Injaculation is not really the goal of that million-dollar point external lock technique. This technique is clumsy, hazardous and barely useful. Ejaculation or injaculation is sudden and it causes considerable energy loss because energy chi/shen orgasm is exploding and leaking out with the physical sperm.
It is possible to do it right when you hit the precise spot at the precise moment whereupon it arrests the prostate spasm before ejaculation is allowed to occur. However most of the time people fuck it up and end up simply suppressing what is already in progress, they end up ejaculating into their own bladder, which is painful. You will feel a distinct pain like sperm being backed up into your seminal vesicles/seminiferous tubuoles and prostate.
It is a crude and inferior technique compared to anal/microcosmic orbit breath locking. For that reason we deem it to be a huge waste of time. When retaining for a certain period (any longer than a week) you will get what I consider sperm overflow.
Abundant testicular function produces cloudy thick urine. Testicles are producing so much sperm that seminal vesicles reach capacity and some of it spills out into the bladder slowly during the day.
Certain things can influence this, including eating a diet with a lot of meat, protein, starch and other rich food, instead of emphasize vegetables, greens phytoestrogen foods, raw foods. Regular fasting can do wonders to prevent this. Fasting creates an automatic nutrient deficit that triggers your body to look for alternative energy sources and recycle the seminal essences.
Foreplay is important for the male too. Even in the frenzy of passion spend a little bit just getting a good strong erection. If it is hard and you can keep it hard it eliminates these problems. If you can't get and stay hard then it is probably an issue of your poor health. I echo those suggestions of strengthening the prostate and inner valves to help cut off that possibility of leakage in the first place.
If you don’t ejaculate voluntarily (or you are not a master at constantly steaming it) it has to have somewhere to go.
I suspect your erection problems are not so much due to the perceived injaculation (which I suspect you are not really having unless you feel a painful cramping orgasm internally) but rather the fact that your biochemical erection drivers are too week to get hard as Lin frequently explains. There could be many reasons (simply tired, run down and suffering health for one) but the primary one is probably the retention itself. Basically it is like this; it is very difficult to do retention for longer than 5 days (depending on your age) and not feel some drop off in potency. This is because if you are not keeping the testicles working all the time the hormone production subsides a little.
So you have a little choice if you want to preserve any energy for any worthwhile alchemy you generally have to do retention for at least that long or longer. But you are going to have a bit more of a challenge to maintain your virility.
If it bothers you that much maybe you should ejaculate for real a little more often (which would help with your erection problems) and forgo deeper alchemy until you are better at transmuting things. Otherwise the only other answer I can give you is to become a master kan Li steamer. And or get to do dual cultivation with your girlfriend more often (which is essentially energetically identical to the Kan-Li process internally except the rush of sex creates the sensation much more effortlessly)
I view the big draw like a dance routine. When you first learn to dance, you're aware of your steps. How you're holding you're partner, where your feet are, "one two three", "one two three", etc. It's only when you get really good at it, when you're not thinking about it and then it becomes second nature, which you really start dancing. Then you just flow with the music. Then the draw (and exchange and transformation) happens spontaneously and without conscious effort.
It is, however, a lifelong practice. So keep working on those dance moves, as will I.
Message: Hidden danger of using the million dollar point (Michael Winn on February 2, 2006) Among the many refinements I have made over the years to the original book "Taoist Secrets of Love", I feel one of the most important is to understand the danger of using the million dollar
point. I strongly suggest NEVER using pressure on the perineum point, not even in beginning training, nor at any point in the male training. The reason is simple: you are using external force to stop ejaculating. But that applied force traps the aroused jing chi in the perineum area, it doesn't re-circulate it - which is the single most important goal of Taoist sexual practice.
To avoid physical and energetic complications from this trapping of sexual energy, you have to quickly circulate internally the sexual energy trapped in the area of the million dollar point and physically massage the area to relieve the congestion. If you don't do this, there are possible negative health side effects and definite energetic side effects - you are creating a STOPPAGE rather than a RE-CIRCULATION.
the orbit, or other pathways), then you don't need to use the million dollar point. You should be using that ability, with some combination of internal energetic and pulsing muscular signals, to re- circulate the rising impulse to ejaculate BEFORE you might have needed to ejaculate. This is not only safer, but more effective in achieving the goal of the practice.
If your ability to re-circulate the sexual energy is not good enough to re-direct the ejaculatory impulse to the rest of the physical and energy body, then that is the real level of your practice and you need the feedback to see that, so you can work on improving your skill.
Creating a forced blockage at the perineum / Million Dollar point doesn't improve your skill - it is an admission of its failure. Worse, it makes it harder to re-circulate the sexual energy, as it is now in a stagnant state of congestion, has lost its rising direction, when it was much easier to simply re-direct the impulse.
You never want to create the energetic pattern of STOPPING EJACULATION. That creates a STOPPING pattern that will eventually overflow and constrict to your ability to have and share whole body orgasm. You need to focus solely on RE-CIRCULATING and SHARING pattern (with other parts of yourself or a lover). That is the pattern that needs empowering.
You are better off recycling part of your sexual energy and then ejaculating the partly charged seed than you are creating congestion with seed that is often fully charged/none of it re-circulated. Many practitioners become falsely obsessive with stopping ejaculation at any cost, which is a misunderstanding of the practice. Worse, it leads to sex-charged guilt when some seed is released, which in turn taints the feeling of sexual love, etc. etc.
