Preventing Breakup - Ex Factor Guide 4

Chapter 12: Preventing Breakup

Once you’ve gotten back with your girlfriend, it’s important that you know how to keep her this time. To be honest, if you’ve read this far, you probably already know how to keep the attraction alive, so I’m not going to go over information that’s already been stated.

If you sense that your girlfriend is drifting away, then let her know that you aren’t going to stay around. Keep her in line by threatening her that you’ll leave if she

continues acting in an unacceptable way, but don’t say it resentfully, just simply say, “Babe, if that’s how you feel, then break up with me.”

By doing this, you are instilling fear within her and you’re letting her know that you’re a confident man. You’re showing that you don’t need her.

Keep Things Interesting

This is one of the biggest killers of relationships: boredom. A lack of interest is a very powerful force, so you need to deal with it accordingly.

There are some very obvious relationship phases. You might have heard of the term “Honeymooning Phase” – this is when a relationship is new, fresh, exciting, and full of mystery. But once that phase ends, things get a little more relaxed. You’ve gotten to know her and she’s gotten to know you. The interest isn’t as strong as it was before (though the bond may be stronger). It is now a slow progression of you two growing together – not of two people simply coming together. After a while, things will inevitably get stale. This is what I like to call the “Bonded Phase”.

Think of your life for a minute. Is every single moment in your life super exciting? I can guarantee you that it isn’t. There will always be “down time” in life, and the same goes for relationships. So now that we’ve accepted that “down time” is part of

relationships, the only thing we can do to help prevent boredom is to make this “down time” temporary.

But if she ‘s becoming bored, then maybe now is the time to ask yourself why boredom is happening. Is it because you’re spending too much time with her? Is it

©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 146 because you are constantly in a bad mood and never want to do anything? Now is the perfect time to reflect on your relationship and find out some causes for this lack of interest. In all good relationships, communication is paramount. Both of you have to work together, problem-solve together, and

thus grow together.

Here are a few things that will help you keep your relationship feeling a little bit more alive:

1.) Set up a semi-routine date night. Make sure you set aside time each week to go out and spend quality time together. Don’t make it happen just “every Wednesday” or “every Friday”… mix it up a little bit and keep her on her toes. Keep her guessing.

something new with her. This is an incredibly bonding experience.

3.) Be social together and go out with friends. Occasionally bring out your girlfriend to social events and meet more people. Keep in mind that couples love meeting other couples!

4.) Gifts! Very occasionally get her thoughtful and inexpensive gifts.

5.) Learn to talk about anything. Yes, a lot of the time when couples are bored it’s because they have nothing left to talk about since the mystery has

vanished. Start reading and expand your knowledge base and talk about new things you’ve learned. This will not only help your relationship but yourself as well.

6.) Confront her about a lost passion of hers. Did she use to love taking ballet or playing the flute? Ask her why she stopped then surprise her with a gift

then sometimes a nice big adrenaline-fueled adventure is what’s needed to spark the attraction again. Though this isn’t a long-term solution, it often works well as a stopgap. Go to a theme park and go on some rides together. Go bungee jumping. Go sky-diving. Plan a huge trip together… or even a simple road trip! Give your girlfriend something to work towards and look forward to.

8.) Make sex more interesting. Buy toys, lingerie, even role-play! Your girl is willing to go further than you think she will.

Induce Jealousy

If things are really looking really grim, then nothing works better than plain old jealousy. Start flirting with other women… a lot! Go out on a date with your girlfriend and start flirting with some other girls. Get a lady friend to send you a sexy message and let your girlfriend see it. Find reasons to talk to her girlfriends.

©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 149 Just make it known to your girlfriend that other girls are chasing you. Once she gets a genuine feeling that she’s close to losing you, she’ll start feeling more attracted to you. I know, it doesn’t sound logical, but it works… and it works almost too well.

Again, I don’t necessarily endorse these acts, but they just work so well that I just had to include them in my book.

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