In the first part of this book we went through the
evolutionary and human environment under which you must operate successfully to achieve your goals. Now it's time for action. Let's get started. Seduction begins in the brain. More specifically, it begins in your brain. The very first, most important thing you need to do right now is to forget about having sex.
Why? Because the more you think about and obsess about it, the more it will elude you. You'll just have to trust me that by thinking about it less, you'll end up getting more. I know it doesn't make any sense, but this isn't about making sense. This is about how to turn your life around - and coincidentally have a lot more sex. The only time you should think about having sex is when there is a pretty girl right in front of you gazing into your eyes and breathing heavy.
Now, by “not thinking” about it, I'm not telling you to put it out of your mind forever. You can and should set a personal goal of having more sex, and you should think about this goal
regularly. You should also be constantly aware of how you are being perceived by others on a sexual level and have a sexual will or persona. You should feel sexy at all times. You also need to exude sexual confidence and sexuality from every pore of your being.
But this is a lot different than thinking about and prowling for sex. If you walk up to a pretty girl and can't stop thinking about how badly you want to see her naked, it's unlikely that you'll ever get her clothes off. You will quickly slip into approval-seeking behaviour and everything that you try in order to get her to respond will backfire - as it puts her in the dominant role. This is because she has something you want. Sex.
One of the other very first mistakes that most men make is to stare at a girl's tits. Yes, I know they can be very pleasant to look at. Don't do this if you ever want to fondle them. You should be able to discern her general shape before you ever get close to her and decide if you find this shape to be pleasant. Once you're within a few meters/yards they're off limits – at least until she is ready to show them to you.
Her mind is programmed to quickly discriminate and eliminate any male who has just one thing on his mind, because that indicates he isn't getting enough – and the only reason why he wouldn't be getting enough is if he isn't a powerful, dominant, and charismatic male.
It is her evolutionary programming that is at work here and it may not seem logical, but it doesn't matter. She sees red
warning flags when you're thinking about sex, because she can read your intentions. If she's comfortable being around you, and if she's thinking about sex (with you), then it's sexy and it's OK.
At any other time, you're just another loser hitting on her and her instinct says to get rid of you quickly. She isn't going to do this with respect or even give it a second thought. She probably gets hit on by over a hundred losers a day, and has been systematically getting rid of them since she reached puberty. So don't take it personally - it's just a programmed response.
Once you've conversed and interacted a bit, you can show that you are a man with all of the testosterone and sexual desires which that entails - and that you have noticed that she is a
woman.
You still can't stare at her tits, but you also need to start putting the moves on and declare your intentions or she will get bored. Remember, the male is the dominant partner and needs to instigate the mating process. The skill is knowing when to make this transition. It comes when you notice clear and
incontrovertible trust as well as obvious attraction signals. In the absence of either one of these, any sexual overtures by you
are going to be ignored and most likely close the door to future possibilities.
The only thing you can do before getting these clear trust and attraction signals is to flirt. Flirting as we're talking about here is non-sexual. It's really no more than being friendly and open, perhaps a bit playful. If the situation warrants, it may involve the use of touch, but this is always non-threatening and non-sexual in nature.
Western culture does its best to keep sex under the table and hidden from view in normal daily life (which paradoxically has turned it into a media obsession). If you are a well known media personality, you can ignore this advice and can get away with being openly sexual at all times. For everybody else, it simply isn't socially acceptable to be openly obsessed with sex and violating these social rules will detract from your rank on the social scale and therefore lower your value on the sex scale.
If you diligently practise and learn the skills in this book, there will be a time in the not-so-distant future when you have conquered approval-seeking behaviour and developed solid unshakeable confidence and a “rock-star” attitude. You'll know you have it if you can tell a supermodel in a bikini to go away and
stop hitting on you. When you have reached this point, you are free to once again think about sex - all you want. You can even look at her tits. You will have become a man of power who makes his own rules and does what he pleases. Until that time, set it aside.