Message: If you successfully avoid ejaculation but don’t do much big draw type activity I don’t think you lose much during lovemaking alone. The problem is that if you have not done much to transform, transmute, and absorb it (and the big draw really doesn’t do much anyway) it sets things up so that jing is just sitting there to be lost at a later time. You have not taken advantage of the sex to liberate the jing collected at your sperm palace and redistribute and release its energy to the rest of the energy body.
So that’s the real problem. Maybe you would have a nocturnal emission, ejaculate with your girlfriend another day. But you will lose energy that you could have extracted beforehand by taking advantage of the opportunity for alchemical sex by doing deep fire and water sexual balancing and steaming.
Actually if these sexual kung fu techniques are done right it should not be a mechanical or troublesome thing that is hard to do and distracts you or interrupts the flow. It should be a natural smooth motion in perfect harmony and rhythm with the whole act of lovemaking.
The anal breathing or the big draw should be simply a part of your relaxed breathing, and everything should be coordinated with your thrusts. Ideally it should not be something you need to stop to do in an awkward and tense manner. The right way that this is accomplished is though maintaining adequate relaxation and balance from the beginning.
The whole body should act with one unified motion in a cycle of yin-yang, in-out, tighten-relax, pull up-send down, thrust-withdraw, move-pause radiate out-absorb in. All yin motions and yang motions are coordinated. I’m not going to list a table of all possible yin and yang motions; you just have to develop your own sense for what naturally corresponds.
It is possible to coordinate and time both your orgasms so that there is a reciprocal exchange of jing with your partner. When you ejaculate and if she orgasms at the same time there is somewhat of a mutual replenishing effect possible. I would imagine timing counts because if you ejaculate first you aren’t able to bring her to full orgasm and then you don’t get the full benefit in return. If you can time it so you can ejaculate both at the same time then that’s best of all. But most likely is make her cum first, then you can.
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I have found that I needed to strengthen perineum and urogenital muscles collectively as well as single out the specific muscle and work on them. A strong perineum leads to strong erection and easy control.The physical aspect took me years but it paid off. I regularly exercise my perineum over a thousand times a day and I exercise all my ring muscles. The best way I have found is to relax more and more, never tense. After a while it just becomes automatic, your body "gets it". The perineum is a great leakage point of energy that is like the drain in a bathtub. The vessel must be strengthened first, and then energy builds, then the energy needs to be transformed.
As with any practice, you proceed slowly, relaxed and let your body communicate with you. Don't over practice hoping for a fast enlargement process as well as stay away from such products offered by so many today. If practiced correctly with the proper virtues and visualizations, you will not be disappointed.
Ring muscles I work with are my genitals, anus, eyes, mouth, nose nostrils and urethra. When practiced all together, you will feel suction in the palms and soles. Also after awhile you will feel the opening of the penis starting to suck in air, and the same with the vagina. It is a great feeling as well as strengthening the front gate of the penis.
Drawing the energy upwards starts with visualization and perineum and sacrum pumping. Once the energy has a clear path to flow, it will follow on its own. But if the easiest path is out of the perineum, then it will follow that route. Keeping the energy connected with your heart will also allow it to smoothly ascend. It makes a difference.
During sex, my PC is naturally squeezing and releasing on its own and at times I will press my tongue hard against the roof of my mouth which increases the flow of orgasmic energies upwards. The clench you are talking about, even in the big draw should always be done relaxed. This takes practice. Like picking up 50 kilos and keeping relaxed. Some people strain with their faces contorted and structure distorted. After awhile they pick up the weight like it is a feather. It is all Chi Kong and it all has to be done relaxed, with a quiet mind and awareness of your center and your surroundings, the same as the inner smile and the same as tai chi. If you practice your love making like you practice your tai chi then you will see that they are both the same, connecting with the same energies, inner and outer.
Message: I was wondering why Dr Lin says PC muscle exercises are bad and cause premature ejaculation, while Mantak Chia states that they are an essential part in learning ejaculation control. I am confused after reading all the negative comments about PC muscle exercises at Lin's website. Should I continue with the exercises?
The WHOLE POINT of PC exercise is to LOSE an erection. Nobody tells tell you to do PC exercises DURING sexual intercourse. They are meant to be done in deep meditation ONLY. This is because PC exercise will clog up your entire system with DHT if you do these practices during sex. The energy giving you an erection at the time of sexual intercourse or masturbation is
NOT the same as the energy giving you an erection during meditation. Within a few years, you too will be ejaculating prematurely, have erection problems, and wonder what hits you.
You don't have to go down that road. I did. I practiced too well. After a year the premature ejaculation sets in. Then the disconnection between my sex drive and my sexual organs occurred. I thought there was something wrong, but from the point of view of an adept I was doing just great, except for the fact that I had been practicing while sexually aroused, and therefore had the premature ejaculation problem among other deviations!
So I threw myself into Lin's site and I read the ENTIRE thing thoroughly. These days I have some control over my sexual energy from a cultivator's standpoint and I can also fuck my brains out. The whole essence of Lin’s practice is that you create a cock-pump inside the body, which pumps air, blood and chi into the penis making it not only larger, but relieving pressure on the prostate gland. It is common sense if you want an erection, why are you pulling up on the PC in the opposite direction?
When I said working the PC muscle is good I had been talking about OUTSIDE of sex.