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(2) Frankly speaking this is our humble effort to all mankind (man kind only!!) who wants to improve their game of seduction. First of all let me make it very clear this e-book is different from all the other e-books/booklets/and other written material in the approach, in the techniques and finally in the endeavor. No way is this e-book written to play any foul play the with women’s community. (Well, maybe a little. We know we’re going to be blamed for something we say, though there’s no telling exactly what line will set off what women, so we might as well own up to it right now.) Let us say for the record: we love women. We do. We have come to the conclusion our lives are better with them than without them and if you’ve come to that same determination we’re going to tell you how to get more of what you enjoy into your life. Namely women. Basically this is all about to improve your personality as whole and take it from us after reading this e-book you are bound to get yourself on the top of the world, as this is all about changing your attitude, using your energy into the right direction, eliminating the unnecessary fear and feel more confident with women. They say, “It is your attitude, not your aptitude, which determines altitude in your life”. We shouldn’t have to say this, but it’s true: Remember, after reading this ebook, you and only you are responsible for your actions and your behaviors, and any circumstances resulted out of the material. You are advised to follow the material wisely. However, if you have any personal query or doubt please feel Breaking the Seduction Code © © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 2.

(3) free to contact us personally, we would feel honored and happy to answer them as best as we can do by putting Mark’s more than 20 years of experience in training, hypnosis, and NLP to use. To be crystal clear: the authors, contributors, distributors, and publishers of this e-book disclaim any responsibility for how you chose to use this material. Do you get that? It’s on you. Don’t go out do something tasteless, classless, and illegal, and then claim the book made you do it. At the very least, you’ll get slapped, at most you’ll find yourself in for a nice stay at Sunnyside Farm for the Emotionally Challenged Citizen or you’ll share a cellblock with a heavily tattooed guy named Sweetie. It’s always your responsibility to make sure that the actions you take with women are legal and consensual.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 3–.

(4) Table of Contents DISCLAIMER........................................................................................................2 A NOTE FROM THE AUTHOR ............................................................................8 WELCOME!........................................................................................................13 THE VERY FIRST STEP...........................................................................................13 THE EARLY LESSONS ..................................................................................................15. CREATING AN OPEN SPACE...........................................................................23 OLD THINKING #1: YOU HAVE TO BE GOOD LOOKING TO DATE W OMEN .........................23 OLD THINKING #2: YOU NEED LOTS OF MONEY IN ORDER TO SEDUCE WOMEN .................24 OLD THINKING #3: GOOD LOOKING W OMEN W ILL WANT NOTHING TO DO W ITH YOU ......24 OLD THINKING #4: IF YOU ARE NICE, SENSITIVE, AND SHOW YOUR EMOTIONS, W OMEN WILL W ANT YOU. ........................................................................................................25 OLD THINKING #5: SOLVE HER PROBLEMS AND SHE’LL SLEEP WITH YOU ......................26 OLD THINKING #6: THERE ARE A LIMITED NUMBER OF WOMEN AVAILABLE AND MOST OF THEM ARE BUSY. .........................................................................................................26. OLD THINKING #7: GETTING A HOT WOMAN TO HAVE SEX WITH YOU IS TOO TIME CONSUMING. ...............................................................................................................27. OLD THINKING #8: IF YOU WAIT LONG ENOUGH, THE COURAGE WILL COME TO APPROACH WOMEN.. .....................................................................................................................27. OLD THINKING #9: W OMEN KNOW WHAT THEY WANT, AND THEY WILL TELL YOU. .............28 OLD THINKING #10 – DATING IS FAIR, AND YOU WILL GET YOUR TURN ............................29. THE TRUTH ABOUT SEDUCING WOMEN.......................................................31 ALL W OMEN W ANT TO BE SEDUCED ............................................................................31 WOMEN YEARN FOR ROMANCE ...................................................................................32 A MARRIED MAN MIGHT STAND A BETTER CHANCE AT SEDUCING A W OMAN .................33 WHAT CAN YOU LEARN FROM THIS?............................................................................34. THE GAME OF SEDUCTION .............................................................................35 THE LOOK OF SEDUCTION ...........................................................................................35. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 4–.

(5) THE FEEL OF SEDUCTION ............................................................................................37 THE W AY A W OMAN HEARS SEDUCTION .......................................................................38 THE SEDUCTION ROADMAP: INWARD TO OUTWARD .......................................................40. THE POWER OF SCENTS AND ENERGY........................................................46 HOW A W OMAN W ORKS ..............................................................................................48 RAS-RETICULAR ACTIVATING SYSTEM .........................................................................51. BELIEF SYSTEM AND PERCEPTION ..............................................................53 SMART VS. LUCKY .......................................................................................................54 SHE W ANTS W HAT ONLY YOU CAN GIVE HER ..............................................................56 THE POWER OF BEING YOURSELF ................................................................................58 AND HE’LL HAVE FUN, FUN, FUN! ................................................................................59 A TRUE STORY ...........................................................................................................61 THE EXTERNAL POWER ...............................................................................................62 THE EXTERNAL DRAWBACK .........................................................................................65 HOW TO TRAIN A FLEA................................................................................................67. TAKING DOWN THE WALLS ............................................................................71 FEAR OF SEXUAL DISCLOSURE ....................................................................................71 DIRTY YOUNG MEN .....................................................................................................72 THE POWER OF ADJUSTMENT AND ACCEPTANCE ..........................................................75 THE POWER OF HAPPY ................................................................................................76 GROUNDHOG DAY .......................................................................................................76 REWRITE YOUR MOVIE ................................................................................................78. FEAR AND HESITATION...................................................................................79 STARS AND GODS .......................................................................................................79 WHEN REALITY SMASHES INTO YOUR ILLUSIONS ..........................................................82 ...................................................................................87 ........................................................................................90 ..............................................................................................92 .....................................................................94. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 5–.

