So now that we know all this, how do we make use of it in seduction? Well I believe that if we can estimate what sort of personality bias – logical or spiritual – someone is likely to possess, we can use that knowledge to kind of sync-up our own presentation to them and appear to be on the same “wavelength” as they are. This is one major factor in finding that mysterious “chemistry” with a woman that can be so elusive. We’ll talk more about this later in the section, but for now it’s good to know we can at least develop a plan to manipulate this one possible important element.
First though we have to figure out ASAP just what her TQ might be, high or low. There’s a quick-and-dirty way to get a general reading on someone’s TQ, and that’s by taking a peek at their handwriting. I kid you not. Full blown
handwriting analysis is a complex subject that requires an entire book of it’s own to completely investigate (and I’ll give you a good one to read in a moment if you’re interested), but I just want to assure you that this is not a lot of hocus- pocus bullshit in case that’s what you’re thinking now. Handwriting analysis can give you an accurate look into a person’s general temperament, and is taken
quite seriously in the world of therapy.
And in the business world too. Many big corporations are beginning to require a handwriting sample as a routine part of their interview and hiring process. You may’ve wondered why you had to re-copy a sample paragraph in long hand on your last job interview, and now you know why. Someone in human resources went over that thing with an HA chart and used it to get an idea of your thinking style and emotional bias in order to see what kind of team player you were likely to be (or not).
You can take a page from their sneaky handbook and do a bit of sly investigating for yourself. All you need to do is obtain little sample of her
handwriting somehow (longhand, not printed) and you’re in business. Sometimes even a signature will do, although people tend to stylize their signatures or make them overly sloppy, but if that’s all you can get sometimes it can be enough. A look at the slant of her writing is enough to get a general idea of where her TQ thermostat is likely set. In order to do a precise evaluation you’d need a written sample with a full range of various letters. It’s beyond the scope of this book to get into loops and descenders and all that other kooky stuff. Slant should be enough to give you an idea of what you’re dealing with for now. Then you can watch for other clues to support your suspicions as you get to know her better. There’s really only three significant slanting styles to know about. Here’s the first one:
This is the leftward slant, which is a bit unusual (especially in right-handed people) but common enough. This type of writer is very likely an introvert. He or she is the kind of person who ordinarily keeps his own counsel, withholds strong emotions, considers his choice of words carefully before speaking and generally attempts to make very logical decisions. This type of woman is likely to have a
Low TQ and not be much into stuff like religion or artsy-fartsy pursuits. There can be little visible emotion going on here, just lots of level-headedness. If your looking for a wife who can handle the household, kids and finances without flying off into a screaming panic every few minutes, this is your woman. She might not
be the most outrageous or enthusiastic deal in bed (or very orgasmic either), so be sure to go for a sexual test drive before deciding on an LTR with a chick like this.
Here’s another one to watch for, the rightward slant. Right slanting is more common because most people are right-handed, but it’s the severity of the slant that you’re actually interested in. The more radical her slant (sometimes to the point of unreadability) the more likely you’ll be looking at an emotionally responsive person who has a very High TQ. This woman is very likely to be
extroverted and have tons of friends and all sorts of activities and shit crowding her schedule. This is not a bookworm with lots of free time for lazy, get-together type afternoon dates (the kind I like). Her card is full and she’s often complaining about being pressed for time. You will hear this a lot. She’s likely to be impulsive as well. Taking a chance to just show up at her door and spontaneously do
something with you that afternoon has a good chance of going over big with this kind of personality. Whereas the left-slanting, “Ms. Logical” would probably have to think about it.
The Righty is a woman who will likely be found working in a people-type job rather than alone at a desk. She’s outgoing and will pick up on a strong flirt
because she has a natural need for affection and enjoys the attention of men. This is the kind of girl who can roll through some nasty mood swings however, and run her credit card into the stratosphere during an afternoon shopping binge – but she can just as easily steal your heart with her sparkling lifeforce. Whether this type is more likely to make you want to tear your hair out or sing love songs is your call – the rightward handwriting slant is a strong indication that you’ve got an artistic-spiritual-passionate one on the hook. The several I’ve personally
experienced were dynamite in bed too, as you might expect.
Alright then, this last one is a more rare find, but she can be trouble so you should watch out for her:
Notice the way the slant changes back and forth between left and right within the same sentence? If this looks kind of crazy to you then you guessed correct my friend. You’ll have a tough time trying to pin down what the hell you’ve got on your hands with a back-and-forth slanter. Women like this have a lot of internal conflict between the head and heart which seriously interferes with their ability to make clean and crisp decisions. These kinds of women can best be described as mind-changers... they blow with the wind and will have you tearing out your expensive hair plugs with their extraordinary capacity for flightiness. Breaking dates at the last moment, showing up at your door unexpectedly, morphing from purring sex kitten to complaining bitch... these are the norm once you fall for this type of chick. She has it all!
