Mind Bending Language Demo - CHPH2 - DVDs - Transcripts - Part

Igor: Have a seat, there you go. Joe, do you want to arrange the microphone so she doesn’t have to hold it? Actually, you know what, do you mind holding it? It’s probably not going to be that kind trance anyway. Just test it out say you are okay.

Q: Yes, I’m okay.

Igor: Okay, you all can hear okay? All: Yes.

Igor: Everyone fine? All: Okay.

Igor: So, just a little time out before we start off. Normally, when we just do the stop smoking program, along with a whole bunch of other things that we’ll do, so I’m going to try and restrain it just to the Mind Bending Language to show you that you can do anything with anything else, does that make sense? It will mean that we will have to do a few extra loops on the way but why not, right?

Q: Why not?

Igor: Exactly. So you are a smoker? Q: Yes.

Igor: How long have you been a smoker? Q: 20, 25 years.

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Q: I hide and I smoke at home. Igor: You hide.

Q: Yes.

Igor: And you smoke at home? Q: Yes.

Igor: Wow. Just out of curiosity, how come you hide? Q: I don’t like that I smoke.

Igor: You don’t like that you smoke, right, so how come you do? Q: I don’t know.

Igor: So what happens? You know, walking around your normal day, give me an example of the last time you smoked?

Q: This morning.

Igor: This morning, right? So you woke up and decided I have to smoke? Q: No.

Igor: Oh great, so what did happen?

Q: I don’t know. I had breakfast and I decided well, I should smoke now because I might want to later so I’ll smoke now.

Igor: Okay. So just before you were thinking I should smoke now, how were you feeling? There you go.

Q: I don’t know.

Igor: You don’t know, do you? You really don’t know. This by the way is very common for a compulsion because the unconscious mind kind of takes over a little bit, that’s fine. So how would you like to be different?

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Igor: You would like not to smoke, right? So how would you be as a person if you were not smoking?

Q: The same. Igor: The same?

Q: Just not smoking.

Igor: Okay. And how do you feel about smoking now? Q: Like it’s bad.

Igor: Like it’s bad. Like it’s bad. So what’s not bad about you, that goes beyond the idea of smoking?

Q: I don’t know.

Igor: Really consider it. What do you think about it? What’s not bad about you that goes beyond the idea of smoking? There you go. What’s happening now?

Q: I’m thinking about what you said.

Igor: You are thinking about what I said, aren’t you? And how are you feeling whilst you are doing that?

Q: Good.

Igor: Yeah. How do you know when you want a cigarette? I mean, let’s put it this way, how do you know, right now, that you’re not cured, done, finished. You just could go home right now and never smoke again? You think that’s likely?

Q: Yes.

Igor: You think it is likely? Q: Yes.

Igor: Great. How would you know? How would you know for sure? Q: I wouldn’t want to smoke.

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Q: Ever.

Igor: Ever? Do you want to smoke right now? Q: No. Maybe.

Igor: Maybe? Now we have something. You see it takes a little bit of work sometimes to get at the actual thing? So what’s that maybe about, tell me? What just happened then?

Q: Probably if I could smoke I would. If I didn’t think that anybody would see me or something.

Igor: Okay. So if you could smoke you would, how did you know? How do you know you would smoke if you had the opportunity right now?

Q: I don’t know, just from past experience I guess.

Igor: So right now if you were alone in the room and there was a cigarette packet there, what would prevent you from just ignoring it? Right now just think about. Q: Nothing would prevent me.

Igor: So it means that you could just choose not just smoke? Is that what you are telling me?

Q: For a while.

Igor: So what happens after that while? Q: My anxiety level goes up.

Igor: Oh.

Do you see how long it took us to get to the point? There is a feeling, a state that drives every behavior and it will take a little bit of effort to get to that, but now we can see more of the correlation, right? So when anxiety goes up you want to smoke is that what you are saying to me?

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weren’t going up, you wouldn’t smoke or if you found other ways of dealing with that anxiety, you wouldn’t smoke either, am I understanding this correctly?

Q: It’s probably true.

Igor: Right, so aside from the anxiety you feel at that point, because you can think of that can’t you? Aside from that anxiety what else is there that’s not smoking? There you go, what’s that? What was that?

Q: It’s infinite, I don’t know. Igor: It is infinite, isn’t it? Q: Yes.

Igor: It is infinite, isn’t it? It is infinite. How does that feel? Q: Good.

Igor: So as you are feeling this good, just think about that situation where the anxiety would normally arise? And notice what happens?

Q: I still feel good. Igor: You still feel good.

Are you convinced? Its half and half, right? We are making progress, but we are not entirely there yet and you know I’m right, right?