(6) GOLD PANNING TECHNIQUE.........................................................................................96 .............................................................................................................101 ........................104 USING SAMENESS TO GET RID OF THE ELEPHANT .......................................................107 USING DIFFERENCES TO GET RID OF THE ELEPHANT ..................................................110 ...........................................................................114. DICHOTOMY OF WIN AND LOSE...................................................................116 THE NATURE OF SECOND GUESSING..........................................................................116 AN EMPOWERING EXAMPLE .......................................................................................119 MILLIONAIRES AND MASTER SEDUCERS AREN’T AFRAID TO BURN BRIDGES ..................121 GETTING W HAT YOU W ANT FROM THE GET GO ..........................................................122 THE GAME OF SEDUCTION – ARE YOU “ALL IN”?.........................................................124 BECOME A LASER BEAM INSTEAD OF A LIGHT BULB .....................................................128 DEFINING THE PERFECT WOMAN................................................................................131. THE FANTASY OF A WOMAN’S MIND ..........................................................135 THE REALITY OF DON JUAN .......................................................................................135 YOUR “CHARACTER” IN HER FANTASY ........................................................................136 LET THEM TRY ON YOUR ROLE!.................................................................................140 USE THE ENERGY OF CONTRAST ...............................................................................142 CHANGING YOUR CHARACTER AND W HY YOU’D W ANT TO...........................................145 WORDS OF LOVE GET YOU LAID! ...............................................................................147. AND LAST BUT NOT THE LEAST ..................................................................149 SOAP OPERAS ..........................................................................................................149 MEN SAY AND W OMEN IMPLY.....................................................................................153 .....................................................158 ..........................................................................................160 TIME FACTOR ...........................................................................................................163 INTERACTION OF SEDUCTION .....................................................................................164 ESSENCE OF THE MOVIE “SWEPT AWAY” ....................................................................166. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 6–.

(7) GET OUT THERE AND BE A MASTER SEDUCER!.......................................172. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 7–.

(8) I have been doing hypnosis for so long, I have a tendency to speak in process language and form - a lot. Process language is language at a deep unconscious level and is very hypnotic. This may sound a bit confusing at first, but don’t let that worry you. It isn’t nearly as difficult as it sounds. I’m explaining this up front so that with time and practice, you will begin to see that the techniques I teach you to become a master seducer, the techniques that crack the code, are actually hypnotic techniques. This doesn’t mean that you will be waving a watch in front of women and saying, “You are getting sleepy.” But it does mean that you will have some of the skills necessary to break down the defenses of women and have them begging to be by your side. The difference between content language and process language is the difference between the instructions for baking a cake and the ingredients in a cake. The ingredients in a cake would be considered content language. The instructions for baking the cake would be process language. The unconscious mind – the part that is working without our control - is much more adept at process language - how things work, how things go together, how things flow, and pattern recognition. So when I talk to people in process language, many times people say to me, "What you said was crystal clear, but I didn’t understand a word you just said.” What they're telling me is that their unconscious mind picked up the information just fine, but they're conscious mind has not yet grasped the information.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 8–.

(9) While you're reading this book, keep that in mind and allow yourself some time to absorb these new concepts and ideas. The key is getting BOTH your conscious and unconscious minds to, first, understand, and, then, work together to make you an expert at attracting women. What I am attempting to do in this book is teach you more useful processes that master seducers have learned and women accept – both biologically and in their minds. That is the kind of thing that hypnosis does to people. It overloads the conscious mind and goes directly to the unconscious mind, which, believe it or not, understands it perfectly. An amazing thing happens when the unconscious understands the process. It tests and uses it to see if it is useful. People will initially know that their unconscious mind got the information and is applying it. But over a period of time, things begin to happen. And the next thing I know is that they start to give me stories about how they understand on a conscious level. If I stop them, and ask them why they are telling me that story, most of the time they say, "I have no Idea" and then just stand there with a blank look on their face. That is deep trance. They understand enough to tell me but they don't have any reference points to back it up. They are out in the middle of “know where.” Some people call it a pattern interrupt, because you interrupted the linear flow of thinking. Once a person is at that place, they can be led to just about any place in their thinking (again Hypnosis). The cognitive dissonance (the difference between two seemingly opposed ideas) is so great; that they are looking for any thought that makes sense, any thought Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 9–.

(10) to narrow the gap that makes them feel lost. The people become so confused at this point that any idea that seems to make a little bit of sense will be one that they will start to gravitate towards. When the person gets this experience, that is the perfect time to direct them into the desired behavior. So how do we apply this COMPLICATED psychology in an EASY way to pick up women? When you keep a woman guessing and keep her unsure, off-balance, especially in a fun way, you have just created a cognitive dissonance. Do you see how “fun” and “unsure” can be opposing ideas? When she feels this conflict, she will begin to look to you to see if you're going to lead her into a secure and fun place. If you take this opportunity to first create confusion and then lead her out of it to a safe and fun place, maybe even adding excitement, she will let you do it more often. Like Pavlov's dog, you will begin to condition her to know that you are a safe lead to follow. She starts to attach her new and wonderful states of emotion with you. And, since none of her defenses have come up, she is amazed and interested in how you are doing it and she wants more. It’s like a rollercoaster - safe but exciting and unpredictable. She knows something is going on, but not what. It is because you are using process, not content. It is deeper and works much better. If you are dealing with content, you might think that buying a dinner or giving her a gift or leading her to know you're rich or that you have a fast, expensive car will be all that she needs to make her happy. It's like throwing all the ingredients of a Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 10 –.

(11) cake into the bowl and expecting them to mix themselves and put themselves into the oven until done. It's not going to happen. Let me give you another analogy. Imagine a time before people understood radio waves. But you not only had the information, you had the equipment to send and receive radio signals. Kind of like a Connecticut Yankee in King Arthur's court. You would be considered a magician. We'll just imagine that women have no idea about this level of communication. And if they don't have any idea about what you're doing, then they have not developed any defenses over the years to put up against what you're doing. So process information slips right through. It's like finding a backdoor in a computer program that lets you in without the access code. By using this information in the Seduction Code you will be able to get into both the front door and the backdoor simultaneously. Another analogy: One of my teachers, who I believe is enlightened, has been doing this to me for years. Many times I get that ah-ha experience and then all of a sudden, I remember that he told me this awhile back, and I find my mind processing automatically the useful tools that he gave me. It is like they were hidden files waiting to be used. They just needed the right process to be used. Imagine women having many hidden files. All you have to do is find the right process so you can have access to all of them! When I do therapy with people, I explain to them that it is like an engineer who is trying to build an aqueduct, and trying to get the water to the city that needs it. He. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 11 –.

