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Karate Chop: Even though I’m so ashamed of my clutter…
…and I have to hide it from everyone… …even from myself…
…I deeply and profoundly accept who I am. Even though I feel ashamed of my clutter… …and too ashamed to even admit it sometimes… …I accept who I am right now.
Even though I feel ashamed of myself and I hide behind all this clutter… …I deeply and profoundly love and accept myself.
Eyebrow: I’m so ashamed of the clutter. Side of the eye: I’m ashamed of the clutter. Under the eye: I don’t even know what to do.
Under the nose: All I know is I keep hiding it. Chin: Like other things about myself.
Collarbone: I’m ashamed of my clutter.
Under the arm: And I think I’m ashamed of myself. Top of the head: I want to let go.
Eyebrow: What if I let go?
Side of the eye: What if I accepted the clutter? Under the eye: Then it would stick.
Under the nose: No, it wouldn’t. Chin: If I accepted the clutter… Collarbone: …and accepted myself…
Under the arm: …and accepted my feelings… Top of the head: I know things would change.
I appreciate who I am…
…even though I have all this clutter.
Carol: Good. Deep breath. Rick: Ahhhhh… (deep breath)
Carol: It’s so key that people really acknowledge what the truth is. It’s a
little bit like in the weight loss - people think that being ashamed and guilty about what they eat and their bodies will make them lose weight, and it never does it. So holding onto the shame about the clutter and the shame about myself - it does not make you better. It keeps you stuck. People say, “Oh, no, if you’re ashamed or guilty, you won’t do it again.” Not true!
Rick: I have ample evidence that that doesn’t work! (laughing)
Carol: I had a little clutter ‘relapse’ this week (I would say), and I was gone
for a week, so I came home and of course there’s a week’s worth of mail , everyone sending me stuff, plus the bills. I’m getting back on top of it, but there was an interesting feeling of “Ugh!” - like a heaviness, like I was making such progress. I continued to do this deep process which was completely different that what I had been doing for the past year or two. It’s that little surface stuff. I have to remind myself that I did have a
relapse, or it looked like a relapse, but it was just surface junk. It was very easy, if you have places to put it. So I have this wonderful shredder in the lobby of my building. I have this new filing system. If you can give it to the right place, even if that means the garbage, then a lot changes. And that’s about letting go. We’re back to those initial recordings we did about “Why can’t we let go of it? What is this scarcity issue? What is this about
hoarding? What is it about holding onto stuff? Let it go. You don’t need it - you haven’t used it in ten years!”
Rick: Whatever the energy is that’s wrapped up in the clutter, facing it
honestly with EFT will take the energy out of the clutter and then it just becomes things. You’ll learn. You’ll become attracted to techniques and ideas on how to sort and file and take care of stuff. Your attention will be attracted to a sign for Goodwill - you didn’t even know the store was there, but you had already prepared yourself energetically for the idea. Those types of things will come up. It’s a good time to smile and say, “Thank you, source - I really appreciate the feedback that we’re in this together and I’m going to be attracting into my life opportunities to allow stuff to move
forward, move on, move out.”
Carol: How do you say it - once the charge is gone, then you can do
something with it - it’s a little bit like a heavy charge on something. An electrical charge, an emotional charge, is like glue. If you think of this thing that happened in 2002, and you get this feeling or charge in your body, that’s like glue. It’s sticking to you. That means you have energy work to do on it. If you look at your clutter and say, “Blah! Ick! I’m disgusting. I’m ashamed,” you’ve got work to do before you throw anything out or rearrange anything. The ‘doing’ doesn’t work long-term. It works for about a week. It’s like the alcoholic. Any alcoholic (almost) can put down alcohol for a few days, but it can’t stick unless they have done the underlying work. So you can rearrange the books and refile things, but it won’t stick. I did that for a while.
Rick: You’ve noticed that neither you nor I have been telling people, “Hey,
you should have made this kind of progress on your clutter by now,” and trying to hold people accountable. Until they’ve done the energetic work, holding someone accountable can provide an external force that makes it more uncomfortable for them to keep the clutter than to get rid of it. That’s not addressing the energy that caused it in the first place. Whether it’s illness in the body or discord in the house or in a relationship. Deal with the energetics that you have control over first. That’s what we’re talking about here. Once you do that, your perspective on it - your vantage point - is completely different.
Carol: It is so like addiction. I told you that I’ve been working on this ‘quit
smoking’ program. The people’s eyes are opening up. They’re saying,” Now I know why I smoked!” We’re getting to the grief, the hurt, the pain, the connection to the parent that smoked. “It’s so obvious!” It’s not obvious when you’re smoking a pack a day. You can’t connect to why you’re
cluttering unless you do the energetic work. You can’t just rearrange the books. It’s not going to work.