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Welcome
I hope the above ‘Copyright’ and ‘Disclaimer’ have not upset the mood, to start you on your journey to cure premature ejaculation. They are, in our
litigious times, a necessary evil, to which I’m truly sorry for, if you found the tone sounds harsh.
On a more uplifting note I wish to say,
thank you
for your purchase, andwelcome to my book, your-cure to premature ejaculation. May it bring you the love life you’ve always wanted.
All designed to fit into your life. If you have all the time in the world to learn control, I’ll provide the perfect methods for you.
Likewise, if you have no-time at-all, you can still learn to out-last your lover in bed, without fail.
I know on outset, this seems unlikely, but you will be surprised, not just how
little you need to know to out-last her, every time. But also how easy it is to learn these techniques.
Some will take you less than an hour, no I’m not bull-sh*ting you!
You made the choice to purchase this book based on its contents, so I’ve no need to re-tell you, of all the valuable information that lies within.
But before you start on your journey to sexual ecstasy, I just wanted to reassure you that you have at-hand the most effective cures for premature
ejaculation that has ever been written.
So without further delay please read on and discover why this fact still
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Contents
Copyright ...2
Disclaimer...3
Welcome ...4
How To Navigate Through This E-Book ...5
Links through this book (◄this is a subheading) ...5
Contents...7
Acknowledgement ...15
What defines premature ejaculation? ...16
Will you ever have total control??? ...16
Forward ...18
Who is this book written for? ...18
How Can This Book Help? ...19
So much info but where do I start?...20
Do You Want Control Tonight?...20
Introduction...22
Documented Research...22
Contraception And Fertility ...23
Life In A Cave...23
Poor Jane...24
Good Morning Neanderthal ...25
So Why Bother Delaying...25
Realising Control ...28
To help get you started...32
The Dilemmas Of Rapidity ...37
Are You A Selfish Lover ...37
Mood Swing...38
What Can You DO? ...38
Pleasing Her ...39
I'm A Sinner...40
Dwelling On The Past...40
Did you actually come early?...41
Sexual Dysfunction ...41
Bare With Me...42
Natural Reaction...42
Sometimes You Just Lose It...43
Losing It With The Ladies ...44
Breathing For Control ...45
Proper Breathing ...49
Section 2...53
Condoms ...56
Delaying Ointment...59
PC Clamps ...62
What and where is the PC muscle?...63
Personally identifying your PC muscle...64
Weak PC Muscles ...65
Developing Your PC...66
Exercise 1 Beginner ...67
Exercise 2 Intermediate...67
Exercise 3 Intermediate (stage 2) ...67
Advanced Technique ...67
Advanced Technique (stage 2)...67
Problems with the exercise...68
One huge benefit to PC clamps ...69
Taoist ...70
Picture of Taoist Scrotum Pull ...71
Cock Rings ...72
Teenaged Sex...73
Teen Sex...73
First sexual encounters...74
Condoms, the obvious choice...74
Intimacy...75
Ways of introducing touching ...75
The right environment ...76
Are parents the problem ...76
Rapidity With Great Sex ...78
Female Orgasm ...78
This Isn't 'Rocket Science' ...79
Clitoral stimulation...80
What use is this to you?...80
30 Second Man...81
How she benefits ...82
Common Myth ...82
Don't lose sight of the truth ...83
Fighting the boredom ...83
Masturbation Before The Date...84
Low libidos ...84
Beneficial Relief ...84
Million Dollar Technique ...86
Rejuvenating Properties...86
Natures Way...87
Orgasm & Ejaculation ...87
What's Hyper Sensation?...88
How does it work? ...88
Picture of Pressure Point ...89
Using it...90
Picture of pressure point in use ...90
Now you've found it, so how do you use it?...91
Tips And Pointers For Practising...91
Blue Balls...92
Ultimate ‘Gold Coin’ ...92
Dealing With Masturbation ...93
Victorian beliefs ...93
Picture of Victorian Erection Preventative. ...94
Masturbation, the taboo...94
The changing church ...95
Sexual problems...95
Masturbation, accepted...96
Solo Control ...98
Why we need to know our 'Arousal Rate' ...98
Point of no return ...99
Step 2, Becoming aware of your arousal rate...100
Arousal Scale...100
Using your arousal knowledge to implement control...101
Greater Orgasm...101
Practising...102
Relapses ...102
How often should I practice?...103
Advanced control...103
Advanced control, the exercise ...104
It’s not as easy as you think!...104
Male and Female Arousal Graph...105
How to overcome this ...106
Graph Depicting Her Arousal Climbing ...107
So what is 'Stroking Yourself Down'? ...107
What can help you learn 'Stroking Down' ...108
How can we be sure this will work with a woman? ...108
So what can you do? ...109
How long should I practice? ...109
Practice With A Lover...110
Performance Pressure ...110
Preparing to begin ...110
Let’s Begin...111
Learning to recognise the sensations of arousal...112
Point of no return? ...112
Back to arousal awareness ...113
What's the point of this? ...113
Learning Control ...113
Varying Techniques...114
Essential Rapport ...115
Reasoning Behind The Exercise ...115
Benefits Of Lubrication...116
Exercise 2 'Preparing For Penetration' ...116
Preparation ...117
Picture of Her Sitting On You ...118
Picture of Her Vulva Sliding On Your Penis ...119
So this exercise limits sensation to it. ...120
No stimulation, no orgasm!...120
Practising...121
Precautions...121
Stroking Down ...122
Improving on Stroking Down...123
Precautions...124
Extra Exercise ...125
Penetration ...125
Straight to it ...126
Multi Orgasm ...128
The Benefits To Control...128
The nature of things ...128
The problems of finding reliable info... 129
My Experience ...130
First what is multi orgasm? ...131
Diagram of Natural Multi Orgasm ...132
The following similarly describes the way in which this pleasure presents its self...132
Diagram of ‘Whole Body Orgasm’ Compared to Normal Orgasm ...133
Ejaculation & Orgasm ...134
Separating Orgasm From Ejaculation...134
Great Sex ...135
How does it differ?...135
Give It A Go ...135
How Hard Should You Clamp ...136
Something Strange...137
Take It Slow ...138
Diagram of ‘Whole Body Orgasms’ Waves of Pleasure...139
Why We Feel So Tired After Ejaculation...139
Great After Effects Of Multi Orgasm...140
It’s A Hard Life...140
