The “Date” - Ex Factor Guide 4

Chapter 9: The “Date”

I am using the word date in quotes here because it isn’t really a date. If you’ve played it properly up until this point, all she thinks is that you two are just going out as friends. In fact, don’t call it a date at any point or she’ll probably freak at you.

Whatever you two decide to do, you need to make sure that you have a solid plan in place before you actually meet up. You don’t want to get this far only for you to fail… that would be a total shame, so think about it before it happens! Think about a really fun light story to start off with and just keep rolling on from there.

The whole goal here now is what I like to call re-attraction. You’re going to have to re-seduce her and ultimately, sleep with her as soon as you can. Sex is the ultimate goal right now, but you have to arrive at that point properly.

Body Language & Tone of Voice

I know – the moment where you finally see your ex again can be nerve-wracking to say the least… but you can’t let it get to you!

©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 113 You want to appear super relaxed and comfortable. This date totally isn’t going to go well if you’re just sitting down biting your nails the whole time and talking super fast.

So make sure that when you’re sitting down, you’re sitting down with your back flat against the seat. Just keep your distance from her a little bit and maybe put one foot up on the seat. Just look chill and take a few deep breaths.

Don’t just constantly stare at her… remember, you two are just friends right now! So look around… make fun of people, make a joke, and just generally be funny and light-hearted. You don’t want to make it seem like you’re putting her up on a pedestal and idolizing her presence.

Remember how I said 93% of communication is non-verbal? That means how you speak is important in conveying the type of mood you’re in. Talk slowly! There’s no need to be a speed demon here. People who talk fast just look like they have something

Conversation Topics For The “Date”

You’re probably getting the sense here that you shouldn’t be talking about the negative stuff that happened in the past. Concentrate on just selling yourself as a completely healed and happy individual.

There is a chance that she might bring up some negative topics from the past. Don’t panic – this is a good thing. If she’s bringing up problems from your relationship, just respectfully decline to talk about it for now. Say something like, “I know you’re probably still rattled, but to be honest… I’m enjoying just hanging out with you right now. Let’s just enjoy this first,” and then continue talking about whatever you were talking about.

How To Tell A Good Story

Yes, this book has all sorts of good information… this is information that won’t just help you get back with your ex-girlfriend, but help you with any woman.

attract your ex, a good story must be told. So how do you become a good storyteller? Some people are definitely blessed with natural charm. Though, if you’re the type of guy that doesn’t know how to rile up a crowd, then don’t worry. You can actually learn to be more charming and be a better conversationalist, but it does it a lot of practice.

When you do tell your story, make sure you give your listener 100% of the attention. You want to engage your whole body

when telling a story, not just your voice! Observe some of the best speeches and comedians on

YouTube and you’ll find that they use hand gestures and different facial expressions quite often.

You want to make sure that when you’re telling a story, you’re keeping these three things in mind: your confidence level, conviction level and energy level. When I say “have confidence when

telling a story,” I mean you’re not afraid to say what you’re going to say. You’re not looking down to the ground or at the coffee stains on your shirt - you’re looking into her eyes when you’re speaking.

©2014 The Ex Factor Guide by Brad Browning Page 116 Secondly, nobody wants to hear a lame story that just isn’t believable. You need to have conviction. Don’t say phrases like “I think he…” or “Ummm…” or “Maybe, I’m not sure…” If you say this kind of crap too often, you’ll just end up looking like a

dumbass.

Finally, you need to tell your story with the proper amount of energy. The energy of the storyteller not only manifests verbally but physically as well. Your whole body has to tell the story. Your eyes need to light up when you’re about to tell the good parts of the story. You need to slow and pause right before climaxes. If something funny

happens in your story, you’re smiling and maybe throwing in the occasional laugh to indicate, “it’s okay to laugh if you want to!”

When you combine these three elements – confidence, conviction, and energy – I promise that you will become ten times the storyteller and you’ll be able to capture the heart of your ex girlfriend much more easily.

Focus On…

…having a good time. And that’s it. Your goal right now is to make it so that when you end your ‘chill hangout’, she feels good about it so that she’ll want to hang

If the opportunity presents itself, you’ll need to start attempting to seduce her… but only when the time is right.

You need to start gauging her reactions to you when you begin to “subconsciously” and unintentionally flirt with her.

So how will you know if you should flirt and escalate sexually or not? I’ll cover this in the next chapter.

In document Ex Factor Guide 4 (Page 111-118)