You may notice by now that seducing women isn't really about chasing them. In fact you can stop chasing them right now.
It's doubtful it will get you anywhere besides just getting lucky every few years. This is about you. By being the best person you can be, improving your status and your likeability, you are going to attract women. They will come to you. Isn't that a whole lot easier? If you strive to improve yourself in all the areas I've mentioned, you are going to hit women's attraction mechanisms so hard and on so many planes they won't know what came over them. They will want to get to know you. They will want to be around you.
A side effect is that other people will tend to want to be around you, not just ladies that you want to have sex with. These people want what you have, which is a friendly, positive, and confident attitude and an ease and grace in social situations (we'll get to that).
But this isn't enough. There still may be a missing
ingredient in your persona, which will make you a natural leader and increase your social status even further. You need to be interesting. In order to be interesting, you need to raise the level of curiosity of those around you. You should be slightly
mysterious, and have a steady repertoire of subjects or things which interest you. You should have goals and ambitions. Getting
laid is a goal but we're talking about long term goals here.
So grab another piece of paper and let's write down your hobbies and interests. What are you good at? What are you passionate about? Where do you want to be five years from now? Doing what? If your sheet of paper is blank after thirty minutes, you've got some work ahead of you. It's OK.
But what we are doing is creating a roadmap for your life.
Think about this over the coming days, weeks, months and fill in the blanks as ideas emerge. You will get ideas by talking to other people. Once you've built up your confidence, talking to others will be easier and we will expand your conversational abilities a bit later. You'll find many people have things that they are
passionate about and they love to talk about. Often you can just let them talk, but sooner or later it will be your turn and you need something to talk about passionately.
But this isn't the only reason for having some defined goals and ambitions. It is one of the key ingredients for attracting
people to you and increasing your social circle, and cementing your leadership ability. If you have ambition, you are seen as going somewhere. You are leading the way to get there, wherever it is. Bingo! Most people are not leaders, they are
followers. They are looking for somebody to follow, and what better person than a leader with a clear sense of purpose? This is how you become the alpha male of your tribe.
Most people need a leader. A tribe can not exist without one. Remember earlier when I talked about influencing people or salesmanship? You have identified a need (the need to have a leader), you have a product/service which fulfils that need (you are a leader). The only thing you need to do to close the sale is to ensure that they trust you as the best person to provide that product/service. If they like you and/or you make them laugh, they will most likely trust you.
You might need to step on the toes of another leader in order to steal his crown, but nobody said this was going to be nice. Leaders are naturally competitive. If the existing leader is well entrenched, it might be time to break away and start your own tribe.
Let's get back to those interests fro a minute. Look at any interests you managed to write down during our little exercise. Do any of them come across as a bit boring? If so, it helps to come up with a twist to change it into something that's, well –
interesting. Let's take an example – stamp collecting. Apologies if
you're a stamp collector, but there's really nothing sexy or interesting about this. Women are going to yawn when you tell them about your hobby and quickly find somebody else to talk to.
So let's put a twist on it. Collect stamps of left-handed people. Of illegitimate royalty. Of women. Something that instantly sets you apart from the crowd of boring stamp collectors. Now if you go back and tell a woman about your hobby it will be a completely different situation. She'll want to know all about the left-handed people stamps you've collected. She'll probably be surprised when you tell her that Fidel Castro and Buzz Aldrin and Marilyn Monroe were all southpaws and find it fascinating and intriguing that you know these things.
I would also like to suggest taking up a musical instrument – or a new one if you are already proficient with another.
Extending your mind in some way by extending one of your existing hobbies or learning something entirely new creates new neural pathways in the brain (the study of music is known to create thousands, perhaps millions of new connections). Every time your mind creates new neural paths and branches, it literally creates new ways of thinking about everything. You expand your intellect and even more opportunities and passions may emerge
as a result. You may suddenly find a solution to a completely unrelated problem, merely because your brain is looking at everything in new and slightly different ways than it did before.