Practising With Your Lover ...141
Become Well Hung ...142
Retain Not Drain...142
Learning Multi On Your Own ...143
When Do You Stop ...143
Achieving Orgasm And Ejaculatory Separation Without Trying ...143
Now That’s Exemplary Control ...144
Pushing Out For Control...145
Outline Of This Chapter ...145
Introducing the Exercise ...145
PC Muscle Description...146
Now What Was That That About ...147
Opposite To A PC Clench ...147
Urination Is The Key...147
The Muscle In Question ...148
Defining The Push Out Muscles ...148
Practising ‘Push Outs’...149
Learn When To Use It...150
Using It With Your Woman ...150
Filling The Sensation Gap...152
It’s Not Their Fault...152
A Lack Of Libido...153 This is a problem...153 Logical Progression ...154 Visual Stimulation ...155 Increasing Stimulation ...155 Adult Entertainment ...156 Physical Sensation...157 Sexual Stimulators...158
Thrusting To Delay ...161
The Obvious ...161Vaginal Facts That Make A Difference ...162
Using these facts to our advantage in a simple thrusting technique ...162
Picture of Rocking Backwards and Forwards Motion...163
Using This Thrusting Method ...164
Being On Top ...164
Picture of Missionary Lift...167 Missionary Lift...168 Gyrate ...168 Caution ...169 Is She Dry ...170 9 By 1 ...170
Here we go, the technique... ...170
Oral Technique ...172
A Great Skill To Have ...172
Female Arousal ...172
It’s Not Her Fault ...173
So, let’s get straight to it...173
Where To Next? ...175
Don't try and follow exactly what I reveal here...176
The Vulva ...177
Tongue That Kiss...177
Her Lips...178
The Long Lick...178
Caught Up In The Act ...178
Near Orgasm ...179
Alphabet Technique ...180
The Problems Of Oral Sex...181
Tips And Techniques ...182
During Intercourse ...182
Important Fact OF The PC Muscle ...183
Masturbation, The Ultimate Curse ...183
Libido Too High...184
Changing your perception ...184
Combination Techniques ...185
'Billy' Our Scenario ...185
Simply Drive Her Wild...187
Lets Her-Self Go? ...187
A Crafty Aphrodisiac ...188
Too Hot To Handle ...190
The Responsibility Of Control...190
Lubrication...191
Combination Techniques 2 ...192
Stress...193
Tip Of The Day ...193
Failure Is Not An Option ...194
Farewell & Good Luck...196
Extra cash...197
Bibliography Plus Extra Reading...198
Acknowledgement
I would like to dedicate this book to my loving partner Tanya, who without I wouldn’t have completed this book. She makes me happy, and puts up with all my whining and moaning, and every other unbearable idiosyncrasy I possess.
She continued to encourage me with unwavering support and faith in my ability to produce such a book, when others only looked on with disdain and
supreme scepticism. So I would like to thank her from the bottom of my
heart.
This e-book is also dedicated to those of you who do more than just read this publication,
What defines premature ejaculation?
Foremost, before the forward and intro, I would like to identify exactly what we mean by ‘Premature Ejaculation’, as it’s paramount to this publication.
I define premature ejaculation as the inability to delay your orgasm. Whether this is after one second, or one hour. It has nothing to do with time, just your ability to influence when you orgasm.
A few definitions of P.E. Of which none are incorrect.
• Someone who self diagnoses them-selves as having a problem,
• Comes within a certain amount of time
• Feels he cannot last as long as his partner
• Cannot last as long as he wants
• Can last as long as he wants when masturbating but fails to last when he's with a partner
A infamous sex researcher Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey, in 1948 studied 5300 American men and 5940 white females from a selected variant of groups, and found that three quarters of males reached orgasm within 2 minutes after vaginal entry, and over 70% of woman lasted 3 to over 5 times longer with
20% lasting over 10 minutes after penetration.
Alfred speculated that this was a frequent source of marital conflict.
Will you ever have total control???
Total control is something different. This is control any time, any place, anywhere. Which isn't possible, as outside influences affect us, stress fatigue etc... No ones infallible as we’re not perfect. So don't even attempt this level of control. It’s not possible.
Most of us just want the ability to last a few minutes longer, or to reduce the amount of times we don't last as long as our ladies. It’s all down to the amount of time and effort that you put into the subject that defines what you get out of it. So diligence pays off in the long run.
Just to contradict what I just wrote above. Great control is possible. Yes it’s possible to last for hours, etc. But what I meant above, is that every-ones human. 100% perfection therefore can only be the stuff of dreams. Off days, bad days, stressful days all reduce this 100% etc...
This book was designed to ensure you have enough info to make you as
competent at controlling ejaculation as humanly possible. Even on those off days etc...
Forward
The cures you'll be learning are specifically designed to relieve you from this undesirable affliction, in the simplest and fastest way possible.
Composed over 6yr's, 3yr's of research and another 3yr's of writing. This time has allowed me to include many cures you will simply not find anywhere else.
All these cures are compiled into this simple D.I.Y guide you see before you. So you can become the confident lover you always knew you could be, with the greatest of ease.
Who is this book written for?
It’s written for you and all other men who want better control over when they ejaculate.
From the man who comes the moment he feels his lovers warm moist vaginal lips around his penis, to the man who can last all night, and just wants some tips for one of those off days. Also helping the lover who wants to last that bit
longer. So he can share in the intimate bonding experience of always
culminating at the same time as his lover, while learning to naturally delay.
Being a rapid comer is contrary to sexual pleasure. The longer you last, the more pleasure you’ll derive from sex, and you’re then more able to please your lover.
This books dedicated to not only over-coming P.E but also to intensifying sexual pleasure, which just happens to be a by-product of what's taught within.
