In the movie, Depp was playing a particular character – that of a master seducer.
His role affected all those around him.
So let’s talk a little bit about the character part. What does the character part do for you, and most importantly what does it trigger in the woman?
Women have been brought up with television, movies, and romance novels.
These things have taught them what kinds of characters men play and what they
are supposed to be attracted to. Most of these characters line up with the
“biology of attraction” from a woman’s standpoint.
What does this mean for you? A way into a woman’s heart and bed is through the structure of her fantasy man. If we start to develop the characteristics and behaviors of this fantasy man, she will both consciously and unconsciously be drawn to try to act out her fantasies with regard to this character.
Women love to role-play; they love to experience different emotional perspectives. If you give a woman an opportunity to act out her fantasy perspective with you, you’re in for a big treat.
Once you have determined what you don’t want in a woman, and once you have determined that you are not going to go for the feminist’s viewpoint, you can begin to decide what fantasy character best suits you for the kind of woman you want or attract. Or better yet, the kind of behavior you wish for your perfect woman to exhibit towards you!
Most of the thoughts and ideas espoused in the beginning of the book were to clear away all the B. S. and old models and frameworks that society, women, and you have created. These old models make it hard to get the results that you want. Once you accept that you can be wherever you wannabe, and that you no longer fear women, we can begin to determine which model or framework will get you what you want the fastest and most effective way.
This is about making your life interesting and fun. This is about bringing the most life to yourself and others.
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So now that we have cleared away all the cobwebs of society’s values and beliefs about dating, we can create a reality that works for us without the fear that we might have experienced under the old rules of the game.
Why is it that women are so attracted to the adventurous and dangerous type of man? Why is it that women seem to be attracted towards some men that we might call jerks?
After many years of studying the psychology of women and seduction and the theory of romance novels, I have come up with some ideas. These ideas may not be completely true or false because theories about people are simply not in black and white or totality. I only use them to help you gain understanding of what is going on inside the female fantasy mind. If you will begin to look at this fantasy mind as I do, I think you will get some benefit from it.
We, as men, have a tendency to stay in one character. We like to experience who we are and don’t vary too much from it. We may have a tendency to identify with the sport star, or a movie star, but that’s about it. Our range of emotions is very small compared to a woman’s.
Women have an extremely wide range of emotions available to them. Not only do they have a wide range of emotions available to them, they like to use them in real life. Women like to exercise and feel as many emotions as possible.
Emotions equal life to women.
So if women have all these experiences and emotions that they can feel, and want to feel, then how do they do it?
They are able to take the mental position and role of the person experiencing that emotion. So when they are reading a romance novel, they are experiencing the emotions from every character in the book.
So let’s say one of the characters is a man, and he is the romantic hero of the novel or movie. If I were to read that same book I would identify with one character and stick to it. If it were a Western, I would find the strongest character and stick with it. I would have no empathy or feelings from the perspective of any other character.
But women look at this differently. They not only identify with the heroine of the novel, they identify with the romantic hero. They actually pretend in their fantasy that they are also the hero. The women identify with both the male and female characters in the fantasy. They do this simultaneously.
This means that when women read about the love scenes, they can go back and forth between being the one being made love to, and the one making love.
Women aren’t just satisfied being made love to. They want the experience of making love, too.
So in the context of a master seducer, you can bet your bottom dollar that the woman is going back and forth between her role and the role you are playing just as she does when she is reading a novel or watching a movie. The more powerful and meaningful you make your role, the more exciting it is for her, and the more she wants to play it with you.
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She wants to seduce and be seduced at the same time. It doesn’t mean that her behavior will change, but in her mind she is acting out your role as well as hers.
You will be seducing her in a way that she wants to be seduced.
When we watch a movie that has a lot of adventure in it, we can identify with the character that is doing stunts that we would never do in our own lives. We can experience the emotion from our imagination and still be safe. We can pretend that we are the killer. We can pretend that we are the lover. We can pretend that we are the president. And still be safe in our seats.
Well women look forward to that every chance they get. If you are somebody who has a sense of danger or risk, and she can experience that through you, without it affecting her directly, she will most likely take the opportunity to step into your character to experience it. She will get a sense of the power and the emotions that you feel from playing that character. So she gets some of the energy that you spill and project yourself, and she gets the experience and emotions from putting herself into your shoes. The juicier you make your role the better time she has!
Now we can understand why women sometimes like to be around jerks. They get to experience what it would be like to be a jerk, without having to be one. And at the same time, they can be a victim in the eyes of the world because of how you treat them.