RUB DIRECTLY ON HIS SPINE

That does not feel good. Go back up to the top at his neck and using the palms/heels of your hands push down on either side of his spine. While still applying

pressure from your hands, run the heels of your hands all the way down his back on either side of his spine to the small of his back. This should be one continuous motion – no circular rubbing. The point of this action is that the back accumulates fluid on either side of the spine throughout the day in response to tensions.

Pushing the fluid from the base of the neck down to the small of the back relieves the pressure of the fluid and ultimately the tension in his back. Once you reach the small of his back push harder and more firmly down on the base of his back and rub outward over his hip bones. Do this one or two more times just to finalize the back massage.

Once you’ve massaged his back turn him over. Ask him to close his eyes and start your massage at his feet.

You don’t need to oil his feet in order to massage them and because you will need one hand to hold the foot up and one to massage it, you can only massage one foot at a time. Using your thumbs, press firmly, but still gently, on his foot; starting just under the ball, right above the middle of his foot. The motion is still the same, firm and circular, moving from the middle of his foot up to the base of his toes. Massage the arch of his foot and then the top of his foot down to his toes.

Once you’ve massaged his foot, then gently rub and pull slightly on his toes. Rub one toe at a time. Take your time on his feet. Relaxing his feet in an effective manner will completely relax him. After you’ve done his feet, start up his legs, paying special attention to his Achilles tendons and Calves, massage from his lower leg up onto his thighs. You can lift his leg slightly to reach the backs of his thighs or some people like to do the feet and the backs of the thighs before turning him over onto his back to massage his front.

You can make your own choices about what areas you want to do, in what order and how much of a massage you want to give him. As you reach the tops of his thighs, he may start to become sexually excited. Go with this. It’s a natural response for quite a few men.

If he does become aroused, it becomes your choice whether or not to let sexuality take over for the massage scenario and become the new course for the evening, i.e. the “happy finish.”

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ouch can mean a lot of different things. For example, you can stroke him with your hair from his chest to his stomach. That’s one way to touch him. Or if you’re sitting next to him, holding his hand, you can bring his hand up to your mouth and let your tongue trace his lifeline from his palm all the way up to one of his fingers which you should then treat as if it is a mini version of his cock. Tease each of his fingers with your tongue until you slip one of them into your mouth and suck on it very seductively for awhile. That’s touch.

Using your tongue to touch his skin just about anywhere is seductive. Or touch can be giving him a full pedicure culminating in painting his toenails while you invite him to more intimate activities with your eyes. Wearing lingerie while giving him a pedicure is a nice touch. Once you’ve finished giving him the pedicure, surprise him by bringing your mouth down to his toes and then sliding his big toe into your mouth. Treat each of his toes as if they are tiny versions of his cock and use your mouth to play with them. This kind of touch makes things hot enough for more play action to happen between the two of you.

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hile there are a number of predetermined erotic zones on the body, the fact is that anywhere skin exists there is the possibility of an erotic zone waiting to be discovered. The eroticism is determined by how you approach the spot and what you do to it. I knew a guy one time who liked to use his thigh as an erogenous zone in connecting with my distinctly feminine erogenous zone. That was hot.

The point of this is that the only limits to erogenous zones are the limits of your mind and imagination.

While the obvious highlights of two sexual bodies are breasts, vagina and penis, the truth is that wherever there is skin, there is feeling and there is also the possibility of an erogenous zone. If you think you can connect with your man by using your nose to stimulate him and you try it and it works, then you have a new erogenous zone in your world. Or, think about kissing and gently licking someone’s eyelids. It’s off the beaten path, but I know a girl who loves to give and to receive that. Most people’s ears or the backs of their necks are sensitive to erotic stimulation, but so are some people’s nipples (men and women), thighs, knees, elbows, stomachs and feet. It’s all up to you to determine what area you want to approach to touch and how you want to touch it. All I know is that the possibilities are infinite. So try something. And if it doesn’t work out, then try something else. I guarantee that for as many places on your man’s body that he may already want to have touched there are at least an equal number of new places you can touch that will put him through the roof in a good way. It’s a win win situation, so reach out and touch him.

RAPTURE

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When I told this guy I know that I was writing an R Rated chapter in a self help book for women on what they can do to please men sexually, he quipped, "Tell them to show up." It's an old joke, but mostly true.

So you want to be unforgettable? Well, in order to be unforgettable you will need to do that one thing for your guy that he has always wanted to do sexually, but has never done. Or maybe he did do it, one time, way back when he was 19 and he has always wanted to do it again, but no girl he's been with since has been willing to do it with him. The sexual act doesn't need to be perverted. It can be something as simple as having phone sex or as risky as having sex in a park together while you're on a picnic. But there's always something. There's always one thing that every man has been curious about experiencing. Some sexual act that has been in his dreams that he hasn't been able to turn into a reality. Something that only a special woman would do with him. And if you do this one thing with him and you do it well, he will remember you as special for an eternity.

Okay, here are some suggestions on what you can do to be unforgettable once you’ve shown up.

First of all you have to recognize that the most active portion of a man’s brain once you’ve started having sex together is the area that is stimulated by sex, for sex

and towards sex. So your approach has to be sexual in order to create a positive result and a lasting memory.

I hope that by now you have had enough conversation with your man so that you know some, if not most of what his sexual history has been. What types of sexual positions he’s tried, what he likes, what he doesn’t like and what his proclivities are. Is he into porn, is he more comfortable in the bedroom or does he like sex in a variety of places? Is he open minded about experimentation; is he a condom guy; does he prefer giving or receiving oral; how does he feel about body hair; has he ever tried toys; is he a voyeur? The list of inquiries is as infinite as the possible sexual suggestions, but I’ll try to steer you in a couple of promising directions.

The goal you want to achieve is the creation of a private sexual world between the two of you. A physical and emotional location where you can both try anything you want to try, together. If your man has tried any of these methods prior to being involved with you, then you may need to research other potential activities and without question, USE YOUR IMAGINATION. Absolutely nothing sexual is off limits as long as it is undertaken with a strong measure of self respect, respect for your partner and consideration for your bodies. That means don’t attempt to use restraints with a man who abhors any sort of dominance. Or if your man is very private and is definitively not an exhibitionist, then do not seduce him in public areas or you may risk permanently alienating him.

Here’s the main point you will want to remember:

You want to be the first,

In document Come Together (Page 34-40)