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Anal sex is tricky. There is a specific way to go about it in order to avoid any unpleasant aftereffects.
However, if you do it successfully with your man, I guarantee he’ll forever want to do it with you. No matter if he’s involved elsewhere at some future time in your lives, he will still want to do it with you again.
For women, the results of anal sex are compromised.
You may enjoy it, but the enjoyment will come with a price. I’m going to discuss the unpleasantries first.
After having anal sex you will notice that the muscles of your anus will relax and you may find that there’s some seepage a couple of hours after the experience.
Similarly there may be some excess flatulence for awhile that you will be unable to control. So I don’t advise traveling far from home in the hours after you’ve had it. But if you’re still into it, here are some pointers.
ALWAYS USE LUBRICANT.
ALWAYS and no, your saliva or his saliva is not sufficient lubricant. I also advise that you have a good bowel movement before you have anal sex. Otherwise don’t have anal sex on your ivory colored, 800 thread count sheets. If you haven’t had a good movement before you have anal sex, you’ll be disposing of your
sheets after you have had (what will be messy) anal sex.
If you want to have anal sex on a regular basis and your bowel movements are irregular, then you might try using an enema before you have sex. They are sold in most drug stores and are relatively easy to use at home. Cleaning out your colon before anal sex is preferable for all parties involved.
Your man should not just plunge into you. There needs to be foreplay to relax you entirely so that you’re in a sexual mood, desiring anal sex. Then he needs to lightly stroke you back there and finger your ass very gently. If you don’t respond well to this, then either don’t have anal sex or continue playing until you feel you are ready. You’ll know when you’re ready because your asshole will have relaxed enough for your man to insert two fingers at one time and inserting his fingers will feel good to you instead of awkward. If all is well and you are ready, then he should lubricate and massage himself until he is very aroused (hard). If he’s only partially erect, then he will have difficulty entering you and you will not experience positive anal sex. For a first time position I suggest doggy style. This is with you on your hands and knees while you let him enter you from behind.
NOW LISTEN – under no circumstances should HE enter YOU. The way it should be done is that YOU need to push back onto him with you controlling how deeply he enters you and how quickly. You need to use your hand and guide his cock into you. He should not push at all! If he pushes even slightly before your muscles are relaxed enough to take him in, he will cause you pain. He should know that once you feel pain having anal sex, all bets are off. The sex for the
evening will come to an abrupt end while you nurture yourself. Hey, I’m just stating the facts. So if you’re ready to start pushing back onto him, here’s what else he can do to stimulate and relax you further while he enters you. He can reach around you and massage your clit. You should already be wet from the foreplay, so rubbing you on your clit and labia should feel really good. If he continues to rub you once he’s inside of you that will feel great to you as well.
Once he’s inside, he should still be gentle with you.
The walls of the anal cavity are not as flexible as the vaginal cavity; even though your asshole can actually dilate up to 8 inches should the trivia question ever arise. A man can pump in and out of you anally, but he can’t drive his cock with any intensity into you or you may end up with fissures (small splits in your skin) inside of your anus. These splits are not pleasant and when you think about the bacteria that will flow past them to exit your body, you could be subjecting yourself to infection if you do not exercise caution.
A final thought. Once your man has entered you anally, under no conditions should he reenter you vaginally until he has thoroughly washed his cock and your vaginal area off with soap and water. If you were to get any bacteria from your rectum up inside of your vagina or up into his urethra or yours, it could cause a weighty bacterial infection. So remember cleanliness is before sexiness.
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here is one other activity that comes to mind when I think of cleanliness or anal sex. This thought isn’t really a backdoor item, it’s more front door thinkingfor men and a sidebar thought here. As women, we all know that men are fascinated with what comes out of their penises. If they can squirt it out in pleasure, then it immediately becomes a recreational tool for them.
Obviously, men like orgasms but some are also mildly delighted with peeing. Who hasn’t seen a guy pee his name in the snow or take random shots at the toilet seat to amuse himself?
It’s called watersports or golden showers when your partner wants to pee on you. For those of you who have never heard of this, consider yourself blessed with ignorance, because it can be messy and smelly. I was exposed to the fascination some guys have with peeing at a young age. I was five and the little boy down the street decided I looked like a fireplug and he was a dog. Typical.
Some women like this degrading experience, some don’t. I personally don’t, no matter how careful the man wants to be (i.e. – let’s do it in the shower, let’s do it over the toilet, let’s do it outside). To me, regardless of the setup, it’s still the act of a waste product being dumped on me in order to stimulate a guy’s ego/erection and under these circumstances, those two become synonymous.
However, if you’re into it, here are a couple of facts:
One, it’s not toxic. Two, it won’t kill you or make you sick, even if you accidentally get it in your mouth.
Three, if you decide to participate in this ritual with your man, then may I suggest having him aim for your hair? Urine is an excellent, vitamin enriched protein that thickens and conditions your hair. Read your shampoo bottles ladies, the ingredient urea? That’s
urine. It’s been bottled and sold to you for decades.
And don’t you look fabulous! Lastly, if you ever get stung by a jellyfish, you would want to ask someone to pee on the sting since that would be the key to relieving your pain. I guess there are positive uses for urine after all. But I really hope you never get stung by a jellyfish.
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ack to anal sex now. While I’ve stated all the cautions here about anal sex so that you can make your most educated decision about having it, please know that anal sex can be very pleasurable for both men and women and surprising your man with the experience of it will be something he will never forget.A little later on in the book, I’ll explain to you how you can use your ass for yourself in what I like to refer to as the trifecta of orgasms.