(12) must first plan the routing system and then build the system before he releases the water from the dam. Otherwise the water will flow wherever it flows. What we’re doing is creating channeled viaducts to let the water flow where we want it to flow after we open up the dam. We understand the dynamics of water so we can build according to how water acts and flows. What I am attempting to do is to build the systems at a deep level so when a guy gets into a pinch with a lady, he has some already-installed overflow ducts ready. I want to give him many options. These processes are not just for seducing; they are for making better human beings, and may even open some higher doors for them. If you understand behavior you can prepare for that behavior. If you know someone is going to act a certain way almost every time, it gives you an advantage to prepare yourself for what to say or do. So if we know that men and women's biology are hardwired a certain way, we can begin to plan a journey for them. Just consider yourself a tour guide for women. And if you’re a tour guide, you already know the territory. Your job is to make the journey fun and exciting for them so they will want to come back over and over again.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 12 –.

(13) You are about to embark on an adventure and like a captain leading his men off to unknown waters gives a speech, we’re going to start off with a poem. OK, it doesn’t sound like the same thing, but this poem is by Colin Fisher and he is a friend of Mark’s as well as a master seducer with no problems with women and sometimes you take your advice in whatever form you can get it.. THE VERY FIRST STEP It starts with a glance, a simple look. So subtle it should never be mistook. Mistake it for a nothing or a whim. Welcoming opportunities they’ll be thin. Relax and send a message so sincere. Communicate on a level where she’ll hear. That level that we call the quantum field. Can permeate a woman’s strongest shield. Avoid sending messages of the smut. Unless you fancy falling on your butt. Court her and Charm her, without a single word. Think only pleasant thoughts, if you want to be heard. Once you have connected, to her to energy strands. Then you can perform, shell be putty in your hands. Like a book shell open, to your every affection. Because now you have a link, you’ve made a deep connection. Breaking the Seduction Code © © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 13.

(14) A connection that was made. Before she even knew. She’s feeling those wonderful feelings. And it’s all because of you. The depth that you have traveled to. Can surprise the most beautiful women. It cuts through the intellectual too. It’s almost like a state of Zen. So make sure you appreciate, What it is that you’ve got. Be ready to quantumly change you. Be willing to shift your lot. Ready to acknowledge, this added extra pep. The secret is in the doing, as always in THE VERY FIRST STEP Copyright Colin Fisher November 2003. There’s also another friend you’ll be hearing from throughout the book. Teri is a researcher, editor, and writer lending a hand with this project. She unabashedly admits to thinking men are the greatest creatures God ever made. We don’t always agree philosophically, but at the end of the day, we both want the same thing: for men to be men and women to love them. We’ve asked her to make comments from time to time, just to affirm, or contradict something we’ve said.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 14 –.

(15) The Early Lessons Learning how to seduce women is a science, practicing seducing women is an art, and like any art or science, you must start with a premise and work to prove it or show it is right. The premise you want to build is effective communication, which isn’t learning how to communicate like a woman, but rather learning to communicate to a woman; confidence (the best accessory you can wear because it fits every woman), and the freedom to flirt – which is a natural offshoot of being able to confidently communicate. We understand that you weren’t born with the command of language Shakespeare was born with, or the looks of a Brad Pitt or charm of a Mel Gibson. The good news is: they weren’t born with them either. They had to meld their natural attributes with lessons they learned along the way to become what we know them as. The even better news: you can develop your attributes, marry them to the lessons in this book, and become a master seducer in your own right. If your looks are more Brad Garrett, than Pitt, if your charm is more Mel Brooks, than Gibson; it doesn’t matter – all four are married to good looking women, which is proof that any man with the right skills can score women – any man! Your very first role models were found at home in your parents. You mimicked their behaviors and depending on how they reacted, you kept some and the others you dropped. If you have siblings, they also modeled behavior, and then there are your friends, teachers, other adults, and even strangers. Some of those behaviors you embraced, some you denied, until voila – it’s a boy! It’s you. It’s how we all learn: we see behaviors or are told to have certain behaviors and, depending on the payoff (in pleasure or pain), we adopt them until they are second nature. Think about it for a moment to let the realization sink in because Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 15 –.

(16) that’s going to be the key you are going to use to unlock the door that leads to the land of more women. The door that key unlocks are the techniques you will learn. So, if you know we come by who we are by a series of trying on certain behaviors and beliefs and keeping the ones we think fit, do you now see how that same technique can be used to increase the number of beautiful women you can seduce? We’re going to give you the techniques used by master seducers (the art), add some more of what we know, (the science), let you try it on for a while (actually, as long as you like), ask you to put some effort into making it work while we sit back safe in the knowledge we’ve helped increase your love life. We’re going to tell you this again because it bears repeating, but also because that’s one of the techniques to help you understand that your reach has not exceeded your grasp: you can get more beautiful women to talk to you, to date you, and to sleep with you. Yes, you: the guy who doesn’t think he’s good looking enough, rich enough, and doesn’t drive the big name car. You can have more women in your life and in your bed. Milton Erickson, the greatest hypnotist ever, said, “You can pretend anything and master it.” An updated version of the same sentiment is: “If you dream it, you can see it; if you see it, you can achieve it.” If you’ve dreamt of becoming more successful, we’re going to help you see how possible it is. Once you see it, you are well on your way to making it happen, and part of it will be to jump right into the persona of a man who knows he can have beautiful women. There’s really no great secret to getting more women in your life. Simply give them what they want. That’s it. Now for some, that will mean diamonds, furs, and Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 16 –.

(17) spending money for shopping sprees that would turn Rodeo Drive into a strip mall, but most women aren’t looking for that. Most women have basic needs that go to the very core of their being. They often try and fight it by spouting feminists’ terms, but deep down inside a woman wants a man to be a man. Give her that and she will inscribe your name on her heart forever. If you’re familiar with Maslow’s needs hierarchy, then you know food, shelter, and clothing are the primal needs of every human being – including women. The next need for both men and women is sex. Humans crave closeness and intimacy and sex is one of the ways to achieve it. We’re going to show you to convince her you’re the man to give it to her.. Does it sound incredible? We understand. It sounded that way to us when we heard it, and it was even more incredible when we discovered it worked and our own dating lives picked up. Don’t let disbelief stop you from going for it. And when you do go for, be prepared for the discomfort you’re going to feel and don’t let that stop you, either. It’s going to feel new and different; it will be like wearing a new pair of shoes. They feel a bit uncomfortable, but they’re not yet broken in and you may get a little soreness before they mold themselves to your feet. These new disciplines will take some time before they mold themselves into your personality. You may think you’re not being genuine or true to yourself. Well, I have news for you. You didn’t feel comfortable when you first learned how to walk, drive, and explain to your parents why you missed curfew, but soon that awkwardness disappeared and you forgot about the discomfort and went for what you knew. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 17 –.