But remember what we’re trying to attain is choice. At the moment you may feel you don't have control over your ejaculate. When you do, you will have created a choice for yourself. The choice of how long you want to last. Whether this becomes is a 2 minute quickie, or an all-out 2 hour marathon.
As you know choices are what we value, and allow us to live our lives the way we desire, and to not have control, over when we ejaculate, is an infringement on our liberty to have that choice. So what we are trying to do with this book is restore our liberty and re-attain our choice, which presents us with freedom from, what can be an overwhelming complex.
How Can This Book Help?
This books made up of many independent cures divided into exercises and tips, which once learnt (some will take you under an hour to learn, others take months) provide you with a broad range of ways in which to overcome
premature ejaculation, and improve your sexual experiences.
(This book has been written to be easily understood by all, so in some areas you may find sections over described.)
These exercises are comprised of physical and mental exercises that train your body and mind, for an all round combined approach. As both of these areas (body and mind) need addressing to provide you with the best chance of
success.
Since you have purchased this book you are under the assumption that you can gain control over your ejaculation. Well, I'm here to tell you you’re correct. The cure rate for premature ejaculators is around the 99% mark, and the causes are not normally health issues.
Which tells you that you’re exceedingly likely to gain complete control over your ejaculation, with the help of this book, in a way that naturally reconditions the body to react to your wishes. But also includes tips and other exercises that are easier and faster to learn, that can help you get by on an off day; while you’re learning.
You may even find that just these ‘tips’ full-fill your control needs for the rest of your life. The level of control you choose to learn is entirely up to you, and that was the goal with this book. To provide a broad based D.I.Y. guide to cater for as many people as possible.
Be warned, an extreme pessimistic approach to this book will only reap bad results, as this is the attitude of some one who gives up. Where a more
optimistic person will understand that some things take time, and sticks to them, knowing the beneficial outcome.
The total length of this book is around 55 thousand words. That’s why I want to make it clear for those of you reading with misgivings, surrounding a book with such content. That the information within all these chapters is of the highest quality. So don't go digging for that golden chapter where I hid the all my treasured cures. That made crossing my palm with silver worth its weigh in diamonds. Because there isn't one. Why...
Because it’s all good, gems are scattered throughout every chapter. There isn't a ‘tip’, ‘technique’ or ‘exercise’ here, that doesn't cut the mustard. Which is why I wrote this book. Because I know there's call for it.
But there's more too it than this. This book gives you the choice of what techniques to learn, and was written for the man needing tips for his date tonight. All the way up to the man who wants a control so defined, he doesn't even have to think about lasting, any-time he makes love.
This is all written in a way in which anyone can understand and interpret for maximum effect to elimination you ailment.
So much info but where do I start?
At the beginning, please read the ‘Introduction’ and this ‘Forward’ but then what? Well, it’s all good, so I would work your way through, from cover to cover as I've arranged the chapters in a reasonable order of progression...
Do You Want Control Tonight?
...But this doesn't sound too helpful for the man wanting control tonight, as time is of the essence, and you won’t be able to read and take in all the info from this book, in one day. So for him I would suggest reading chapters entitled
‘Tips and Techniques’ as well as ‘Thrusting To Delay’, ‘Pushing Out For Control’
and ‘Masturbation Before The Date’.
Please understand that there is more to this book than the above stated chapters, and these chapters are the most beneficial for some-one eager to gain more control over their ejaculation tonight. But you'll be missing out if you only read these few chapters. Why, because they don't build natural subconscious control, like more in-depth techniques and knowledge will. But these take more time and fill you with infinitely more pleasure. (It’s well worth it)
These advanced techniques also improve your orgasmic power, meaning far more powerful orgasms, which means you can turn every sexual encounter into what it should be. A blissful engorgement of ecstatic pleasure, intertwining both your soles. Without any inbuilt pressure, and concerns regarding performance.
Once you learn a technique, you will understand that it can be easily
integrated with other techniques, to build exceptional control, maybe even using other techniques as a back up. A description of combined techniques can be found in ‘Tips And Techniques’. But in order to understand this conjunction you
will have to of experience these techniques for yourself.
You are in control of what techniques you use, and every ones different. So if you find a technique, tip etc doesn't agree with you, and then you have the option of discarding it in favour of another. You are essentially becoming your own therapist.
Now please read through the rest of the book. Every chapter describes a different technique. You will see that every chapters pretty much self contained, with all the relevant info on how to use the specific technique. So preventing any backwards and forwards referencing, which you might find confusing.
This is why some paragraphs reflect paragraphs from previous chapters. This was thought to be best, as I would think you will try one technique then a few days or weeks later, read another. It might be a good idea to have a notebook handy, so you can jot down key points of exercises you’re looking into. Good luck and have fun trying all the different cures.
Introduction
The need to ejaculate is an innate expedient urge that fills us with great euphoric pleasure and stems from within us. We are unique in the animal kingdom as we have no mating season and unlike our nearest species (primates/apes) cannot discern when the female of our species ovulates.
In most encounters the need to ejaculate is not the same urge as found in the rest of the animal kingdom. Our need is normally “to get of”, and in most cases, a lust-full erotic desire to immerse our-selves in rapturous pleasures of the flesh with orgasm as our goal.
In any other species coition (having sex) is used only for procreation. Only chimps have been thought to engage in sexual activities merely for pure pleasure but this has only rarely been observed, and is a relatively new discovery. Normally thought, they too only coition to procreate.
Human sex is almost the exact opposite to animals, as we are normally looking for the pleasure and joy and rarely engage with the intention to procreate. Which is totally contrary to our masses as a species, as we are the most dominant species on this planet and of-course there is only one way we all came into being, and that was the coupling of our parents. But look at it this way, how many kids does the average family have? It’s around 2, compare that to all the times a person copulates during their lives.
Documented Research
Based on the figures by Dr. Alfred C. Kinsey, the foremost renowned sex researcher. Who published data in 1948 pertaining to men’s sexual behaviour and in 1953 wrote the equivalent for women. Using 5300 men and 5940
women from various social groups.