Q: Right.

Igor: Exactly. You’re being a very nice client by saying, oh, I will be nice. I won’t say anything bad, but you may as well tell me what’s going on. So what was that other thing about?

Q: What other thing?

Igor: Whatever was left over, what’s that? Q: I’d probably smoke.

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Incidentally, a little time out there, so you guys should know that smokers have several reasons to smoke. Anxiety is one of them, social insecurity is another one, sometimes they have time alone and contemplate, there are many different reasons for it and we have to track all these down. So for the purpose of the demonstration we will just do one or two of them rather than the whole bunch and I suspect your unconscious mind might be smart enough to start applying the same idea to other things too? But anyway, that’s neither here nor there for now. So why do you think you would still smoke? What’s makes you say that?

Q: Maybe when I’m bored. Igor: Maybe when you are bored.

Do you see another just come out? Before we get to this idea of boredom, I would like you to just think about something that would normally stress you out and you get a little anxious, you know what I mean. There you go, that. Not the most pleasant thing is it?

Q: No.

Igor: And there is a packet of cigarettes lying next to you, what happens? Q: I sneak away and have a smoke.

Igor: That’s right. Exactly.

Now why did I just do that? I’m doing a test. Do you see how the whole idea of the association and anxiety and smoking it has been eroded, but it actually hasn’t been cleared yet. So before I start dealing with any other reason like boredom and so on, I need to clear one specific trigger idea, whatever first. Does it kind of make sense? I’m doing this all a little backwards. If I was doing a stop smoking session first, I would actually do it much faster, doing other things as well, but because I’m restricting myself to Mind Bending Language, we are going to be going through these maneuvers a little bit more mechanically just so you can see what’s going on. Is that cool with you guys? Yeah? Is this useful to you?

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give me some ideas of when or where the situations - what made you feel anxious?

Q: You know the family is loud at home and… Igor: Right, so you are at home?

Q: Yeah.

Igor: Like what day might this be? Q: Any day of the week really. Igor: Just choose one.

Q: Okay. Last… Igor: Last…

Q: Last Thursday or last Friday.

Igor: So it’s last Thursday. What time of the day, morning, evening? Q: In the evening.

Igor: So it’s last Thursday evening, right? And you are at home? Q: Yes.

Igor: Any particular room? Q: Usually in my room.

Igor: Where were you last Thursday evening? Q: In my room.

Igor: So you are in your room Thursday evening, what happens? Q: I sneak a cigarette.

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Igor: Just everyday pressures, right? Those are things I’m interested in, those everyday pressures, there you go. So before you have that cigarette and you have that everyday pressure, at what point does it sort of begin. Because at some point of the day you were just probably happy go lucky and you weren’t feeling like a cigarette, no pressure or anything like that, right? And it started to change, at what point did it start to change? Can you recall that now?

Q: I think once I get home and everything kind of settles down I feel like I have dealt with everything. It’s maybe my reward for dealing with…

Igor: Okay, let me just pause to have a little time out here. Once again you notice how she is introducing a different theme here again? Again, a very common smokers theme which we’ll deal with in a separate time, but I have to keep dividing these things up because otherwise it becomes too big a thing to deal with at once and once again in the stop smoking session I can take all this things and pre-frame them out so I can deal with one thing at a time, but again because I’m doing this backwards. You can use basically any tool to achieve anything, sometimes you have to work harder if you haven’t got the other tools in place as well. So I’m doing it this way for you guys. Is this helpful by the way?

Q: Yes.

Igor: And I’m pulling these things out just so you realize that there is not a classic smoking session precisely because these issues are arising, right?

We are going back to this idea of the pressure, it’s Thursday evening, you are at home, when does the pressure begin?

Q: It builds throughout the day.

Igor: It builds throughout the day. At what point on Thursday did it reach the level at which you needed a cigarette? Just talk me through it.

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correctly, at some point, you decide you have dealt with it and then to release the pressure you have a cigarette, is that kind of how it works?

Q: Right.

Igor: Okay. So aside from the release, what aren’t you smoking when you go beyond the pressure?

Q: I don’t know.

Igor: You don’t know, do you? Q: No.

Igor: You really don’t know. How are you feeling right now? Q: Relaxed.

Igor: Relaxed. Really relaxed? Q: Pretty relaxed.

Igor: Do you think if you waited a few moments you’d get even more relaxed? Q: Yes.

Igor: Well, let’s just wait a moment then. There you go, that’s it. That’s it, there you go. Now, as you are feeling this relaxed, go back to Thursday evening, we’ve dealt with all the pressures, can I ask you, wouldn’t you rather feel this?

Q: Yes.