(18) All we’re asking is that you try these new behaviors and ideas, wear them for a few days, and then determine if you want to keep them or not. There’s a wardrobe to be mixed and matched, and you could come up with a combination that’s news to all of us, and you could learn something you could teach us! We going to repeat this again since repetition is key to learning: You cannot determine if it will work before you work it. You can’t tell if what we’re saying to you is valid based upon your old thinking and your old fears. You have to step out of the comfort zone and try them in order to determine how useful or relevant it is for you. Don’t dismiss it out of hand - that’s your past talking and your past hasn’t done much for you lately. Create an open space in yourself that’s willing to unlearn all you thought you knew and replace it with a new challenge. Don’t let old disempowering beliefs ground you before you have a chance to take off. We’re making the assumption you know where to find women, and can even approach them. We are also assuming that it is too fearful for you to really go for it and that in all likelihood, your technique may need some reworking. Once you know where to find them and see someone you think fits the description of “the perfect woman”, you have to know how to approach a woman. You have to be able to assess the situation to see how long you have to put your plan into action. Generally speaking, you don’t have many options: 1. You have days or weeks to seduce her 2. You have a few hours to seduce her 3. You have a few minutes to seduce her.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 18 –.

(19) A master seducer knows how to take advantage of a few minutes as well as a few weeks. For some men, it takes more guts to ask a woman out after two minutes than one you’ve been eyeing for two months. For other men, it may be the other way around. Having more than 20 years experience behind me, I can safely tell you to start your seduction process very quickly, within the first few minutes of your first encounter, or you are bound to find the process more difficult in the future. There may be more than one reason why you should start your process immediately: •. To keep you from freezing. •. To keep from reverting back to your old ways. •. To sharpen and hone your skills. But there’s one primary reason for starting the seduction process right away and making sure your intentions are clear from the very beginning: Because she will decide very quickly whether you’re a potential lover, a potential friend, or a potential nothing to her at all. And when we say quickly, we mean within the first few minutes – like less than five. It’s like an employer looking over resumes - you have to have a hook right at the very beginning or they will gloss over your resume in search of the one that hits them right away. Women are no different and you are interviewing to be her lover. It may be for long term employment, it may be a temp gig, but she’s got to see the potential in you right away or she will decide for herself what category you belong in. And if. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 19 –.

(20) she decides to place you in the friends category, it’s almost a lock you’ll be sentenced there forever with little chance of parole. You must enter into any interaction with a woman you are attracted to as a master seducer. If you enter her mind and emotions as a friend in the beginning, it is extremely difficult to cross back over to lover. So, start off on the right foot, and save yourself some future disappointments. Start immediately as a master seducer. Make it a part of who you are. Both woman and men respect a person confident in their abilities. And you will find that men begin to treat you better because of how you generate interest from women, and your confidence with them. This is why it is important to get your game plan going right away. We do, however, understand how frightening this can be, especially if you aren’t used to talking to women or approaching them. Luckily for you, we are here to teach you! We are here to give you the foundation you can stand on that makes speaking to women easier and more productive all at the same time. And once you make talking to women easier, it becomes easier for you to put your plan into action. We know there’s a glut of information out there. We’ve seen the hardcopy books, the ezines, and the ebooks that tell you how to land women and get laid. And we know that some of those books are filled with just enough information and useful techniques to get you to spend money, but not enough to really make it real. We have filtered through all that information and the stuff that bears repeating is here. AND you get all the stuff the other books don’t tell you. We bring you information and knowledge on how to apply the principles of NLP, hypnosis, and self-treatment.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 20 –.

(21) What’s the difference? Like we stated at the very beginning – we love women. We love them from a place of knowledge. We understand their complexities and nuances; we understand what makes them so annoyingly complex and wonderful. That knowledge gives an edge to you over those who teach you that a good pick up line and a nice suit is all you need. While looking good and having a command of the language are essentials that we will discuss, we will also tell you that understanding the object of your potential affection and knowing the hows and the whys of the way they act will help you gain confidence in how you act with them. The techniques discussed in this book, and personally used over the past few decades, will teach you how to find out what she wants and how to give it to her. You will be able to take your modus operandi into any place where there are women and wear it like that nice suit. You will have better potential to sweep any woman off her feet, whether it’s a woman you want to sleep with or one who you just want to make feel better about herself. This isn’t just a guide of lines and war strategies; this is a hands-on user guide that looks at seduction as a process instead of an activity. Seduction is more like growing a fruit tree; it keeps growing and producing over the years for you and the women you choose to give the “fruit” to. It’s going to give you skills to know what to say, what to do, and how to gauge and predict her reactions. We are confident this is a more complete and comprehensive guide to dating and seduction than you’ve seen on the net or on the shelves. It doesn’t matter if you’re a beginner or someone who’s had success, you will learn a powerful seduction system that will change your dating and sex life forever. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 21 –.

(22) This book will teach you: •. How to appeal to women on a subconscious level.. •. How to interpret women’s behavior and use that knowledge to your advantage.. •. How to develop a better self image which is a self-fulfilling prophesy in the dating arena.. After reading this book, and putting the techniques in action, you will be able to approach a woman, make her smile, and gain and sustain her interest. You will be such good company that she won’t want you to leave her. Keep it up and she’ll think it was her idea to want you – because it will be. Not only that, she’ll want to be intimate with you! Isn’t that scary? Isn’t it wonderful? Isn’t it about time to learn? Let’s get started and congratulations in advance!. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 22 –.

(23) Previously we stated you needed to be willing to create an open space in your mind and that was best accomplished by dismissing some of the myths about women and dating commonly held as the truth. It’s gotten to be a habit among men to believe certain things about women and how to get them to date us. We pass this information on to each other, affirm our own fears, and hold them as the truth. The only way to change a habit is to take one behavior or belief and replace it with another one we can use until we believe it as easily as we believed what we thought was true before. We would like to help you get rid of some of the most common beliefs regarding women and dating and give you the reasons why you should replace that old thinking with new thoughts.. Old Thinking #1: You Have To Be Good Looking to Date Women New Thinking: Do good looks give you an advantage? Certainly, but ask a frog what he thinks is good looking and he’ll say slimy skin, bulging eyes, and a nicely placed wart. Attractiveness and good-looking mean different things to different people. And women are less visual than men. We tend to go for the looks and eventually hope there’s something beneath them. A woman will look but she’s on the lookout for that thing we only hope for. A good-looking jerk will find himself out on the street in favor of the not-so-handsome guy who knows how to treat her. You may not have seen some really handsome guys without women (though we’ve seen plenty), but we’ve all seen guys we don’t think are as good looking as Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 23 –.