His research concluded that frequency of marital coitus was 2.8 times per week in late teens and 2.2 times per week by age 30 and 1 time per week by age 50. I loosely based a calculation on these figures to come up with 6531.2 copulations per average person.
Now for the sake of theorising, give the average family two kids, during their lives, we now have a ratio of 1 kid for every 3265.6 sexual encounters.
the rest of nature’s averages are far superior in the procreation stakes. Pulling averages of 1 to 1, procreation to copulation and for many species, copulation literally only lasts a few seconds but they may have offspring every year. This makes our 3265.6 to 1 look exceedingly poor.
Contemporary human kind, as a whole embrace sex normally for the pleasure encountered, unlike animals, whose methods differ to procreation.
Any animal would off become long extinct if they had a birth ratio anything like ours. But obviously we employ contraceptive measures to prevent
impregnation, for a good reason. We don't want to get our women pregnant. Seems to be some-what contrary to the greater good and survival of our species.
In our continually more stable environment, if we choose to, we can bear young, and profit from all the advancements of medical science, which help to inform, comfort and alleviate any complications encountered along the way.
All these human advancements and endeavours ensure a good survival rate, for our young. These plus societies structure, reinforce the chances of offspring living to an age to bear young and survive to live out their natural life span.
Contraception And Fertility
Contraception is the main reason we have such a low fertility rate and the fact that humans mainly copulate with hedonistic intentions being the main reason. But I believe the roots of copulation in early man to be primarily to procreate.
This is one theory that I hold dear. Primitive man had the same animal instincts and lust for sex, that we have today, although we have somewhat surpassed them. But the functions of these desires were to ensure impregnation, and are a necessary inbuilt design to ensure the continuation and survival of our species.
Life In A Cave
Another theory that joins onto the tail of this one is that in order for cave men
"A"(our ancestor) to impregnate gave girl "B", Lets theoretically call them Jim
Jane's orgasm (by design) could not happen before Jim's. Why?
Cause if she culminated before him, she might try and end the sexual
encounter prematurely. Causing our friend Jim's efforts to impregnate Jane, to end in failure.
This could cause our species dire consequences. Our numbers could drastically decline in this primitive age, and our species could end up declining to be just part of history failures, and we might no longer exist. If you study nature, you can see the function/purpose in natures design...
Why are fish so smooth? To facilitate easy travel through the water. Why are flowers Coloured? So bees and other insects can find them easier, to ensure a greater chance of pollination. Looking at things in this Darwin way and the above theory starts to make sense.
Poor Jane
So in order to ensure impregnation, and the continual survival of our species, Jane is left wanting, in need of satisfying, and because of this wanting has not repelled Jim to-get him off her but Jim (our hero) has done his job, and for the success of our species, came quick, to ensure a greater chance of impregnating Jane.
Jim's rapid-ness also ensured he wasn't kept too long, in a compromising position, where he could not easily defend him-self, in case of attack but this I believe, was of secondary importance.
Of course we are no longer cave men but this is more of a mental knowledge based development then a physical one. We are essentially the same physically as these primitive people. It’s just that we walk around in suits instead of animal skins, and have a well developed infrastructure and society. These are our main differences.
But as in the cave man era, these developments suffice to ensure the
continual survival of our species, as does any species instincts, and at the fore-front of these is the instinct to procreate, and the ability to do this in the best way suited to the survival of our species, and for men this is still to come quickly, to ensure insemination.
Good Morning Neanderthal
We are still essentially cave men, and therefore it is an asset that we come quickly, and so not a dysfunction; inability; hindrance; or malfunction. But instead an asset to our species and a sign that your tackle and your brain are functioning A-ok, and as they should be.
I firmly believe that signing off this as a sexual dysfunction, is just
scaremongering among therapists (or perhaps they don't understand) to make you feel inferior. This helps open your wallet to their cures. These tactics are ever so present in our society today. But again, this too, is a survival tactic.
So Why Bother Delaying
So why do we feel the need to delay if this ability is one of the fundamental reasons for our success as a species?
Well, times have changed and our lives are more hedonistic than ever. The sexual urge that ensured procreation, and allowed us to become the most dominant species our planet has ever come across, has reached a turning point in parts of the world, mainly in more civilised cultures, where woman have reached and undergone a sexual revolution in which they have found, that they too, can become sexually fulfilled and enjoy orgasm, and explore the delights of their bodies, and the sensual and sexual world.
Most of western cultural sex research was undertaken in the twentieth century in which doctors studied their hypothesis that women could actually orgasm, as they were mystified by this belief, as they didn't understand why a woman should. They did not believe it served a purpose. Concluding the idea of "pleasure" being the function, unsatisfactory. Now we understand that this is part of the mating game, and to do with function.
Eastern sexual understanding from 1000 years ago still surpasses our own in many respects. You have all heard of Tantric sex. Which is basically, an
understanding of the body in which they believed sexual pleasure to be medicinal in value, having healing properties.
As far as I can tell this has not been fully explored by western medical fields, as western medicine has a certain contempt and jealousy for ancient eastern medicine.
Tantric sex reveals an understanding of male and female orgasm, and although based on a disciplined culture, reveals quite a hedonistic approach to sex, divulging great insight.
Most western women today crave pleasure in their lives as well as their sex lives. As men we now feel the need to satisfy our lovers, as that's what they of-course desire. We as men now feel great pride in overcoming our innate rapidity, as we are more able to satisfy our loved ones, as on average women need
longer stimulation than men to reach orgasm.
This also fills us with a feeling of worth and competence. As we feel the need to satisfy to justify our ladies, desiring for our-selves. As one man put it "if I feel everything is going well in the bed room, I feel invincible in all other areas of my life"
We all know there is more to it than that. Making love is an intimate bonding experience in which delay is only part of the equation.
Knowledge of your partner’s body is essential in giving and receiving pleasure, and the more knowledge we possess, the more able we are to gratify her and please yourself.
