things slow and remain “mysterious” -- this is how you can keep your man interested.

So your plan for now is to remain in no contact. Don’t sign in for a very long time (and he will notice this). Don’t be surprised if he tries to contact you via e-mail in a few weeks wondering where you’ve been. Once this happens, we can plan something then!

Best of luck! -Brad B.”

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tempted to reach out to your ex… and working on all sorts of ‘self-improvement’ activities that will make you more attractive to your ex when you begin to re-establish communication with him.

Pick Up An Old Hobby (Or A New One!)

Is there something in the past that you really enjoyed doing that you no longer do anymore (for

whatever reason)? Relationships take up a lot of time. Surely there are a few activities that you probably dropped ever since you got together with your boyfriend.

If you don’t have anything in mind, pick up a new hobby! Whether it be hiking, painting, playing sports, photography, playing the oboe, go-karting, or traveling… do it! There is absolutely no better time than now to enjoy something you’ve always wanted to do. You might also make a new friend or two along the way!

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 55 You’re killing two birds with one stone when you do this. First, it’ll definitely help take your mind off things. And secondly, it’ll make you more attractive to the opposite sex.

Here are some tips to help you find some things you might enjoy doing!

1.) Go on Craigslist and find some activity partners – This is a great way to meet new people and have fun while you’re doing it! Have you ever gone rock-climbing? No? Well there’s definitely somebody on Craigslist that’s looking for a rock-climbing partner.

2.) Go on Facebook. Pay attention and you’ll find a ton of friends that are doing cool things. Join a local Facebook group and connect with people.

3.) Look up clubs and classes online. Hit up your local university or college and you’ll find an abundance of clubs. You’ll definitely find something that interests you. I just joined a pottery class and it’s a great way to meet some awesome people (seriously!).

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guitar? You can find local music teachers quite easily online… and they’re cheap! Some guitar teachers charge about $15/lesson… and they’re well worth it.

5.) Volunteer at a local charity or event. Is there a cause that is near and dear to your heart? Helping out the homeless? Donating blood? Puppy rescue? Maybe even volunteering at a retirement home! Doing great deeds definitely will

improve anyone’s mood, and not only that, you’ll be helping out some people while you’re at it!

(Volunteering is, in my opinion, the very best way to meet new people. After my first really big break up, I joined a local charity group and have been a member ever since! Personally, there’s nothing I find more satisfying than lending a helping hand to someone.)

Lean On Your Friends

Your friends have likely all been through a bad breakup, and if they’re decent people, they’ll be willing to help you get through this tough time.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 57 That doesn’t mean you should sit around and whine to them about how much you miss your ex. Not even the best of friends can stand that kind of misery for very long. But you should call your friends and hang out with them as much as possible. This will help keep your mind off your ex-boyfriend, especially during the No Contact period.

Start Exercising More

Most people that engage in physical activity on a regular basis agree that exercise improves their mood. Talk to anyone that swims, jogs, or hikes on a regular basis and they’ll all say the same thing:

“I love exercising, it makes me feel good about myself!” “Jogging makes me feel powerful and strong.”

“Working out helps me relieve stress.”

It’s very clear that exercising makes us feel better, but why? According to a 2009 issue of the “Journal of Neural Transmission,” there is direct link between exercise and that amount of dopamine and serotonin produced in the human brain.

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and Serotonin are neurochemicals that are responsible for regulating your mood, sleep pattern, cognition, and behavior. A healthy presence of Dopamine and

Serotonin in your brain will help you think more clearly and feel better. People that lack these chemicals in their brain often suffer from lack of motivation and depression.

When we exercise, the amount of these vital chemicals increase and we feel better, so if you want to actually improve your own mood, don’t do drugs or alcohol… instead, exercise!

Focus More Energy On Your Work

The worst thing you can do right now is being lazy and sleep all day. As much as you want to do this, it won’t help you improve your mood and it definitely won’t help you get your ex-boyfriend back.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 59 Is there a part of your career that you’re neglecting? Are you in school? Maybe you could concentrate on studying a little bit harder. Now is the perfect time to be spending a few extra hours at the office or at the library. You don’t want your breakup getting in the way of your work or school, as it will only add to your unhappiness.

What If No Contact is Physically Impossible?

This can sometimes happen if you two either work together or live together. Maybe you even have a child together. So how the heck do you handle that?

This will probably be the most difficult situation for you since, I’m sorry to say, you’re going to have to be forced to hide your emotions. The last thing you want to do is act like a wuss. You don’t want to convey to him that you’re insecure about the

breakup. You don’t want to be angry, jealous, and depressed because this will only lower your value in his eyes. Instead, make it seem like you’re content, like you actually thought the breakup was a good idea.