(24) we are, who are with beautiful women. We’ve all seen men with a beautiful woman and we can’t even imagine what she’s doing with him. We’ve come to the conclusion that attractiveness for women means something different than it does for men, and that’s good news for us. It’s not your hair, or how big your…feet are; your best feature is confidence.. Old Thinking #2: You need lots of money in order to seduce women New Thinking: We shouldn’t even have to talk about this. You’ve seen hot women with the mailman, the guy at the hardware store, and with people you work with. They don’t make a great deal of money. Are there women who want men with lots of money and have that as a criterion for whom they’ll date? Yes. We call them gold diggers and we don’t want them anyway. But for the rest of us who make average bank, we can still get beautiful women because that’s not what most of them are after. Sure, they want us to pick up the tab, but admit it; we want to pick it up most of the time because it makes us feel like a man. That doesn’t mean you have to go the expensive restaurants or get courtside seats. It may mean you have to be creative, but creative will get you points. We guarantee there are some minimum wage guys with maximum sex lives.. Old Thinking #3: Good Looking Women Will Want Nothing to Do With You New Thinking: Does anyone know where this started? Women: hot, lukewarm, or cool have the same physical needs as men. And when they need them Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 24 –.

(25) fulfilled, they are going to look for the best person to fulfill them. Since they are not as visual as men, they may appreciate a man’s physical beauty, but he better bring something else to the table if he wants to take a seat. This is where a guy who isn’t at the top of the handsome chain can make his move. She will appreciate the confidence of a man willing to approach her and make it clear he can deliver to her needs. She’s not likely to throw that guy in the friendship category during those first few critical minutes. If she is a woman all the guys in the room consider hot, you know there will be men there who will look at her but don’t touch because they buy into the myth that she won’t go for them. That leaves room for you and your approach.. Old Thinking #4: If You Are Nice, Sensitive, and Show Your Emotions, Women Will Want You. New Thinking: This is tricky because it’s more of a half myth. Women do want someone nice – they don’t want someone wimpy. They do want someone sensitive – they don’t want who is so sensitive they’re scary. They want someone emotional, but no more emotional than they are. They want somebody kind, but not somebody who reminds them first of a friend. If the encounter becomes a relationship, and the relationship becomes a commitment, you can add being a friend later on. At the beginning, you don’t want her to see you as a friend. You want her to see you as a potential lover. This means your approach should be ‘friendly’ but not friendship. That doesn’t mean you walk up to her and say: “I’d like to do you right now.” It means your approach and your demeanor should let her know you’re not just making idle talk and looking for someone to hang out with.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 25 –.

(26) Old Thinking #5: Solve Her Problems and She’ll Sleep With You New Thinking: Try this and women will punish you in more ways than one; the first being she won’t sleep with you. The second is, she will stick you hard into the friendship category and will actually call you for advice about the guy she is sleeping with who does her wrong. Third, eventually, you will be direct and tell her you want to be her lover and she’ll tell you that would akin to doing her brother. Women already have outlets for that kind of stuff; they’re called other women or girlfriends. Let them be therapists for each other - at least at this juncture. Like we said, you can add that part later. It will still be a tricky situation because women don’t like it when they tell you something and you tell them how to handle it. At this point, that’s not the drama and tension you want to create. Best leave girlfriend behavior to girlfriends.. Old Thinking #6: There are a limited number of women available and most of them are busy. New thinking: O.k. there are a finite number of women on the planet and some of them are married, some don’t wish for relationships, some are gay, some won’t be compatible with you, and some just aren’t within a reasonable traveling distance. That leaves roughly thousands for you to choose from. Women already think there’s a shortage of good men so if you’re on your game even a little bit, you’ve moved up ahead of a lot of men. If you’re running into the problem with women telling you they have no time, face that what they’re saying is they won’t make the time, and then figure out what it is Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 26 –.

(27) about your approach that needs to be changed so they will feel like being more accessible to you.. Old Thinking #7: Getting a hot woman to have sex with you is too time consuming. New Thinking: As opposed to the woman just sitting around with nothing to do? Who are you kidding? It’s work no matter which way you go – but it’s work that’s worth it when you consider you’re getting the sex you want. This is a complaint made by guys who haven’t used their time wisely in learning how to seduce women or maintain a woman’s attention and thus aren’t as successful as they’d like to be. It’s time to stop whining and using tired excuses instead of reaching higher. After you’ve applied what you’ll learn here, you won’t even recognize that old complainer you used to be.. Old Thinking #8: If you wait long enough, the courage will come to approach women. New Thinking: And if you click your heels three times, the man behind the curtain will help you find that courage. Courage is a verb. It needs action to make itself work. You find it along the way when you’re headed to doing something that isn’t the most comfortable thing for you to do. While you’re waiting for the courage to magically appear, there’s someone out there making the moves on your girl, and she won’t know she’s supposed to turn him down, because you haven’t given her the option. Step up to the plate, dude.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 27 –.

(28) Old Thinking #9: Women know what they want, and they will tell you. New Thinking: No, they won’t - at least not directly - at least not at first. Women communicate differently than men and a lot of that has to do with wanting you to learn how to read their minds and know instinctively what it is they need. Well, unless you’re a mind reader, and you aren’t or else you wouldn’t need this book, or unless you’re really good at reading a woman, and you will be after reading this book, you need a woman to be more forthright than she’ll probably be. The truth is, women don’t always know what they want because they have their own unique fears and hang-ups, and then they have their individual ones and both sets collide to keep a brother from taking a quick path to their bedrooms. Guys, believe me - nobody wants someone who is oblivious to their (biological) needs - especially a woman. They want someone very special, with the qualities they’ve spent a good deal of time fantasizing about, and who has the qualities that can meet their deepest sexual needs. Most women are not attracted to supplicants, begging for the easy keys to melt their heart. It’s your independent nature and courage that gets them going, not your dependency on being told how to act. What women say they want and what they actually respond to are often totally different. Women can’t tell you what they want in a man; they can only tell you what they think they want in a man. There is a big difference. If you want to be successful in this game, then take initiative to break the barrier.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 28 –.

