Once you're confident and relaxed in your social
interactions, you can get more mileage out of your male display at clubs and parties by learning to work the room. Just remember that you are rock solid confident. You don't care about the
outcome to any interaction. You're here to meet people and interact with them.
This works best for medium sized venues of 30-100 people. Let's say it's a bar or club. The first thing you need is to establish some social proof – otherwise it will be more difficult.
You should make it a point to know the bartender by name and have conversed with them in the past. This gives your first social
proof. Walk up and get a drink and ask how the kids are doing.
The university course they're taking. Something intimate that they've told you. Other people will be observing this and noting that you are socially comfortable and people know you.
Now look around the room for anybody else that you already know. This gets easier the more times you do it as you learn who is a “regular”. Walk over and say hi. Shake hands. Ask about something unique to their life that you remember from a previous encounter.
Don't let anybody monopolise your time. Keep moving. As soon as you've exhausted the people you know – start on people you don't know. What I want you to do is take on the mindset that you're the mayor of a small town, and you're up for re-election.
You need to reach out to all the voters. Got that mindset? Great.
Now walk around and talk to everybody. Ask where they are from. Ask how the food is. Ask what they are drinking. Don't talk about yourself too much – but do control the conversation and make certain your words convey high status. Become interested in everybody. Find out who they are and what's on their mind.
Remember – you aren't here to hit on women. You're talking to everybody (male and female) and completely
unconcerned about any outcome. You're relaxed, confident, and in control of the entire room. You're in charge. You're the alpha male.
Once you've made it around the room and talked to everybody, take your drink (or buy another) and go have a seat.
Within 5-10 minutes, people will be flocking to your table. Mostly women. Their boyfriend (if they are here with one) will stay behind because he doesn't understand what just happened. You have the social power in this venue. Women are drawn to it like a magnet. Mostly hot women because those that aren't will lack the confidence to approach you. And they already know you,
because you've already interacted. Trust is building because you have the social proof of everybody involved. You became the alpha male and then extended your tribe to include everybody in the room. Nobody else has the fortitude to be the leader in such a diverse social climate – you do. And therefore that is exactly what happens.
Working the room at a small cocktail or dinner (social) party requires a slight revision of this procedure. These parties tend to operate in phases. There's an initial meeting phase, then
the social event (if there was a purpose to this event), and then a segregation phase. (There are others, but these other phases aren't important for this exercise).
During the segregation phase all of the men will tend to congregate in one room – usually the garage or lounge/living room. The women will congregate in another – often the kitchen.
There is a lot of beta posturing and alpha power struggles going on in the male room. You need to spend some time with the males because people need to see how you fit into the social dynamics. Be cautious of the power struggles – as in this
situation it's “every man for themselves”. Everybody wants to be the alpha. Work the room just as you did at the pub – even if it's after the initial meeting phase of the party.
If you feel like engaging in alpha power struggles, make certain you are up to the task and have already acquired the skills. In this setting, it can be a brutal game for the amateur. I suggest just continuing to calmly work the room.
After working this room, find the room with the ladies. Now go work that one. You will be the only male (with the exception of maybe a gay or other unfuckable male who is hanging out with the girls). You are a “fox in the hen house” - and they will all be on
high alert. Don't hang out and take a seat or you'll become unfuckable. Don't focus on one girl. Keep moving. Work the room. You are demonstrating social power.
When you've finished working both groups, take a seat (or stand) between the two rooms. This is a very subtle way to completely neutralise the power games going on in the male room. You are guarding your harem from all the betas – just like an alpha male would do. The ladies will all notice this. The men will still be playing their silly little games.
If you'd like an extra seductive edge in any of these social situations, you can subtly initiate physical contact. An “under the radar” way to do this is to become a palm reader. This is an old technique and every girl has probably had it pulled on them. But you can put a new twist on it and make it work for you regardless.
Ask a group of girls if somebody would like to have their palm read by the great swami “________” (make up a name).
One of them will go for the bait. Pick a “volunteer” if nobody bites.
Don't worry if you know nothing about palm reading. It doesn't matter at all. Turn this into the most outrageous palm reading session anybody has ever encountered. “This is your clown line – and it's really long. You're going to sell your kids (if applicable) to
gypsies and join the circus.”. Keep making up completely absurd stuff. Every girl will now want to have her palm read. You can also pepper it a bit with innuendo. “This is your sex line. Ooh baby!
Meet me outside in five minutes...” By turning this old “game”
around, you will be able to touch every girl there. Don't just touch their hand. Hold their forearm or touch them in other ways as the situation permits.
While I'm on the subject of touch techniques... If you're at a bar or club and working a table full of hot women that have had a few drinks, my favourite touching technique is playing “Are You Scared?”.
This is quite an easy and fun dare game, but it's quite sexual. It works best with groups of divorced mid-thirties women that are having “girl's night out”. You can find out if this is the right target audience when you're working the room.
First explain what you are going to do and ask for a volunteer. You can explain that this is a game to explore “the boundaries of personal space”. You will put your hand on a girl's knee and ask if she feels scared or uncomfortable. If she isn't scared, move your hand two inches up her leg and ask again. If she says that she's scared, quietly but promptly remove your
hand - you are done with this girl. Repeat until she tells you she is scared or you're finger-fucking her.
You can't lose. You will be touching girls in increasingly intimate ways – with their full permission. And at a table full of drunk women, I guarantee that one of them is going to be curious how the game ends. You're playing on their peer
pressure. The alpha female (the one you probably really want) is usually going to be the boldest and most adventurous of the bunch. Lucky you. You also might be pleasantly surprised when the occasional girl asks to play it on you in reverse. Never under-estimate the power of peer pressure. One night I was finger-banging one girl (who was also French kissing me), had my other hand on a second girl's tits, while yet another girl had her hands down my pants - fondling me. The other girls at the table were egging all of us on and telling their friends not to stop. You should have seen the jaws dropping around the bar from the guys who watched me pull this off --- as I had met these ladies only minutes earlier.