Igor: Just feel it now and notice, did you need a cigarette for that? Q: No.

Igor: You didn’t, did you? Q: No.

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Igor: You are feeling good, aren’t you? Q: Yes.

Igor: And you are going to be right there Thursday evening, your family stuff, you have kids I presume?

Q: Yes.

Igor: Your kids are doing stuff and you’ve settled it all down and it’s time to formally divide all the pressures to time to relax, right?

Q: Right.

Igor: Just observe what happens this time instead of the cigarette. There you go, do you feel it happening? How do you do you that?

Q: I don’t know.

Igor: You don’t, do you? You really don’t know? Q: No.

Igor: But you’re glad it’s happening? Q: Yes.

Igor: Something must be happening here, eh? Q: Something.

Igor: Something. Is it important? Q: Yes.

Igor: I agree. I agree. Are you enjoying it? Q: Yes.

Igor: Let it grow because you deserve it. There you go. You may as well close your eyes and really… there you go now you are getting it, because we are not just talking

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Q: Busier.

Igor: Busier it’s even better then. And eventually you dealt with everything, the pressure is still there what do you find yourself doing spontaneously now? What do you need to do?

Q: Just relax.

Igor: Just relax. How do you relax? Where do you go, what do you do? Talk me through it. There you go. That’s it there you go. Would you prefer this or cigarette?

Q: This.

Igor: Are you sure? Q: Yes.

Igor: Your not messing with me are you? You’re not messing about? Q: No this feels better.

Igor: Sure it does? How do you feel about yourself having this instead of the cigarette? Q: Much better.

Igor: Much better? There you go, like someone worth appreciating? Q: Yeah.

Igor: Yeah you are doing a great job by the way. There you go just a little more. Take your time. Really take your time. After all that’s what the whole purpose of this isn’t it? There you go. And there have been other days where pressure builds haven’t there? Go ahead and try those out and see what happens now. Isn’t that something? Is it getting stronger?

Q: A little bit.

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Igor: Because you are getting better at it. That’s it. Can you by the way, see the integration happening? If you right at the back feel free to come forward you won’t damage anything so you can actually see the expressions they are useful to see and you can stay there if you prefer as well. But you can see how the integration is going on here, right? The transformations happening, the resource is what, relaxation, right? It’s a real simple resource, but it’s also very profound can you see it? And you can see how she is slowly associating that she is painting the room or at least one of the rooms that used to crave smoking she is painting them with relaxation can you see it happening?

All: Yes.

Igor: Is this putting them more into context. Now notice how we have this sort of simple PCAT formula where we each have one little loop and so on, but I have been spinning in different directions a few times haven’t I? That’s how change is. Changes get a little messy at times, but if you have the idea in the back of your mind then this becomes easier because I’m only looking for three things, is she in a good place, a bad place or a neutral place? You’ve seen all three haven’t you? For the good place I just invited her right back to the idea of the cigarette – actually the pressure wanted her to smoke to release the pressure, right?

When she was in a neutral place I asked her how she wanted to feel and when she was in a negative place what did I do? I asked a few more questions around it had some little words from her for handles and just throw a simple Mind Bending Language pattern in, they were of medium intensity. They weren’t crazy convoluted. They weren’t totally invisible though of medium intensity, right? Not rocket science is it? How are you doing by the way?

Q: Fantastic.

Igor: You are doing fantastic aren’t you: Q: Yes.

Igor: You are doing really good. So what I would like you to do now is I would like you to think of a really bad day where the pressure is you know, really intense. You

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Q: Yes.

Igor: Everyone has them. Q: Yes.

Igor: Think about that day. There you go, tell me what happens? Any desire to smoke? Q: Yes.

Igor: That’s right. Talk me through it.

Q: It’s a bad day at least I can have a smoke. Igor: That’s what you tell your self isn’t it? Q: Yes.

Igor: What is it that smoking does for you at this point, or what do you think it will do for you?

Q: I don’t know.

Igor: That’s right you don’t know do you? Q: No.

Igor: It’s because some part of you just hasn’t caught with the rest of you has it? Did you hear the Mind Bending Language there? What’s happening now? Is it catching up?

Q: I think so.

Igor: It’s a really bad day and you think you want a cigarette, but beyond that what else can happen?

Q: Get relaxed instead.

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Igor: So do you prefer this or the cigarette? Q: I much prefer this.

Igor: You do don’t you? Q: Yes

Igor: Are you sure? Q: Yes.

Igor: How do you know? Q: It feels better.

Igor: It does feel better doesn’t it? Q: Yes.

Igor: Is it getting stronger yet? Q: Yes.

Igor: Here is the thing because you had such an intense day this gets to feel so much

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