One of the fundamental flaws in some woman's interpretation of men’s rapidity is that he has done this out of self gratification without any concern for his lover’s feelings, wants or needs. This stems from the basis of female
understanding of their own orgasm, in which they, in most circumstances have good control in delaying their own orgasm.
This provides us with another basis in which we feel in need to delay our orgasm, as not to be labelled as selfish and self centred. Creating a more
harmonious relationship in which your ability will provide your woman with great joy.
Unfortunately we will have to over-come our common traits with Jim our successful impregnation stallion of a primitive-man, to greatly assist in being the lover of her life. This can only heighten yourself esteem and improve your life.
As is, our culture now thrives on sexual ecstasy. Look at the amount of literature devoted to the whole spectrum of this topic, if in doubt.
You no longer have to full-fill you innate built in rapidity. As one of the reasons we are such a dominant species, is our unique level of ability to adapt
and over-come adversity.
So by design, we have the ability to adapt and change our level of control to one personally bespoke to you. Thus changing things round to suit our selves. Adaptation is our prerogative, and you have taken the first and most important step in altering your level of control which was by design, uncontrollable.
Therefore you can turn your level of control from non existent to a level of natural ability. Which means you won’t even have to think about delaying once you’ve completed the exercises within this book. Because control can be taught to become as natural as caveman Jims rapid ability is to him.
Realising Control
This chapter will help prevent and at least greatly reduce over excitement that's induced by your partner’s naked body. By changing your focus so that you can naturally last longer. I would recommend reading this chapter before trying any other cures.
Coming early leads you to worry. Lifting anxiety to the fore-front of your next sexual encounter. This creates more worry which creates more performance anxiety, and so the vicious circle continues.
All I can say is you’re not perfect and many factors will influence your control, most women know that men falter, so it’s no big deal. If you are understandably nervous, use your skills as a lover, to turn her on to a high degree before
penetration. She is far less likely to last as long if you can greatly stimulate her before hand.
One of my friends once said to me;
"I new I wasn't going to last long so went down on her first".
After this sexual encounter he appeared with a smile on his face and later, emerged one sexually fulfilled lady. You could tell by the grin on her face, she obviously had no complaints.
Worrying too much about how well you’re doing and that you’re not perfect, can be sensed by your partner, as you won’t be 100% in-tune with the
experience. If she feels you’re not fully involved in the experience, she can be easily turned off. This may spoil her mood and undoubtedly affect her ability to also relax, and therefore put her off the experience.
Making love is supposed to be a sensual experience shared between two people, rather than a choreographed routine, it’s about enjoying the moment and going with the flow that connects you both.
Encounters such as these can cause sexual frustration and abstinence to build between couples. This promotes other problems. The first is you’re likely to come quickly next time you have sex, because of lack of sex. The other is sexual tension, which arises because of these periods of abstinence.
self inflicted pressure leads to other problems and is one of the main causes of impotence.
Practising good sex does of course, not just refer to intercourse. There is a certain nervousness associated with a new partner’s naked body, and a need to know how each other enjoys being touched. Put simply, it’s a learning curve.
Fortunately I have a great exercise that not only helps you in these problematic areas but also teaches you how to stimulate your lover during foreplay.
The awareness of each others naked bodies, while not being caught up in intercourse, (which removes some sexual tension) creates a different
atmosphere from that of intercourse, promoting comfort between the two of you, in your nakedness. As for many couples being naked together is only something achieved in the heat of passion.
If during this exercise you or your partner are not totally comfortable with their body at first, you always have the option to cover ones self and shield their nakedness so repressing their insecurity. This can be simply achieved by turning the lights off; getting undressed under cover; keeping some clothes on; or quickly shielding yourself with your partner’s body etc... Which you can do when making love, if this insecurity persists.
Unfortunately this kind of worry promotes minimal foreplay, and as we know foreplay is powerful way to arouse your lover. This attitude also breeds
repetitiveness in sex, with minimal or no diversity. Sex can then get boring as most of the fun has been taken out of it.
In these circumstances, as you can see this 'complex' is quite a hindrance to what could be a healthy, fun and joyful sex life. This attitude can often lead to the end a relationship. In this situation, it was not what he looked like, or
anything to do with his personality. But the fault of this overriding complex that prevented a healthy relationship from growing, instead letting it stagnate.
So don't fear your nakedness, embrace it. But things aren't that simple. If you have such a complex, sex becomes something to fear, and not lust for. This leads to infrequency which again builds more apprehension. Becoming one vicious circle, in which negativity becomes associated with intimacy.
For some of us, the female body brings uncontrollable levels of excitement, meaning foreplay can topple us over the edge.
In the movie "American Pie" there is a scene in which the star of the film has an attractive lush lovely sexually flirtatious lady in his room. Unfortunately his excitement was too much for him, and he wasn't aware how turned on he was. Until impending orgasm came upon him. The arousal from this encounter overloaded him with so much excitement that he lost his awareness of his arousal. If you’re not aware of it, how can you control it???
In fact there is a way of learning to control our excitement while experiencing sexual pleasure. This is the same exercise I would prescribe to couples who are timid, shy and insecure about sharing their bodies with another.
Bear in mind that it’s only really your partner that will see you naked, and if you find the warmth and closeness of each others bodies appealing, then you should not have a problem with your body. My partner and I, are not models, and don't have a model like physique, with all over tans etc but we do desire and appreciate, and most importantly lust after each other. We have no problem being naked with each other. Therefore we both enjoy an uninhibited love life.
The following exercise is exceptionally fun and enjoyable in helping you come to terms with your body and helps you learn how to touch your partner. Benefits also include maintaining and creating a healthy relationship that I would advise any couple to occasionally integrate into their love life.
All you need is a willing partner. Emphasise the benefits of the exercise and spend time on making her feel good and she's likely to come around, and have any concerns alleviated.
Dr. Alfred Kinsey reviewed foreplay times in his study. He found that 20% of us experience less than 3 minutes of foreplay. Which is not the best way to explore each others bodies, as you should take time to learn your partner’s body. This can be an exceedingly enjoyable bonding experience.