(29) Teri Tells: I know, it’s amazing I’ve stayed quiet this long, but this is the first thing I take true issue with. What I say I want is exactly what I want. If it seems like she’s changing her mind, you’ve probably fulfilled some of what she wants and she’s seeing if you’ve got the rest, or she’s discovered something you have that she didn’t think you did. If all you want is sex and only sex, don’t get frustrated at us because we’re not one-dimensional. We know what you want, but you’re going to have to show us something saying you’re worth giving it to.. Old Thinking #10 – Dating is fair, and you will get your turn New Thinking: You’re kidding, right? You know nothing in life is fair, and most especially dating. It is one of the most unfair systems there is – just ask the people on both sides. Men think women have the advantage and women think men do. There’s probably some truth on both sides, but since we’re men, we’re going with women have the advantage, and they aren’t going to give it to a guy sitting back and waiting for it to come to them. That’s not even natural for a man. Men are hunters, women are gatherers and nurturers. We must go after what we want in business, in sports, and in dating. The guy sitting back twiddling his thumbs will never have anything else to play with. I was talking to a friend of mine the other day. He was telling me about a friend of his that is 65 years old and has only been laid 2 times in his whole life. Two times!!! Here is the kicker. He has been married for 45 of those years. His wife (if you can call her that) has only given it up, twice, in 45 years. Frank was a virgin before he got married. Again he played by the rules. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 29 –.

(30) But my buddy said Frank keeps trying with his wife, but she keeps calling him a pervert and saying “Not now”. My buddy said Frank is a great guy and believes he should follow the rules of the game he started with. That’s the kind of result I hear ALL the time in my therapy business and at a lot of the trade shows I do where men are the primary customers. Their situations may not be as severe as Frank’s, but it sure feels the same to any man to get treated that way. I offered free therapy to Frank. Lets see if I can get him “some” before the poor guy dies. Dating is a game. It’s a competition and an arena that can be navigated with success by those willing to get into it and mix it up. One year from now you will either be better, the same, or worse off than you are right now. If you’re going to be here anyway, why not be here with a woman who finds you attractive and wants to sleep with you?. Teri Tells: I’ve offered to fly out to wherever Frank is and let him go crazy with me. He’s a bit older than me, but I figure he’d be so grateful it would be worth my while.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 30 –.

(31) Here’s the funny thing about the universe: it was built so men and women would say yes to each other. Think about it a second. We all have base, animal instincts and animals mate using their own rituals, but they mate. They may preen and prance, and shake some feathers, but the bottom line is they end up locked together. They say yes to what their natures call them to do. Man is the only animal that places layers over our basic instincts and makes it a frustrating game built with rights and wrongs, and moral codes. That doesn’t mean we should all shed our clothes and go after each other like banshees – though that might have some merit, but we’ve gotten ourselves wrapped into our own rules so that the meaning of being a man or being a woman has moved far away from what it meant when we were first created. We want to teach you to get through those layers and back to the basics. That starts with understanding that, deep down, a woman is searching for a way to say yes to you. We understand you’ve run into a group of women who are adept at saying no, but we believe we can change that around. We believe:. All Women Want to Be Seduced It is a universal truth that all women want to be seduced. Seduction is a game of push and pull, give and take. Generally women get a LOT of pull and take, but not nearly enough of a well timed and well executed give and push. Seduction is a man’s game; women don’t need it - perhaps because there are so many jerks who crave them. With all the guys drooling over them, they are constantly building defenses to ward off the onslaught of needy men. As a master seducer, Breaking the Seduction Code © © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 31.

(32) you give her a chance to experience the proper kind of seduction her body and mind really desire. You give her a chance to compete in a game she wants to lose. Not a game that is given to her on a silver platter by a wimp. What fun is it to go out and play and be given the trophy before you get to the playing field? There is no fun in that for women. No, friend, this is a game women want to play. They want a man who knows how to play it with her in a way that brings out the seductress in her. You have heard it said many times by women, “We want a CHALLENGE.” They want you to compete for their virtue. We will show you how throughout this book.. Women Yearn For Romance It’s part of the ritual that helps them get back to the basics. For all the outcry of equal rights (and there should be) and women who can take care of themselves (and they should), romance novels sell billions of dollars in revenue every year. Whatever else they yearn for; they yearn for romance. There are male animals who have to display for females in order to gain their attention. Wild peacocks, for example, only show that magnificent display of feathers when they want to mate. They use their gifts to try and convince a peahen to mate with him. There are gifts you can give a woman that will lead her to thinking she could do worse than be with you: •. Show up on time. •. Open the door. •. Be obvious but not leering when you check out her body. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 32 –.

(33) •. When you’re out, don’t be obvious when you check out other women. •. Don’t be rude to the wait staff. •. Make sure you shower before hand.. Do just those few things and you would have smoked half your competition.. A Married Man Might Stand A Better Chance at Seducing a Woman We all know of men who have their flings on the side and a wife at home. A married man doesn’t have to go through the same rituals as a single guy. He already has a woman at home so he doesn’t have anything to prove. That means he can be out on the prowl and can take or leave women as they come along. If he’s a master communicator as well as a master seducer, he can use his married state to either make a women feel sorry for him and thus ignite her need to nurture and fix, or he can use it to make it a challenge and ignite her need to compete. Either way, he can focus more on the objective of the game. A married man looking for women who knows how to get them is lethal. Don’t believe us? We have two words for you: Bill Clinton.. Teri Tells: I want to make it clear. We aren’t telling married men to do this. What we’re telling you single guys out there is that you can change your focus from yourself to what you’re after and you’ve moved a step ahead towards getting what you want.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 33 –.

(34) What Can You Learn From This? One of the key things you’re going to learn is that you have a right to exist and a right to exist with a healthy sex life. You have to exude that right when dealing with the opposite sex. Walk like a man with confidence, and that’s what they’ll see. Act like a man’s who’s desperate or one who drools all over himself, and they’ll see that, too. If deep down inside you know you’re a man of humor, confidence, and attractiveness, allow those feelings to guide you inch by inch until you’re living who you are.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 34 –.