Minimize contact with him at all costs. Don’t outright ignore him, or he’ll think that you’re being immature about the whole situation. But, at the same time, don’t go out of your way to talk to him. Let him do all the work, and give him space.

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©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 60 Go out with friends a lot and don’t stay home too much. And whatever you do, don’t bring home another guy… this will only piss him off and he might even bring home another girl. This will turn into a vicious cycle and I can promise you it probably won’t end well.

If this is your case, this is going to be a tough, uphill battle especially if you’re working together and he’s flirting with other girls. Don’t let it get to you. Just pretend you don’t even care and that you’re not even listening. You’re in your own world!

One of the most important things to realize is that although it is painful to see your ex all the time, especially dating other people, you can actually turn this situation upside down and turn it into a good thing. The thing is, many people in your situation are dying to see their ex. Yet, you have a great excuse to actually see your ex on a regular basis – you can use this to your advantage. By showing your ex on a daily or weekly basis that you are happy without them and that you’re strong and emotionally stable, you’ll begin to turn the tides, and eventually, your ex will be more open to communicating with you.

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Featured Customer Coaching Question

“Help! I Still Live With My Ex…”

Question Sent By: Todd R.

“Hi Brad,

My ex and I broke up in late September. By the time we broke up she was pretty much indifferent to me, which is worse then being angry or upset. One big difference was that she really wants kids and I thought I didn't. I told her that if we were right for each other then I would have them with her but I was a little reluctant.

We had been going out for a year and half and she moved in with me in June, a few months before we broke up. It wasn't exactly as intense as moving in together. Basically I live in a big house with 4 bedrooms and one of our other roommates was moving out, so because she lived in a crappy apartment we had her take his room. She is still living with me as we are on

separate leases and we have a third roommate who is my friend from college. This has been difficult having to see her all the time and wonder if she is dating. For the most part I avoid her but we see each other around the house.

Overall I have done pretty good not getting too emotional as I think of her all the time, but I have had one or two times where I asked to get back together. Oops. As I said before she is pretty indifferent to me now and I want to somehow spark something and try and make something happen but I don't know how. Please Help!

Thanks, -Todd R.”

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“Relax And Adjust The Strategy…”

Brad Browning’s Reply To Question From Todd R.

“Hi Todd,

It's always a difficult situation when you’re living with your ex.

Yes, of course every program stresses no-contact because, after all, it is extremely important. But not as important as you sending her a message that you're indifferent, or that you’ve possibly moved on.

There are advantages to living with your ex. Number one is you can show her that you're dating around! Yes, this is an extreme measure and sounds counter-intuitive, but you have to let her know that droves of women are trying to date you. Hot ones, too. I know this isn't what you WANT to do, but if you want to get her back, you've got to play dirty sometimes.

So start dating around. Have fun, and bring some women home. Just have a good time around your roommates and her. Don't worry about her... and don't worry about offending her. You've probably been sending her so many body language signals that you still miss her... you can't do this. So you really need to step up and try and move on, work on yourself, and be a high-quality individual so that she WANTS to get back together with you.

Even something as little as inviting friends over and having a really good time is a great option. Reel her into a social interaction if possible and just have fun.

Try that for now, and see how she reacts. -Brad B.”

The Ex Factor

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The Comprehensive Guide To Getting Your Ex Back

Legal Reminders

Important Disclaimers

Table of Contents

Chapter 1

Chapter 1: Introduction

I’m Here To Help If You Need It

The Real Reason You’re Alone

Chapter 2

Chapter 2: Attractive Characteristics

Chapter 3

Chapter 3: Unattractive Characteristics

Featured Customer Coaching Question

“Have I Already Made Too Many Mistakes?”

“Take His Words With A Grain of Salt…”

Chapter 4

Chapter 4: Panic & Acceptance

Don’t Pressure Him

Some Good News

Chapter 5

Chapter 5: Start With ‘No Contact’

Why 31 Days?

“But I Can’t Wait That Long!”

What If You Broke Up A While Ago?

What If Your Ex Lives In Another City?

Featured Customer Coaching Question

“My Ex Lives Far, Far Away…”

“Relax And Adjust The Strategy…”

Pick Up An Old Hobby (Or A New One!)

Lean On Your Friends

Start Exercising More

Focus More Energy On Your Work

What If No Contact is Physically Impossible?

Featured Customer Coaching Question

“Help! I Still Live With My Ex…”

“Relax And Adjust The Strategy…”