The difference between this exercise and foreplay is the genitals including breasts are completely off limits. This totally contradicts normal foreplay
behaviour, and will help you learn how to give and receive pleasure, and explore each others bodies, which is a great experience.
Non genital touch also removes pressure to perform, reducing anxiety, and any stimulation that will tip you over the edge, as seen in the teen film
"American Pie".
You will not only learn each others bodies but become accustom to their nakedness. Since you will be focusing on pleasing your partner, you'll
automatically be in different frame of mind form that of intercourse. This can be used to control arousal to great success.
Communication is developed between the two of you, whether this is verbal or bodily. This provides you with a good insight into your partners tell tale signs of pleasure or displeasure. This is of great advantage during all erotic and sexual encounters. Once learned the skills attained in this exercises should be utilised during sensual contact.
Reading your partner is an essential tool in realizing their likes and dislikes. If this skill is properly mastered, you will be able to initiate spontaneous sex, and highly arouse your partner before penetration takes place.
The problem with taking part in this exercise is it’s normally routinely
scheduled, which removes spontaneity. So try to incorporate more touching and pleasuring into your lives. While doing this take note of your partner’s reactions, as they are the key to how well they are received.
Particularly important are the signs you personally give off. Ensure you’re in a good mood as this will rub off on your partner but be ware as the opposite is also true, and therefore she won’t want your attention, and so will give off negative signs.
Talk to your partner after you have spent time together, either on the topic of sex or on your non genital play/touching exercise. Find out and share your thoughts on the experience. A common problem in relationships is the failure to properly communicate around areas of intimate moments and sexual thoughts. So build up to it gradually. Listen and respond kindly, always be aware of your partner’s feelings. The words that come out of your month will affect her.
Spontaneity as well as planned or thought events should come into this exercise. Remember this is about discovery, so think about what you would like to do. Repeat stuff that works, note what each other dislikes. Each union should be used to expand your knowledge. Basically anything goes, except genital touching including nipples (no touching) at-least at first. There are so many other areas of the body to concentrate on. So I suggest leaving her breasts alone for the time being.
To help get you started...
Try the following, and then expand from it.
Much pleasure can be had by undressing each other. Kissing during, will surely set a connecting affectionate frame of mood and mind.
Try giving each other a back massage at first, and then once this has been mastered, massage the whole body and explore the far reaches of her body. Use
aromatherapy oils to help relax and increase the sensation. Once you have massaged her, reverse the role, either in this session or the next.
Massage is a great way to become comfortable with each others bodies as you can cover most of the body with a sheet or towel, and slowly become accustom to your, or her nakedness, if either if you are shy. You’re trying to achieve a relaxed state of mind, where you’re uninhibited regarding your body.
Incorporating kissing into the massage increases sexual tension and arousal, and gives you a great insight to how to delight and lengthen foreplay like a great lover.
Don't just massage the back although that's ok at first. Massage the legs arms front, neck shoulders, knees, back of knees etc... Try every part of the body except genitalia. If you find it hard to concentrate or your partner feels slightly vulnerable, make sure you comfort her with the fore-mentioned sheet/towel, which can be slowly removed at a pace set by both of you.
Kissing is essential, and the most exercised foreplay technique, so include it in your sessions. As with the massage, explore. You will be surprised how sensitive certain areas of the body are to kissing. Number 2 being the tender skin at the back of the knees, and the small of the back.
You will find that a natural confidence builds between the two of you, and soon you'll be totally used to seeing your partner naked, which will remove that dreaded over excitement, that brings us to failure so quickly, like in "American Pie". So you will gain a natural control by performing this exercise.
By this time a natural confidence will have built to baring your all, and any shallow depths of physical attraction will have been overshadowed in favour of the knowledge regarding depth of communication and pleasures you both can give to one another.
you will naturally find yourself trying to please her in bed, and find your attitude has hopefully changed from wanting to "get off" to one of giving and receiving pleasure.
This is by far one of the best cures of P.E. As your mind is a very powerful thing, which controls your arousal. This is not to be over looked. If you focus on giving pleasure you'll find, you have changed your desire from the following scenario:
Trying to delay but in-fact really wanting that orgasm. (Sound familiar)
This created conflict inside you, as your trying to fight this paradox. But if you actually focus throughout making love, on pleasing your lover, you'll be
surprised how easily this focus removes this inner conflict, and allows you to please her, which has a natural way of delaying your orgasm.
This is a mind technique. That naturally changes your thought pattern. So focus on her body, and throughout this exercise and regular intercourse, try to concentrate on only her pleasure.
Think, what will she like now? How can I make this feel better for her, continually throughout intercourse, and constantly check up on your assumptions, and you've almost got it.
To give you an example; when you’re thrusting, look for her signals. Ask yourself how much is she enjoying this? If I move slightly different, will she feel more pleasure? Then try it, and note her reaction. But we’re not just talking thrusting here. We include every aspect of making love, touching, kissing, caressing, the way you grab her breast etc...
But most importantly, don't focus on your own pleasure; concentrate on hers the whole time. Don't let this attitude waver to your own pleasure, even for a second, and this will work for you.
Your new found confidence that builds from competence within this exercise will filter down to other areas of your life ensuring a happier existence for both of you. Have you ever seem those challenges on TV. At the beginning of the challenge people seem to be overcome with insecurity and nerves.
If they achieve their first task, their nerves disappear and they embrace the next challenge and suddenly believe they can do anything. Especially if they believed they would not accomplish the first task. Well the same philosophy
applies here!
Remember this is your time, so don't have the TV on or any other distractions around you. Both of you should be concentrating on only what feels good and (this is important) everyday hassles and worries should be left at the door. If you feel your first session went badly, talk with your partner and ascertain why this happened. These troubles could be essential in solving as they also interfere with your sex life as well as the rest of your life, and contribute if not cause P.E.
Many couples find it hard to relax, with time you should learn this skill, take your time. Most of all, be persistent with your sessions. All things take time so why should this be any different? Don't push things and try to relax.
I suggest you schedule one hour for these sessions, twice per week. If that's not possible you must practice at least once per week but the more the better.