(35) Men and women are wired differently. Thank God for that. But because of that, we have to learn how to navigate the waters of the other side; just as women have to learn how to steer through our stuff. It isn’t always easy; it isn’t always clear, but the good news is that though men and women view it differently – we both have the same goal that ends in the bedroom.. The Look of Seduction They say seduction is mostly visual for men. Women have no problem with this concept. The "fairer sex" works hard to be visually pleasing. We all know stories of women spending hours getting ready to go out. They are rising to the level that they believe men will find very attractive. And don’t let women fool you with that sisterhood thing, women dress for other women; they dress to outshine the other women and bring the male attention to them. It’s the confident women that don’t let it show. What do we care? We get the benefit of both the women and the competition. Women literally support the economy, between clothing stores, hairdressers, cosmetics, general beauty products, and getting their nails done every few weeks. Most of them learn the subtle little tricks that enable them to present their bodies in the best possible way. When in seduction mode, they know how to look sexy, walk sexy, sit sexy, smile sexy, laugh sexy, and ultimately be sexy. Why? Because they know we’re visual. Whether you are male or female; regardless of your sexual orientation; no matter what kind of body houses your mind, heart, Breaking the Seduction Code © © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 35.

(36) and soul—whatever you do, determine to present yourself in the best possible way. Men, do your best to look nice. There isn't a person alive who doesn't appreciate a lover who works hard to be attractive and inviting. If it means losing some weight, getting some new clothes, or even changing the brand of deodorant you use, do it. In simpler words, the person you want to seduce will need to "see" you as being desirable. Nothing less and nothing more! Next point is that seduction is appealing. Yes? Yes, of course. Let’s see how. The dance between the sexes is a wonderful thing when it comes to the subject of seduction. Making ourselves alluring and attractive to the one we desire is both fun and exciting. If that were not so, then there would not be as much need for glamorous lingerie shops, hairdressers, rows, and rows of cosmetic shelves in department stores, stores that sell sexy clothing, and hundreds of fragrances from name brand manufacturers. Women know how to be alluring. That’s one of the reasons they can be so frightening. The trouble they go through with the hair, and the makeup, and the clothes to make themselves look so good is intimidating to men who don’t have to bother with the ritual. Can that woman who is so good looking be real? Yes, with the help of Max Factor and Estee Lauder, but we don’t think of that at the time. We just see a stack of gorgeous woman and we freak.. Teri Tells: Please don’t take that to mean that if you aren’t in the greatest shape you shouldn’t be out on the dating scene. Yes, we appreciate the effort, because we want you to appreciate ours. But we also want to know that if we don’t emulate what you see in the magazines, that you’ll still find us attractive. We’ll give that same courtesy to you. It’s amazing how attractive a plain guy can be if he knows how to handle his business with a woman. Good looks may be an initial attraction that gets you in the door, but your happy little ass and sixpack will be hitting that same door if you don’t deliver anything else. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 36 –.

(37) The Feel of Seduction Seduction is romantic, and romance is all about feel - both the inner and outer feelings. The number one feeling a woman must have towards you is safety. If she’s looking for a short-term relationship, she needs to feel safe that you won’t turn into a stalker when the end of the term comes. If she’s looking for a longterm relationship, she needs to feel safe that you won’t do anything to harm her heart. If she’s looking for sex, she needs to feel safe enough to allow her body to do what it needs to do in order to gain satisfaction. Even if what she wants to do is take you for everything you have and empty your bank account and your personal wealth of confidence, she needs to feel safe enough to get away with it. That safety can take many different forms and is probably more of a collage of requirements than just one specific one. But there are things you can do that, like a well placed bowling ball can knock a few of them down in one throw. Getting someone to feel romantic towards you means doing those little things "in between.” It’s really great that you can last for hours in the bed, but it’s those hours when you’re vertical that can make the horizontal hours more fulfilling for her. Romance is the fine art of genuinely treating the object of your interest with an attitude that arouses the desire in her – creating a want to be with you. What are some of the ways to arouse those feelings?. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 37 –.

(38) Calling when you say you will. Touching her in a way that’s a secret between the two of you. Kissing her gently instead of always snaking your tongue down her throat. One of my friends and a master seducer shared how he seduced his new girl the first time while sharing a meal together. We won't be too descriptive here but to say only that he did certain things with food items while he was eating them in a way that she definitely got the point. He said that he had a wonderful time doing it and they look back and laugh about it now. He ate his meal very slowly and deliberately and then delayed eating the last little bite for about 10 minutes. Both the waitress and the woman were waiting in anticipation for him to finish, and he would just smile at them saying he was enjoying the anticipation of the last bite. He was sending an underlying message to them about his ability to delay gratification. He was showing them that he knew how to build up anticipation of something good. He was showing them what he was going to do with them. And he had lots of fun doing it. Imagine what he did with dessert. It’s amazing when you watch this kind of power in person.. Teri Tells: Guys – here’s a hint for seduction. Take her to an ice cream parlor and just lick your ice cream cone. No chomping. No slurping. Just licking. Be sure to look her in the eyes while doing so. It’s a sure thing!. The Way a Woman Hears Seduction. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 38 –.

(39) There’s a way a woman hears seduction. It’s the difference between a bad pick up line and telling her what she wants to hear. Ask a woman the best way to approach her and she will tell you to just say hello and leave all the cheesy pickup lines at home. There are certain things she wants to hear and she doesn’t want it to sound as if it’s something you say to every woman you meet. She wants to know that you’ve learned enough about her or want to learn enough about her to make her feel different than the other women you’ve talked to or will talk to again. She won’t help but notice the way you look, but it’s what you say that will determine whether or not you’re dismissed right away or never. Likewise, how you speak to a woman in bed, or when you want to get her there, can make or break an evening. There’s naughty talk, there’s dirty talk, and there’s gross talk. There’s a woman out there that likes each of those and you better make a determination which woman you’re with before you open your mouth.. Teri Tells: A guy I was with called me a bitch while we were in bed. He never called me a bitch outside of bed or anywhere else and I hadn’t been in bitch mode with him. We weren’t having hardcore sex, either. It broke the mood because I didn’t understand where it came from and took me from feeling safe to feeling uncomfortable.. You’re going to have to learn the specifics of each woman as you go along because they each have their own spin on what it feels and looks like. But that’s one of the fun challenges about becoming a master seducer - unlocking all the nuances of women. The road to her individual taste is mapped by the common Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 39 –.