The variable slant foretells of a person who experiences a continuous internal tension. I know a beautiful young woman who fits this bill perfectly. She’s highly emotional and prone to mood swings that fly between near-suicidal depression and wacky mania. I’d already known her for many years and was well acquainted with her strange moods, then one day I happen to see her signature on the back of a canceled check. And it looked exactly like the sample scribble above! I was floored – I couldn’t believe how accurate her handwriting style matched the personality characteristics described in the handwriting analysis book! It’s what convinced me this stuff must have merit.
Women of this variety tend to be attention vampires, they need to pair up with a “giver”... someone who has lots of reserve available to devote to the care and feeding of another person’s psyche. In case you’re not up to the task and would rather bail at the first sign of trouble, then keep a lookout for that back-and- forth slanted handwriting.
I’m actually just scratching the surface of this topic as you may imagine, there’s lots more to know if you’re interested in going deeper. I learned
everything I just showed you here from Bart Baggett’s book... Handwriting Analysis – Secrets of Love, Sex and Relationships. Baggett’s excellent treatment of this subject doesn’t just give you the lowdown on analyzing
handwriting, it does so with the aim of helping you find the perfect mate. In other words, it’s a relationship book that you should add to your library. Bart’s
treatment of this fascinating subject is packed with loads of sample analysis breakdowns, and is a quick & fun read. I highly recommend it.
Of course, you don’t have to do any of this stuff on the sly if you’re not the sneaky type – you can be completely open about analyzing each other’s
handwriting and even make it into a game (it’s great for that second, mellow date we’ll talk about later). You can just bring the book out and start going through it with her. Even better, this book can be purchased along with a companion card deck called the Graph-O Deck that has all sorts of letter-shape and writing-slant examples with their analysis printed out right on the bottom of the card. You can turn yourself into an instant handwriting expert with this cool card deck!
A one-on-one session is easy... each of you copy a paragraph from a newspaper in longhand and go through the deck one card at a time looking for matches. She’ll be amazed at the results (and so will you!). I once discovered this girl was supposedly a big procrastinator because she crossed her letter “T” in front of the crossbar... which I later discovered to be entirely true! This pokey bitch didn’t last long because that sort of shit makes me crazy! Anyway, here’s a link to check it out Bart Baggett’s Handwriting Analysis book and the Graph-O Deck for yourself: www.myhandwriting.com
Even if you think this handwriting stuff is total bullshit, remember that most women are fascinated by new age psycho-therapy sort of fluff stuff, high TQ or not, and many will eagerly go along with an “analysis session” as long as you agree to play along and submit your own writing sample as well. Some of you guys might even want to take this card deck into the bar and use it to ice-break women. It’s a great way to draw cold prospects into a conversation, and can even keep an entire group entertained if you’re looking to bust a group. Why not let this tool do all the heavy lifting for you?
3) Attraction for Her is All About Chemistry
Chemistry. The single most hated word in the entire universe of hooking up with women – at least as far as men are concerned. We try our damnest to do all the right things to impress a woman only to have some clueless schlub
stumble into the picture and sweep her right out from under our noses. Why? Because “...we just had such great chemistry together!” What does that mean? “you know, we just enjoy the same things, he has that certain something about him...” Great, that explains everything.
One of the reasons I took up the cause of writing these books arises from my frustration with the vagueness of the language used by women when you try to pin them down on what they want from men. All you get are things like this chemistry garbage that tells us nothing. Adding to our aggravation is the fact these ‘chemical’ guys have it made with the women whom they seem to cast their spell over. They can use and abuse them, cheat on them and whatever else you can think of. She’ll just keep wiping away the tears and crawling back for more. It’s ridiculous how slavishly devoted women become to guys whom they feel this chemical connection with. We want some too!
Therefore, in the interest of defining this mysterious substance so the rest of us can share in the fun, I’ll give it a shot. But I’m warning you, I have some ideas, but no perfect answers. That’s because not only is this X-factor as slippery as a bucket of eels, it changes from one women to the next. So there’s no way I can tell you go off and do this, this and that and then you too will be oozing chemistry from every pore. If only it were so simple. Seems this chemistry thing is not merely invisible and defying of all description, the women like it that way! Seriously, I think it gives them a thrill to see us trying on different looks, getting new haircuts, tattooing ourselves like madmen and generally just snarling at each other... all in the interest of being the one dude who will establish that magical chemical connection with her!
But you are in luck my friend... for after years of toiling away in my cobweb- encrusted laboratory, I – Dr. Victor von Pilinski – have isolated what I believe are the two essential elements of this inexplicable chemistry: social intelligence and the nice guy factor. These things do not work their magic in isolation... they are made complete by things like body smell (which I talked about in my earlier
book), specific facial features or mannerisms (which will likely match-up
younger, someone cherished who you “remind” her of..) and other sorts of intangibles which lie beyond your control. But as long as you can control something about this process, it challenges us as seducers to do just that – control it. So let’s give it a try.