Caressing each others naked bodies will come to you naturally, and if
insecurity is an issue for you take every thing in small steps, as you will be less likely to quit if you’re enjoying the exercise.
One simple step I would suggest that I've already mentioned surrounding your nakedness is, for the first few times, to undress with the lights off, as this breaks being naked into a small step, that eliminates the visual vulnerability often felt which leads to anxiety and builds unwanted pressure.
Remember to keep your genitals away from each other at first, and only once you have completely covered caressing and are at an accomplished and
comfortable state can you entertain into genital touching foreplay.
Treat the genitals like you have the rest of the body. See what works, play with the area around them, and be adventurous. Don't do the norm. This is discovery time, and your old routine should not play any part in it.
Abstain from touching the genitals until after a quarter to half an hour, so you ensure you use what you have learned and go into the sexual experience with a controlled mind. In which you can monitor your arousal, and interject the mind set of giving and receiving pleasure, rather than only wanting to "get off".
This is such a powerful foreplay method, as you will be able to turn your lover on and know exactly what buttons to hit, in order to highly arouse her, because you have learned how to. This greatly reduces how long she lasts during
One of the best ways to practice foreplay is to use the massage approach mentioned earlier, in which one receives and the other gives pleasure. This allows you to monitor better, your partner’s responses, and when it’s your turn to receive attention, learn to monitor your arousal. This understanding of your arousal, rising and falling is one of the keys to overcoming rapidity without control, and is taught in another chapter.
Learning to recognise your arousal would be a great exercise to induce in foreplay, as higher levels of stimulation via your partner can be slowly
introduced, and you'll find that you can build a great level of arousal awareness. This awareness is what is used to implement other techniques that are found later in the book, so is therefore a great fun and enjoyable foundation to begin with. The more fun, the less chance you will give up.
Remember touch is a very important part of a relationship and should not be reserved just for this exercises. Touching each other should go on throughout your lives together.
Once you feel comfortable with this exercise try some others in this book.
Sexual intercourse throughout this programme can be detrimental to your progress, if not following a long foreplay session. As old habits can easily creep back in and take hold of your attempts to gain control.
Unfortunately this exercise can not be carried out by the single man. Please don't despair as I have an exercise especially for you. This exercise is devised to prelude intercourse, and gain you control over your arousal rate, so pleasure, and the need to "get off" doesn't take over and distract you from implementing control.
For singles more so than men in a relationship, the detrimental effect of masturbation can bring back old habits, and destroy the control achieved. So restrain from quickies, as their counter productive to the good work you put in. If possible use exercises from ‘Solo Control’ as It will be more pleasurable, and offer a more gradual and controlled build up to orgasm rather than a
uncontrolled rapid release, which although greatly satisfying cannot compare to the feeling of a properly controlled orgasm.
This exercise can also be applied to the man with a greater libido than his lover, if he needs a release. As this reduces your libido to a more controllable level, that would otherwise leave you stranded in an explosive state, without any means of control.
Remember that you are learning your partner’s body and that this exercise can instigate diversity into your sex life which would not have been thought-of before. This is basically your personal foundation course in foreplay. Note the last part of the word foreplay (play) for that's exactly what you should be doing. In play you can try new things, which might bring an exciting new dimension to your sex life. After all, who wants routine sex?
The Dilemmas Of Rapidity
A partner that can sexually satisfy his woman will experience or is more likely to experience sexual favours in return, which will help bring about a healthy sexual relationship devoid of anxiety. The good feeling that’s created by your ability as a lover will emanate throughout your life. Greatly affecting your natural confidence. One man said "if everything is ok in the bed room, then I feel invincible in everything else I do"
His statement hits the heart of how confidence and our general well being are affected by our performance as a lover.
The feeling of sexual competence can change a man’s life, from being repressed and feeling inferior to confident with an inner sense of well being.
This simple yet hindering problem can bring about self loathing, anxiety and a totally flattened self esteem.
Are You A Selfish Lover
Some women don't understand this problem and resign us to being self
centred and self gratifying uncaring men without any thought of satisfying them, and take it as a personal insult that a man is not willing to wait for them, and believe as a consequence he doesn't care for their feelings.
These women base this view point from their own perspective, as we all do when judging, and forming opinions. This is based on the fact that they do not understand that men by design come quickly.
Women also possess a substantially greater ability to control their orgasm. Some can delay easily at will. Therefore base this resentment on their pre-conception that they can easily delay, so men should also be able to.
What they fail to realise is it is men’s design is to convey semen to the entrance to the cervix as quickly as possible, and they (women) have natural delaying tendencies so insemination can be completed.
Men in delaying are performing an unnatural task that goes against any species (including our own) design and instinct to survive, and this is why it can be so difficult to delay.
This type of criticism can cause a man great anxiety. Some women, like men are really stubborn so wont listen to reason and unfortunately you can’t get through to some of these people.
These women don't understand that men normally feel tired and often segregated from their partner after they have come.
Mood Swing
In fact after culmination a man feels such a rapid change in mood, from ecstasy to lethargy, accompanied by an after feeling of detachment from his partner, that's completely opposed to how he felt before his orgasm.
This after orgasm mood swing leaves us with such a come down, that a man who came before he wished often finds it hard to continue pleasing his partner, with any enthusiasm, which can further depress this man.
His intention was not to displease his partner, quite the opposite but the sudden mood swing and discomfort felt after orgasm hindered his commitment to giving her pleasure. Women can often sense this lack of desire, and this can often understandably prevent them from coming leaving them felt used. It’s not your fault; it’s also not their fault.
What Can You DO?
If your lady believes you’re a selfish lover, then ensure you tell her otherwise. If it helps, show her this passage, so she knows you’re trying to overcome this problem. She's more likely to believe your problem if it appears doctrine. Many women will appreciate this.
Many men try to cover the problem, by orally stimulating a woman to a high degree before penetration. This is a great idea as only 20% of women come with just vaginal stimulation. But these men might still feel inadequate.