(40) themes all women have. Our job is teaching you how to travel on the main highway that will take you to her private road. We’re going to show you the techniques you can use that all master seducers have used. They’re common to the men who know how to please women, and they can become common to you.. The Seduction Roadmap: Inward to Outward We look at the whole process of seduction as a mental map. You can see where you are, where you want to be, and the best route to take. Where you are now is a place where women are not responding to you in the manner you would like. Where you want to be is a place where you can be comfortable knowing your sex life is going exactly as planned. How you get there is by using the tools we provide to be able to focus on those things that will work for you as opposed to those things that hold you back. You will move forward in strength instead of in fear. You will learn how to make a woman feel special. Knowing how to handle each woman on an individual level is the difference between the standard approach to every woman, and the specialized approach you’ll be able to make. When you focus on your fears, your barriers, and your anxieties, you’re looking inward and staying there. You surround yourself with all types of negative thinking, which translates into negative actions and negative responses. When you recognize what you’re doing, and you make a conscious effort to change, and when you also begin to focus on how you interact with women, the process moves from inward to outward and the results are much more positive. Why? Because you take into consideration there’s someone else besides you. A woman will know if you’re. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 40 –.

(41) paying attention to her. Your chance of success with her depends on making it clear she’s the object of your attention, and not what she can do for you.. Here’s a chart that explains the difference between inward and outward thinking:. !. ". # $. %. &. #. ". '. ". ( ). ) Women like the seduction game. We know they tell you they don’t like game playing and that’s a different thing. We as humans know the hunt and catch game but what we don’t like is when someone plays the game outside the norms. Men are no different than women. Men don’t appreciate women who tease, or women who try to change who they are. Men don’t like it when a woman acts too forward. Women have their own code of behaviors they don’t like in men during the seduction game.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 41 –.

(42) What you’re going to learn is how to read a woman so you don’t use the wrong strategies when trying to woo her; thus increasing your chance of success with her. 1. The first step to gaining outward focus is realizing there’s something going on inside that needs tending. 2. The second step is listening to our self-talk as we approach women or any other challenge. 3. The third is replacing those negative thoughts with positive ones that better suit our purpose. Here’s a reality check so you know this stuff is true: If you have Caller I.D. on your phone, you probably look at it before you pick up the phone. If it’s someone you want to speak with, your mind says: “Great, it’s Mark!” If it’s someone you don’t want to speak with, your mind says: “Damn, it’s Mark!” You played an inner tape, you listened to it, and your responded outwardly. Either you picked up the phone anticipating a good conversation, or you ignored it avoiding a conversation, or you picked up anticipating a bad conversation. Your inward dialog controlled your outward response. When you're talking to your best friend and you feel completely comfortable, you're focused outward. You're paying attention to your friend's responses, going with the flow, and relaxed. You don't think to yourself, "What do I say next?" and you're not focused on your own feelings. You just act normal and natural, and are simply not running all those negative self-talk dialogues. As a master seducer, when you go out to meet women, or when you're already holding a conversation with a woman, you also need to be outwardly focused. You should be talking with women as if they were just like your best friend Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 42 –.

(43) naturally and easily. If you're internally focused, however, "over-thinking,” tense and forced conversation, hesitation, and negative internal dialogue hold you back. Honestly, these feelings or activities are your number one enemy. Don’t confuse “talking like she’s your best friend” with “acting like she’s your best friend.” We want you to be as comfortable with your seduction technique as you are hanging with your friends. But trust us when we tell you not to act like she’s your best friend. She already has one and chances are it’s a woman. You want to act like someone who will be her lover. Move in the direction of trying to be her friend first and you find yourself delegated to that special place called ‘just friends’ with no way to get off the island. One of the best ways to practice inward to outward thinking is through public speaking. Think about it. If you can capture an entire audience, you should be able to do well one on one using the same principles: figuring out what the audience needs, wants, and expects, and delivering it to them. In that same way, you will figure out what the woman in front of you needs and be able to deliver it to her. Public speaking forces you to practice relaxation in front of other people, taking action, leading a situation, and taking command of the situations and circumstances around you. When you're speaking publicly, you can't be inside your head at the same time. Of course, you may be nervous and really suck at it at first - but that's the whole point. You've spent so much time practicing inward focus that your outward focus skills are weak and you can't expect them to improve overnight. But they will improve. Gaining confidence from public speaking is probably one of the most important attributes you’ll ever discover. It will speed up your Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 43 –.

(44) seduction learning curve dramatically. If you are already a public speaker you’ll find that it is fairly easy to transfer the confidence you get from speaking to seduction. If the opportunities to speak publicly aren’t readily available or readily created, there are some other things you can do to start changing your game plan. Begin to look at guys that are great with the women. You may not like every aspect of who they are, but I’m sure you can find something that you like about the way they seduce women. Find a quality you admire and try it on. Maybe he smiles at every woman he sees, whether she’s available or not. Whatever he does, you do it, too. Fight the anxiety and the discomfort. Those feelings will be replaced with the confident feelings you will gain after practicing for a few days. So begin your outward search finding the qualities that you like in the men that are already successful doing what you want to do. Of course, the VERY best way to practice inward to outward thinking is by speaking with women and doing your level best to act normal around them. I know what you’re saying: “I’m nervous, that’s what’s normal for me!” Well, yes and no. Nervousness is an energy that’s inward based. What you want to do is push that energy outward and use it to connect with a woman. That’s why we say you should emulate the tone, body movements, and speech you would use when speaking to a family member or a good friend. It will help ease the nerves and raise the confidence. We understand it’s a scary notion. We understand how much easier it would be to hide away. You always have the option to hide away. If at any moment, any of this gets to be too much for you, feel free to discontinue use and be alone for the rest of your life. Of course, a miraculous Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 44 –.

(45) thing could happen and the universe could decide to bless you with a wonderful sex life without you having to do anything to earn it. But do you think you have that kind of connection with the universe? We are blessed with great imagination and that imagination will allow us to create buildings, high tech equipment, and excuses for not going after what we want. I’m shy. I don’t have time. All the stuff we went through at the beginning of the book. Stop it right now. It’s time to grow up and be a man and have all the things a man has a right to have - including the companionship of sexy women. Jerks have sexy women around them. I’m sure you know one. Guys who you know don’t deserve the women who fawn over them. Well, you’re the only one who doesn’t know they shouldn’t have them, and your opinion doesn’t count. Instead of thinking badly about them, start thinking better about yourself and take the steps you need to take to get what you want.. Breaking the Seduction Code ©. -. © 2005, Mark J. Ryan, All Rights Reserved www.SeductionCode.com Contact Mark at [email protected]. 45 –.

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