Women sometimes try to be sympathetic to our poor control, and to comfort, utter phrases like;
Which most men don't want to hear and is often read as
"I failed"
The male ego is a fragile thing, and unfortunately easily tarnished and bruised.
Unfortunately this is one of the main reasons we want to have the ability to last for hours. It also makes us feel confident and self assured leaving us with a great persona. Why is this true? Because sex is an emotional roller coaster, that leaves us in a state of ecstasy and feeling of "being a man" when we get it
right, and on the flip side, can have detrimental, and severe negative effects.
As mentioned this is our design and unfortunately for us and our women, the norm. Fortunately we can re-build our confidence, ego, charisma and feeling of worth while removing all the negative effects, with diligent effort and the right info behind our endeavour.
Couples make love in all manner of different ways. If you use minimal foreplay and always seem to come quick, there is a definite need to try
something new. You may be regarded as a selfish lover, if you’re so wound up in your own failure that you fail to consider your partners needs. Well it’s time to change and consider!
Pleasing Her
There’s a way of enjoying a productive sex lift without P.E. interfering. The simple and obvious solution is to learn how to please your partner orally or otherwise, and ensure she is sufficiently happy throughout all other areas of her relationship.
Because of the innate lack of interest that some males show after sex, it is best to try and please your lover before, (or ensure she's highly aroused) you come or engage in penetrative sex. This will strengthen your sexual relationship, as doing this for her will show you care.
The added bonus of ensuring you please her before sexual intercourse is it’s more of a turn on for you, and you will therefore be, as well as be perceived to be, exceedingly interested in pleasing her. A lot more so than you would have been after you had come.
This will make her feel good as well as show your strong interest and desire in her body. As I'm sure your aware, women are predominantly concerned about their appearance, and go to great lengths to look good and desirable, so she'll love and appreciate the interest in her body.
I'm A Sinner
My worst sin in bed was committed after I had come before my partner, and was my attempt to then please her via oral sex. I was extremely tired before hand, and now in my come down, felt completely exhausted. But being a proud man, I wasn't going to give up so easy but seemed to find the energy from somewhere.
At this point I was totally disinterested in pleasing her and longing for her to come, so I could at last go to sleep. This is when I committed my worst sin, as I was finding it difficult to stay awake, and much to her surprise fell asleep while down on her.
Now she didn't have to be particularly perceptive to know I wasn't giving it my all. But even without showing similar huge signs of disinterest, she can tell you’re not in tune with her, so please her first while the sexual interest is still there.
I would like to add that this was a long while ago but we all learn from our mistakes and I put this in as an example and to amuse you.
Dwelling On The Past
Drawing from past experiences and learning from them is the best way to improve, not that at the time I could have been much worse, as for any sexual act, I feel you need at least a certain degree of consciousness.
Intercourse should not be presented to woman as a quick thing, as they will feel used, and devoid of passion. As I keep saying rapidity is innate within us, and if you want to learn to delay, quick intercourse is not your goal, as it hinders your learning.
An average P.E’er who can delay ejaculation by an extra few minutes, is usually able to out-last the average lady. Turning you in her eyes, into an
Being able to both enjoy that intimacy and pleasure each other in this way opens up a whole new depth to love making, and may project the view that you have a generous nature, as you are able to hold back for her. Enabling you to gratify her in a more sensually intimate and personal ways, in doing so sharing in the joy of love.
Did you actually come early?
Where is the goal post? What are you aiming for? Most men want to last for as long or longer then it takes their woman to come, while engaged in intra-vaginal sex (penetration). The norm or average amount of time to stimulate the average woman to climax is around 7-10 minutes. But that means nothing if your woman takes 5 or 15+ minutes.
Essentially this is irrelevant as it is the whole process of making love that arouses and stimulates your woman. But this book specifically concentrates on the ability to last, not arousing or stimulating, so lasting is our primary concern. As if you cannot last, even if you have aroused and stimulated her and she's well on her way to an engorging climax. She won’t be that thrilled if you then have to stop.
Every woman lasts a different amount of time, and if your lady lasts only 4 minutes one day, it doesn't mean she'll not need 20 minutes of stimulation next time.
Being able to hold back your sexual excitement does not mean you always have to have sex for 20+ minutes, just had to dispel that myth. It enables you to choose whether to have a 2 minute quickie or set yourself up for a night of love. This is about liberation and sexual bliss, not more work.
Sexual Dysfunction
Many sex therapists label P.E as a dysfunction, which suggests you’re not working properly. This in my view is contrary to therapy, as it suggests there is something wrong with you, which there probably isn't, as most rapid men are fully functional human beings.
It is normally conditioning yourself to perform naturally ('naturally' means coming rapidly from practising quick masturbation) which is the problem, or exceptional excitement, stress/worry which leads to your undesired affliction. So in general there is nothing wrong with you, apart from being a sum of your
circumstance. The good news for you is that means there is a way to a cure. It just takes some time and effort on your part.
Infallible Control
P.E. is more difficult to describe than people think. Many view the afflicted as being someone who came before he desires. Perfect control is something hardly anyone will achieve, and I personally view this as an illusion that we as men are socially burdened to live up to.
There is only one way to achieve this, and this constitutes an almost infallible mind and body control for which Taoist masters devoted their life to. Even this is highly mythical and unfortunately beyond proof.
What’s for certain is that this ability is not possessed by others, no matter how much praise they shadow themselves in. If you aim to attain perfect control you will be disappointed.
So many factors affect staying power, so you may have 'perfect control', and the ability to last all night at a certain time, or night of your life, and then find yourself unable to last 5 minute at other times.
Bare With Me
I just want to describe this in a different way. Perfect control by statement requires you to have the ability to last any amount of time you desire, whenever you desire, no matter how stressed or fatigued. It also does not take into
account that you might have abstained from sex for months, then meet the most erotic woman of your life.
This is not to say you can’t have very good control but just to enlighten you that with all walks of life, contributing factors affect how we react and perform. We have to take these things into account and prepare as best we can for them. This is the aim of this book, to prepare you for any eventuality.
Natural Reaction
P.E. affects us all differently. Normally a teen will suffer a lot higher
